Iposti ebuza malunga ne-rewiring:
Ndicinga ukuba ukuphinda kufakwe iintambo kuya kunceda ukukhawulezisa izinto nje ukuba ubuntununtunu obuqhelekileyo bubuyiselwe. Kodwa ngaba uyakholelwa ukuba kukho indawo apho umfana angaze aseke iindlela zendalo zabasetyhini kuba wayebukele iphonografi ukusuka kuthi, iminyaka emi-5 ukuya kwengama-23.
Okanye ngaba ukholelwa ukuba kukho indawo apho ubuchopho bunokungena ngokunzulu kwi-porning kangangokuba i-porn-pathways ayinakuze ibe buthathaka ngokwaneleyo kunye nexesha lodwa ukuze ingqondo ivume okanye ibone intombazana yobomi bokwenene njengomvuzo. Ngoko ke umfana uya kufuna ukunika iindlela zakhe zendalo 'ukunyusa' ukuze athethe.
Ibali ekufuneka liqatshelwe:
Omnye wabahlobo bam abakhulu waphulukana nobuntombi bakhe kwiminyaka eyi-21. Wayengakaze abe nonxibelelwano lwezesondo lwangaphambili kunye nentombazana ngaphambi koko, kodwa wayeneminyaka eyi-6 yokuphulula i-masturbating kumava e-porn. Waqala ukuphulula amaphambili xa wayeneminyaka eli-15 ubudala, akazange asebenzise ingcinga yakhe. Ke akazange enze nantoni na ukuseka indlela yokwakhiwa kwentombazana yokwenene. Yayikho ngokwemvelo. Kuyavunywa ukuba wayegcina i-masturbation ubuncinci kwaye akazange anyukele kwi-hardcore yokuhlanganisa i-porn. Ngoko akazange aphelelwe lithemba. Kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo yayine-wiring ye-porn.
Wayengenazo iimpawu ze-ED. Ngoku akazange aqalise kwi-porn emncinci kakhulu kodwa inqaku lam kukuba wayene-wiring yentombazana. Ke, ucinga ukuba inkwenkwe ingazikhwebula kwi-PM kunye nazo zonke ii-O's de ikwazi ukuma ngokuthe gqolo yodwa, kwaye ngenxa yoko ikwazi ukulala nentombazana yokwenyani ngaphandle kokuphinda iwiring?
Mna ngokwam andazi, kodwa ndoyama ngakumbi, “Ewe kuyenzeka ukuba uqalise kwakhona ngaphandle kokuphinda udibanise. Kaloku xa unokufumana uqhaqho ukuba ubambe wedwa uyakwazi ukuqhanyelwa xa intombi ikubambayo. Ngaphandle kokuba kukho ixhala elikhethekileyo elidlalwayo. "
UGary waphendula:
Igama elithi “rewiring” ligama eliyekelela kakhulu, kwaye abanye abafana balitolika “njengokwabelana ngesondo kokwenyani.” Oko kukuthi, bakholelwa ukuba kufuneka babelane ngesondo ukuze babuyele kwisivumelwano sokwenyani. Nangona kunjalo, ukucinga nje ngamantombazana okwenene, ukuba kufuphi nabo kufuneka kufakwe ucingo. Ndandinocingo kumantombazana okwenene kwakudala ngaphambi kokuba ndiqalise ukuphulula amaphambili ndineminyaka eyi-13.
Ke, ewe, ndicinga ukuba nabani na unokubuyela kumaqabane okwenene. Andazi ukuba kutheni abanye befana nomhlobo wakho, kwaye abanye bayasokola. Kodwa umntu oqala i-porn eneminyaka eyi-15, kunokuba abe neminyaka eyi-12, inokuba yinto enye. Uninzi lwezonxibelelwano ze-neural ziveliswa kwiminyaka eyi-11, kwaye ezininzi zithenwa yi-15. Iminyaka yobudala iqala ngokuvuselela okungaqhelekanga njenge-intanethi ye-intanethi ibaluleke kakhulu.
QAPHELA: Abafana abambalwa batyelela amahenyukazi, okanye bacebise ukutyelela amahenyukazi njengendlela yokubuyela "kwisondo esiqhelekileyo". Andizukungena ekuziphatheni koku, kodwa ayinangqondo, kwaye mhlawumbi yenza ingozi ngaphezu kokulungileyo. Okokuqala, ukuphinda kufakwe iintambo kukufunda, kwaye ukufunda kufuneka kuhambelane kwaye kutshatise iimeko zobomi bokwenyani ukuze kube namalungiselelo asebenzayo. Ukutyelela ihenyukazi kabini okanye kathathu akuyi kwenza nto. Okwesibini, ukuphinda kufakwe iintambo kufuneka kuhambelane nenyani. Ukudibana namahenyukazi akufani nokusondelana neqabane lokwenene. Ukuba ufuna ukuba yincutshe kwintenetya, awuziqhelanisi nokuphosa okusimahla. Okwesithathu, ukungakwazi ukuphumeza ukwakhiwa kunye nehenyukazi (okuyiyo ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ntoni) kuya kuqinisa kuphela nayiphi na inkxalabo ejikeleze i-ED yakho. Jonga lo msonto- Lumkani nonke, izifebe azisiso isisombululo .. Ndisebugxwayibeni 🙁
kwaye Le:
Ndandikade ndine-PIED enzima, endandicinga ukuba inokunyangwa ngokudibanisa noonongogo. Emva koko ndaqala ukubatyelela rhoqo emva kweentsuku ze-100 zokuqalisa kwakhona. Ityala lam labangcono one by one de ndalala nabo zange ibeyingxaki. Ngoku, ndiye emva kwexesha ukuba andikho oko ndavulayo xa kuthethwa ngokulala ne-gf yam okanye nayiphi na intombazana eqhelekileyo!
