Imfundo yabantwana malunga nephonografi ibalulekile, kuba ukusasaza iphonografi kuya kuba nathi logama nje i-intanethi ikhona. Nangona kunjalo, ootitshala kufuneka bafundise abafundi indlela iplastiki yengqondo esebenza ngayo.
Amaxesha amaninzi umntu ufunda kumajelo eendaba ukuba ootitshala kufuneka bagxile:
- ukwahlula “iphonografi elungileyo” “kumanyala angafanelekanga,” okanye
- ukunciphisa ingxaki "kwisidingo sokufumana imvume ngaphambi kokuba ukhuthaze ngesondo socansi kwiqabane," okanye
- indlela “isini esingamanyala asifani nesini sokwenene.”
Zonke ezi zinto ziyasilela koko kufunekayo, njengoko ootitshala abaninzi sele beqonda. Masizithathe ngokulandelelana kwazo.
Baxelele nje ukuba babukele "iphonografi elungileyo"
Ingcamango ethi "iphonografi / i-porn embi" ibandakanya wonke umntu kwingxoxo engapheliyo malunga "nemilinganiselo," kunye neentlobo ze-porn ezikhethiweyo "ezilungileyo" okanye "ezimbi". Oku sisiphazamiso, asilonyathelo eliya phambili ekulungiseleleni abantwana kwimekobume yesini yanamhlanje.
Ngaphezu koko, nangona i-porn ye-amateur kunye ne-porn "eyinyani" ikhona, ubuchopho bolutsha buya kufuna izinto ezingaqhelekanga kunye ne-wacky. Oku kungenxa yokuba ubuchopho babo busabela ngokukodwa kwizinto ezintsha kunye nokothuka. Kwaye nangona kunjalo abaphenduli kancinci kuvuselelo oluqhelekileyo - oluthi ngokukhawuleza lube "likruqulayo". Le nkqubo yobuchopho bofikisayo ifumaneka kuzo zonke iintlobo zezilwanyana ezanyisayo. Yavela ukuze ikhuthaze abafikisayo ukuba bafune imimandla emitsha kunye namaqabane abo (ngaphandle kokuzalanisa). Kodwa oku kuthetha ukuba abantu abakwishumi elivisayo basengozini yokusasaza i-porn yenoveli engapheliyo, egqithisileyo, evuselela inkanuko.
I-Riskier namanje, okokuqala ngqa kwi-evolution yabantu, ulutsha lunokunyukela kwizinto ezigqithisileyo ngelixa liphulula amaphambili. Ngelixa imiqondiso ebuchotsheni babo obunengqondo ngandlel’ ithile irhangqwe yimiqondiso ekhwazayo evela kwimijikelezo yamandulo yokuvuselela/imivuzo ebuchotsheni. Isiphumo sesokuba abasebenzisi be-porn namhlanje banokuphela befikelela encotsheni (ukuqinisa) zonke iintlobo zezinto eziphathwayo. Babengenakukwazi ukukhangela le nkcazelo xa beqala ukwenza i-masturbating kwi-porn. Ngokuhamba kwexesha, abaninzi bafumanisa ukuba abasakwazi ukufikelela kuvuthondaba kwizinto ezithandwayo ngaphambili. Kwi-2016, abaphandi baxela ukuba isiqingatha sabasebenzisi be-porn sele benyukele kwizinto abazifumene ngaphambili "ezingathandekiyo" okanye "ezizothekileyo": Imisebenzi yezesondo kwi-Intanethi: Uphononongo oluphononongayo lweepateni ezinengxaki kunye nezingenangxaki zokusetyenziswa kwisampulu yamadoda.
Ukuthanda izinto zesondo
Oku kunokubangela ukuba abasebenzisi be-porn abancinci banamhlanje boyike malunga nokuthanda kwabo ngokwesondo, okanye ukuziqhelanisa nesondo. Umzekelo, sivile kubafana abanyuka baye kwi-porn engekho mthethweni kwaye bazibuze "Ngaba ngokwenene ndinguye??" Sivile ngabantu abathandana nabasetyhini abaphela bebukele iphonografi edlwengulayo. Kwaye abafana abathe tye abagqiba ukubukela i-transgender okanye i-porn ye-gay. Omabini la maqela ngamanye amaxesha oyika xa enxibelelanisa ubuchopho bawo kwezi zinto zintsha zokungcamla, aze ke angakwazi ukufikelela kuvuthondaba kwiincasa zangaphambili. 'Yabona Unokumthemba uYohson wakho?
Abanye bayazibuza ukuba ngaba "asexual" kuba baphendula kuphela kwiphonografi hayi kumaqabane okwenene. Okanye bayazibuza ukuba ngaba "i-omnisexual" ngenxa yokuba baye bafikelela encotsheni kuluhlu olubanzi lweeponografi ukususela kwiminyaka yobudala kangangokuba abanalo ingcamango ecacileyo malunga nokuba yintoni imvelaphi yabo. Ezi ngxaki zazingaziwa kwizizukulwana zangaphambili kwaye zibonakala zisisiphumo sobuchopho obuncinci obuthambileyo obungqubana novuselelo lwenoveli olungapheliyo ngokusasaza i-porn kwii-smartphones zabo.
