Posachedwa, pakhala pali zina zokhudza udindo wachipembedzo pankhani yokhudza zolaula. Phunziro limodzi http://www.provenmen.org/2014pornsurvey/pornography-use-and-addiction/#addiction zidawonetsa kuti amuna omwe amadzitcha akhrisitu anali ndi mwayi wowirikiza kuposa omwe siali akhristu kuganiza kuti atha kukhala okonda zolaula.
Othirira ndemanga amafulumira kunena kuti ichi ndi umboni kuti kusiya chizolowezi cholaula kumapangitsa munthu kukhala ndi mlandu wachipembedzo, osati chizolowezi chakuthupi komanso chamaganizidwe. Ndimakonda kuganiza kuti chithunzicho sichophweka.
Choyambirira kukumbukira pazonsezi ndikuti nkhani zokhudzana ndi zolaula komanso kudziwika kuti ndi Mkhristu kapena ayi ndi nkhani yodziwonetsa. Palibe amene adatsata zomwe zidawerengedwa kuti ziwone ngati atengedwera ndi zolaula mwanjira inayake kapena ina. Palibe amene adatsata awa kuti awone ngati ali Akhristu kapena ayi. Ndimadzizindikira kuti ndine Mkristu koma ndikutsimikizireni kuti pali anthu ena omwe angafune kusiyanasiyana pamenepa.
Mwalingaliro langa lodzichepetsa, sikungakhale kotheka kuchita kafukufuku wamtunduwu womwe ungaganizidwe kuti ndiwosayansi chifukwa cha zifukwa zingapo. Kafukufukuyu asanachitike malinga ndi zasayansi ndikofunikira kuti pakhale tanthauzo lovomerezeka pokhudzana ndi tanthauzo la Mkhristu komanso mgwirizano womwe ungavomerezedwe pakumasulira zolaula. Sindikugwira mpweya wanga nawonso. Mawu oti Mkhristu adakhalapo pafupifupi zaka 1,980 ndipo zipembedzo zambiri zomwe zimati ndi zachikhristu ndizokwanira kunditsimikizira kuti mgwirizanowu udali kale. Mofananamo, zizolowezi zolaula ndizomwe zimakangana m'masayansi ndipo sindikupuma mpaka zitatha. Vuto lina ndi njira yotengera zitsanzo. Kuti kafukufuku akhale ndi tanthauzo akuyenera kuwerengera anthu ambiri kuchokera pagulu lowerengera. Chitsanzo cha amuna azaka 18-25 ndipo mudzapeza zotsatira zosiyana ndi zomwe mungaphunzire amuna azaka 45-55. Ngati maphunziro anu onse akuchokera kudera limodzi zomwe zingapangitsenso kusiyana kwakukulu. Kafukufuku wopangidwa ndi Los Angelinos atulutsa zolaula pa intaneti mosiyana ndi kafukufuku wama Amish mdera lomwe sililola kugwiritsa ntchito intaneti. Ichi ndi chitsanzo chowopsa, koma chimapereka chitsimikizo chakuti zomwe zotsatira za kafukufuku zimadalira kwambiri momwe kafukufuku amachitikira. Ngati wina ayika chikwangwani chofunsa anthu kuti adzipereke kuti atenge nawo gawo pazofufuza zokhudzana ndi zolaula gulu logwiritsa ntchito lingakhale losiyana kwambiri ndi gulu lomwe lidasankhidwa mosasinthasintha.
Ndili ndi zomwe takambiranazi, ndikothekabe, m'malingaliro mwanga, kuti tipeze zidziwitso zofunikira phunziroli, bola ngati aliyense azikumbukira kuti uku ndikudzifufuza ndikudziyang'anira. Pazomwe zili zofunika, awa, mwa lingaliro langa, mawu ogwira ntchito.
