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Iyiphi indima ye-orgasm kwi-wiring yokuthanda izinto zesondo?
Kwiininzi zeenkulungwane ezidlulileyo, izazinzululwazi zaziqinisekisiwe ukuba ubuchopho obudala bubekwe bucala kakhulu. Ngoku, i-neuroscience yakutshanje ibonisa ukuba ubuchopho bethu buyi-plastiki bethu ubomi. Ngobuchule bokufunda obusinceda sinyamekele i-wiring engafunekiyo, sinokukwazi uqondise inkqubo yokwenza kwakhona-Nemiphumo ebonakalayo imangalisayo.
Umgaqo osisiseko ekuqondeni ukuba sibiya ngocingo njani, okanye siphinda sibambe ucingo, iingqondo zethu "zii-neurons ezitshisa kunye kunye." Oko kukuthi, ukuba zimbini izinto ezenzeka ngaxeshanye, ubuchopho bethu buhlala budibanisa kunye nonxibelelwano lwangempela lwe-neural. Ngakumbi iziganeko ezinxulumene noko, okanye kokukhona ziphindaphindwa, kokukhona womelele iintambo. Amaqela eeseli zemithambo-luvo ezinikele ekuziphatheni okanye ekusebenzeni ngamanye amaxesha zibizwa ngokuba "ziimephu zobuchopho."
I-Orgasm i-neurochemical blast eyanandi kangangokuthi ubuchopho bethu buyifake ngokukhawuleza (kunye nokuvusa) kwiziganeko kunye neemeko ezihambelanayo. Umzekelo, njengoko uNorman Doidge ecacisa kuyo Ubungqina Obuguqula,
Amadoda kwiikhomputha zawo abakhangela iifostile ayengenasipheloIigundane kwiikheyiji ze-NIH, ucinezela ibha ukuze ufumane ifoto yedopamine okanye elilinganayo. Nangona babengazi, babekhohlisiwe kwiiseshoni zoqeqesho zoononografi ezihlangabezana nazo zonke iimeko ezifunekayo Utshintsho lweplastiki kwiimephu zobuchopho. … Ngalo lonke ixesha besiva ukonwaba ngokwesondo kwaye babe ne-orgasm xa bephulula amalungu esini, "i-spritz ye-dopamine," i-neurotransmitter yomvuzo, yadibanisa unxibelelwano olwenziwe kwingqondo ngexesha leseshoni. [Ukusuka kwisahluko esithi "Ukufumana iiNcamelo noThando."]
Ngokucacileyo, i-orgasm yomelela enamandla kangangokuthi ingaba neemephu zeengqondo, ezinefuthe ekubhekiselele kuyo ingqalelo yethu yesikhathi esizayo ngaphandle kokuqonda kwethu. Oku kuphakamisa ukuba sinokucinga ukuza phambili ngaphambi kokungena kwiindlela ezithile zokuvuselela ngokwesondo.
Iverversion inakho ngokunjalo utshintshe iipopu zengqondo. Yenza iirekhodi ukuba iinqununu zesondo zesinye sezigulane zakhe zihamba ngezigaba. (p.95) Wathandwa kuphela kumaqabane ase-Asia kwisigaba esinye, kunye nabalingani beAfrika kuphela. Kwimeko nganye, wayeqinisekile ukuba ulonwabo luxhomekeke kwisondo ukuba ubuhlanga. Ukanti ekugqibeleni akazange akwazi ukulala ngesisu naye. (Omnye uyazibuza apho Izinto azithandayo umntu ohluphekileyo zitshintshile akuba egqibile umnqweno wakhe wesini kuzo zonke iintlanga ezintlanu.)
Ngokukodwa, ngokunjalo kakhulu i-orgasm yayingabangela ukukhutshwa kwayo. Ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo kubonakala ngathi kuyayifumana Impembelelo yeCoolidge, oko kukuthi, ukuthambekela kwezilwanyana ezinxilisayo ukuba zitshise abatshatileyo abaye baphelelwa ngumnqweno wabo wesondo, ngoko bafumana abaqabane abathandanayo.
