Kwenzela abanye abantu. Kodwa-ke, "kancane kancane" kungenzeka kungakusebenzeli uma ukusetshenziswa kwakho kocansi kuye kwaholela ezinkambisweni zokulutha ebuchosheni bakho. Lezi izi izinguquko zomzimba, okuphazamisa impendulo yakho enjabulweni, okwenza ube nokuziphendulela ezihlokweni ezihlobene nezithombe ezingcolile, ukushintsha ukuphendula kwakho kokucindezeleka, futhi ukuphazamisa ukulawula kwakho okuphezulu (ukuzithiba) ngenxa yezinguquko ku-lobes yakho yangaphambili.
Icebo lokunciphisa “kancane” uze ulungele ukuyeka ukusebenza lisebenza ukulutha okumbili kuphela. Ziyi-caffeine ne-nicotine. Amakhemikhali awaphazamisi ukusebenza — impela angakuthuthukisa. Ngamunye ufakwa ngamanani athile ngosuku lonke. Abantu baba imilutha yabo bobabili, bathole amazinga “abo”, bese bahlala lapho.
Ukuphumula kancane kancane akusebenzi kahle izidakamizwa ezidakamizwa, abagembula abagulayo, noma ngisho nokudla okunamafutha amaningi. Ukusebenzisa lezi ezinye izidakamizwa kuvame ukuholela ekukhuphukeni-futhi uphela emuva lapho uqale khona. Kuzo zonke imibiko, ukulutha kwezidakamizwa ze-intanethi kufana nalezi zidakamizwa njengoba ukulinganisela kuvame ukuhluleka. Bheka Ama-vibrator nezinye izijabuliso: Uma ukulungiswa kwehluleka
Kuthiwani ngesimiso samasonto onke?
Noma ukhetha isheduli yezithombe zocansi esinqunyiwe - njengoba kuphakanyiswe umfana oyedwa, ngoLwesihlanu nangoMgqibelo amahora amabili kusihlwa ngakunye - ngaphandle kokuthi ubuke i-porn efanayo ngaso sonke isikhathi lapho usebenzisa, i-porn yenoveli isazokwephula okulindelwe futhi ivuse i-dopamine. Eqinisweni, ukubuka izithombe zobulili ezingcolile kukhipha i-dopamine ngoba ukubonwa kwe-sexy kuhlotshaniswa nokuhlangana kwabantu - idrayivu eyisisekelo yokuziphendukela kwemvelo. Akunandlela yokwenza lokhu. Eqinisweni, ukusetshenziswa kwezikhathi ezithile kuyindlela ejwayelekile yemilutha - yazo zonke izinhlobo.
Ukusebenzisa i-porn, noma kuhlelweni lokunciphisa kancane kancane, kuzoqinisa izindlela zokulutha izidakamizwa. Ucwaningo lukhombisa ukuthi ezinsukwini eziyi-7 ngemuva kokusetshenziswa kwezidakamizwa noma ucansi, izindlela zokulutha zisemandleni azo aphezulu. Lokhu kulinganiswa ngokwanda kokuxhumeka kwe-synaptic kuma-nucleus accumbens (isikhungo somvuzo). Ngamanye amagama, umuntu akalokothi angene ekuhoxisweni (uphawu lokuphulukiswa) uma engadluli kulelo phuzu. Ngokusebenzisa i-porn okuhleliwe masonto onke umuntu angavele acabange ngempelasonto ezayo nangayo yonke i-porn enhle abazoyibuka. Ukulindela kukhipha i-dopamine futhi kuqinisa izindlela ezizweliwe.
Kulabo abanezinkinga zokuhlukunyezwa ngokobulili (ED, DE), ukusetshenziswa kwamasonto onke kuzothinteka ngokuqinisekile ukululama. Akunakwenzeka ukuthi umuntu angakwazi ukuthola amandla erectile ngenkathi esebenzisa.
Futhi, uma umfana ezama ukuxhumana futhi nomlingani wakhe, noma ukungena endaweni yokuqomisana, ukunciphisa ukusetshenziswa masonto onke noma kancane kancane kuzovimba lowo mgomo. I-Porn ihlale ikhona esikhundleni sezinto zangempela - ikakhulukazi uma umuntu ekhetha ubusuku bangoLwesihlanu nangoMgqibelo!
Ekugcineni, inhloso yokuqalisa kabusha ukuthola ukuthi injani impilo ngaphandle kwe-inthanethi ye-porn. Ngezithombe zobulili ezingcolile esithombeni umuntu akaze athole.