Zimandisangalatsa kwambiri kuti Akhristu omwe amadzidziwitsa okha amagwiritsa ntchito zolaula pamlingo wofanana ndi omwe si Akhristu. Zomwe ziwerengero zokhudzana ndi kukopeka zimanena kwa ine ndikuti akhristu amawona kuti kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula ndivuto kuposa omwe siali akhristu ndipo chifukwa chake akhoza kunena kuti ali ndi vuto. Anthu omwe si Akhristu, IMO, amatha kuwona zolaula kuti sizikhala vuto, mwamakhalidwe, motero sangakhale ndi nkhawa ndi momwe amagwiritsirira ntchito zolaula pokhapokha / mpaka zitayambitsa kugonana.
Popanda nkhani yamakhalidwe azisangalalo ndilocheperanso. Chisangalalo, adrenaline, iyenera kutenga nawo mbali pazonsezi. Asanayambirenso, lingaliro lokonda zolaula lidabweretsa chisangalalo mu chifuwa changa chomwe ndidaphunzira kuti adrenaline. Masiku ano ndimayang'ana zolaula ngati nkhani yakhalidwe ndipo izi zathandiza kwambiri chifukwa malingaliro osangalatsawo atha.
Ndikuganiza kuti ndikofunikira kudziwa kuti mwa Don Jon, munthu wamkulu adadzimvera chisoni chifukwa choulula komanso kulapa ponena za ochepa kapena mapemphero omwe adachita pochita masewera olimbitsa thupi. Sindinawonepo kamodzi ka liwongo lakuwonetsedwa ndi munthu wokhudzana ndi zachiwerewere kapena zolaula ndipo kusiya kwake sikunachitike. Ndimawona kanemayo kukhala chithunzi chowongolera molondola cha anthu azaka zake masiku ano. Adakulira munthawi yomwe zolaula zimalandiridwa ngati gawo la moyo. Sanatengeredwe chifukwa chodziona kuti ndi olakwa, adayamba chifukwa cha malo olandirira mphotho. Kwa ine, ndikuganiza kuti malo opatsirako mphotho anali gawo lalikulu lavutoli, koma kulakwa, chipatso choletsedwa ndi zina zokhudzana nazo ndizo zimayambitsa.
Koma sizomwe zili choncho kwa ambiri oonera zolaula, makamaka achinyamata omwe anakulira mdera losiyana kwambiri ndi lomwe lidalipo pa unyamata wanga. Chowonadi ndichakuti kudziimba mlandu pankhani ya kugonana sikwodziwika bwino monga kale. Ndili pasukulu ya kalasi, mmbuyo zaka makumi asanu ndi limodzi pamene tinali kumenyera nkhondo yolowera kusukulu kudzera mkumenyetsa ndi kuwukira kwa T-Rex, ana ambiri sanagwiritse ntchito, ndipo nthawi zambiri samadziwa, mawu oyenera a kugonana kwawo. Maphunziro a zakugonana akuwoneka kuti adachita zambiri pakuwongolera izi ndikuchotsa manyazi pazinthu zogonana. Ndimangoganiza kuti makolo kupatsira ana awo izi mwachindunji kumakhala komvetsa chisoni. Mosakayikira umbuli umasewera pano, koma manyazi ndi liwongo zimachitanso. Kukhala wokhoza kukambirana zogonana momasuka ndikofunikira kwambiri ndipo kumapita patali pochotsa manyazi komanso manyazi pa mutu wogonana.
Chinanso chomwe chasintha pazaka zapitazi ndi mtundu wa zolaula. Nditangotsala pang'ono kukula, zotsatsa zamakanema olaula zinali zosangalatsa kwambiri kuubongo wanga wachinyamata. Chosangalatsa ndichakuti makanema omwe amawonetsedwa m'malo owonera zolaula kumapeto kwa zaka za makumi asanu ndi limodzi ndiwowoneka bwino masiku ano. Makanema omwe adadabwitsa anthu zaka 45 zapitazo atha kuwerengedwa R masiku ano, nthawi zina PG-13. Kalelo ngakhale maliseche osakwanira anali amanyazi ndipo adatsitsa kanema kuti akhale zolaula. Zomwe zimawoneka ngati zolaula zaka 45 zapitazo sizingabweretse diso masiku ano.
