Daniel Simmons ali ndi zaka zambiri ali ndi zaka zambiri adanena kuti akuvutika ndi "kuwonongeka kochuluka" - kuopseza ndi mavuto osiyanasiyana osadziwika. Koma mu October 2013, ali ndi zaka za 21, wochenjera komanso wokondedwa, ngati wophunzira wa nyimbo wa ku Britain anachoka pang'ono, anasintha mozizwitsa.
"Mwadzidzidzi ndinapeza mphamvu zambiri, ndipo ndimatha kuganizira," akutero. "Ndimawerenga mabuku nthawi yoyamba muzaka. Ine ndinali kupita kunja ndikuwona abwenzi anga. Ndinkaona kuti ndili ndi cholinga. "Pofika December, Simmons adayambiranso maphunziro ake ku yunivesite ya York ndi mphamvu zomwe sanamvepo kale. Anzake ankanena kuti Daniel ankaoneka kuti akusangalala kwambiri. Mwadzidzidzi, iwo ankadabwa ngati iye anali pa anti-depressants. Choonadi chinali chakuti Daniel anali atasiya zolaula.
Simmons anali 15 pamene anayamba kuyang'ana pa zolaula pa Intaneti, posachedwa ndi miyezo ya achinyamata a lero. Mlungu watha, NSPCC inatulutsa lipoti loti ana asanakwane khumi akuyamba kujambula zithunzi zolaula, zomwe zingakhudze kwambiri miyoyo ya ogwiritsa ntchito, m'maganizo, m'maganizo ndi mwathupi. Pali umboni wosonyeza kuti kugwiritsira ntchito kwambiri mafilimu a pa intaneti kumakhudza kwambiri kugonana kwa achinyamata.
Ndikhoza kudziwa ndi mawu a Simmons kuti kulankhula za achinyamata ake kumapweteka kwambiri. Kwa zaka zisanu ndi chimodzi za moyo wake, iye "adasokonezeka" ndipo anakhala "maola awiri kapena atatu akungoyang'ana zolaula, pogwiritsa ntchito masamu angapo. Ndikayitana odwala ndikungoziyang'ana tsiku lonse. "Inali nthawi yosasangalatsa, yoopsa. "Ndinali ngati robot. Sindinkagwirizana ndi anthu ozoloŵera. "Zofuna zake zogonana zinasinthidwa ndipo zimasokoneza zomwe zimamuopseza, zomwe zimawombera zolaula komanso zolaula. Zowopsya kwambiri: "Sindinayang'ane." Maholide pamodzi ndi banja lake anali ovuta, ngati panalibe intaneti. "Kupewa kudziletsa", akunena mosasamala, anapulumutsa moyo wake.
Chizoloŵezi chodziletsa pa webusaitiyi, mwangozi pamene adalemba "zolaula" ndi "chizoloŵezi" mu injini yake yosaka. Anawerenga momwe zikwi za abambo ndi anyamata "akubwezeretsanso" ubongo wawo pa zolaula mothandizidwa ndi malo owonetsera zolaula. Zomwe simunamvetse zaka zitatu zapitazo, zimatchedwa zinthu monga Reboot Nation, Ubongo Wanu pa Zithunzi, Kutuluka kwa Amayi, Kulimbana ndi Mankhwala Osokoneza Bongo komanso tsamba la reddit NoFap (fap ndilo lachinyengo). "Ndapita masiku a 100 popanda chiwonongeko kapena maliseche, kutuluka kwathunthu 'monk mode' monga momwe zimatchulidwira m'deralo. Ndinkasinkhasinkha tsiku ndi tsiku. Ndinali kupeza CBT [chidziwitso cha khalidwe lachidziwitso]. Ndinkapita ku masewero olimbitsa thupi, ndikulemba, ndinayamba kumva bwino. "
Ndinkayembekezera kuti mawebusayitiwa azikhala ovuta, koma m'malo mwake ndimapezekanso nkhani zomwe ndimawerengazo nthawi zambiri zodabwitsa, zofotokozedwa momveka bwino, zodetsa nkhaŵa, komanso mobwerezabwereza kuposa zomwe zinalembedwa ndi achinyamata achinyamata. Zolakwa zaphwanya miyoyo yawo, mudzawerenga mobwerezabwereza pazitukuko. "Ndine wochepa kwambiri amene ndimayenera kufa," analemba motero mnyamata wazaka 16. Mnyamata wina wazaka za 12 akuti chidwi chake ndi zolaula zolaula zadutsa pa Facebook: "Ndikulemba zithunzi pa Intaneti pa atsikana awa ndikupezeranso anthu ena ku Photoshop nude. Ndizonyansa ndipo ndikudziwa kuti ndizo. "
Ma lekajones anaika mwamphamvu uthenga womwe adalemba pa NoFap sabata yatha: "Ndinkakonda kuganiza kuti zolaula zinali zachilendo kwa anyamata kuti azigwiritsa ntchito ndipo zinali zovomerezeka m'malo mwa kugonana komwe kumagwiritsidwa ntchito mosamala. Ayi! Ayi! Ayi! Porn zimakhala zowonongeka, zowononga komanso zakukhumudwitsani. "Popeza adayambitsa ulendo wawo wa" ubongo wolaula, wosadziletsa, "akupezekanso chilakolako chawo, chilakolako chawo, mphamvu ya chikondi, chimwemwe ndi kugonana .