Ukutshintsha incasa
Ngethamsanqa, iinyanga ngaphandle kokufika encotsheni kwi-intanethi ye-porn incasa zikholisa ukwenza ezi ncasa ziqhutywa ngamanyala zihlehle, kwaye abantu banokufumanisa ubuni babo bokuzalwa. (Okubangela umdla kukuba, omncinci uqala ngokusasaza i-porn, okukhona ethatha ixesha elide ukubuyisela isini esizalwa naye.)
Ingongoma kukuba, ukuba abantwana abakwaziswa malunga nendlela i-conditioning isebenza ngayo (khumbula izinja zikaPavlov?), Abanalo isakhelo sokuqonda okwenzekayo, okanye indlela yokubuyisela umva. Abafundiswa ukuba yeyiphi imiqondiso ekufuneka ijongwe, njengokungakwazi ukusebenzisa ikhondom ngenxa yokuba i-erections iyancipha kunye namaqabane okwenene, ukulibaziseka kwe-ejaculation okanye i-anorgasmia, ukunyuka kwizinto ezingathandekiyo, njl. Endaweni yoko, bahlala befundiswa ukuba i-porn ayikwazi ukutshintsha. izinto ezithandwa ngumbukeli, kwaye inceda kuphela umbukeli ukuba afumane ubuni bakhe bemvelo “obuyinyaniso”. Oku akukho ngqiqweni. Iingqondo, ngakumbi iingqondo eziselula, zezeplastiki ngakumbi. Ngaphandle koko, ukuba bekunjalo, isiqingatha sababukeli be-porn besingayi kuxela ukunyuka ukuya kwizinto ezigqithisileyo xa abaphandi becinga ukubuza.
Izimpawu zokulahla
Kwaye ukuba abasebenzisi abalumkiswanga ngokubi iimpawu zokuhoxiswa (intloko, i-panic attack, i-insomnia, i-flashbacks, inkungu yengqondo, ukuguquka kwemizwelo, ukulahlekelwa okwethutyana kwe-libido, njl.njl.) ezinokuthi zenzeke emva kokuba ziyeke, zihlala zikhawuleza zibuyele kwi-porn "ukunyanga" intlungu yabo - endaweni yokuqhubeka nohambo. inkqubo yokubuyisela ubuchopho babo kwindawo ephilileyo.
Bangaphi abafundisi-ntsapho banamhlanje abaxhotyiselwe ukufundisa abantwana ezi zinto? Akukho nanye, ngaphandle kokuba baye bafundiswa ngokwabo ngabachwephesha beplastiki yengqondo, njengeengcali zokulutha. Ngelishwa, umcebisi wesikolo oqhelekileyo akafundanga ukwenza lo msebenzi.
Bafundise nje ukuba bafumane imvume
Ingcamango yokufundisa abantwana imithetho yokufumana imvume, ivakala ilungile. Kodwa ukuba umfana unokufumana kuphela i-erection xa ebandakanyeka kwi-fetish ye-porn, ngoko ukuqonda kwakhe kwemvume kunokwenzeka ukuba kugqwethwe. Ngaphandle koko, amantombazana amaninzi aselula akanalo ingcamango ngelungelo lawo lokuthi 'hayi' kwiintlobo zemisebenzi. Ingakumbi ezininzi ezixhaphakileyo kwi-porn. Kuthatha umyolelo oqinileyo kunye nokuzithemba kwabantu abadala ukuxelela umfana othanda ngokwenene ukuba awunamdla wokuzibandakanya kuhlobo lwezenzo azilungiselele ukuba azifune ukuze afike kuvuthondaba. Nabafazi abadala banengxaki ngalo mngeni.
Amantombazana aqondayo ukuba owona mba yimeko yezesondo engafanelekanga inokunceda. Xa bedibana nabafana abafuna ukuzama ukuyeka i-porn banokunceda ukukhawulezisa inkqubo. Kodwa kungekhona ngokwenza njengeenkwenkwezi ze-porn. Umlingane Uyeka Ukunyaniseka? Iingcebiso ze-5
Ngaphandle kwemvume
Kwimeko nayiphi na into, abantwana bafuna ngaphezu kwemithetho yemvume yokuqonda ubungozi bokusetyenziswa koonografi. Kufuneka baqonde iintlobo zeempawu abasebenzisi ezingapheliyo ngamanye amaxesha ingxelo. Kwaye kunjani ukuba sekupheleni kokufumana iphonografi yomnye umntu ukuziphatha okuqhutywayo. Njengoko omnye umfana wathi,
Ndiyazibuza ukuba unokuthatha iphepha kwincwadi yokudlala yokufundisa ngeziyobisi. Ukwazi ukuba i-heroin eyonakele kangakanani inokukwenza ube yinkuthazo efanelekileyo ngokwaneleyo kubantu (uninzi) ukuba bangaze bachukumise izinto. Akunjalo "amaqhinga othusayo" ngokwe-se (mhlawumbi i-lol encinci), kodwa ukuqonda nje imiphumo enokubakho yokusetyenziswa kakhulu. Ndiyazi ukuba ukuba ndiyazi malunga nemiphumo enokubakho yokusetyenziswa kwe-porn engapheliyo, kukho ithuba elihle lokuba andizange ndivumele umkhwa wam ufikelele kwinqanaba lokuba likhoboka.