Ukushaya indlwabu kuvuselela izifiso (izindlela ezithuthukisiwe) okuvame ukuholela emuva ku-inthanethi ye-porn. Kubavakashi bethu, ukushaya indlwabu kuxhunyaniswe ngokuqinile nezocansi, ngakho-ke "ukungazixhumanisi" (noma ukuphinda uvule ubuchopho) kubandakanya ukuziyeka zombili. Lapho usuqalise kabusha, kulula ukuthola ibhalansi. Ngaleso sikhathi, ukushaya indlwabu ngezikhathi ezithile (ngaphandle kocansi) kusheduli kungasebenza kahle.
Okusebenza kahle kakhulu
Abasebenzisi be-porn abathuthuka kakhulu ekuphulukiseni ngokuvamile bayeka ama-orgasm izinyanga ezimbalwa. (Bayibiza nge-PMO, i-porn / indlwabu / i-orgasm-ngesikhathi sex.) Abaningi bazinza ngokuzungeza leso sikhathi, kuya ngezici ezahlukahlukene. Kubandakanya ubudala, ukusetshenziswa kweminyaka kuqale, izinga lokukhuphuka, inani leminyaka yokufinyelela okuphezulu, njll. Abanye badinga isikhathi eside.
Kubuye kubonakale ukuthi i-orgasm eduze kokuphela le nqubo ayikho amathuba okwandisa isikhathi sokutakula kunesidakamizwa esiseduze ekuqaleni.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yiziphi izizathu eziphilayo, iningi labo abazama ukuxubana ngokocansi / ukushaya indlwabu-togasgasm ngokuvuselela ekuqaleni akujabuli nentuthuko yabo. Ingabe kungenxa yokuthi bashukumisa kakhulu ubuchopho babo nge-orgasm (ngisho ngaphandle kwe-porn) ngokushesha? Kungenzeka.
Kungalingana nanoma yimuphi umlutha wokuzitika nganoma iyiphi into / umsebenzi wokulutha ngesikhathi sokuhoxa. Ukubuyela emuva okunjalo kancane kancane. Kodwa-ke, abantu 'ababuyeli emuva ku-zero' ngoba nje be-orgasm kusenesikhathi. Ezinye izinzuzo zihlala, ngaphandle kokuthi zibuyele emuva ekuluthweni kwazo. Isibonelo, uma umlutha wokudla eyeka ekudleni, ukwehla kwesisindo sakhe kungama. Kepha uma esekudla futhi, uzoqhubeka nokulahlekelwa.
Akukho cwaningo olwenziwe okwamanje alulame ubuchopho bemilutha yezocansi - noma kunjalo olunye ucwaningo lwenziwe ekhombisa imiphumela yokulutha ngokweqile ebuchosheni babo. Futhi kukhona inombolo ekhulayo izifundo ezixhumanisa ukusetshenziswa kobulili noma ukubheja kocansi / ngokobulili ekusebenziseni ukuhlukunyezwa ngokobulili, ukuvuselelwa kobuchopho obuphansi ekusebenziseni ucansi, nokwaneliseka kocansi.
Ucwaningo olwengeziwe luyenziwe nezinye izidakamizwa zokuziphatha-nakuba kuncane kakhulu okwenziwe ngendlela yobuchopho babo alulame. Ngokuthakazelisayo, kukhona futhi isifundo sokubuyiselwa kobuchopho kunamafutha amaningi (abantu abanomlutha wokudla). Phakathi kweziguli ezikhethile ukuhlinzeka nge-bariatric (ukumisa ukudla ngokweqile), amazinga we-receptor we-D2 wenza ukwanda kokujikeleza komvuzo wobuchopho babo. Ngamanye amagama, lapho beyeka ukukhuthaza ngokweqile, ukuzwela kwabo (impendulo ejwayelekile ekudleni) kwaqala ukubuyela emuva. Ngokusobala, abayekanga ukudla ngokuphelele. Kepha kungenzeka ukuthi ukumisa i-orgasm kufana nokuyeka ukudla ngokweqile. Inika ubuchopho ithuba elidingeka kakhulu lokubuyisa ukuzwela. Uma kunjalo, labo abanabalingani bangakhetha ukunciphisa kakhulu ubulili, ubulili obungenasgasgasini ukuphola. Kungase kufane nesiguli se-bariatric esidla "ukudla okuncane."