Kwimiqolo efanayo, abasebenzisi abanzima be-porn ngamanye amaxesha bayabona ukuba ukunyamezelana kwakhela ukuthanda kwabo kwangaphambili, bahamba kwiindlela ezintsha xa bekhangela ukuvusa okukhulu. Endaweni yokufuna iphonografi evumelana neemephu zengqondo zabo zangaphambili, uninzi lukhangela into ebothusayo- mhlawumbi ngenxa yokuba "kungavunyelwanga" kwaye "ukuvelisa uloyiko," xa kudityaniswa nokuvuselela inkanuko yesini, kunika ikhemikhali yobuchopho enkulu ... ubuncinci okwethutyana. Utshintsho ngalunye lucingo lweentando ezintsha kwingqondo. (Funda indlela iphonografi eyahlukileyo ngayo kwi-porn yexesha elidlulileyo: I-Porn Now And Now: Siyakwamukela kwiBrain Training) 
UDoidge ukwabonisa ukuba abanye abasebenzisi bezinto ezingamanyala, ezinje ngespanking okanye iimeko zolawulo, zinokunxulumana nengqondo, oko kukuthi, iinkumbulo zobuntwana abangazaziyo. Nje ukuba isebenze ngoononophala "ekunene", kwaye iqiniswe nge-orgasm, iimeko ezinjalo zinokukhawuleza zibe kukunyanzelwa.
Iintlobo zesondo ezingenakulinganiswa ngokupheleleyo zingavela. Ngaphezu komntu oyedwa ohlwempuzekileyo oye walungisa ubomi bakhe bonke, kwaye ngubani okholelwa ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba nangoku ngqo, ifikile kwiwebhusayithi yam ishukunyiswa yinto yokuba i-gay porn inyanzelekile ngequbuliso. Ngaba obu bubufanasini nje obufihlakeleyo? Mhlawumbi akunjalo, kuba ukucofa akuyi kuyeka kwi-porn ye-gay. Indoda enye yaya kwi-porn eqondileyo, yaya kwi-porn ye-gay, kwimixholo yamanyala yokulawulwa ngokwesini kunye ne-hypnosis yesini. Abanye bayothukeka ngenxa yokuzifumana besuka ekucingeleni ukuya kwimiboniso ye-porn, njenge-buzz evela kwiiflegi zevidiyo.
Ngaba ukuxhatshazwa kobuxhasi kudlala indima kule nguqu? Cinga ngeziganeko ezahlukeneyo utshintsho kwizinto zesondo (ukususela kwisini esithandana nabo besini) izidakamizwa ze-dopamine yemilenze kaParkinson kunye nokungazinzi. Kwezinye iziyobisi eziphezulu ze-dopamine, okanye mhlawumbi ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesini, kubangelwa izinto ezingafaniyo zesondo-Kude iinguqu zabo zilungiswe.
Ukuphishekela i-orgasm rhoqo ngoncedo lwe-Intanethi ye-Intanethi yanamhlanje inokuvelisa umphumo ofanayo (ukunyuka kwe-dopamine eqhuba ukubunjwa komntwana). Xa ebuzwa malunga nokusisigxina kwemephu yobuchopho bobuntwana, omnye umlindi oneminyaka engamashumi amabini ubudala wathi:
Andiyicingi nje ukuba nayiphi na into enqwenelekayo iyigxina-okanye ukuba into endiyifunayo iya kuhlala yinto efanayo. Ndiyathetha ngeendidi ezahlukileyo ndandidlula kwi-addicted pornography, izinto zatshintsha kakhulu. Ziziphi izinto eziphambili? Andikwazi kwakhona. Ndicinga ukuba ndiza kuzifumana emva kokuba ndiphume kwinqanaba le-porn le-longtime.
Usenokuba unyanisile. Ixesha lokuziyeka kwi-orgasm libonakala njengenye indlela eguqula iimephu zobuchopho babantu ngokwesini (okanye ukuveza iimephu ezinzulu ngakumbi). Watsho umntu othe tye owayejonge kuphela i-porn ye-gay kwaye edidekile ngayo:
Ndiyenzile nje ngeentsuku ze-10 ngeli xesha ngaphandle kokuphulula amalungu esini, kodwa ndiqinisekile ukuba ukuthanda kwam kuyabuyela umva. Umtsalane wam kwabasetyhini wanyanzelwa kakhulu. Mna aukufumana ama-butterflies kunye nokuvusa ngokukhawuleza ngelixa bekhangela ibhinqa okokuqala kwi-2 iminyaka! Kwakhona ndinomhlobo wesityhilelo. Ngaba ukuthanda kwam kusebenziselwe ukuqiniswa rhoqo kunye nesimo sengqondo ngokusebenzisa i-masturbating kwi-fantasies ethile?