Baxelele nje iphonografi ayifani nesondo sokwenyani
Ukufundisa abantwana ukuba “isondo esingamanyala asifani nesini sokwenyani,” kuvakala kusengqiqweni, kodwa akuyi kuyicombulula ingxaki. Abantwana sele besazi ukuba i-porn sex "ayisiyonyani". Oku kwenzeka nangona bengenawo amava okuthelekisa nawo. Abanye bade baxakeke kwiipopayi zaseJapan. Ngokuqinisekileyo bayazi ukuba “asiyonyani” leyo.
Noko ke, eyona ngxaki inkulu kukuba banjalo ukulungisa inkanuko yabo yesini kwi-porn sex. Inani elimangalisayo labafana abancinci abakwazi ukufumana / ukugcina ukulungiswa ngaphandle kokuba babukele i-porn. Abanye abanako ukuma nkqo ngaphandle kokuba bazibandakanya kwi-fetish ye-porn kwaye bajonge amaqabane abo. 'Yabona Uphando luqinisekisa ukukhula okukhulu kwi-ED yolutsha.
Oku kwenzeka ngenxa yokuba ulutsha oluninzi aluzange luphulule amalungu esini ngaphandle kwephonografi. Baye bamisela ukuvuseleleka kwabo kwizikrini, into entsha eqhubekayo, ukukhangela kunye nokukhangela izinto ezothusayo, i-voyeurism, amakhubalo, njl njl. Kwaye amantombazana amaninzi aphulula i-masturbate kwi-intanethi ye-erotica abika umcimbi ofanayo.
Eneneni, ulutsha luqeqeshelwa umdlalo ongafanelekanga. Okubi nangakumbi kukuba, abaqondi ukuba baziqeqeshele umdlalo ongafanelekanga. Abazukwazi ngaphandle kokuba bazame ukuyeka i-porn ye-intanethi iinyanga. UTehy kufuneka azibonele ngokwabo ukuba amaqabane okwenene ayavuselela ngakumbi.
Kutheni imfundo yobuchopho iya kusebenza?
Esi siza sasekwa ekuqaleni kuka-2011. Ukusukela ngoko abantu abatsha abaninzi baye balufumana olu lwazi lunika umdla kwaye luluncedo ekufundeni ukulawula umnqweno wokutya onyuswe sisivuseleli sanamhlanje esingaphaya kwesiqhelo. Bayakonwabela ukufunda ngengqondo, iidrives zayo zokuziphendukela kwemvelo, iimpawu ezilumkisayo zokungalingani, kunye nendlela ukusika umva kunokunceda ingqondo ibuyele kubuntununtunu obuqhelekileyo. Bathanda ukwenza imifuniselo yabo xa beqonda iziseko. Kwaye bayathanda ukufundisana ngezithuba zeforum yokubuyisela. Unokufunda amawaka amabali abo okubuyisela Apha. Okanye jonga ividiyo yalomfana. Njengoko umsebenzisi wokubuyisela wathi,
Esikolweni bandifundise ukugawula amaplanga, ukuncamathelisa itawuli kunye nokwenza imbiza yodongwe… Okuvuyisayo kukuba andizidingi ezi zakhono nangayiphi na indlela kubomi bam bemihla ngemihla. Bekuya kuba kuhle ukuba ndibe neklasi enye okanye ezimbini kwi-neuroscience apho ndinokufunda khona ukuphuhlisa eyam ingqondo namandla engqondo. Oko bekuya kuba namandla kakhulu kwi-13.
Imfundo yezesondo namhlanje ayiphelelanga de ijongane nendlela okwenzeka ngayo ukufunda nge-pathological. Imfundo engamanyala ifuna ukufundisa ulutsha malunga nobuthathaka obukhethekileyo bobuchopho bolutsha. Kufuneka ibonise ukuba ulwabelana ngesondo lunokuphela njani lubekwe kwisivuseleli esingenanto yakwenza namaqabane okwenene. Le vidiyo icacisa ngakumbi: Ubuchopho bomntwana ofikisayo budibana ne-Intanethi ye-Intanethi ekhawulezileyo-iYouTube
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