Mwezi uno, Gary Wilson, mphunzitsi wopuma pantchito komanso wopuma pantchito amene anakhazikitsa Ubongo Wanu pa Porn, adayambitsa kayendedwe ka kudziletsa kupita patsogolo pa chidziwitso cha anthu polemba Ubongo Wanu pa Zithunzi, mwatsatanetsatane wa webusaiti yake yobwezeretsa zolaula, yomwe imalandira alendo atsopano a 20,000 sabata iliyonse. Wilson anali webusaiti yoyamba yotereyi pa ukonde. Iye anati: "Chisinthiko sichikukonzekeretsa ubongo wanu pa zolaula za pa intaneti lero."
Ambiri a "obwezeretsa", kuphatikizapo Simmons, webusaiti ya Wilson ya ngongole ndikusintha miyoyo yawo ndikuwatsitsimutsa kuti atenge ndondomeko yoyendetsera anthu. "Mphamvu zathu ziri mu manambala athu", Simmons amawuza molimba mtima owonerera pa zokambirana za YouTube. "Wotsutsa [malonda a zolaula] ndi chimphona chofanana ndi ife."
Wailesi yowonetserako wailesi komanso vlogger pa yourbrainrebalanced.com, adawonetseranso zolaula zolaula. "Mafilimu amalemekezedwa monga ntchito yayikulu, yosangalatsa. Ngati mukuganiza za nkhondo za fodya, palibe amene angaganize kuti ndudu zingakhale zovulaza. "
Zomwe zimamupangitsa iyeyo - ndipo izi zinali zofanana ndi anyamata ambirimbiri omwe tsopano amapanga zochitika zotsutsana ndi zolaula - ndizo zotsatira zowononga zolaula: "Zingakhale zonyansa kuti pali kulumikizana, "adatero," koma ndinali ndi zaka zoyamba zanga.
"Porn zimakupangitsani kuona anthu ena ngati zinthu. Sindinathe kulankhula ndi amayi ndipo sindinkawakonda. Ine ndinalibe libido. Ndikapita kukagona nawo, ndinali ndi matenda osokoneza bongo, omwe anali ochititsa manyazi komanso osokoneza. Zili ngati inu mwayang'ana radiyo yanu nthawi zambiri. "
Patatha masiku zana limodzi atasiya zolaula, analota maloto ake oyambirira. Anauza anzake ndi achibale ake za vuto lake la zolaula. Zathandiza. "Ndinkakonda kwambiri nsanje bambo anga. Iwo sakudziwa momwe iwo analiri wabwino, akukula pamaso pa intaneti ndi zinthu zonsezi zolimbikitsa kwambiri. "
Kodi ali ndi nkhawa bwanji za achinyamata atsopano? "Kwambiri. Ndiwe wamng'ono, ndiwe wotetezeka kwambiri. Kulikonse komwe kuli liwiro lalikulu, pali anthu akuvutika. Zimakugwedezani. Ndizovuta kwambiri kusiya, ndipo mukusowa thandizo lalikulu. Achinyamata [omwe amaonera zolaula amakhalanso akudwalitsa] amatha kutaya zaka zambiri. "
Ndimamutcha Wilson ku Ohio, komwe amakhala. M'zaka makumi asanu ndi limodzi zapitazo, wochezeka ndi wolunjika-kulankhulana, amachokera ku mbadwo wa amuna omwe zithunzi zolaula zimangokhala m'magazini. Anthu sanapange kusiyanitsa, akunena, pakati pa izo ndi zoperekera zopanda malire zazinthu zovuta zomwe zilipo tsopano. Izi sizokhudzana ndi chizolowezi chogonana, Wilson akuti. Ndizo zokhudza chida chosatha: intaneti. Wilson anandiuza kuti, "Zaka ziwiri kapena zitatu zapitazo, atha kuchita maphunziro asanu ndi limodzi pazovuta za erectile."
