Ndakhala ndikufuna kulemba zolemba kwakanthawi kwakanthawi pazinthu zomwe zandithandizanso kuchira. Ndi yayitali kwambiri, chifukwa chake khalani omasuka kungoyang'ana pamitu yolimba ngati mukufuna. Ngati pali malingaliro omwe angakusangalatseni, chonde werengani malangizo omwe ndikupereka pansipa! Ndine wazaka 24. Poyamba ndidayamba zolaula makamaka pazifukwa zachipembedzo. Sindilankhulanso, "wachipembedzo", komabe ndimaonabe kuti zolaula sizabwino, ndipo ndikudziwa izi kuchokera pazomwe ndakumana nazo.
5 yoyamba ikukhudzana ndi njira zowonongeka, pamene 5 yotsiriza ndi yothandiza (ngakhale ndikuganiza kuti ndi kovuta kutero kwenikweni perekani kusiyana pakati pa ziwiri). Ndikuyembekeza kuti amathandiza
- 1. Osayang'ana kuledzera m'magulu ang'onoang'ono. Onani malingaliro akuchira m'malo mwake
M'mbuyomu ndakhala ndikulingalira zakuledzera kwanga ngati cholephera kapena kuchita bwino, kapena ngati "kuchiritsidwa" ku matenda ena. Tsopano ndikuyang'ana ngati kuchira, chifukwa ndikuzindikira kuti zonse zomwe timachita zimachitika nthawi yayitali. Ngakhale patsiku 100, sindinganene kuti "ndachiritsidwa" kapena "sindinayambe" kapena "ndachiritsidwa", koma ndinganene kuti ndili mu njira ya machiritso, pamene tsiku lirilonse limabweretsa mwayi watsopano kuti ndipeze machiritso ambiri kuposa kale, bola ngati ndikukhalabe maso.
- 2. Gwiritsani ntchito nthawi yochuluka mukudziwonetsera nokha, osati kungosintha zolaula, koma m'mbali zonse za moyo wanu
Gulani zolemba, yambani kusinkhasinkha, onani mlangizi, chitani zomwe muyenera kuchita kuti muziyang'ana mbali zina pamoyo wanu zomwe mukufuna kusintha kuti zizolowezi zolaula zakulepheretsani kuzindikira kale. Ndapeza kuti posayang'ana zolaula, ndimapatsidwa chidziwitso m'masomphenya anga kuti ndione zomwe zikuchitika mkati mwanga. Kupewa zolaula kumabweretsa mwayi wodziwonetsera bwino, ndipo kusinkhasinkha kumatithandiza kuti tisamangoganizira zolaula pokhapokha tipeze muzu wazomwe zimatipangitsa kuti tiziwona zolaula poyamba - pakhoza kukhala china chake "chosweka ”Mwa ife zomwe zikufunika kukonza, ndikupezekapo mbali zosweka za ife ndikuchiritsidwa, titha kupeza kuti mbali zosiyanasiyana m'miyoyo yathu zikhala bwino, kuphatikiza ulendo wathu wakuchira ku zolaula.
- 3. Kuwonjezera pa kudziganizira nokha, yang'anani pazomwe mumayendera, ndipo muzipanga kukhala patsogolo pa moyo wanu
Ichi ndi chachikulu. Ndazindikira kuti posasiya kuyang'ana zolaula, ndikuyang'ana kukwaniritsa zomwe ndikuwona kuti ndizofunika pamoyo, ndakhala ndikulimbana ndi mayesero kuposa m'mizere yapitayi. Chofunika changa chachikulu, ndinganene, ndikuti ndikufuna kukhala ndi zokumana zenizeni komanso zachinsinsi ndi aliyense amene miyoyo yake imadutsana ndi yanga: izi zikutanthauza kuti ndikufuna kupezeka ndikuchita ubale uliwonse womwe ndili nawo, kaya ndi alendo, abwenzi, abale, kapena wokondedwa, ndikufuna kukhala munthu yemweyo ndi aliyense. Sindikufuna kukhala munthu wosiyana ndi anthu osiyanasiyana, koma munthu yemweyo kwa anthu onse. Ndikufuna kuti anthu ena andidziwe ngati munthu amene ndikudzidziwa ndekha. Chifukwa ichi ndiye mtengo wanga wapamwamba kwambiri, ndikudziwa kuti kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula sikungatenge nawo gawo ili, ndipo ndikudziwa kuti ndi cholepheretsa kutsatira mfundo zanga. Ngati nditsatira kwambiri mfundo zanga zoyambirira, ndiye kuti zolaula zimangotuluka m'moyo wanga.
