Ndiyiqala njani incoko malunga nengxaki yam ye-porn kunye neqabane lam? Isenokuba lelinye lawona manyathelo anzima ebomini. Nazi ezinye iimbono ezintle.
Jonga le vidiyo yemizuzu emi-5: Kufuneka ndilinde ixesha elingakanani ukuza kuthi ga ngoku njengoko ndiphola kwi-porn-induced erectile dysfunction? nguNowa Church.
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Utshilo umhlobo wakhe, owafumanisa ukuba umyeni wakhe owayesele ekhulile sele eqalisile ukusebenzisa iphonografi eyingozi kwi-Intanethi kwiminyaka yakhe yamashumi asixhenxe:
Abasetyhini kufuneka bajongane neemvakalelo zabo zomsindo, ukuzonda kunye nokulahlwa. Kwimeko yam, kwaye ndiqinisekile ukuba andindedwa kula mava, kukukhanyela, ukumangalelwa kunye nokuxoka okuphembelela umsindo wam.
Ngaba ngokwenene kunzima okanye akunakwenzeka ukuba indoda ithi kumfazi wayo into enje:
- Ndiyazisola kwaye ndiyaziqonda iimvakalelo zakho.
- Ndiyaqonda ukuba bendikwindlela engalunganga kwaye ndiza kuyiyeka.
okanye…
- Ndiyakuhlonipha kwaye ndiyakuthanda, kwaye ndiya kuba negalelo nangantoni na endinokuyenza ukulungisa ubudlelwane bethu.
Kwimeko yam, oko kuya kunceda ukudala uhlobo oluthile loqhagamshelwano.
Funda kwakhona Kuthiwani ukuba iqabane lam liyilwaphulo?
Ugqirha osebenza kunye namaqabane ubhala:
Amaqabane amakhoboka okwabelana ngesondo anxibelelana nam esithi emva kweminyaka, ngamanye amaxesha eminyaka, Ukuxelelwa ngabayeni / amaqabane abo ukuba isini sabo asisiyo ngokwenyama, Ukuba baya kuyifumana ibhotile yeViagra okanye iCialis ebotshelelwe ngasemva kwidrowa kwenye indawo. Ekuqaleni baberhanela ukuba iqabane labo lalithandana kodwa, emva kokuphanda nzulu, bakhathazeka ngakumbi ngokufunda ukuba iqabane labo lalisebenzisa la machiza anamandla ngeenjongo zokuba ukuphonyula kwi-intanethi ye-porn!
Iqabane lakho kufuneka liqonde ukuba ukuqalisa ngokutsha kunye nokudibanisa ingqondo yakho kuya kuthatha ixesha kunye nenkxaso. Kuya kuthatha ixesha kwaye akho inkxaso yokuphilisa iimvakalelo zakhe ezibuhlungu kunye nokubuyisela ukuthembana phakathi kwakho. Sicebisa
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Nantsi indlela enye indoda eyenze ngayo ukuxelela umfazi wayo:
Ndakhetha ukuxelela umfazi njengendlela yokuzibophelela ngakumbi. Kwixesha elidlulileyo xa umxholo we-porn uza kuvela, ndingamxelela nje ukuba ndenze i-PMO njengaye wonke umntu, akukho nto inkulu. Ke wayesazi, kodwa wayengazi malunga nokuba kubi kangakanani ukuba likhoboka lam okanye ukuba zeziphi iziphumo ebezivelisa engqondweni yam. Uthe ebuya emsebenzini ndabe ndimlindile ngeVideos ezimbini zifakwe kuYouTube. Ndathi makahambe nam siye eliving room, ndamlungiselela into eselwayo ndamxelela ukuba ndifuna ukumbonisa iividiyo. Ndihlala ndimbonisa izinto ezihlekisayo endizifumana kwi-interwebs ngoko ibingeyonto ingaqhelekanga. Kodwa undinike inkangeleko efana ne-WTF?
Ividiyo yokuqala yaba Ukuditywa kweeGay (Ndibheja nonke nizazi ezi vidiyo). Akunjalo kwinqanaba, kodwa yintshayelelo emnandi. Wayeyithanda kodwa akazange ayifumane kwangoko. Saye saqhubeka ke I-Big Porn. Ekuqaleni wayefana no-OMG, uneengxaki ezinzulu, ngoko ke yimfihlo yakho encinci, kodwa njengoko ividiyo iqhubeka yatshintsha, mmmh, ok, ndiyabona, yiloo nto ungakhathali nganto. njl...
Emva kokubukela ezo vidiyo intetho yayilula ka-100x. Uye wayifumana kwaye wandixhasa kakhulu, sathetha kakhulu malunga nemeko yam kunye noko kufuneka sikulindele. Ndiyindoda enethamsanqa kakhulu, njengoko eqonda kakhulu. Wayecinga ukuba ndijonge i-porn ngenxa yokuba akathandeki ngokwaneleyo kum, kodwa ke ndambonisa umphumo we-Coolidge kwaye ndakhumbula ngoHugh Grant owakhohlisa uLiz Hurley kwaye ekugqibeleni wayifumana.
Into kuphela endingazange ndimxelele yona kukubhaliswa kwam njengefapstronaut. Ndenze njalo ukuze ndigcine inkululeko encinci ekuthetheni nani.
Emva kwentetho sobabini saziva ngathi siyasondela ngakumbi kunangaphambili. Kwaye kwaba sisiqabu esikhulu ukukhupha oko esifubeni sam, awukwazi ukucinga ukuba kwakukhulu kangakanani isiqabu.
Kuxhomekeke kubudlelwane bakho oku kunokwahluka, kodwa kwandisebenzela. Enkosi ngokundivumela ndibelane ngebali lam nani madoda.
Omnye umfana wanikela eli cebiso:
Ngelixa kufuneka uchaze imeko yakho kwiqabane lakho, abahlobo kunye nosapho… akufuneki ukuba ingxanyiswe.
