KULUMIKIZANA: Kuganiziranso Zolaula; Zowonjezera pa intaneti
Ena mwa malo anga otchuka kwambiri ndi omwe amakambirana zolaula ndi maliseche. Sindikukhulupirira kuti ndizoipa zomwe mpingo wa Mormon umachita. Ndikukhulupiliranso zimenezo njira yachipembedzo yokhudza kugonana ndizovulaza ndipo ndikukhulupirira kuti umboniwu umachirikiza maganizo anga.
Komabe, chifukwa ndikudzinenera kuti ndikukhulupilira ndikuti ndikukhala ndi kampasi yamakhalidwe abwino omwe amanditsogolera kulankhula ndi kuchita mwanzeru mosasamala kanthu zomwe ndanena kale, ndikupita kumbuyo kapena kusintha ndemanga zapitazo zolaula. Zikuwoneka kuti pali kusiyana kwakukulu pankhani ya zolaula pa intaneti.
Ndafika zaka 70 m'zaka zoyambirira za 80s ndisanakhale pa intaneti. Kwa ine, "zolaula" zimatanthauza zithunzi zamaliseche, nkhani komanso makanema. Tsiku lomwelo zidatenga nthawi komanso luso kuti zifaniziro zokopa zisinthe. Kuchita maliseche kunkachitika mosagona pabedi kapena kusamba, osakhala kutsogolo kwa wowonera makompyuta kapena ndi foni yam'manja yokhoza kupeza mamiliyoni azithunzi, makanema ndi nkhani.
Kuchita maliseche sizinaphatikizepo zolaula.
Mwachidule, zolaula zamasiku ano si zolaula za abambo anu. Ndipo kusiyanaku kumapangitsa kusiyana kwakukulu kuubongo wamunthu. Ena amanena kuti chisinthiko sichinakonzekeretse ubongo wa munthu kuti ugwirizane ndi intaneti. Chifukwa chake, zomwe zimawonedwa kwanthawi yayitali pakuwonera zolaula pa intaneti ndizosiyana kwambiri komanso zowonekera kwambiri kuposa magazini anu akale achikazi ndi makanema a XXX. Sizokhudza ngakhale zolaula zokha, koma ndi intaneti yomwe imakhudza ubongo m'njira zazikulu. Achinyamata ochita masewerawa ngakhale ena olemba mabulogu amakhulupirira kuti ali ndi vuto limodzinso ndi omwe amakhala nthawi zambiri zolaula pa intaneti.
Mwachidule mwachidule: Dopamine
Chilakolako ndi zolinga mwa anthu zimayanjanitsidwa ndi matenda a m'magazi otchedwa dopamine. Ndimomwe timayendera. Ozungulira oyang'anira mphoto akale amatikakamiza kuti tizitsatira zinthu kuti tizitha kukhala ndi moyo ... zinthu monga kugonana, chakudya, chikondi ndi zachilendo. Mwa kuyankhula kwina, dopamine imatilimbikitsa ife kutenga mbali mu moyo wopindulitsa, ndithudi moyo wopanga ntchito. Zirusi za dopamine zomwe zimachitika panthawi yogonana ndi scaffolding pambuyo pa zilakolako. Mukawona zolaula mumakhala ndi dopamine.
Dopamine imayambanso kuyenda mwatsatanetsatane ndipo apa ndi pomwe zithunzi zolaula ndi dopamine zimakhala ndi ubale wapadera. Ndi intaneti, zachilendo ndizochokapo. Zomwe mwatengerapo masabata kapena miyezi kuti muzisaka ndi kuziwona zilipo maminiti pa intaneti. Ndizodabwitsa ngati ndinu woonera zolaula!
Koma pali zotsatira zowopsya.
