Sizinali choncho kalekale kuti anyamata achidwi padziko lapansi omwe anali ofunitsitsa kudzisangalatsa amatha kudzimva otopa popanda chisamaliro padziko lapansi. Koma kwakanthawi kwakhala kukukula chidziwitso cha china chake chomwe chikadakhala chowonekeratu kwa aliyense yemwe magazi ake sanachotsedwe ku ubongo wawo.
Zomwe zili choncho, kuti ngati muwona mavidiyo a mavidiyo osayenerera amtundu wosatha, mudzapeza zovuta kuti mutembenuzidwe ndi moyo, kupuma, wamaliseche amene akufuna kuchita IRL kugonana ndi inu. Ngati kuyang'ana wina akugwirana chingwe chala chachikulu kumsana wa munthu akukumva kuti ndi wabwino kwa inu, mwachitsanzo, mungapeze kuti mumakhala wotopetsa.
Mmodzi mwa anthu omwe angayamikiridwe chifukwa chokweza mfundo imeneyi ndi Gary Wilson. Tsamba lake, yourbrainonporn.com , lakhala patsogolo pa khama lofuna kumvetsetsa zomwe zolaula zikuchita kwa ogwiritsa ntchito ambiri. Tsopano, wasintha chidziwitso chake chonse kukhala buku, Your Brain on Porn: Internet Pornography and the Emerging Science of Addiction.
Ndinaitana Gary kuti akambirane buku lake latsopano komanso nkhani yokhudza zolaula zomwe achinyamata mamiliyoni ambiri amakhulupirira padziko lonse lapansi.
VICE: Chifukwa chachikulu m'buku lanu ndikuti mutha kuwonera zolaula kapena kugonana, koma simungakhale nazo zonsezo, sichoncho?
Gary Wilson: Ndizotheka kukhala nazo zonse ziwiri. Koma kwa anyamata ena ndizovuta kukhala nazo zonse ziwiri. Ndi zolaula pa intaneti anyamata ena samangokhala ndi vuto la erectile (ED) komanso amakhalanso ndi zisonyezo zina zakugonana monga kulephera kumaliseche, kuchedwa kuthamangitsidwa, kuchepa kwa libido ndi abwenzi enieni, kusakopeka ndi anzawo enieni komanso makamaka kugonana kwawo Zosangalatsa zolaula zatha kukhala chinthu chachilendo komanso chowakwiyitsa.
Kodi mungayang'ane zolaula - osati kwambiri - ndikukhala ndi moyo wathanzi wathanzi? Kodi pali mlingo wotetezeka?
Kuonera zolaula kudzakukhudzani nthawi zonse. Zingakukhudze bwanji kuti ndizovuta kunena. Kotero mwazinthu zina tawona anyamata omwe ali oledzera kwambiri, ndipo zakhudza kwambiri miyoyo yawo ya kugonana. Amafunika chaka chimodzi kapena zambiri pa zolaula kuti apeze kukonzeka kwenikweni ndi wokondedwa weniweni. Kotero ndizochitika zoopsa. Pa mapeto ena a masewerawa komabe inu mukhala ndi anyamata ndi chibwenzi ndipo iwo amaonera zolaula kangapo pa sabata. Koma apa pali chochitikacho. Simudziwa kuti zimakukhudzani bwanji kufikira mutachotsa zosiyana. Kotero anyamatawa angopanga zovuta ndi kunena, "Chabwino ndileke kuyang'ana zolaula", ndipo zomwe akupeza ndikuti adzalandira mapindu. Ndipo phindu limene iwo angapeze ndi lakuti kugonana kwenikweni kuli kutali kwambiri. Mkazi kapena chibwenzi chawo amawoneka bwino kwambiri. Iwo sanaganize kuti zolaula zimakhudza iwo koma atasiya iwo adapeza kuti izo zinali. Zovuta zolaula zili ndi zotsatira zambiri.
Porn zakhala zikuzungulira mibadwo yosiyanasiyana. Nchiyani chomwe chachititsa kuti izi ziyambike pa nkhani monga ED? Kodi ndizochitika mofulumira kwambiri pa intaneti pafupipafupi?