Yithathe kumntu okhe wadlula kuyo. Kwafuneka ndixelele intombi yam ukuba bendimqhatha nge-cam random chatting kwaye ndihlawulela amantombazana e-cam unyaka. Ibinzima ke le nto ukuyenza kwaye ndalungiselela iiveki ezimbalwa usuku endamxelela ngalo. Izinto ezimbalwa ezinkulu ekufuneka uzikhumbule… Chaza YONKE INTO. Yibhale ngendlela yeleta kwaye uqinisekise ukuba unayo yonke into ofuna ukuyixela. Eyona nto imbi ngaphezu kokuva ukuba iqabane lakho likhoboka lesondo / i-porn, kufuneka live amabali amaninzi nangaphezulu ekuhambeni kwexesha. Ukuyikhupha ngolo hlobo kukungcungcuthekisa kwaye akulunganga kwiqabane lakho.
Enye into ekufuneka uyikhumbule kukuba ungacacisi kakhulu. Sukuthetha ngamaxesha athile nokuba kwenzeke ntoni kanye kanye. Akuyomfuneko ukuba azi ukuba ulikhoboka lokuxhaphaza ezimpundu okanye ukuba ubukele iividiyo zoburhamncwa okanye izinto ezithile zokudibana ngokwesondo.
Vula ukuphendula imibuzo kwaye uzame ukuba nenyani kangangoko. Isizathu esipheleleyo sokubhengeza kukuba emva koko uqalise ukwakha kwakhona ukuthembana. Ukuzixela kuya kukuva kamnandi kuwe kuba akusekho mfuneko yokuba ufihle ixesha lakho elidlulileyo kubantu obathandayo. Ndiyivile xa ithelekiswa nokuzama ukubamba ibhola elwandle phantsi kwamanzi. Ekugqibeleni iya kuphumela phezulu kwaye kungcono ukuyenza ngokwemiqathango yakho yokuba ivuthelwe ebusweni bakho.
Khumbula ukuba oku akukho malunga nawe nangona kunjalo. Iqabane lakho liya kusabela ngeemvakalelo ezigqithisileyo. UNGAMBEK tyala. Khupha oko bakukutyayo. Cela uxolo ngeempazamo zakho zexesha elidlulileyo.
INYE into enkulu ekwandincedayo kukubonisa isicwangciso sam sotshintsho lwexesha elizayo. Ndandisele ndifumene itherapist kwaye ndandihamba ngeveki kwaye ndinesicwangciso sokuba ubomi bam buza kutshintsha njani. Ukuba iqabane lakho liyabona ukuba ukulungele ukutshintsha kwaye ufuna ukutshintsha baya kuba nako ukuhlala nawe ngale nto.
Omnye umfana:
Ndixelele i-SO yam kwiintsuku ezi-2 ezidlulileyo (gf ye-5 iminyaka, ngoku i-fiance). Wayebuhlungu kakhulu ekuqaleni kodwa emva kwemizuzu eli-15 ethethile kwaye ngoku uyamxhasa. Ukusukela oko efunda iNoFap kunye ne-YBOP ukunceda ukuqonda ngcono.
Ukuqiqa:
- Uya kuvuya ukuba uyenzile ngoku vs kamva.
- Okukhona ulinda ixesha elide, kokukhona unokuba “lixoki.”
- Uya kuva ubunzima obukhulu bususiwe emagxeni akho.
- Ngoku uya kuba nomhlobo, igf/bf/wife/ husband/partner, ukukunceda.
- Oku kunokwenza ulwalamano lwenu lomelele kwaye lunisondeze kunye (umyeni kunye nam ngoku ndithetha ngendlela endiqhuba ngayo yonke imihla kwaye kuyavakala ukuba ndivuleleke ngayo).
Ndibone abaninzi apha bengavumelani kwaye bathi abasoze baxelele omnye wabo obalulekileyo. Ndilapha nje ukutsho ukuba ndiyenzile kwaye yayisesona sigqibo sihle ndisithathileyo malunga ne-PMO. Ngamnye kubo.
Khuthaza iqabane lakho ukuba lisebenzise izixhobo kule ndawo ukuqonda ukuba ukuyeka iphonografi ayisiyonto ilula yokuzimisela. Umntu ongazange aboshwe akanakuyiqonda le nto ngaphandle kwemfundo. Nantsi into endiyicacisele umfazi owayengachasananga ne-porn, kodwa engaqondi ukuba kutheni iqabane lakhe liphulula amaphambili ngaphambi nangemva kwexesha labo kunye "ukuzanelisa ngokwesondo":
Into yokuqala ekufuneka uyiqonde kukuba i-porn ayimanelisi… Okwangoku, akanako be ukwaneliseka ngokwesondo, kuba oku akukho malunga nesondo. Kukukhobokisa. Ngaba umntu otyebileyo utya kuba elambile? Iminqweno ayiyiyo indlala okanye i-libido. Banqwenela ukuzalwa kwe-dopamine ephantsi engqondweni.
Iphonografi ye-Intanethi ifana kakhulu nemidlalo yevidiyo kunokuba isondo. Konke kukufumana ukulungiswa rhoqo kwe-dopamine, kwaye owona mthombo wakhe unokuthenjwa ngoku ungamanyala. Ngamanye amazwi, oku akunanto yakwenza nawe. Ingqondo yakhe itshintshile, nto leyo ekhokelela ekungakwazini ukulawula ukusetyenziswa-uphawu lwazo zonke iziyobisi. Ngaba ubukele uthotho lwam lwevidiyo icacisa yonke lento? Kufuneka kunithuthuzele nobabini ukuba niqonde ukuba kwenzeka ntoni engqondweni.
Ke ukuphendula umbuzo wakho, "Ngaba ukonwaba, ukutyeba ngesondo, ubudlelwane abufanelanga ukuba kusetyenziswe iphonografi ngokungeyomfuneko?" Akunjalo. Akukho ngaphezu kokuba buya kuthintela ukutshaya, ukutya kakhulu, okanye nakuphi na okunye ukukhotyokiswa. Oku akunanto yakwenza "nokwaneliseka ngokwesondo," kuba umlutha uchazwa njengo ukungakwazi ukufumana ulwaneliseko oluqhelekileyo. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba waqala kudala ngaphambi kokuba ufike, njengoko uninzi lwamakhwenkwe ngoku luqala kwiminyaka eyi-11-12.