Dopamine imatsitsimutsa ubongo kuti upeze zochulukirapo, koma pankhani ya zolaula za pa intaneti ubongo sukubwezeretsedwanso kuti ugonane; ikubwezeretsedwanso kutsatira zachilendo zomwe zimangopezeka pa intaneti. Chifukwa chake, mumatha kukhala ndi chidwi chochulukirapo pazatsopano komanso kukhumudwitsidwa kwakukulu pamakhalidwe a "vanila" oterewa ogonana ndi munthu weniweni. Ndi mkombero womwe umapangitsa kuti mphamvu ziwonongeke ndikupanga maluso olimbana ndi kupsinjika.
"Maselo ammitsempha omwe amawotcha pamodzi, waya pamodzi"
Maselo amitsempha omwe amatenthedwa nthawi zonse ndi machitidwe amtundu womwewo amayika mayendedwe ndikulimbitsa kulumikizana. Zimapangitsa kukhala kosavuta pamagetsi amagetsi kuyenda ndi kulumikizana. Kuonera zolaula pa intaneti kumapangitsa kuti mukhale ndi vuto muubongo wanu. Chodabwitsa ndichakuti mchitidwewu umabweretsa chisangalalo CHOKHALA m'malo mochulukira. Popita nthawi, makina awiriwa amatha kukhala ndi mphotho yolandirira zolaula, koma osakhudzidwa ndikamapereka zochitika zenizeni.
Zachidziwikire kuti mtundu uwu wamaubongo oyeserera rewiring udalinso wogwiritsa ntchito zolaula m'mbuyomu, koma ndi intaneti ndizodziwika kwambiri komanso zofala. Zimachitika mwachangu ngakhale kwa achichepere kwambiri ndipo zimakhala zosavuta kukhalabe mumtunduwu chifukwa cha zolaula pa intaneti. Momwe imagwiritsidwira ntchito imapangitsa kuti dopamine ikhale yokwera kwakanthawi kosazolowereka, ndikupangitsa kuti zolaula za pa intaneti zizikakamiza, komanso kuti zizikhala zosokoneza bongo. Ndinadabwa ndikufufuza kwanga kuti ndipeze nkhani zachinyamata za 15, 16 ndi 17 wazaka zakubadwa omwe amadzinenera kuti amakonda zolaula ndipo sangathe kuzipeza ndi munthu weniweni.
Kotero ngati ine ndikugwiritsa ntchito chimodzimodzi Mapiri a Niagara analogy kuti ndagwira nawo Nyenyezi Yaku North, Ndikuyenera kuvomereza izi:
- Ngakhale kugwa kwa mathithi a Niagara sikukhoza kukupha, kumapweteka ndi kuzunzika monga mavunda, kuvulala kwa msana, kuvulala kwa ubongo, kupweteka kwa mafupa, etc. Zolaula pa intaneti sizidzakuponyera ku gehena koma zimaphatikizapo zotsatirazi:
- Kutaya kwa libido
- Kusayenerera (kungathe kuwonetsa zolaula koma osati ndi wokondedwa weniweni)
- Kusokonezeka kwa Erectile (ndi munthu weniweni ku kugonana kwaumunthu)
- Kuthamangitsidwa mochedwa (ndi munthu weniweni kugonana amuna)
- Nkhawa za Anthu
- Kutaya chidaliro
- Amalephera kumvetsera
- Kusokonezeka maganizo ndi nkhawa
- Utsi wa ubongo
- Kugonana mobwerezabwereza (osakhutira pang'ono ndi kungokhala ndi zolaula pa intaneti)
- Ngakhale kuti anthu ena angapulumutse kuyanjana ndi zolaula za pa intaneti palibe amene amachoka. Ena ali otayika kwathunthu ndi wormhole.
- Popeza zolaula za pa intaneti ndizoona zolaula masiku ano ndikudumpha ngalawa ndikumanena kuti si nzeru.
