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Ndiloleni ndikhale zomveka bwino izi kuyambira pa chiyambi, Cholinga changa chachikulu chodzipulumutsira zolaula komanso kuchita maliseche si kudziimba mlandu kwachipembedzo. Kumapeto kwa lolemba iyi mupeza nkhani yanga. Monga pazotumiza zanga zonse, malingaliro anga ndi anga ndekha ndipo ndimagawana nawo chilichonse chomwe angakhale nacho kwa inu.
Mosakayikira zolaula zimakhala zosokoneza bongo ndipo zimatha kuyambitsa zizolowezi zokha. Kuletsa zolaula ndizosatheka munthu atayamba kale chizolowezi choledzeretsa. Komabe, sindinaonepo zolaula ngati vuto langa lalikulu. Pokana kukhuta maliseche ndayamba kulamulira moyo wanga koyamba. Zolaula sizowoneka bwino pakadali pano. Mwina kuphatikiza zolaula ndi maliseche ndizothandiza. Ndikukayika kuti pali ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula omwe samachita maliseche. Mwanjira ina, ndikuganiza kuti kuseweretsa maliseche komweko ndichinthu chomwe chimapatsa zolaula mphamvu zake. Ndikadakhala kuti ndikuwonera zolaula pakadali pano ndikadakhala kuti sindikhala ndi cholinga chodzikhutiritsa. Ndikadaziwona mosiyana. M'malo mokhala pansi paulamuliro wake ndimatha kuziona moyenera. Ndikulingalira kuti umu ndi momwe oyang'anira zamalamulo amatha kuwonera zolaula (monga nthawi yomwe amafufuza za Throat Deep) osadzutsidwa.
Ndimaona akunena kuti zabwino zokhudzana ndi kusintha kwa thupi kumawonekera ngati zikuchitika pakumvana ndi amuna osati akazi. Zomwe ndimatenga ndikuti kulumikizana pakati pa okondana kumakhala kofatsa komanso kumalola kumasulidwa pamlingo wachilengedwe pomwe maliseche amagwira ntchito mokakamiza.
Ndidasanthula zambiri za Masturbation Freedom ndikuganiza kuti alibe chiwopsezo chilichonse. Pambuyo pakuphunzira zaka makumi ambiri ndikutha kunena kuti m'malingaliro mwanga palibe cholembedwa cha m'Baibulo chotsutsana ndi maliseche. Sindinganene kuti ndi "tchimo" monga kunama, kuba, kupha, ndi zina zotero. Ndikuwona kuti ndi nkhani yothandiza kuposa nkhani yamakhalidwe. Maliseche ndi owononga banja; palibe kukayika m'malingaliro mwanga za izi. Ndikuwona ngati kubera, chifukwa chakuti munthu amene akuchita maliseche akugwiritsa ntchito mphamvu zawo zogonana kunja kwa banja lawo. Munthu wokwatira akamaonera zachiwerewere za ena, kudzera pa zolaula, zimakhala ngati chigololo cham'maganizo, IMO. Ndikulingalira kuti malingaliro anga apano, osadabwitsa apa, ndikuti zolaula zilibe ntchito popanda maliseche. Zitha kukhala ngati kugula katoni ya ndudu pomwe mulibe moto. Ndudu ndi poizoni, koma poyizoni amalowa mpaka ndudu zayatsidwa. Za ine, kulumikizana pakati pa zolaula ndi maliseche kulimba kwambiri monga kulumikizana kwa ndudu ndi moto. Tsopano popeza ndimakana kuyatsa "ndudu" ndataya cholinga chogula "ndudu".
Komabe, ndimaona kuti ndizosangalatsa komanso zolimbikitsa kuti tsamba lokhulupirira zachikhulupiriro lingalumikizane ndi YBOP. Machenjezo akuchulukirachulukira kwa ochita maliseche akhala akumveka kuchokera kuma pulpiti ambiri kuchokera pachikumbutso cha nthawi. Njira iyi, m'malingaliro anga, ilibe ntchito. Anthu okhumudwitsa nthawi zambiri amachita zochepa kuwathandiza. Kumbali inayi, chidziwitso chokwanira cha momwe zolaula zimakhudzira ubongo zimachita zodabwitsa. Zinandipangitsa kuti ndisiyane kwambiri ndipo zinathetsa kulimbana komwe kwakhala zaka zoposa 43. Palibe mlandu, palibe manyazi, kumvetsetsa kosavuta kwa momwe ubongo wamunthu umayankhira zolaula. Ngati alangizi abusa atagwiritsa ntchito izi kuphunzitsa omwe akufuna thandizo ndi zolaula komanso / kapena kuseweretsa maliseche amatha kupeza kuti kupambana kwawo kumakhala bwino komanso chikhalidwe cha omwe amawalangiza.
Ndisiya ndi malingaliro ochepa okhudzana ndi upangiri waubusa kwa anthu omwe akufuna kusiya zolaula ndi / kapena maliseche. Ngati mungasankhe kuuza mbusa zaulaliki wanu momveka bwino kuyambira pachiyambi zomwe mukuyembekezera zinsinsi zachinsinsi. Nkhani ndiyofunika kukhalabe pakati pa inu nokhayo komanso kuti musagawe wina aliyense mumpingo, azibusa ena omwe akuphatikizidwa, ngati ndi zomwe mukufuna. Ngati phungu akhumudwitsidwa ndi pempholi, ndikufunsani kuti muganize kawiri musanawulule china chake chomwe mungafune kusunga chinsinsi. Ndidaphunzira izi movutikira, nditazindikira kuti m'busa wina yemwe ndidamuwuza adaganiza zouza vuto langa pamaso pa anthu ena amatchalitchi. Ena mwa inu mwina mulibe chidwi ndi kufalitsika, koma ndidakwanitsa, ndipo moyo wanga udasokonezedwa ndi kuphwanya kwachinsinsi kumeneku. Mutha kufunsa kuti mufufuze malamulo amderalo okhudzana ndi izi kuti mudziwe ufulu wanu pankhaniyi.
Ndikulangiza kuti ndikupemphani kuti abusa omwe mumayankhula nawo azikhala nawo pamaudindo, ndikukuyimbirani nthawi ndi nthawi kuti ndikufunseni zaumoyo wanu komanso kukhala okonzeka kukuyimbirani foni nthawi yamavuto. Ngati izi zivomerezedwa, sankhani kugwiritsa ntchito mwanzeru mwayiwu. Masabata angapo oyambilira ndi ovuta kwambiri, mungafunike kupempha thandizo nthawi zambiri kuposa nthawiyo. Ndikulimbikitsanso kugawana ndi mlangizi zomwe zapezeka pano ku YBOP zokhudzana ndi zomwe zimayambitsa zolaula. Mofanana ndi zidakwa, oledzera samangokhala anthu ofooka, ndi anthu omwe ali ndi vuto lenileni lomwe lidayambira mu biology yathu. Abusa omwe amangokuwuzani kuti musachite maliseche pazifukwa zamakhalidwe abwino sangakuchitireni zabwino. Zimatengera kumvetsetsa kwamavuto kwa omwe akupereka upangiri kuti athe kupereka upangiri wabwino. Chinsinsi ndikusiya kusuta, kumvetsetsa chifukwa chake zolaula komanso maliseche ndizolimbikitsa komanso kumenya nkhondoyo. Chidziwitso is mphamvu!
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