Andivumelani kakhulu nembono yakho yokuba "i-porn kufuneka ithathe indawo yesondo." Onke amakhwenkwe aselula ngoku aphinda ahlaziye iingqondo zawo kwi-hyperstimulating, i-noveli eqhubekayo, iphonografi ngeenzame "zokuthatha indawo yesondo," kwaye abaninzi bafumana amaqabane okwenene awavusi.
Ukuba ufuna ukuyeka ukuba atyelele indawo yethu, kwaye uqale Izixhobo zoTshintsho, uze umvumele abukele iividiyo, aze afunde Ukubuyisela kwakhona iiAkhawunti.
Nantsi iakhawunti yendoda enye yokuchaza umlutha wakhe we-porn kumfazi wayo:
Izolo, ndimxelele yonke into umfazi wam. Ihambe kakuhle kakhulu. Yenzeka ngokwayo, uhlobo. Kwaye yaba lusuku lwakhe lokuzalwa. Ndiyazi ukuba oku kuvakala kukhohlakele. Njengokuthi “Ulonwabele usuku lokuzalwa, sithandwa. Phofu ke, ndilikhoboka lephonografi” kodwa kwakungenjalo. Kwaye emva koko wathi kum ukumxelela sesona sipho somhla wokuzalwa endinokumnika sona.
Iqale njengosuku lokuzalwa oluhle oluqhelekileyo, kunye nezipho, ukuwolwa kunye nokuncamisa okuvela kum. Imnandi kakhulu. Ndiye ndaphangela ke xa ndibuya sagqiba sayobukela I movies. Lowo ebefuna ukumbona "Ihlazo".. kuzo zonke iifilimu. Ndandikhe ndamxelela ngalo mboniso bhanyabhanya kwixesha elidlulileyo. Ukuba yayimalunga nokulutha ngokwesondo kwaye ndifuna ukuyibukela ixesha elithile. Ndicinga ukuba bendifuna afunde ngakumbi ngalo mbandela, ukuze kube lula ukumxelela ngokukhawuleza okanye kamva.
Ndandixhalabele ukuba ukubona loo movie inokubangela ukuphindaphinda kwe-porn okanye i-masturbation kodwa ndagqiba ekubeni ndithathe ingozi, kuba ndifuna ukuxoxa ngayo. Enye inokukhokelela ekuvumeni izono. Nangona kunjalo, imuvi ayizange ibangele ukuphinda kubuyele. Kwabakho isex nobunqunu, kulungile kodwa andabinampondo. Xa ndithetha inyani, ndiziva ndinomnqweno omncinci namhlanje ngenxa yoko, ibiyinto ephambeneyo ukuyenza, kodwa ayizukundenza ndiphinde ndibuyele. Ngaphandle koko, lo mboniso bhanyabhanya undenze ndaxelela umfazi wam yonke into. Ndiyavuya ukuba ndiyenzile loo nto, ngoko bekufanelekile.
Ngokuphathelele ifilimu, ndicinga ukuba yayilungile. Kubuhlungu, kunjalo, kodwa ndicinga ukuba bazama ukubonisa ukuba likhoboka ngendlela eyiyo. Andazi ukuba ingcaphephe ingathini ngayo… inganomdla ukuyiva. Ndicinga ukuba umlutha wesondo kunye nokulutha kwe-intanethi zizinto ezahlukeneyo, kodwa ndiyakwazi ukuzibona kwezinye iindawo ze-movie. Ubukhulu becala kuloo mvakalelo yokungabi nanto, ukuba ndindisholo kunye nokuba wedwa. Kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo i-porn surfing, i-porn stash njalo njalo. Kwakungemnandanga ukubona kodwa kubalulekile, kwakhona, ndiyacinga.
Emva kwefilimu saqala ingxoxo ngayo. Ndicinga ukuba umdla wam omkhulu kulo mbandela wamenza wazibuza kancinane, ngoko ngaxa lithile wandibuza enoba ndandikhe ndibe nawo nawaphi na amava okuba likhoboka elinjalo kwixesha elidlulileyo. Ndaye ndamxelela nje yonke into. Yonke into. Kwakhona malunga ne-yourbrainonporn.com. Into endiyifundileyo malunga nokulutha kunye nokunye. Ndikwamcebise ukuba abukele olo ngcelele lunamacandelo amathandathu (alwenzileyo namhlanje). Kwasithatha iiyure ezininzi ukuthetha ngayo yonke le nto kakade, kodwa yayiyingxoxo emnandi, ezolileyo.
Usoloko ecinga phambi kokuba athethe kwaye unolwazi oluninzi ngepsychology, ngoko akazange abe nomsindo. Ewe ibimothusa lento yakhe kodwa uphila ubomi oburhabaxa kwaye ungumntu owomeleleyo. Akanazinkohliso malunga nayo nantoni na kodwa uyakwazi ukonwabela ubomi kakhulu, nangona kunjalo, ndiyamthanda. Ngapha koko, endaweni yokuchukumiseka, wandibuza imibuzo emininzi ngayo yonke into kwaye ndayiphendula yonke ngokunyaniseka. Kumele ukuba ndathi “uxolo” izihlandlo ezisisigidi ngobo busuku, kwaye ndandinyanisile, kodwa wayengafuni nokuba ndicele uxolo okanye nantoni na, kuba wayeqonda. Ude wathi uyandiqhayisela kuba ndimxelele kwaye ndithathe isigqibo sokuba mandiphume kulento.
Nto leyo indenza ndibe nethamsanqa kakhulu, ndiyazi. Ndamxelela ukuba andinaxhala lokuba mhlawumbi angandiva kodwa unokuphulukana nembeko yakhe kum. Wathi akayi. Ukuzihlonipha kwam kukho ndawo emdaka ngenxa yayo yonke lento. Ndiziva ngathi ndilihule elizingcayo elifumene umfazi omangalisayo endingafanelanga ukuba nalo. Ndixolele isifrentshi sam. Ndiyazi ukuba umlutha yinto oye ungene kuyo ngaphandle kokuqaphela, kodwa ekupheleni kosuku ndiziva ndinetyala.
