NICK THORPE akuyang'ana umboni wowonekera wa zovuta zolaula pa intaneti zingathe kuwonongeka mu ubongo wathu, maubwenzi athu - ndi ana athu.
KODI tiyenera kukhala ndi maganizo otani pa zolaula - osati monga akuluakulu, koma monga makolo?
Pambuyo pa Tsiku la Intaneti Lotetezeka la 2015, funsoli likuoneka ngati labwino, makamaka chifukwa kafukufuku akusonyeza kuti anyamata ambiri amafuna zithunzi zolaula akafika zaka 10, pamene ali ndi chidwi chofuna kugonana kwambiri - ndipo sizinakhale zosavuta kuzipeza.
Yesani kujambula "wamaliseche" mu Google, ndipo mutha kuyang'ana mtundu wazinthu zomwe zimangokhala pang'onopang'ono chabe kwa ana omwe ali ndi mwayi wopeza foni kapena tablet. Kodi ndizofunikira? Kodi zolaula za pa intaneti zili zosiyana kwambiri ndi magazini osakanizika omwe amadutsa pambuyo pa njinga yomwe imatulutsa mbadwo wapitawo?
Inde, inde, ngati mukukhulupirira Gary Wilson. Buku lake latsopano lakuti Your Brain on Porn - lomwe likufotokoza nkhani yake yodziwika bwino ya TEDx pankhaniyi - likuwonetsa momwe khalidwe la zolaula zamakono zothamanga pa intaneti zimasinthira ubongo wathu m'njira zomwe mibadwo yakale sikanatha kuziganizira.
ZOFUNIKA KWAMBIRI
Wophunzitsa kwanthawi yayitali wa anatomy ndi physiology yochokera ku Scotland, Wilson sakulemba malinga ndi malingaliro a makolo, koma kafukufuku wake wodabwitsayo ali ndi tanthauzo lalikulu paziwonetsero zathu komanso za ana athu.
Poyamba anaona kukula kwa vutoli pamene nkhani ya mkazi wake yokhudza maubwenzi pa intaneti inadzaza ndi amuna omwe ankanena kuti amakonda kwambiri zolaula - koma anagogomezera kuti alibe cholinga chachipembedzo kapena makhalidwe abwino: "Sindikuyesera kuyambitsa mantha a makhalidwe abwino, kapena kunena zomwe zili 'zachibadwa' pa kugonana kwa anthu. Ngati simukumva kuti muli ndi vuto, ndiye kuti sindikufuna kukangana nanu."
Koma zomwe adakumana nazo n'zakuti amuna ambiri ali ndi vuto ndi liwiro lapadera komanso mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya zolaula pa intaneti, mazana ambiri a iwo akuyang'ana m'mabwalo osiyanasiyana othandizira kuti athetse zizindikiro kuyambira nkhawa, khalidwe lodziletsa komanso kulephera kugonana mpaka kuvutika maganizo komanso maganizo odzipha.
ZOCHITIKA ZOTHANDIZA?
Ndi chithunzi chosiyana kwambiri ndi chomwe chinaperekedwa mu 2009 ndi wofufuza wa ku Canada , yemwe anthu omwe adayesedwa adanenetsa kuti kuonera zolaula sikunasinthe momwe amaonera akazi kapena ubale wawo: 'Palibe munthu m'modzi amene anali ndi vuto la kugonana,' anatero Simon Lajeunesse. "Ndipotu, machitidwe awo onse ogonana anali achikhalidwe." Chowonadi chinali chakuti zolaula zinali ndi zotsatira zochepa.
Koma Wilson akunena kuti mtundu wa zizindikiro zomwe amamva sizingagwirizane ndi anthu omwe ali ndi chizolowezi chawo cholaula - makamaka chifukwa chakuti Lajeunesse adalephera kupeza ngakhale mwamuna mmodzi wazaka makumi awiri ndi zisanu yemwe sankagwiritsa ntchito zolaula, motero adakana kafukufukuyu kuti ayesedwe ndi gulu lililonse lolamulira.
Momwemonso gulu lalikulu lokhalo laamuna loyerekezera zomwe moyo uli ngati NDIYI popanda zolaula pa intaneti ndi chiwerengero chomwe chikukula tsopano chitatha kukhala ndi matenda osokoneza bongo, chisokonezo, ndi mtundu wa khalidwe lodziletsa lomwe likugwirizana ndi chizolowezi choledzeretsa. Wilson akuwongolera ambiri a iwo kuti asonyeze zotsatira za posachedwa za intaneti yothamanga kwambiri mu 2006, zomwe mwadzidzidzi zinathekera kupeza mafilimu osavuta a zolaula - nthawi zambiri kangapo kamodzi.
