Kodi Zolaula Zasokoneza Ubongo Wathu? Gulu la "NoFap" Limalingalira Zomwe

NoFappers akunena kuti ubongo wawo wasokonezedwa ndi zolaula, chifukwa cha kuyanjana kwenikweni.

Kawirikawiri amati zolaula zimathandiza kuyendetsa ukadaulo . Pamene ma projector a Super 8 adatuluka, mafilimu a zolaula anali pakati pa oyamba kuonetsedwa. VHS idatha kugonjetsa machitidwe opikisana monga Betamax makamaka chifukwa idavomereza kupereka zilolezo za zolaula. Ndipo ma DVD adapangitsa kuti zikhale zosavuta kupita kumadera odetsedwa kwambiri m'mafilimu athu omwe timakonda.

Zinthu zikupitirirabe panjira imeneyo. Tsopano tikhoza kutumiza zithunzi zonyansa zomwe zimawononga zokha m'masekondi 10 kapena kuchepera. Kuonera anthu akudziponya pa webcam kwasanduka bizinesi yopindulitsa madola mabiliyoni ambiri . Ndipo kuwonetsa zinthu zonyansa monga anal ndi double anal, fisting ndi double fisting ndi kungodina pang'ono. N'zodabwitsa kuti ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula ali ndi zinthu zambirimbiri zomwe angathe kuzipeza.

Inde, kufufuza ku zolaula zowonongeka pa Intaneti. Zina mwa zokongola kwambiri zitha kupezeka mu ntchito za Marquis de Sade. Ndiye kusintha kotani pamene zochitikazi zikudumpha kuchokera patsamba kupita kuwindo?

Ena angadziwe bwino mawu atsopano ofotokozera za kuseweretsa maliseche pogwiritsa ntchito zolaula: Fapping. Mawuwa adayamba kuonekera cha m'ma 1999, pomwe adagwiritsidwa ntchito mu sewero la pa intaneti lotchedwa Sexy Losers . Patatha zaka zoposa khumi, mawuwa adawonekera mu ulusi wa Reddit pomwe ogwiritsa ntchito adakambirana za ubwino wopewa zolaula komanso kupewa kuseweretsa maliseche. Kuchokera pamenepo, "Fap" idasanduka "NoFap" ndipo gulu linayamba. Gulu lake tsopano lili ndi mamembala pafupifupi miliyoni imodzi, makamaka amuna.

Malinga ndi tsamba lovomerezeka la gululi , "NoFap imakhala ndi mavuto omwe anthu omwe akutenga nawo mbali amapewa zolaula kapena maliseche kwa kanthawi." Zimathandiza anthu omwe amaona kuti kutenga nawo mbali kwambiri pa zolaula kwabweretsa mavuto akulu m'miyoyo yawo.

Limodzi mwa mayina omwe amatchulidwa kwambiri pa ulusi wa NoFap ndi Gary Wilson, mtsogoleri wa gulu lotsutsa zolaula. Anafufuza vuto la chizolowezi chogonana ndi zolaula mu Ted Talk yake, " The Great Porn Experiment ." Amayendetsanso tsamba la yourbrainonporn.com ndipo posachedwapa analemba buku la Kindle lotchedwa Your Brain On Porn: Internet Pornography and the Emerging Science of Addiction.

Msonkhano wa Wilson ndi wochepa kwambiri, koma ndipirira: amawonetsa kuti ubongo wathu wosuta-wosonkhanitsa sakudziwa momwe angagwiritsire ntchito zolaula zomwe zilipo pa intaneti lero. Amagwirizanitsa lingaliro lachilendo ndi chisankho cha kugonana. M'dziko lachirengedwe, iye akufotokoza kuti, akazi onse amagwira ntchito ngati mwayi wokhala ndi maumwini. Choncho, mwamuna akamayang'anitsitsa mkazi, ubongo wake umamuuza kuti amupeze, amupatse ndipo amutenge mimba. Ubongo umatulutsa kuchuluka kwa dopamine kuti zithandize kukwaniritsa cholinga chimenecho.

Momwe zachilendo zimaonekera pa intaneti ndikudina. Wilson akuti zolaula zimanyengerera ubongo wamwamuna kuganiza kuti "agunda zamoyo zonse." Kudina kulikonse kumawabweretsa kwa mtsikana watsopano, motero "mwayi" watsopano. Ndi dziko lopanda malire. Chifukwa chake amuna amafufuza. Posakhalitsa, ubongo wawo umakhala wopanda chidwi ndi zomwe amakonda kuchita zogonana amafunika zochititsa mantha komanso zatsopano kuti akhalebe ndi chizolowezi chogonana.