Wayenomsindo kancinci kwezo “zigaba xa ndiziva ndingathandi isini”. Kuba enyanisweni ndandibukele iphonografi kunye ne-masturbating kakhulu kwezo zigaba zinzima. Andizange ndikwazi ukuba neentlobano zesini ngokwenene. Kwakunzima ukuba angabelani ngesondo kangangeveki eziliqela yaye wayecaphuka ngenxa yokuxoka kwam kuye. Kwaye yayibubuxoki, ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo ngayo. Kodwa intloko yam yayimbi ngela xesha.
Ndandikhobokile kwaye ndandingayiqondi ngokupheleleyo. Kwaye ndandingakwazi ukuthetha ngayo. Ndamxelela lento. Akunjalo nje ngokuthethelela kodwa yayiyiloo nto yayiqhubeka. Phofu waziva ekhululekile emva kwengxoxo kuba izinto ezininzi ngesiquphe ziye zavakala kuye. Ndixolile, nam, kuba ekugqibeleni akusekho nto ndiyifihlayo kwaye oko kundinika inkuthazo engakumbi yokuqalisa kwam kwakhona. Njengoko benditshilo, ndiziva ndinetyala malunga nokuba ndikhe ndagrumba kwixesha elidlulileyo kodwa ndiziva kumnandi ukwenza into elungileyo ngoku.
Ngokuphathelele isini, uyazi ukuba kunokuba bhetele ukuba angabi nayo okwethutyana ukuze kube lula ukuchacha. Undiphatha ngothando olukhulu kwaye uthi siza kwenza nantoni na ukundinceda ukuba ndihlukane nalo mkhwa. Ndiyazi ukuba kuya kuba nzima kuye ngaphandle kokwabelana ngesondo ixesha elide kwaye andiqinisekanga ukuba kuyimfuneko. Ndicinga ukuba siza kuzama ngononophelo olukhulu kungekudala kwaye sibone ukuba kwenzeka ntoni.
Le ndoda yafumana into eyothusayo:
(Usuku lwama-37) Kungekudala emva kokujoyina ukuyeka kwaye emva kokubuza kancinci, ndagqiba ekubeni ndihambe ndedwa kolu hambo. Ndandicinga nje ukuba xa eyazi into endandiyenza kulo lonke ulwalamano lwethu kunye nomtshato wethu, wayeya kuphuma nje.
Andazi ukuba kwenzeke njani ngempazamo kodwa malunga neveki edlulileyo (bendimalunga nenyanga eyi-1 ndingena kwi-nofap) ngexesha lencoko emnandi apho sasithetha ngobuntwana bethu wandibuza ukuba ndingaphozisanga nto nokuba ndisaphulula amaphambili okanye hayi. Uye wandibuza ngaphambili ndaxoka ndamxelela "hayi". Ndiphinde ndamxelela ukuba "hayi" kweli xesha yinyaniso kanye. Kodwa uye walandela, ebuza ukuba ndiyenzile na oko sitshatile. Ngoko ndagqiba ekubeni ndivume. Ndamxelela ewe kwaye ngokusisiseko bendiyenza ngalo lonke ixesha, kude kube malunga nenyanga edlulileyo kwincoko.
Bendilindele ukuba aphume. Endaweni yoko waziva kakubi, ngokungathi akenzanga ngokwaneleyo ukundigcina ndanelisekile. Waba nothando kakhulu kwaye kwenzeka izinto ezimnandi ngobo busuku. Siye salandela emva kwencoko apho wandixelela ukuba ukuxoka kuyamkhathaza kodwa waqonda ukuba ndiyaxoka kuba wayeyenza yacaca indlela awayevakalelwa ngayo ngayo yonke loo nto. Ndicinga ukuba ndiye ndamenzakalisa kancinane iimvakalelo zakhe, kodwa konke okuthethileyo nokwenza oko bekukhulula kwaye sikufutshane kuyo.
Uyavuya kakhulu kuba ndiye ndagqiba ekubeni ndiyeke, kwaye ndimenzele loo nto. Ndiyavuya kuba eye wafumanisa ngale ndlela, kwaye bendisele ndisebenza kuyo.
Abasetyhini bafuna ukuqonda ukuba kuqhubeka ntoni, kwaye kunokuzikhulula ngokwenene iingqondo zabo:
Nditya okunempilo, ndisebenzisa rhoqo kwaye ndithanda isondo ngokupheleleyo! Kwisithuba esingangonyaka odlulileyo, iintlobano zesini nomfana endandithandana nazo zehla kakhulu. Sahamba ukusuka 3-5 amaxesha ngeveki ukuya kanye okanye kabini ngenyanga kangangoko. Umdla ovela kuye uphele ngokupheleleyo. Kufuneka ndiqalise kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo uyasokola ukuba nzima aze aqhubeke. Ndichithe imali eninzi kwizinto zangaphantsi kunye nempahla evuselelayo. Khange ndimtyhale kulo ndisoyika ukwenza worse.
Uyavuma ukubukela i-porn ye-intanethi ngamaxesha athile. Ndijonge imbali yekhompyuter yeqabane lam, kwaye ubukela iphonografi kaninzi ngemini yonke imihla. Ndiyazi ukuba kubi ukukroba, kodwa bendiphelelwe lithemba. Uyakhanyela ukubukela i-porn eninzi kwaye uyala ukuxoxa ngalo mbandela.
Kude kube ndifunda lo mbandela, ndacinga ukuba andisanqweneleki. Kwakufuneka ngandlela ithile ibe lityala lam. Nangona, ndikwimo ebalaseleyo bendicinga ngoqhaqho lweplastiki. Intliziyo yam ilihlwili xa ndilala ndedwa xa ndingatshatanga. Ndiyamthanda kodwa ndilahlekile njengesisombululo. Ubuncinane, oku kundinika ukuqonda.