Zakhala zowonjezereka m'zaka zingapo zapitazo. Choyamba, njira yobweretsera intaneti yayambitsa kuchulukanso. Chachiwiri, ngakhale achinyamata ali ndi zotsatira, amakhala ndi mavidiyo ovuta kwambiri akamangokhalira kutero. Koma funso limene tiyenera kufunsa ndichifukwa chake intaneti ili yokongola kwambiri? Ganizirani za Facebook. Pali maphunziro omwe amasonyeza kuti Facebook imayambitsa vutoli. Zingayambitse kusintha kwa ubongo komwe kumaonetsa ubongo kusinthika kumene kumachitika ndi mankhwala osokoneza bongo. Ndipotu pali 70 intaneti-maphunziro a ubongo akusonyeza zimenezo. Ndipo chomwe chikhoza kuchitika ndi intaneti ndikuti imadzutsa masewera okwezeka komanso a dopamine. Dopamine mphamvu zowonjezera mphotho ndipo intaneti ndi yapadera m'njira imeneyi.
Kudina pazithunzi zatsopano, mawu atsopano, kutumiza mauthenga ndi kulandira mauthenga kumapereka zachilendo, zomwe zimakweza milingo ya dopamine m'gawo la mphotho. Chifukwa chake mudabwitseni, mantha ndi nkhawa. Ngati muphatikiza izi ndi kukakamiza kugonana, kukondweretsedwa kwachilengedwe kwambiri komwe kulipo, ndikuyiyika patsogolo pa wachinyamata kudzera pa tsamba la Tube lokhala ndi makanema ovuta, achinyamata amatha kukhala ndi ziwalo zoterezi komanso ma dopamine. Mutha kuphunzitsa ubongo wanu kuti uzisowa kukondoweza kuti ugonane. Mukamawonera makanema awa a anthu enieni omwe ali ndi chiwerewere chotchedwa "chenicheni" amasintha malingaliro. Simukuganiziranso momwe zimakhalira. Mumakhala voyeur owonera zochitika zonsezi m'malo mokhala ndi chithunzi chongoyerekeza zomwe mungapange.
Mu bukhuli mumakambirana za kusiyana pakati pa mibadwo yaying'ono ndi yakale yomwe imatembenuza kuti achinyamata akuwonetsedwa ndi zolaula zambiri kuposa kungonena omwe adakulira ndi magazini. Kodi ichi ndi lamulo lokha kapena pali crossover?
Mukamayang'ana maphunziro mumapeza malingaliro osiyana. Anthu okalamba a 14-25 ali ndi zolaula kwambiri kuposa anthu akuluakulu ndipo ndithudi ntchito imagwera pamene zaka zikupita. Kafukufuku waposachedwapa wa ku UK anasonyeza kuti achinyamata ambiri amakhulupirira kuti kuyang'ana zolaula kumakhudza mavuto, choncho maganizo awo amachokera ku zomwe akumana nazo ponena za zaka zakubadwa za 18 zomwe zikukula zaka zingapo zapitazo ndikuwona zotsatira zake.
Kodi mumanena chiyani kwa anthu ogonana nawo omwe akuyang'ana kutsutsa kukana kuti zolaula zingayambitse ED?
Chabwino, iwo akulakwitsa. Othandizira a urologist akuyambirira akulemba nkhani za izo. Pamwamba pa izo takhala ndi maphunziro awiri a ubongo ochokera ku yunivesite ya Cambridge ndi imodzi kuchokera ku bungwe la Max Planck. Cambridge inapeza mtundu womwewo wa kusintha kwa ubongo komwe kumachitika ndi mankhwala osokoneza bongo ndipo gawo la 60 la maphunziro amenewo linayambitsidwa ndi mafunso monga ED ndi imfa ya libido. Phunziro lachi German linagwirizanitsa maola olaula akugwiritsa ntchito sabata komanso zaka za zolaula pogwiritsa ntchito mapangidwe a madera. Iwo anapeza mgwirizano wotsimikizira kuti awo amene amawonerera zolaula kwenikweni alibe zovuta.