Wilson akuti mtundu uwu wa "maulendo obwereza" ndi ofanana ndi zomwe zikupezeka kwa ena omwe amamwa mankhwala osokoneza bongo kapena zidakwa. "Chidziwitso chokhazikika pang'onopang'ono chingayambitse kuledzera," akutero. Mwamwayi, akuti, zotsatira zake zingadzisokoneze, malinga ngati omwe akukhudzidwa amavomereza kusiya zovuta zonse: zolaula.

Omwe ali mgulu la NoFap - omwe nthawi zina amadzitcha kuti "fapstronauts" - amatsutsa kuti kupewa zolaula komanso kuseweretsa maliseche kumalola ubongo "kuyambiranso" ndikuyambiranso magwiridwe antchito. Amanena kuti munthu akasiya kuchita zinthuzi, amapatsidwa mwayi wowonjezera chidaliro, kusinkhasinkha komanso libido, kenako amatha kuphunzira maluso ofunikira kuti akhalebe ndiubwenzi wabwinobwino.

Chimodzi mwa nkhani zomwe zimakambidwa kwambiri m'dera la NoFap, mosadabwitsa, ndi chokhudzana ndi mbolo. Ambiri omwe kale anali okonda kugonana amanena kuti chizolowezi chawo chimawalepheretsa kufika pa chibwenzi; kukhala olimba mtima kumadalira kuyandikira kwawo ku zolaula. Amatcha izi "kulephera kugonana komwe kumabwera chifukwa cha zolaula," kapena PIED . ObjectionYourHonor ya Ogwiritsa Ntchito imalemba kuti , "Kulephera kugonana chifukwa chokulira kwambiri ndili mwana mpaka pano (ndili ndi zaka 23) kwandipangitsa kuphonya maubwenzi abwino chifukwa sindinkatha kuchita bwino panthawi ya chibwenzi. Ndinkamva ngati ndilibe mphamvu kenako ndikuchita zolaula, zomwe zinandipangitsa kudwala. Ndinaganiza zodzilamulira ndikutsimikiza kuti pachibwenzi chotsatira chomwe ndili nacho, nditha kudzipereka kwathunthu kwa mkazi ameneyo. Ndili wamng'ono kwambiri kuti ndifunikire Viagra."

Kukangana ndi zomveka. Malo owonjezera B omwe muli C, omwe amatanthawuza kugonana kosayenera. Koma, monga akatswiri ena amavomereza amavomereza, pali mipata mu sayansi. Ndipo ena safuna kunyalanyaza mfundo imeneyi.

Dr. David Ley , wolemba buku lakuti The Myth Of Sex Addiction , amandiuza kuti, “Kulimbikitsa kugonana kumagwiritsa ntchito njira zopezera mphotho za ubongo, koma mfundo zotsutsana ndi zolaula zimachokera pa malingaliro osavuta komanso ochepetsa momwe ubongo umagwirira ntchito, momwe kugonana kumagwirira ntchito, ndi zomwe zolaula zili, monga makanema motsutsana ndi zithunzi, zolemba zolaula motsutsana ndi mafilimu, zovuta kwambiri motsutsana ndi zofewa, ndi zina zotero. Pali zambiri zomwe sitikudziwa za zinthuzi komanso matanthauzidwe ambiri aumwini, kotero kuti anthu onsewa akutsutsana kwambiri kuposa deta. Chifukwa akulowa mkangano ndi malingaliro abwino, amakhala ndi zotsatira za chiyembekezo, ndipo amawona zomwe akufuna kuwona, mu kafukufuku yemwe, makamaka, ndi wosamveka bwino.”

Iye akuchenjeza kuti, "Deta yoipa, kusowa chidziwitso ndi kulowerera kwa makhalidwe abwino ndi zomwe zinawatsogolera anthu ngati [John] Kellogg akukangana pa opaleshoni monga zochitika, komanso kugwiritsa ntchito zoletsa, kuteteza misala. Maganizo omwewo amachititsa kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kukhala nthendayi, komanso amayi ogonana omwe amatchedwa nymphomaniacs. "

Ndi zoona kuti zofooka za anthu sizimapitirira zolaula. Izi sizikutanthauza kuti zolaula sizimabweretsa mavuto akeake. Kuwonetsa akazi kumasiya zinthu zambiri zosayenera, ndipo omwe amatsutsa makampaniwa pazifukwa za akazi si opanda chifukwa. Nthawi zina, anthu agwirizanitsa madera amakampaniwa ndi kugulitsa anthu ogonana komanso ukapolo wogonana. Koma zokambiranazi nthawi zambiri zimakhala kumbuyo kwa nkhani zomwe zimaganizira amuna monga vuto la kugonana pa nsanja za NoFapping. Anthu ammudzi nthawi zambiri amaona kuti "vuto la zolaula" ndi lokhudzana ndi thanzi la anthu. Ndiye kodi limapereka uthenga wotani pamene nkhani zokhudzana ndi akazi zimakhala zachiwiri kwa mphamvu ya mwamuna yosunga chilakolako chogonana?