I-fapstronaut ixelela iintombi zakhe: Usuku lwe-36-Amantshontsho agrumba iifapstronauts.
Mandithethe nje into-ukuba wenza i-nofap ngomcimbi wabasetyhini, yazi ukuba abafazi baya kucinga ukuba kuhle ukuba ungenzi i-nofap. Wonke umhlobo oyintombazana endikhe ndamxelela malunga nohambo lwam lwe-nofap uye wachukumiseka kakhulu kwaye baye bandixhasa kuyo yonke indlela. Andazi ukuba siyintoni na isizathu emva koku; Andiyiyo kwaphela ingcaphephe kwinkalo yabasetyhini kunye neengcinga zabo, kodwa kubonakala ngathi yinto enokuhlonishwa ngabasetyhini! Ndicinga ukuba i-nofap luphawu lokuzilawula kunye namandla phezu kwakho into enomtsalane? Ngaba abanye bafuna ukuphosa iisenti zabo ezimbini?
Ngaphandle koko, namhlanje ngokunyaniseka ibiyeyona mini inzima endikhe ndanayo kwiintsuku ezingama-36 ezidlulileyo bendiyenza le nto. Umnqweno wokujonga nje i-porn kunye ne-masturbate ibe yomelele kakhulu, kwaye ingqondo yam yahlala indixelela, "mfondini, logama nje ungengomnye waba bantu baphambeneyo abathanda i-PMO njengebhiliyoni ngamaxesha ngosuku, uya kuba ulungile. !" Kodwa hayi. Andizukunikezela. Ukufunda izithuba ze-nofap kunye nokubhala oku kuye kwandinceda ukuba ndisuse ingqondo yam kwiphonografi.
Usanda kwabelana ngeNoFap nomfazi -
Wow, uyithathe kakuhle. Wazibamba iimvakalelo zakhe / ukuzonda, wahlala kunye nam ngochungechunge lwe-YBOP, wavuma ngezicwangciso zokuphumeza ukuthintela ukuphinda abuyele, njl ixesha belilungile.
Ndaye ndoyika le ncoko kangangeminyaka ngaphambi kokuba nditshate. Uye wayiphatha ngofefe kwaye wandixelela ukuba uyayixabisa into endimenzela yona.
Ukuba unomdla wendlela endamxelela ngayo, kwakulele ebhedini. Ndamjonga ngqo emehlweni ndamxelela ukuba ndiyayeka ukusebenzisa i-porn kunye ne-masturbating, kwaye yayiqhubeka ukususela ekubeni ndandineminyaka eyi-13. ndenze ngako konke ukumqinisekisa ngomlomo ingxaki ibingenguye. Emva koko ndamcela ukuba andixolele, yaye wandixolela. Ngokuqinisekileyo khange ndizame ukwenza naziphi na iintshukumo zomzimba kuba ndifuna ukumnika ixesha kunye nendawo yokuba aqhubeke.
Ngale ntsasa besihlukene ngenxa yezibophelelo zangaphambili, kodwa ngale mvakwemini sibukele i-YBOP kwaye uvule amehlo akhe kwizinto ezininzi. Bekumnandi kakhulu ukuyigqiba yonke loo nto phambi kokuba sibe nenye incoko ngayo. Emva koko siye saxoxa ngamanyathelo okuthintela, ukuba ndiza kuhlala njani ndixakekile, isihluzo se-k9, kunye nezinye izinto.
Andiyikholelwa indlela awayithatha kakuhle ngayo. Khange ndimnike iinkcukacha ezingafunekiyo zento endiyibonileyo okanye nantoni na kwixa elidlulileyo, ndigxile kwikamva kwaye naye wenjenjalo. Ngoku ndiyazi ukuba ndinomfazi obalaseleyo.
Elinye ibali lomlingani:
Ukumxelela malunga nomkhwa wam wephonografi yinto endingazange ndicinge ukuba ndiya kuyenza. Ndandizigqibele ngokwam ukuba eli yayiza kuba lidabi lam nelam ndedwa. Isizathu sesokuba kwiminyaka eliqela eyadlulayo kwavela ukuba utata wakhe wabandakanyeka kubukhoboka bokwabelana ngesondo obunzima kakhulu, obumnyama kakhulu ixesha elide….kwaye yamophula intliziyo. Kwaye ngokunyanisekileyo, andizange ndibone nasiphi na isizathu sokuba indoda ebaluleke kakhulu ebomini bakhe iphinde iphule kwakhona ngenxa yesizathu esihlanjululweyo, kodwa esifanayo. Kudala ndithandaza ngale nto, ukuze ndiqinisekise ukuba ukulwa oku kuyeyona nto ifanelekileyo yokwenza….kwaye ngoLwesihlanu, kukho into ethile ngaphakathi kum ecenga ukuba ndiyabelane naye, ndenza njalo.
Impendulo yakhe yayingakholeleki…wayenenkxaso engakholelekiyo kwaye eqondayo. Wada wandixelela nokuba uyavuya kuba ndiye ndabelana naye ngayo kuba “wayeziva esondele ngakumbi kum” ukuba ndinokuzityand’ igila kuye into engaka. Xa ndamxelela ukuba ndiza ngeentsuku ze-40 ze-PMO kunye ne-MO simahla, kwaye bendimenzela njengam, waba neemvakalelo….sobabini saba neemvakalelo zokwenyani. Ezi ntsuku zintathu zidlulileyo, ZIMKHULU, ubenenkathalo kwaye unenkxalabo, kwaye ngokwenene ube lilitye endinokuthembela kulo.
Le ibiyeyona nto ibalulekileyo endakha ndayenza emtshatweni wam. Ukutyhubela iminyaka ndandivakalelwa kukuba ulwalamano lwethu luphelelwe ngamandla. Bendisilwa nomsindo, udano, ukuzisola kunye nenzondo malunga nobuninzi bezinto ebezisenzeka (okanye bezingenzeki) kubudlelwane bethu.