(Ngesinye isikhathi, ucwaningo lwamuva lubonise ukuthi ngaphakathi Izinyanga ze-3 ngemuva kokubhema ukuyeka, ama-receptors awo e-D2 enyukile ngo-15 -20%.)
Iphuzu elibaluleke kunazo zonke ukuthi ukuphinda ubuyekeze ngezikhathi ezithile ze-orgasm, ngaphandle kokuqala isikhathi eside ngaphandle kwe-PMO, kungavimbela inqubekela phambili. Ukuze uthole okuningi bheka Kungani izifiso (ukugijimela) kusakazwa ngemuva kokuvuselelwa kabusha?
Nayi imicabango yendoda eyodwa yokunciphisa kancane kancane:
Ngicabanga ukuthi ukuthinta kusebenza kuphela uma ungakwazi ukusebenzisa ukuziyeka. Into eyodwa engiqaphele ukuthi ayithintwanga * kule ngxoxo (i-pun engenayo) yona kanye inkolelo yokuthi ukushaya indlwabu ngedijithali (ukusebenzisa isandla sakho) kwabesilisa, ngikholwa ukuthi yinkinga eyisisekelo. Ngibe ne-ED okokuqala ngemuva komkhuba owodwa wosuku cishe iminyaka engu-20. Vele, kukhona ukuhlangana kokuthi kungani manje ngikuthatha njengenkinga; Ngisanda (eminyakeni engu-2 edlule) ngishaya indlwabu njalo ngosuku, kuze kube izikhathi ze-4.)
Nali iphuzu lami. Iseluleko mayelana nokuphola nje ekushaya indlwabu kubonakala njengendawo yesibili. Yizame kuphela uma umuntu engakwazi ngokuphelele ukugwema ukushaya indlwabu kanye nezocansi. Ngiyazibona izinkinga zokuqonda ngokukwazi ukuphenya phakathi kwezimo ezintsha eziningana njengoba kuchazwe 'ukuhlela' (kusetshenziswa amafasitela amaningi avulekile we-porn)
Kepha ngikholwa ukuthi impikiswano yangempela ukuthi ukushaya indlwabu, njengokuya ocansini okungamahlalakhona, kungaba inqubo yokuzikhulisa esekwe phezu kwengxabano nokuzwela kwepipi. Abaphathi abahlehla kakhulu mhlawumbe baye babona ukuthi ngokuhamba kweminyaka, ingcindezi yabo kanye necebo labo sekufanele lishintshe. Lokhu kuvumela ukuba balondoloze ukulawulwa okudingekayo kokuphuma ngokushesha noma ukubambezela i-orgasm (ukuze bajabulele isenzo sokushaya indlwabu isikhathi eside).
Angicabangi ukuthi kuyasebenza kulabo abashaya indlwabu engapheli ukugcina i-jacking-off. Noma ngabe kanye kanye noma kabili ngeviki. Iphuzu lami ukuthi ngenkathi ukukhishwa kwe-1-2 izikhathi ngeviki kungahle kwehle phansi imilutha eminingi ye-porn, ngikholelwa ukuthi kuningi mayelana nokuzwa kwangempela nokuguqulwa kombono womuntu wokuqonda ukuthi yini 'injabulo emnandi' eyanele ukuze umuntu asuke. Isenzo sangempela sokusebenzisa isandla ukuvuselela ipipi ekuvukeni kungokuhlangenwe nakho kwami ngaso sonke isikhathi siba nobudlova futhi sibi kakhulu kunalokho okungahlinzekwa isitho sangasese sowesifazane. Ngakho-ke, yingakho ngifika ezingeni lokuthi ngisho nokuyishaya kabili ngeviki, uma kwenziwa kabi noma ngendlela ethile kuphela (indlela engaqondakali kangako yowesifazane) ngeke kusize imbangela eyinhloko yesitho sangasese somuntu esikhubazekile.
Futhi, angazi ukuthi umuntu onomlutha wezocansi angamisa kanjani imicabango ekungeneni ku-inthanethi angene emibonweni yabo yokushaya indlwabu ngokungaxhunyiwe ku-inthanethi (okuyinto ophakamisa ukuthi ilungile ukuthi abafana babambe iqhaza kuyo.) I-IMO, i-1 evamile kuya kabili Isonto liphilile kuphela kubafana abangakabi ngaphezu kwalelo zinga futhi abasebenza ngebanga lesisekelo le-penis (kanye nemicabango engcolile ye-porn) ngaphezulu kakhulu kwabafana abangakaze bazenzele okuningi.
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