Uthenga Wabwino
Zowonongeka sizokhazikika. Ubongo ukhoza kusinthidwa kuti ufufuze ntchito zina zopopera za dopamine ndipo njira zina zazikulu zamitsempha zimatha kumangidwa. Kuchotsa zolaula komanso malingaliro azisangalalo kumabweretsa "zopanda waya" ndipo pamapeto pake kufooketsa njira zolakalaka ndi zolakalaka. Ambiri asiya zolaula komanso anachira miyoyo yawo.
Resources
Chifukwa intaneti ikudali yatsopano, chidziwitso ndi zowonjezera zowonongeka kuchokera ku chizoloŵezi chake ndi adakali anawo. Komabe, pali zinthu zambiri zodabwitsa pa mutuwo ndipo sizinagwirizane ndi chipembedzo kapena mtundu wa kulakwa ndi manyazi zomwe zimapereka zomwe zimapereka. Njira yotereyi sikugwira ntchito kusintha khalidwe langa. Pali njira zosiyana ndi zachipembedzo kwa anthu omwe saganiza kuti ali ndi vuto la zolaula koma omwe amazindikira kuti ali ndi zotsatirapo zoipa pa miyoyo yawo.
Choyamba ndinapunthwa pa Intaneti yapadera iyi ya Porn panthawi yomvetsera a Nkhani ya TED pa mutuwo. Ndikuganiza kuti ndi malo abwino kwambiri oyamba.
Kulumikizana kumeneku kumangokufikitsani ku Ubongo Wanu Pa Zithunzi webusaiti. Gwiritsani ntchito nthawi yanu pa tsamba. Mudzapeza mavidiyo, nkhani, maumboni ndi zida zosintha.
Komabe, ndikukaikira kuti ndine, sindingathe kuima pamenepo. Ndimakumbukira kuti John Dehlin posachedwapa adachita podcast pa Mormon Stories za Kugonjetsa Kuonera Zolaula. Ndinali ndisanamvetsere izi chifukwa mutu womwe uli patsamba la Mormon-themed zimangomveka ngati zikhala zotsalira, zamanyazi ndi zowawa. Koma ndidabwerera ndikumvera. Ndinadabwa. Pomwe mlendo Tony Litster si wasayansi kapena psychotherapist wamtundu uliwonse, summation yake ikufanana kwambiri ndi zomwe ndidapeza pa Ubongo Wanu Pa Zithunzi webusaiti.
Kuchokera pa zomwe ndinganene, Tony ndi wokamba nkhani wokondweretsa yemwe adayanjanitsa zolaula, adzalandidwa ndipo akuyesetsa kuthandiza ena. Webusaiti yake imaphatikizapo ZILIPA zothandizira ndi FREE coaching.
Zomwe ndimakonda pazinthu zonsezi ndikuti chipwirikiti chachipembedzo chomwe nthawi zambiri chimafotokozera mutuwu sichikupezeka. Ndimaganizirabe kuti Tony ndi Mormon ngakhale ali wowolowa manja pamenepo.
Ndikukhulupirira kuti pali zowonjezera zowonjezera zomwe sindinapeze. Ziri chabe kuti anthu osalowerera ndale pano amalankhula nane. Komabe, ngakhale zothandizira za 2 siziri 100% mogwirizana.
Ubongo Wanu Pa Zithunzi zimatenga njira yowonjezera polimbikitsa "kubwezeretsa" ubongo. "Kubwezeretsa" ndi nthawi yomwe mumangotsekera zonse ... zolaula, maliseche, ngakhale kutayirira. Nthaŵi ya nthawi imasiyana koma zikuwoneka kuti masiku a 90 ndi malingaliro wamba. Panthawi imeneyo ophunzira adzapeza ntchito zopindulitsa kuti abwererenso ubongo ndi kubwereranso ntchito yachiwerewere yogonana pambuyo pa "kubwezeretsanso."