Kodwa iintsuku ezingama-40 ezidlulileyo ziye zayicoca intloko yam ngendlela yokuba ndiye ndaqala ukubona ukuba uninzi lomsindo, ingqumbo kunye nokuzisola ebendiziva bekungekho kuye, kodwa bendibhekiselele kum ngenxa yokhetho olubi endiye ndalwenza kwixesha elidlulileyo. Iminyaka engama-30… ..kwaye ngokuhlala ubukela iphonografi yayiyenye, ukuba ayiyonto inkulu kuzo zonke ezo zikhetho. Ukumtyhola yayilipolisa nje ngoko andizange ndijonge ixesha elide esipilini kwaye ekugqibeleni ndithathe uxanduva lokutyisa izandla iidemon eziye zatya undoqo womphefumlo wam ixesha elide. Akukho mathandabuzo ngokupheleleyo entlokweni yam ukuba ndatshata umfazi ofanelekileyo.
Siye sathetha ngokubanzi malunga nendlela yokuqinisekisa ukuba esi siqalekiso asirhintyeli kunyana wethu, kwaye ndiqhubela phambili njani ndihlala ndikhuthele malunga nokulixhela eli rhamncwa ngokulungileyo.
Ngale ntsasa kwisidlo sakusasa weva ukuba lincinci ilizwi lam kwaye wathi "ulungile?" Ndamjonga nje ndathi “iintsuku ezingama-40”….sancuma sobabini….indlela elungileyo yokwahlukana kusasa ngoMvulo.
Kwaye elinye ibali leqabane:
Ndiye ndancokola nje kabuhlungu. Ndixelele inkosikazi yam ukuba ukungabikho kwethu kobomi besondo kuye kwaba yimpazamo yam, ndiza kuyeka ukuhlaziya i-masturbating ubuncinane ixesha elide, kwaye ndingumlutha kwaye andizange ndikwazi ukuziyeka kumjikelezo oqhubekayo. . Ihambe kakuhle ngokwenene. Uye wabulela kum ngokwenza inqaku lokunciphisa ityala kuye, kunye nokunyaniseka. Uthe uzimisele kwaye uyabulela ngokuba ndenze icebo.
Umfazi wam uyayazi… khefuzela!
Emva kokuthwala imithwalo yokuba ngumlutha we-porn kunye nokuphulula i-masturbating phantse yonke imihla ndenza into enokuyenza ngayo nayiphi na indoda .... Uphambene nhe?! Emva kokutshata phantse iminyaka eyi-9 andizange ndigcine naziphi na iimfihlo kuye ngaphandle kokulutha kwam iphonografi. Iminyaka kunye neminyaka yokuzama ukuyincama kunye nokusilela kwandikhokelela ekubeni ndikholelwe ukuba yayiyinxalenye yobomi bam andinakuze ndikwazi ukuyiyeka…Faka i-NOFAP!
Ndifunde inqaku kwi-intanethi kwindawo ethile malunga nomceli mngeni weNoFap kwaye ndazi ukuba le yinto ekufuneka ndiyenze. Ndandisoloko ndijonga i-porn njengengxaki yam kodwa kungekhona i-masturbation. Kodwa kungakhathaliseki ukuba kangaphi ndithe "andizukubukela i-porn, ndihlala ndigqiba ukubukela i-porn.
Nje ukuba ndithathe isigqibo sokuthatha umceli mngeni weNoFap ndabuya emsebenzini ndaxelela umfazi wam yonke into. Ndamxelela ngamanyala, i-masturbation, into yokuba ndandingayonwabeli i-sex njalo njalo. Ndandizilungele izinto ezimbi. Ukulala kwi-sofa ubusuku obumbalwa okanye inyanga okanye eyona nto imbi indishiya.
Wasabela njani? Waye wabulela kakhulu kuba ekugqibeleni ndamxelela ngobunzima bam kwaye ndinebhongo nangam. Akukho bhedi kum?! Ebengafuni ukundishiya?! Endaweni yoko uziva esondele kum esazi ukuba ndiyenza le nto ukuze ndibe ngumyeni ongcono kwaye ndiphile ubomi obuqhelekileyo.
Phezolo uye wandixelela ukuba “Ndiyazingca ngawe ngokusenzela le nto, siza kulala yonke imihla kule veki!” (ukwabelana ngesondo rhoqo ebusuku kunokuvakala kuyinto eqhelekileyo kwabanye abantu kodwa sinabantwana abancinci aba-2 kwaye sisebenza iiyure eziphambeneyo ngoko kusoloko kunzima ukwenza oko ngaphezu kwesibini ngeveki)
Hayi indlela ebendicinga ukuba ndiza kuyifumana kuye, kodwa ndiza kuyithatha!
Uxelele umfazi wam kwiveki ephelileyo malunga ne-nofap
Wayengekho ekhefini nomfazi etyelele esinye isibini, umhlobo wakhe wasesikolweni nomyeni wakhe. Bebekunye malunga nexesha elifanayo kunye nathi kwaye baneengxaki ezithile, uninzi lwazo luvela kwiincasa zakhe 'ezigqithisileyo' kwigumbi lokulala.
Ngobunye ubusuku sasilapho, ndaphuma kunye nomyeni wezihlobo ukuya kwiibhiya ezimbalwa kwaye umfazi wam wahlala kunye ne-chum yakhe yesikolo esidala. Ndathetha nalo mfana wathetha nalo mfazi kwaye kwavela nesihloko sobomi bethu besini esahlukileyo.
Ngelixa ndincokola nomfana, ndamxelela ukuba ndiyeke ukufafaza ngenxa yokuba yayifikelele kwinqanaba lokuphazamisa ubomi bam. Ndamxelela ukuba ndiza kuyenza yonke imihla kuba ndandineminyaka eyi-14, amaxesha amaninzi ngosuku. Wathi wayefana kakhulu kodwa wayenomdla xa ndamxelela ukuba andizange ndifake ngaphezu kweentsuku ze-250. Wayecinga ukuba ndilala ngesondo yonke imihla kodwa ndamxelela ngamanye amaxesha ukuba yi-4 nights ilandelelana, ngamanye amaxesha kungabikho nto kwiiveki ezi-4, kuxhomekeke kwinto eyenzekayo ebomini bethu.