Kuphatikizapo iwo omwe anali akuwonerera zolaula kwazaka zambiri analibe zochepetsera madera apafupipafupi. Choncho chigamulo chawo chinali chakuti zithunzi zolaula zimagwirizanitsidwa ndi kuchepa kwa nkhani zakuda komanso kugonana kochepa. Ndipo awa sanali osokoneza. Ambiri ogonana ndi abambo amanena kuti zolaula "zowonongeka" (sizikutanthauza kuti ndizoledzeretsa) zimayambitsidwa ndi libido yambiri yomwe mumakhala nayo. Koma maphunziro awa amatsutsana ndi izo ndipo amasonyeza kuti ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula olemera amakhala ndi chilakolako chogonana chotsika, ndipo, motero, amawoneka ngati ED. Kotero sayansi imatsutsana ndi nthano imeneyo.
Mumalankhula zakufunika kwamaphunziro ambiri pamapeto pake pankhani zokhudzana ndi kugonana komanso nkhani yokhudza zolaula. Kodi maphunziro adzaimitsadi anthu ofuna kuwonera zolaula?
Kodi idzaletsa anthu kuonera zolaula? Ayi. Koma chomwe chikuchitika ndi chakuti ambiri mwa anyamata omwe pamapeto pake adawonetsa pazitukuko zonse sankadziwa kuti kugwiritsira ntchito zolaula kungayambitse mavuto omwe anali nawo monga ED. Mbadwo wachinyamata umenewu umagwiritsa ntchito zolaula ndi maliseche monga ofanana. Iwo amawerenga nkhani zonena kuti kugonana ndibwino ndipo kotero amaganiza kuti ziyenera kutanthauza kuti zolaula ndi zabwino. Iwo samapanga konse kugwirizana. Kotero ngati pali maphunziro omwe amapanga mgwirizano umene ungakhale wabwino. Zomwe zikusoweka ndikuti ogonana sagwirizanitsa pakati pa zolaula ndi ubongo waunyamata, zomwe zimayambanso kubwezeretsanso kuti abereke. Ubongo wachinyamata wosasunthika uli ndi maulendo apamwamba kwambiri a dopamine ndipo ukufuna zosangalatsa ndi zachilendo, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti azikhala ndi chibwibwi chachikulu.
Mumakambirana lingaliro la "kuyambiranso" posawonera zolaula. Kodi izi ndizothandiza motani? Kodi ndizosavuta kusiya zolaula?
Kubwezeretsanso kumbuyo kumatanthawuza kuchotsa zochitika zonse zokhudzana ndi kugonana. Pali zifukwa zosiyanasiyana monga ED ndi kutaya kwa kugonana. Anyamata ena akuchita izi chifukwa china. Amawona abwenzi pa maulendo akusiya ndikukhalanso ndi zifukwa zowonjezereka, chidaliro ndi kulingalira. Kotero anyamatawa ali ndi barometer yosiyana ya iwo akamva kuti ayambiranso. Anyamata omwe ali ndi vuto la kugonana pakati pa 40 ndi 50 omwe anakulira kuwonetsa zolaula kudzera m'magazini tsopano akukulitsa ED kukhala akusintha ku Tube sites. Achinyamata amafunika nthawi yaitali kuti ayambirane poyerekeza ndi achikulire. Anyamata achikulire akhoza kutenga masabata asanu ndi atatu mpaka 12 ndikukhala bwino pambuyo pake. Ena mwa anyamatawa - omwe ali ndi 20 mpaka 24 - komatu, amatha zaka ziwiri kuti akhalenso bwino. Amuna awa ali pachimake cha thanzi ndi ma testosterone ndipo amatenga nthawi yaitali. Izi zimagwirizananso ndi kugwiritsira ntchito zolaula muunyamata pamene ubongo umasokonezeka kwambiri.
Kodi nkhani zomwe abambo amapezeka pa zolaula amazitengera kwa amayi?