Amava akhe afana nalawa mfazi, awabalisa emva kokuba eqalise ukulinga ukwenza uthando ngaphandle kosukelo lokufikelela kuvuthondaba. Njengomntu omdala, wafumanisa ukuba iingcamango zokuthuthunjiswa ezazibaleka entloko yakhe nanini na xa ezama ukufikelela kuvuthondaba zaziyimveliso yezinto ezingabalulekanga (kodwa ngokucacileyo zibuhlungu kwaye zivusa) ukuhlutha amalungu angasese kugqirha wakhe wabantwana xa wayeselusana. Ukufumana umthombo wale mephu yobuchopho akuzange kukhuphe unxibelelwano. Ngapha koko, wathi akazange avuswe okanye afikelele kuvuthondaba ngaphandle kokuvala intliziyo, iimuvi zentuthumbo ezibaleka entloko. Wamangaliswa xa waqalisa ukuzama ukwenza uthando ngaphandle i-orgasm njengoko iinjongo zeengcamango zabuyela ngokukhawuleza, zingabuyi kubuya.
Emva kokufunda incwadi kaDoidge, ndiyarhanela ukuba aba bantu babone utshintsho kuba baguqula "umthetho we-neurons odibanisa intambo ndawonye". Oko kukuthi, basuse ipusuit ye-orgasm okwexeshana-kunye nemibutho engafunekiyo, kodwa eqinisiweyo. Oku ngandlela thile kwavumela ubuchopho babo ukuba buphalaze, okanye baqale ukuphalaza, imibutho efunyenwe ngobugcisa.
Ingqondo UJeffrey Schwartz isebenzisa ingxelo yolu buchule ngempumelelo enkulu ukunceda abaguli be-OCD (abagqithisileyo) ukuba baguqule iingcingo zengqondo ezibangela ukuba imibutho engafunekiyo ibangele iintshukumo "ezifunekayo". Qho xa kuvela impembelelo engafunekiyo, isigulana sijolisa komnye umsebenzi, okhethwe kwangaphambili, owakhayo. Ngokuthe ngcembe, "ii-neurons ezivutha zingatshi, zihlukane ngocingo." Oko kukuthi, ukunxibelelana kweeseli zemithambo-luvo kubuthathaka njengoko umsebenzi kwii-synapses eziphambili uncipha.
Kuthetha ukuthini konke oku, kwaye kuthi kuye kubonakala kuye. Ngokomzekelo, ngaba kunokwenzeka ukusebenzisa le nqubo ukucoca kwakhona iifomati zesondo ezitholakale ebuntwaneni ngethuba elibi? I-Doidge ichaza isifundo esenziwe kwi-BDSM yoluntu (ubukhoboka kunye ne-sadomasochism). Yibonisa ukuba zonke ama-masochist ayenenkcenkceshe yonyango ngexesha lobuncinci. Ngaba aba bantu bengazi ukuba zeziphi izinto ezithandwa nguzo zesondo ezazingekho xa kunjalo? Kuthiwani ngemibutho engafunekiyo efunyenwe ngenxa yobundlobongela besini? Ingaba ixesha lezesondo ngaphandle kwe-orgasm (ukuya kwisicatshulwa esingathandekiyo) livumela ingqondo ukuba iqalise kwakhona kwaye ihambelane ne-wiring yayo yangaphambili?
I-Orgasm iyashukumisa ukuba ubuchopho bethu buzithathele ngokukhawuleza indlela ehamba phambili kuyo, njengokuthatha indlela ehamba phambili kuyo yonke intsimi yengca. Ukuba asisoze sivumele uhlaza lukhule, siqhubeka sihamba ngendlela engancinci nxamnye nokuba yenziwe ngokusesikweni nje.
Inokwenzeka into yokuba abantu babe nakho ukukhulula iimephu zabo zobuchopho ngokwesini kubutyobo obungafunekiyo kuyonwabisa. Kwangelo xesha, kuyothusa ukuqaphela ukuba bangaphi abantu abanokuthi ngokungaqondanga batshintshe ubuchopho babo beplastikhi nge-junk esisigxina abayifunayo-ngoncedo lwecornucopia yanamhlanje evusa kakhulu iphonografi kwi-Intanethi.
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