Sasineyure enye nentwana yokugoduka emva kwempelaveki ndaza ndathelekisa amanqaku nomfazi wam ngeencoko zakhe nomfazi wakhe. Kubonakala ngathi unencasa entle kakhulu kwigumbi lokulala, akukho nto imbi kakhulu okanye enobundlobongela, ivakala nje ngathi isondo kuye siyafana nephonografi. Ndiya kuvuma ukuba ndincinci kwicala le-kinky, ngokungathandabuzekiyo ngenxa yeminyaka okanye i-PMO, kodwa ngokwenene ndonwabele isondo esiqhelekileyo kulo nyaka uphelileyo kwaye ngelixa ndisonwabela izinto ezongezelelweyo zokuzonwabisa, andiyiva isidingo yenza njalo qho xa silalana. Ngenxa yoko, xa ingenzeki, andiphoxeki kwaye xa isenzeka, ilungile.
Ukuthetha malunga nabahlobo bethu abatshatileyo, kubonakala ngathi akakude apho bendinonyaka okanye kunjalo edlulileyo kwaye njengoko sasiqhuba, ndacinga ukuba ngoku yayilixesha lokumxelela ukuba ndinengxaki ye-PMO kwaye ndihambile kolu hambo.
Wayemangalisiwe ngokwenene kwaye ndandimhle kakhulu malunga nokuba ingakanani i-PMO'd. Wamangaliswa kwaye wathi wayecinga ukuba bonke abafana badlala kunye nabo ngexesha elithile okanye kwelinye kodwa bengazi ukuba ihlabathi le-pornography lalinjani okanye lenza kubafana.
Sathetha kakhulu malunga nokuba kwakunjani kum ukuseta kwakhona (Indlela endiya kuba yi-bipolar malunga neentsuku ze-100!) kwaye xa konke kwenzekile kwaye amanqanaba am enkuthazo atshintshile. Konke oku bekuqhubeka ngexesha elinzima kakhulu ebomini bethu. Andizange ndizive ngathi ubunzima bunyusiwe, kodwa ndonwabile ukuba iNoFap indivumele ukuba ndiqiniseke ukuba ndixoxe ngolu hlobo lwento nomfazi wam. Ngokwenene yayiyi-taboo yam yokugqibela, inye into endingazange ndixoxe ngayo naye kwaye ndivakalelwa kukuba sisibini esivuleleke ngakumbi kulo nyaka uphelileyo, oko ndaqala ukuseta kwakhona.
Ube ethetha nomhlobo wakhe malunga nalo (ndathi kulungile), kodwa kukho umba wokuba sonke apha kufuneka sifike kwisigqibo sokuyeka ukufafaza ngexesha lethu.
Ndimthumelele ivideo yeYBOP wayibukela namhlanje emini ndisemsebenzini. Ndifumene i-imeyile ethandekayo evela kuye (sihlala sithumela i-imeyile okanye sibhalelana amanqaku ukuba sifuna ukuchaza into enzulu yobuqu engadingi ngxoxo, inokubonakala ingaqhelekanga kodwa iyasisebenzela) ukuthi uyayiqonda indlela ekunzima ngayo. ndiye ndatshintsha indlela yokuziphatha kwaye uyandixhasa kwaye uya kundinceda ukuba ndidinga nantoni na.
Wathi wayeqonda ukuba olu yayiluhambo lwam yaye kwakutheni ukuze ndilinde ngaphezu kweentsuku ezingama-250 ukuze ndimxelele. Bekumnandi ukuva, bendifuna ukumxelela iminyaka eyadlulayo kodwa ayizange ivele.
Ngoku ujonga amadoda ebomini bakhe ngenye indlela. Umntakwabo unexinzelelo kwaye akukho mandla, mna ndicinga ukuba unengxaki ye-PMO, kodwa kufuneka afune ukwenza utshintsho kwaye ndimcelile ukuba angafaki uxinzelelo kuye ukuba uthetha naye malunga nalo.
I-upshot kukuba emva kwayo yonke le minyaka sikunye (Phantse ishumi leminyaka ngoku), sisondele kakhulu kunangaphambili kwaye ndiyavuya ukuba ekugqibeleni ndimxelele. Uxolo ngenxa yokwaphuka kancinci kwesi sithuba, andikho apha ngexesha elithile (ndandihlala ukuza apha malunga namaxesha e-4 ngosuku ukuba ndiyeke ukufafaza, kodwa emva kweentsuku ze-100, ndiyidinga ngaphantsi nangaphantsi) kwaye ndiyakwazi. ubone uluntu lukhule kakhulu.
Sonke sinohambo lwethu lobuqu kwaye ndiyathemba ukuba oku kuncede ubuncinane umntu omnye ngandlela ithile.
TL; DR, ndaxelela umfazi wam ukuba ndiyeke ukufafaza kwaye wayepholile ngokwenene ngayo.
Ngaba ufanele uxelele iqabane lakho? Nanga amava am.
Ndiyazi ukuba ibheji yam ibonisa ukuba ndineentsuku ze-3 kuphela (ndajonga i-porn ngokufutshane kule veki, isidenge ngokuqinisekileyo, jonga isithuba sam malunga "nomphumo wokuxosha"). Nangona kunjalo, ngokwenene ndine-100 + imini ye-noporn streaks phantsi kwebhanti yam, kwaye andizange ndifake i-PMO'd okanye ndiyifake kwi-orgasm ukususela ngoDisemba 15, 2013. Ukuyeka umkhwa wam we-PMO kwiinyanga ze-9 zokugqibela kuye kwaba yinyathelo elikhulu phambili. ukwenzela mna.