Tony, modabwitsa akuwoneka kuti amatenga njira yocheperako. Samayang'ana nthawi "yosala" zolaula, maliseche komanso maliseche kuti akhazikitsenso ubongo, koma amawona yankho lake ngati kulowetsa m'malo mwake zinthu zopanga dopamine (zolaula pa intaneti) ndi zabwino (kusamalira thupi, malingaliro ndi mzimu m'njira zina). Zotsatira zake ndizofanana… uyenera kusiya kuonera zolaula ndipo uyenerabe kudzisamalira m'njira zabwino. Ndikuganiza kuti munthu atha kutsatira njira zonsezi popanda kusamvana konse.
Othandizira pa njira iliyonse amavomereza kuti amapeza zotsatira zolakwika za kuledzera kwa pa Intaneti.
- Inabwezeretsanso libido
- Mphamvu yolimbirana ndi wokondedwa weniweni
- Mphamvu yokhala ndi nthawi yokwanira ndi wokondedwa weniweni
- Chidaliro cha anthu
- Mphamvu yoyikira
- Kusokonezeka maganizo ndi nkhawa
- Kufotokozera ubongo
- Kugwiritsa ntchito maliseche popanda zolaula
Ndimagwiritsabe ntchito pafupifupi ndemanga zanga zonse zapitazo zolaula ndi maliseche koma ndikubwereranso kuzinthu zosalakwitsa zonse zonyansa. Sindikuganiza kuti kuona zolaula ndiko kutha kwa dziko lapansi. Mwamuna aliyense ndi amayi ambiri akhoza kukhala ndi mgwirizano wotere ndi miyoyo yawo. Komabe, chifukwa cha zoopsa zatsopano ku ubongo wathu zomwe zimapezeka pa intaneti zotsatirapo zoipa zimaposa kale.
Ndikuganiza kuti ndizofanana ndi mowa. Ndimakonda mowa. Ndimakonda kukoma kwake ndi zotsatira zake moyenera. Koma chifukwa chakuti sindinakulire ndi mowa ndimatha kudya kapena kukhala ndi anthu osakhala nawo. Ndili ndi botolo lodzaza, losavomerezeka la vodka ya premium mufiriji wanga amene wakhalapo kwa miyezi. Ndikuganiza kuti ndikhoza kunena kuti sindine chidakwa. Palibe cholakwika choipa cha mowa. Koma pakubwera kwa galimoto, mowa unakhala woopsa kwambiri ndipo ungakhale wovulaza. Zedi, nthawizonse nthawizonse amakhala ndi mbali yamdima ku ntchito yake koma teknoloji inawombera izo mosiyana. Ndipo ngati wina apeza kuti ali ndi vuto lakumwa, kumwa mowa mwauchidakwa ndi njira yokhayo yothetsera vutoli.
N'chimodzimodzinso ndi zolaula. Zakhala zikuzungulira nthawi zonse ndipo anthu adazilembapo modekha nthawi zina komanso osagwira ntchito kwa ena. Koma ukadaulo udakakamiza zolaula kukhala zaka zopepuka ndipo matupi athu alibe zida zothetsera zolaula. Monga bambo ndili ndi udindo woteteza ndi kuchenjeza ana anga za zolaula za pa intaneti monga momwe ndimachitira ndikamamwa ndikuyendetsa.
Ndawauza ana anga momveka bwino kuti sindingakhumudwe kapena kukwiya akandifunsa kuti ndipite ndikawatenge pa phwando. Koma ndidzakhala wokwiya ngati azidzamwa ndi kuyendetsa galimoto kapena kukwera mgalimoto ndi wina yemwe adamwa. Ndikumva chimodzimodzi tsopano pankhani yolaula. Ngakhale maliseche ndi kugonana ndi zinthu zabwino, intaneti ndi malo owopsa oti muziwasaka. Ndipo ngati wina awona kuti ali ndi vuto lakuonera zolaula, kukhala kutali ndi mitundu yonse ndiye njira yanzeru kwambiri.
Monga nthawi zonse ndimalandira ndemanga zanu, ndemanga ndi mafunso.
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