Maphunzirowa anachitidwa ku Switzerland, Croatia, Canada, ndi ku United States ndi asilikali a US - kuti pakati pa 27 ndi 30 peresenti ya zaka za 16-to-21 apezeka kuti akuvutika ndi ED. Kafukufuku wa International Society for Sexual Medicine, wofalitsidwa mu 2013, adapeza kuti mmodzi mwa odwala anayi omwe ali ndi vuto lopweteka la erectile ali pansi pa 40. "Tsopano, phunziro lomalizira lachigawo chotsatira linapangidwa pamaso pa intaneti, mu 1992," Wilson akutero. "ED kwa amuna pakati pa zaka za 18 mpaka 60 anali pafupi 5 peresenti. Tikuyang'ana 600 ku 800 peresenti. "Amanena kuti amuna omwe ali ndi" ED-zochititsa manyazi ED "- zomwe madokotala ambiri amanena kuti palibe -" akutenga zaka ziwiri kapena zambiri kuti ayambirenso ntchito yatsopano. Anyamata ena akudzinenera kuti sakuchira, sangathe kudzutsidwa. "Alipo ambirimbiri omwe ali pansi pa 18s akupita ku Viagra.
Mndandanda wa mankhwala ovomerezedwa pa ED umati kuwonjezeka kwake kwa anyamata kumafanana ndi kukula kwa kunenepa kwambiri kapena kumwa mowa. Koma "fapstronauts" - amuna pa zolaula, zopanda misala - osakhulupirira zimenezo. Wilson anati: "Tangoyamba kumene kufufuza kwambiri za sayansi zomwe zimachitika pa intaneti pa ubongo." Chimene iwo akuwoneka kuti chikuwonetseratu ndi mgwirizano pakati pa kugwiritsira ntchito zolaula ndi kupsinjika maganizo, ED, nkhawa, ADD, kutaya chidwi pa kugonana, kuchepa kwa chiwerengero ndi kuleka kwa ndalama za yunivesite. "Ubongo wachinyamata uli pachimake cha kupanga dopamine ndi neuroplasticity, wotetezeka kwambiri ku chizoloŵezi choledzera." Kuphunzira mu Journal of Early Adolescence chaka chino chikusonyeza kuti kugwiritsidwa ntchito kwakukulu kwa mafano oonera pa intaneti kunachepetsa anyamata kuti azigwira ntchito patapita miyezi isanu ndi umodzi.
Wilson akufotokoza sayansi. Cholinga cha kusintha kwa ubongo wa dopamine, amati akukulimbikitsani. "Ndipo dopamine imayendetsa zinthu zachilendo." Intaneti imapereka kuti koma ikutsatira lamulo lochepetsera kubwerera. Kotero filimu yomweyi yokhayokha imataya udindo wawo nthawi zambiri imawonedwa. "Zolaula za pa intaneti zimakopa kwambiri dera lopindula chifukwa zachilendo ndizochokapo," anatero Wilson. Kudabwa, mantha, kunyansidwa, nkhaŵa - maganizo omwe mungathe kukhala nawo pamene mukuyendayenda m'dziko lopanda pulogalamu yolaula - kuphatikizapo kudzutsa, "kukupatsani chidziwitso chachikulu cha ubongo. Kodi ubongo uyenera kuchita chiyani ngati uli ndi mwayi wopanda malipiro opindulitsa kwambiri umene sunasinthepo kuti ukhale nawo? Zimasintha. "Chikumbukiro chachikulu cha Pavlovian chimapangidwa. "Zomwe mumakonda zimakula, panthawi imodzimodziyo mumakhala osasokonezeka ndipo mumamva kuti mulibe vuto."