Umbuzo: Abanye bethu balwa nomkhwa we-PMO batshatile. Ndiwela kuloo nkampu - nditshatile iminyaka engama-25 + kumfazi omkhulu. Ngapha koko, umbuzo uhlala uvela- ngaba umxelele umfazi okanye iqabane lakho? Impendulo emfutshane kukuba ndiyenzile, kwaye yayilukhetho oluhle ngenxa yam nangenxa yakhe.
imvelaphi: Ngaphandle kwamajita asebusuku bokuqala, andizange ndibenayo imiba ye-ED okanye ye-PE nomfazi wam (okanye nabafazi endandinabo ngaphambi kwakhe). Emva koko i-intanethi yeza endlwini yethu kwaye ndafumanisa i-porn yasimahla, engenamkhawulo, engaziwa kwi-intanethi. Ngubani owayefuna iPenthouse? Ngubani okhathalayo xa umfazi wam ediniwe? Ndandikwazi ukujonga nabani na, ukwenza nantoni na, mahala. Kwakhona, ngamanye amaxesha ndandicinga ukuba i-porn ichaphazela ubomi bethu bobulili, kwaye ndiza kuzama ukunqumla i-PMO, kodwa ayinakuze ikwazi ixesha elide. Ndandide ndimxelele umfazi wam ngale nto ndizama ukuyenza, kodwa andiqondi ukuba wayesiqonda kakuhle isizathu sokuba ndicinge ukuba yingxaki (mhlawumbi ndandingamcaciseli ngokupheleleyo).
Kunyaka ophelileyo ndiye ndafumanisa ukuba ukusebenzisa kwam iphonografi kuneempawu ezininzi zokulutha: Andikwazanga okanye andizukuyiyeka ngalo naliphi na ixesha ukuba ibikhona, bendiya kuhlala ndicinga malunga nokulungiswa kwam okulandelayo, ndichitha imali. kunye nexesha elininzi kulo, ndangena kwi-porn enzima, kwaye ndanditshintsha ukuziphatha kwam ukuze ndimise iimeko apho ndingajonga khona i-porn. Oku kwandikhathaza. Kwandikhathaza ukuba andikwazi ukuhlala ixesha elide kunye nomfazi wam, kwaye andizange ndithande ukuba ubomi bethu bokwabelana ngesondo buguqukela ekubeni yintoni: ndandingavuswa nguye, kodwa kakhulu kuphela ukuba wayenxibe impahla evuselela inkanuko. (eyona nto yayiluhlobo lwempahla egqitywe yi-porn "amateurs" endiyithandayo, njl.).
Ndaya e-turkey ebandayo ngeentsuku ze-17 (ixesha elide ndikhululekile kwi-PMO iminyaka) kodwa ndandine-flatline, ndingazi ukuba yintoni na, kwaye ndakhupha ngenxa yokuba yonke into endiyibonayo, ukuhamba ngaphandle kwe-porn yatshabalalisa isondo sam kuphela. qhuba! Emva koko (ngelixa ndifuna i-porn entsha emva kokubuyela kwakhona) ndadibana ne-Brain yakho kwi-Porn kunye nale subreddit. Esinjani sona isityhilelo eso! Ndifunde nge-PIED, ukubamba ukufa, umjikelo we-PMO, kwaye into endicinga ukuba yimiba yam kuphela zizinto ezabelwana nabanye abafana abaninzi.
Ndixelele umfazi wam: Sihleli kakuhle emtshatweni kodwa nangona kunjalo khange kubelula kum ukuba ndilinganise nomfazi wam ndimxelele ukuba kuqhubeka ntoni. Ndamxelela into endiyifundileyo malunga ne-PMO, kwaye akazange athukwe okanye asongelwa, endaweni yoko wayekuvuyela ukunceda. Wathi wayecinga ukuba kukho into eyenzekayo kule minyaka imbalwa idlulileyo, kodwa ukuba iziqwenga azizange zibe kwindawo de ndachaza ingxaki ye-PMO ngokweenkcukacha (kodwa andizange ndihambe naye "kukhenketho" lwe-porn. wasebenzisa, kwaye wayengafuni ukuya apho). Ukumxelela kwakuyeyona nto ilungileyo esasinokusenzela yona.
Inkxaso yakhe ibe nkulu kwaye ndivakalelwa kukuba ubunzima obukhulu bunyusiwe. Ndicinga ukuba ngqo kunye nomfazi wam ibe yindlela yokuhamba, ngokupheleleyo. Kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo andinakuqikelela ukuba kuya kuba njani komnye umntu.
iziphumo: Umtshato wethu womelele ngakumbi kunangaphambili. Kunokuba ndifihle umkhwa wam, ndifihle izinto endizithengileyo zephonografi, kwaye ndifihle amandla am ezesondo kuye, ngoku ivulekile kwaye iyakhulula. Andinakukhathazeka ngaye (okanye nabani na) ukufumana imbali yam yokukhangela, okanye i-porn stashes, njl njl. Ndingumyeni ongcono - ndenza umsebenzi wasekhaya omninzi, ndabelana naye ngemisebenzi, ndenze izinto ezininzi kunye naye (kunokuba ndicinge. indlela yokulungisa iphonografi yam). Kumnandi kakhulu kuba uyayixabisa kwaye uyaphinda. Ubomi bethu bokwabelana ngesondo bobona bugqwesileyo kwiminyaka emininzi, emininzi. Kwaye kuye kwakho ezinye iingenelo ezininzi.
TL/DR Ngoko kufuneka uxelele umfazi okanye iqabane lakho? Andazi ukuba iya kusebenza njani kwabanye. Kodwa ndithethile nomfazi wam malunga ne-nofap kunye ne-noporn kunye nemizamo yam yokuqhawula umkhwa we-PMO, kwaye ukwenza oku ngoncedo kunye nenkxaso yakhe ibe yinto enhle emtshatweni wethu.
Iinkcukacha ezithe vetshe apha (uguqulelo olwandisiweyo lwenye yeposi yam): http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/20i1vi/married_and_over_50_pmo_problem_told_my_wife_my/
Kwakhona apha: http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/20q3w7/huge_92_day_benefit_great_sex_and_no_pied/
Yaye apha: http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/21ywxs/close_call_on_day_104_with_a_happy_ending/
Yaye apha: http://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/29qo10/200_days_its_well_worth_it/
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