Kufunika kwa izi ndikuti achinyamata omwe akukula m'dziko lamasiku ano ali pachiwopsezo chambiri chowonera zolaula kuposa momwe ndikadakhalira muubwana wanga. Ngati ndikufuna kuwona zolaula zolimba ndimayenera kupita kudera lina komwe ndimadzimva kuti sindili bwino. Ndinayenera kuyimika pamalo pomwe ndimachita mantha kusiya galimoto yanga ndipo ndimatha kudziwonetsetsa ndikamapita kumalo ogulitsira zolaula. Ichi chinali cholepheretsa chachikulu ndipo ndichimodzi mwazifukwa zophika zomwe sindinayichotsere kwa wochita zolaula kwambiri ndikangotenga zaka 18. Ndidachita mantha kutero. Mfundo yanga apa ndikuti vuto langa lachiwerewere, lomwe linali lalikulu kwambiri muubwana wanga, limasiyana kwambiri ndi zovuta zolaula za achinyamata amakono. Anga adalimbikitsidwa ndi malingaliro komanso malingaliro osadziwika. Wachinyamata wanga wazaka 18 - 25 amangoganiza zomwe zinali kuchitika m'makanema olaula. Achinyamata ambiri amasiku ano amadziwa kuti akafika ku sekondale. Ndinkakonda kuseweretsa maliseche nditawona zolaula zolaula ndili ndi zaka 14. Ana ambiri amasiku ano awona makanema olimba kuyambira tsiku loyamba. Chiyembekezo chokha choyembekezera chimachokera ku zolaula zopanda malire m'zaka zathu zomwe zikusiyana kwambiri ndi zolaula zochepa zomwe ndimakhala nazo ndili mwana ndikukula mdera lachiwiri lamzinda waukulu. Vuto lalikulu lomwe zolaula zimayambitsa moyo wanga sindingaganizire momwe zingakhalire ndikukula m'dziko lamasiku ano.
Koma, potseka bwalo, tinganene kuti, tibwereranso ku funso lenileni lokhala ngati zolaula ndizachinyengo chazomwe zimachitika chifukwa cha chipembedzo. Podzilankhulira ndekha, ndikuganiza kuti ngakhale zolaula zitha kuonekera kwambiri m'miyoyo ya anthu okonda kupembedza vuto lalikulu si vuto lililonse chifukwa ndi njira zopezeka ndi kupezeka. Palibe chodabwitsa kuyerekeza kuti anthu angachitepo kanthu pazinthu zawo, zikhulupiriro zawo, ndi zina. Wina amene adaleredwa mnyumba yomwe mowa umayenda mosadandaula sangakhale ndi nkhawa kuti kumwa kwawo kumakhala kovuta kuposa munthu yemwe amamwa kuchuluka komweko ndi pafupipafupi koma adakwezedwa ndi ochita masewera olimbitsa thupi. Izi ziribe kanthu kochita ndi munthu kaya, ndiye chidakwa; chidakwa. Munthu woleredwa ngati wotsogola akhoza kudziwonetsa kuti ali ndi vuto la zakumwa zoledzeretsa ndipo amatha kukhala ndi nkhawa kwambiri pakumwa kwawo vutoli lisanakhale vuto, koma sizingasokoneze lingaliro la uchidakwa. Chimodzimodzinso, kuti akhristu azidziwonetsa kuti ali ndi mavuto a zolaula sizimaphula kanthu lingaliro lokonda zolaula. Zitha kungokhala kuti kamvedwe kawo kavuto kakang'ono kwambiri.
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