Chaka chatha kafukufuku wa yunivesite ya Cambridge adapeza kuti ubongo womwewo umasintha kwa ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula za intaneti monga olimbana ndi mankhwala osokoneza bongo. Zambiri zoposa 50 za maphunziro - omwe anali a zaka zakubadwa anali 25 - anali ndi vuto lokaukitsidwa kapena kupeza zokambirana ndi anzawo enieni. Sayansi ya ubongo yomwe Wilson akukamba ikufanana ndi asayansi Susan Greenfield adaphedwa zaka ziwiri zapitazo, pamene adachenjeza za "Facebook Zombies". Ndipo Susan anali wolondola. "
Kubwezeretsa zolaula kumapanga mawu awo, ndi zilembo zovuta kuti azipita nawo: "Mwamadzidzimutsa nokha", "Zithunzi zimapha chikondi", "Pangani moyo watsopano". Cholinga chawo: kuthana ndi "kubwezeretsa" mwa kusiya PMO (zolaula zokhudzana ndi maliseche) kuti athe kusangalala ndi PIV (mbolo pogonana ndi akazi enieni). Poyamba "Kulimbitsa" kulibe kwa amuna awa. Wilson akupereka kukhazikitsa mapulogalamu othandizira pa intaneti; kusokoneza zilakolako zowonongeka ndikupeza zambiri: "Kukhala wosungulumwa kungayambitse mayesero." Kubwerezabwereza kumakhala kofala komanso kosasangalatsa. Mnyamata wina anati: "Zizindikiro zoopsa za chimfine. "Mkokomo wanga wa mmero ngati wopenga. Kusokonezeka. Ndikuwona zonse zili zakuda. Ziri ngati tsiku loipitsitsa kwambiri pamoyo wanga. Nkhawa, mantha. Liwu langa lafalikira. "Koma pali" NoFap Academy "yomwe mungayambe nayo:" Lowani Maselo a NoFap a Free April 2015 pano! "
Kusagwirizana kwapaderaNam3 ndi zaka 14 ndi masiku 42 muvuto lake la NoFap. "Ndaona zinthu zambiri, kuphatikizapo mphamvu yowonjezereka, chidaliro ndi kukonzanso. Komabe zomwe ndachita lerolino zidapondereza zonsezi. Ndinayankhula ndi mtsikana amene ndimamukonda, tinakambirana bwino ndikupeza nambala yake. Sindingabwererenso momwe ndinakhalire. Enanso. "Ena amanena za kusintha kwa ntchito yawo, kukumbukira, ngakhale tsitsi lawo ndi maso awo. Ambiri amati mawu awo akuya. "Ndikuona ngati ndikuchita chinthu choyenera pamoyo wanga," akulemba Siroop. "Pitirizani kumenyana nkhondoyi mpaka zolaula ndi maliseche sizingakhale zopanda phindu pamoyo wanga! Khalani olimba, anthu. "
Ndimamufunsa Wilson komwe akuganiza kuti achinyamata akubwera lero.
"Muyenera kudabwa ngati tikupita ku Japan," akutero. Kafukufuku wa ku Japan adapeza kuti 10 pa zana la amuna a ku Japan alibe chidwi ndi kugonana kwenikweni chifukwa zolaula ndi zophweka komanso zosavuta. "Kodi zolaula zimakhala zovuta pa nthawi yoyembekezera? Akupha anyamata akugonana. Timamva anyamata akunena kuti amawopa chifukwa chakuti ataya chidwi ndi kugonana - ubale weniweni sungapikisane ndi zithunzi za vaginas za 300 patsiku. "Anyamata awiri ku India adakumana ndi Wilson sabata yatha, adawopsyeza chifukwa adapeza okha mitengo zolaula. Ena amakhumudwitsidwa ndi zokonda zawo zokhudzana ndi kugonana zatsopano. Wilson anati: "Kuonera zolaula n'kofunika kwambiri.
Kodi ndi zolaula zotani? "Zithunzi zolaula. Simukuyenera kuwonetsa penis ndi vaginas ku Japan kotero ali ndi zinyama, zinthu monga nyonga zazikulu, kugonana ndi atsikana ojambula zithunzi. Izi ndizosokoneza kwambiri chifukwa zili kutali kwambiri ndi moyo weniweni. Koma popanda zolaula sangathe kukonzedwa. Pali anyamata ambiri kunja komwe omwe ali ndi mantha kwambiri. Ena ndi odzipha. Iwo amaganiza kuti awonongeka moyo. "
"Ndikuganiza kuti anthu ambiri samvetsa zomwe zikuchitika," akutero Simmons. "Zolaula zimawoneka ngati zachilendo, zingakhale zovuta bwanji?" Amaliseche, anyamata amamvetsera, ndi gawo labwino la kukula: "zabwino kwa prostate", zimayesetsanso kuti muzitsuka. Koma anyamata samasiyana pakati pa maliseche ndi zolaula zovuta.
"Ndife mitundu yothandizira awiri. Timayamba kukondana, "Wilson akukumbutsa anyamata onse achichepere kumeneko omwe sadziwa zomwe akunena. "Munthu akamasiya zolaula kumbuyo, amazindikira kuti enieniwo ndi abwino kwambiri kuposa kuyang'ana pixelisi."
Ubongo Wanu Pa Porn: Zithunzi zolaula pa intaneti komanso sayansi yowonongeka, Kusindikiza kwa Commonwealth, £ 9.99. Kuti mudziwe zambiri zokhudza documentary ya Daniel Simmons onani: indiegogo.com/projects/rewired-how-pornography-affects-the-human-brain
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