Ukukhotyokiswa ngokwako kunendima. Ukuba umntu uba likhoboka le-porn iindlela zakhe ezikhuthazayo zoonografi zenziwe zisebenze ngamandla yi-porn. Inyaniso isenokuba mnyama xa ithelekiswa nokuba likhoboka lakhe. Xa ukusabela kwinyani (amantombazana okwenyani) engahambelani nendlela asabela ngayo ngokungaqhelekanga, i-dopamine yakhe iyehla. Ke akabiyi kumantombazana okwenene ngendlela ookhokho bakhe abaya kuba nayo (ngaphandle kokukhuphisana neendlela zokukhobokisa). 'Yabona Kutheni Ndifumana Unobomi Obunomdla Kunokuba Ngumlingani?
Enye into isenokuba yinto umntu acinga ngayo xa ekude nephonografi. Umzekelo, kumfana othe tye, ngaba ngabadlali be-porn, okanye amantombazana esikolweni okanye kwiTV? Mhlawumbi enye into kukuhlala phakathi kwamantombazana, ekho nje. Ngaba umntu okwigumbi lakhe elingaphantsi udlala imidlalo yevidiyo, okanye uthetha namantombazana, okanye usenza izinto zokuhlalisana namantombazana? Ukufumana imibono malunga nendlela yokunxibelelana namaqabane okwenene, nangaphandle kokulala ngesondo, bona Izixhobo zokuxhuma nabanye. Ziqhelanise nokujonga amehlo kwaye uncume. (Ukuba uneentloni, qala ngabantu abadala kwaye usebenze ukuya kwabo banokuba ngamaqabane.)
Ngokuqinisekileyo, abaninzi abafana abasebenzisa i-porn abanayo i-ED, ngoko indalo yomelele. Nangona kunjalo, ndicinga ukuba siya kuqhubeka nokubona ukuthambekela okunyukayo kwi-ED, DE, kunye nokuphoxeka ngakumbi kwisondo esiqhelekileyo kubafana abafake intambo kwi-Intanethi. (Kwaye uphando lubonisa olu qikelelo: Izifundo ezidibanisa ukusetyenziswa koononophelo okanye ukuxhatshazwa kwezesondo / ukulala ngesondo kwiingxaki zesondo, ukusetyenziswa kwengqondo engaphantsi kwisistim sezesondo, nokwaneliseka ngokwesini.)
Oko kwathiwa, ingqondo yiplastiki. Bayatshintsha, kodwa kufuna ukhetho olufanelekileyo kunye nomonde. Ukufumana okungakumbi bona incwadi kaNorman Doidge Ubuchopho Obuzitshintshayo.
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Umqalisi oqale waphilisa izimvo zakhe ze-PIED malunga nokufakwa kwakhona kwewiring
Amava am ukuqaliswa kwakhona kwakungaphandle kobudlelwane, obungaqhotyoshelwanga kwinxalenye enkulu (ubudlelwane be-bar ye-2 yenyanga kunye nokuma kobusuku obunye); Ndifumene ukuba okokuqala akukho porn okanye ukuvuselela ngokwesondo; emva koko ixesha elide lokuyeka i-orgasm; kwaye emva koko izigqibo zokutya kunye nendlela yokuphila yokuphucula ukusebenza ngokwesondo ezantsi kwesekethe kubangele ukuba ndiqalise kwakhona kwindawo yam yangoku (i-10/10 i-erections ezenzekelayo; iinkuni zasekuseni; MO (imvakalelo, akukho fantasy / ukuvuselela) ngaphandle kokungena kwi-flatline). Ke ngoko, ndiziva ndiqale ngokutsha ngaphandle koncedo lobudlelwane kwaye ayisiyomfuneko yokuqalisa kwakhona. Ngokunyanisekileyo ndiziva ngathi ubudlelwane bube buye benza ukuba kube nzima kum (ulindelo lwezesondo olubekwe kuwe liqabane, kunye nokubakho kwe-orgasm rhoqo endiye ndayibona ilibazisekile ukuqalisa kwam kwakhona kwaye ndamisa inkqubela yam yokubeka ngaphezulu imeko ye-porn).
I-hypothesis yam yeyokuba ngokuvumela iindlela ze-porn neuron ukuba ziphele ngokungabikho kokusetyenziswa kwandibuyisela kwisikhundla sam sokufikisa, ngenxa yoko bekungafuneki ukuba ndibe kubudlelwane apho bendilungiselelwe ukuba ndidibanise neqabane.
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