Anyamata amakonda kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula nthawi zambiri. Kupita njinga kudzera m'mabuku a anthu omwe ali pa maulendo monga NoFap, zomwe timapeza ndizakuti amayi nthawi zambiri samangokhalira kuchoka ndi anzawo. Ankafuna zolaula kuti zikhale ndi phokoso, sizinali zonunkhira ndipo zidakali zoledzeretsa. Choncho akazi amakumana ndi mavuto omwewo. Kusiyana, komabe, ndikuti amuna ali ndi barometer, yomwe ndi mbolo yawo. Akazi samatero. Amayi ambiri amakula sagwiritsa ntchito mavutowa pogwiritsa ntchito zolaula.
Ndi kusindikiza kwa bukhu ili kodi mukuganiza kuti tili ndi chidziwitso chotani pokhudzana ndi zotsatira zolaula zomwe zili pa ubongo?
Pali kugawikana kwakukulu komanso makamaka chidani zikafika pofufuza zotsatira za chizolowezi zolaula paubongo wamunthu. Zomwe taphunzira ndikuti kusuta, chifukwa cha ntchito ya akatswiri amisala, ndiye mkhalidwe wamisala wophunziridwa kwambiri. Zakhala zikulowetsedwa m'zinyama kwazaka makumi atatu zapitazi zikuyang'ana mpaka pamaselo ndi majini komwe kusintha kwa ubongo kumachitika. Ndipo tachiyerekeza ndi mitundu yambiri ya zizolowezi zomwe zimachitika mwa anthu. Chifukwa chake pali umboni waukulu. Kumbali inayi muli ndi magulu azakugonana omwe samaphunzira momwe ubongo umagwirira ntchito komanso omwe ndi akatswiri azachikhalidwe cha anthu makamaka amafunsa mafunso. Ali ndi mtundu womwe safuna kuti zizolowezi zolaula zizindikiridwe, chifukwa akuwopa kuti ngati munganene kuti kugwiritsira ntchito zolaula kumabweretsa mavuto, mudzatchedwa kuti alibe kugonana. Ndipo safuna manyazi aliwonse okhudzana ndi kugonana. Mwachidziwitso ndizabwino pamlingo winawake, koma zomwe samavomereza ndikuti zolaula tsopano ndizosagonana komanso zowoneka bwino.
Kodi mukuganiza bwanji pa mawebusaiti, omwe ali ndi "zithunzi zolaula" ndikujambula zolaula "zoipa"?
Ndizovuta zomwe zimandivutitsa kwambiri. Ndimayesero omwe amayesa kuphunzitsa anthu kusiyana kwa zolaula "zabwino" ndi "zoipa" zolaula, ngati kuti pali mzere womveka bwino. Lingaliro ili limayikidwa ndi intaneti monga makelovenotporn.com ndipo ndi bwino kupatula kuti mumalipirako ndipo ndithudi palibe wachinyamata amene angabwerere zolaula. Koma kupitirira apo ndi lingaliro lakuti mwana wina wa zaka 15 adzanena "O, ndauzidwa kuti webusaitiyi ili ndi zolaula kuti ndikhalebe pa webusaiti iyi." Tsopano izi ndi zopanda pake. Zili ngati kutenga mwana wazaka 15 kupita ku golosale ndikumuuza kuti "Gula chilichonse chimene ukufuna, ingogula chakudya chabwino". Iwo sapita kukagula broccoli.
Ndi chizindikiro chomwecho iwo ayamba kuwonekera pazinthu zodabwitsa kwambiri ndi zozizwitsa chifukwa ndizo zomwe anyamata achichepere amachita. Kotero ndithudi sizingagwire ntchito. Koma pamwamba pa zomwe zimawerengedwa ngati "zoipa" zolaula? Kodi ndi BDSM, ulamuliro wa akazi kapena anal? Imeneyi ndi mtsutso wosatha. Sichikhoza kuthetsedwa ndipo sichithetsa vutoli. Amuna ndi anyamata omwewa akuphunzitsa chiwerewere chawo pa intaneti yothamanga kwambiri, kudula ndi zachilendo. Ndi njira yoperekera yomwe imapangitsa kusiyana kwa 2014.
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