DOPAMINE AMAKONDA
Wandichititsa kuti, "Zandithandiza kuti ndiziyang'ana mochulukirapo komanso kuti ndizichita zinthu moyenera." "Nthawi zina zimakhala tsiku lonse kufunafuna wangwiro kumaliza. Izo sizimakhutitsa konse. 'Ndikufuna zambiri' ubongo umati nthawi zonse ... zabodza. "
Wilson, akufotokoza kuti, ubongo wathu umatulutsidwa kuti tithe kumasula dopamine "matenda" a "mate" omwe timakumana nawo, omwe amathandiza makolo athu kuti apitirize kuwonjezera ma gene.
Koma poyang'anizana ndi chigumula cha lero cha intaneti chachilendo chosatha cha kugonana, ubongo wathu wosuta timayesetsa kuti tigwirizane, kutulutsa tizilombo toyambitsa dopamine zomwe zimaposa mphoto zathu zachilengedwe, ndipo kumapanganso kumanga kwa DeltaFosB.
DeltaFosB ndizochitika za ubongo zomwe zimagwirizanitsidwa ndi chisangalalo chosangalatsa chomwe chimapezeka pafupifupi pafupifupi onse oledzera, pamene moyo weniweni sungadulidwenso. Ponena za zizoloŵezi zolaula, mafano okhwima kwambiri amafunika kuti aukitse, akuti Wilson - kupanga chizoloŵezi chogonana chokhudzana ndi "kukhala yekha, voyeurism, kuwonekera, kufufuza, ma tabati, kuthamanga mofulumira, chikhalidwe chokhazikika, mantha ndi kudabwa."
KUYAMBANA KWABWINO
Yerekezerani izi ndi zinthu zenizeni zenizeni-kugonana, kugonana, kugwira, kununkhira, pheromones, kugwirizana kwa mtima, kugwirizana kwaumunthu weniweni - ndipo n'zosavuta kuona momwe chiwerewere chimatha kukhala gehena wokha. Makamaka ngati, monga ana a mbadwo wa ana athu, mumakhala ndi chiopsezo chotengeka kuyambira ali aang'ono.
Koma uthenga wabwino wochokera ku zomwe Wilson adatcha "kuyesa kofulumira kwambiri, koyesa kwambiri padziko lonse", ndiko kuti zotsatira za kugwiritsira ntchito mowa kwambiri pa intaneti ndizowonongeka.
Amuna ambirimbiri (ndi akazi ena) akupita ku ma forum osiyanasiyana odzithandiza omwe akhazikitsidwa kuti alimbikitse kudziletsa (kuphatikizapo Reboot Nation , Nofap.org ndi tsamba lodziwika bwino la Wilson ), komwe anthu omwe akuchira akusimba kuti (pambuyo pa kutaya chilakolako cha kugonana nthawi zina chosokoneza) ubongo umayambiranso kugwira ntchito bwino ndikubwezeretsa magwiridwe antchito abwinobwino ogonana.
Wilson akulongosola mwamuna wina wazaka za 20s yemwe anali wovuta kwambiri wochita zachiwerewere kuyambira zaka 14: "Ndayiyimitsa miyezi yonse ya 2 yapitayo. Zakhala zovuta kwambiri koma mpaka pano ndizofunika kwambiri. Kuyambira kale ndasiya mankhwala anga otsala. Nkhawa yanga siilipo. Kukumbukira kwanga ndi kulingalira ndizowona kuposa momwe zinakhalirapo. Ndikumva ngati "maginito" akuluakulu ndipo ED (erectile dysfunction) yatha. Ndikuganiza kwambiri kuti ndinali ndi kubalanso, mwayi wachiwiri m'moyo. "
Chiyembekezo cha FREEDOM
Izi ndizolimbikitsa kwambiri, chifukwa zotsatira za zolaula zimakhala zoyipa poyamba. Achinyamata athu achinyamata ali pachiwopsezo chachikulu cha kupanga dopamine ndi neuroplasticity, zomwe zimawapangitsa kukhala osatetezeka - koma zikondwererozo ndizoti ngakhale zitatenga nthawi yayitali, ubongo wawo umakhalanso wozindikira, kuyang'ana pozungulira "kuti apindulitse kuti asinthe monga maubwenzi ogwirizana, ndipo, ndithudi, okwatirana enieni. "
Ubongo Wanu pa Zolaula , ndi tsamba lawebusayiti lomwe lakhalapo kwa nthawi yayitali lotchedwa dzina lomweli , limamangidwa pa nkhani zambiri zotere ndi maphunziro osiyanasiyana asayansi omwe akuwonetsa vutoli latsopanoli, komanso chiyembekezo chochira.
Ndikokudodometsa, kodabwitsa koma komaliza kulimbikitsa uthenga kwa aliyense wa ife amene akulimbana ndi kugwiritsira ntchito zolaula - ndi ife omwe tikufuna kudziwa momwe tingathandizire ana athu kuyenda m'badwo wa digito.
Buku la Your Brain On Porn lolembedwa ndi Gary Wilson lafalitsidwa lero ndi Commonwealth Publishing, mtengo wake ndi £9.99, ndipo ngati buku la ebook mtengo wake ndi £3.48.