Ndi zoona kuti magulu ambiri a NoFap opatukana amagwira ntchito pazifukwa za makhalidwe abwino. Bungwe la XXX Church linayamba kugawa Mabaibulo pa ziwonetsero zolaula mu 2006. Cholinga chawo ndi kugawa Mabaibulo 100,000 ku Sexpos padziko lonse lapansi. Amati apereka Mabaibulo 75,000 mpaka pano. Webusaiti ya Porn Effect imalengeza kuti, “Pankhondo yanu yolimbana ndi zolaula, pemphero ndi kusala kudya ndi zida zamphamvu.”

Gululi limathandizanso kuti anthu azidziona ngati “akatswiri.” Gabe Deem, wokonda NoFap, yemwe ali ndi zaka makumi awiri mphambu zisanu ndi chimodzi, adapanga njira ya YouTube ya Reboot Nation kuti agawane nkhani yake yokhudza chizolowezi cha zolaula. Mu kanema wina wosinthidwa nthawi ndi nthawi , Deem amayenda ndi owonera kudzera mu “sayansi ya ubongo ya momwe zolaula zimatikhudzira.” Monga momwe ndikudziwira, Deem alibe digiri mu sayansi ya zamankhwala.

Izi sizikutanthauza kuti achepetse nkhawa zokhudzana ndi zolaula. Wofufuza wa ku Canada Simon Lajeunesse adapeza kuti anyamata ambiri amafuna zithunzi zolaula akafika zaka 10. Ndipo ambiri akuda nkhawa ndi kugwirizana pakati pa kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula msanga ndi machitidwe ankhanza ogonana. Koma ndikofunikira kukhala osamala ndi anthu omwe angayese kupindula ndi nkhawa izi.

Covenant Eyes imalimbikitsa ogwiritsa ntchito "kupanga zisankho zanzeru pankhani yogwiritsa ntchito intaneti" polemba mawebusayiti onse omwe adayendera, mawu osakira omwe adagwiritsidwa ntchito komanso makanema onse omwe adawonedwa mu Lipoti la Kuyankha pa Intaneti. Kampaniyo ikuyembekeza kuchepetsa "chiyeso chofuna kudina maulalo osayenera komanso olaula." Chris Haven, yemwe adayambitsa tsamba la Quit Porn Get Girls , posachedwapa adalemba buku lakuti How To Get Laid On Tinder . Jay Anthony ndiye mlembi wa Pornography Addiction: Destroying the Habit & Breaking The Cycle , lomwe likupezeka pa Amazon.

Omwe ali m'dera la NoFap ati palibe chilichonse chongowonera zolaula, kuti zolaula zonse ndizowopsa, ndikuti anthu akuyenera kuthana ndi zolaula. Anthu ambiri angavomereze kuti zokumana nazo zenizeni zimakhala zabwino koposa zongopeka pakompyuta, koma kodi ndizolakwika kuti anthu azisangalala ndi izi? Ndipo tanthauzo la zolaula liyenera kulepheretsa chilakolako chathu chogonana? Kugonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, mwachitsanzo, kwakhala kukuchitidwa kalekale kusanachitike intaneti. Ndiye ndichifukwa chiyani kuziwonera ndizosavomerezeka? Ena amanena kuti zithunzi zolaula za azimayi zomwe zimawonjezeka ndi zachiwerewere. Ndi mkangano wofunikira, ndipo womwe umawoneka pafupipafupi pa ulusi wa NoFap, pomwe zinthu monga kubwezera zosunthika ndikuikidwa zikuwoneka kuti zikuyang'ana kwambiri. 

Bungwe la Fight the New Drug limagwira ntchito motsatira chiphunzitso chakuti “Zolaula zimapha chikondi.” Mmodzi mwa omwe adayambitsa nawo nkhaniyi anafotokoza kuti anthu ambiri amadziwa kuti kusuta ndudu n’koipa kwa iwo ngakhale asanayambe kuzimitsa. Iye akuyembekeza kuti tsiku lina anthu adzaonanso zolaula mofanana.

Kuledzera ndi zolaula ndi nkhani yovuta. Kafukufuku wambiri ayenera kuchitika tisanaganize chilichonse. Koma chomwe tingavomereze ndichakuti chizolowezi chogonana ndi zolaula chilipo pomwe chizolowezi chogonana ndi zolaula chingakhalepo . Mwina tiyenera kutenga kamphindi kuti tiyamikire malo omwe amatilola kuti tizichita zinthu zina poyamba.