Kuphatikiza pa izi, ndinganene kuti muyenera kupanga mfundo zanu kukhala chifukwa chimodzi chokha chosiya zolaula. Ndayesera kusiya zolaula pazifukwa zam'mbuyomu (kudana ndi zomwe zachitika m'moyo wanga, kudana ndi momwe zimawonongera anthu, ndi zina zambiri), koma ndazindikira kuti patadutsa miyezi ingapo, ngati chidani chimenecho chimakhala nane Kutalika kotere, kutengeka kumatha, monga momwe zimachitikira zonse. Ndidadzipeza ndekha ndikuganiza, "Sindikukondanso zolaula .. Ndikufunanso kudana ndi zolaula kuti ndikhale wolimbikitsidwa ... chifukwa chake ndiyang'ananso zolaula, kuti chidani chawo chibwerere!" ndipo zinayambitsa kuyambiranso. Tsopano, ndimayang'ana kwambiri mfundo zanga zoyambirira, zomwe sizisintha mwachangu kapena mosavuta monga momwe zimakhalira.
- 4. Muziyesetsa mwezi uliwonse, sabata iliyonse, ndi tsiku lililonse ngati mwayi "woyambiranso"
Anthu amachita bwino kwambiri kukwaniritsa zolinga zawo ngati agawa zinthu zing'onozing'ono nthawi. Momwe timagawira kusintha m'malingaliro athu zitha kukhala zothandiza kwambiri pakukhazikitsa zizolowezi zosatha. Ndikosavuta kukhala ndi chizolowezi chatsopano ngati mumaganiza tsiku lililonse ngati chinthu chatsopano, m'malo mongowona chaka chilichonse ngati chatsopano (monga kupanga zisankho za Chaka Chatsopano kamodzi pachaka, koma kuwawona akulephera kumapeto kwa Januware). M'malo mwake, lingalirani za malingaliro a Mwezi Watsopano, kapena zosankha za Sabata Chatsopano, kapena zosankha za Tsiku Latsopano. Nthawi ina ndidawerenga upangiri winawake womwe udandigwira mtima kwambiri: "Kutalika kwambiri kopanda zolaula ndi tsiku limodzi lokha." Izi zikutanthawuza kuti titha kupanga izi kuti zitheke kuyang'anira tsiku limodzi nthawi imodzi.
- 5. Ganizirani za kupumula mu masiku, osati mzere
Ichi ndi vumbulutso laposachedwa kwa ine. Posachedwa ndimaganiza kuti ngati sindiyang'ananso zolaula chaka chino, ndikhala ndikuwona miyezi 8 ngati zolaula kwathunthu (Feb - Epulo ndidabwereranso nthawi 8). Koma sindiyenera kuiwala masiku onsewa ndinali wopanda zolaula ngakhale pakati pobwereranso! M'malo mongonena kuti "Sindinachite zolaula kwa miyezi 8/12" Ndinganene kuti "Sindinachite zolaula masiku 357/365 chaka chino" zomwe zimamveka zolimbikitsa kwambiri!
Malangizo ena othandiza:
- 6. Tengani kalendala yaying'ono ndi inu paliponse pamene mupita, kudutsa masiku omwe mulibe zolaula
Ndili ndi kachidutswa kakang'ono ka Moleskine komwe ndimakhala nako m'thumba lakumbuyo kwanga. Ngakhale ndimagwiritsa ntchito usiku wonse kuti ndidutse tsikulo, ndimakhala ndikudzikumbutsa nthawi zonse kuti ndimafuna kuti ndisakhale ndi zolaula kulikonse kumene ndikupita.
Miyezi ikamadutsa, ndawonjezera zizindikiro zosiyanasiyana zomwe zimakhudza kuchira kwanga. Ngati sindiyang'ana zolaula, ndimayika X tsiku lonse. Ngati ndiyang'ana zolaula, ndimazungulira tsikulo ndi O. Ngati ndimachita maliseche, ndimazungulira ndi O, koma ndimayikanso X patsikulo. Ngati ndimachita maliseche, koma osachita zipsinjo, ndimakoka o ndi X. Ngati ndili ndi 'loto lonyowa' usiku, ndimapanga mzere pakati pa masiku omwe adabwera kale komanso pambuyo pake (zikuwoneka ngati 14 | 15). Mwinamwake, inu mumapeza lingaliro. Dziwani zambiri za ulendo wanu momwe mungathere.
- 7. Auzeni anthu ambiri momwe mumasangalalira ndi zakumwa zanu ndi chikhumbo chanu chochiritsidwa
Anthu ambiri omwe angakudzudzuleni, zimakhala bwino. Ndikudziwa kuti zingakhale zovuta kulankhula ndi anthu za, ngakhale ndi anthu omwe akukumana ndi zomwezi. Koma kutenga sitepe yolimba mtima ndi chiopsezo ndi njira yamphamvu yoganizira zomwe mumayang'ana. Kukhala muubwenzi ndi gulu la anthu omwe mwandizungulira kwandithandiza kuzindikira kuti ndili ndi khoka lalikulu lachitetezo lozungulira ine lomwe lingathandize kutuluka ngati ndikumva kuti ndikugwa. Ndazindikiranso kuti ndikamalankhula ndi anzanga za izi, sindimafuna kuwona zolaula. Zimandilimbikitsa komanso zimandilimbikitsa ndikamalankhula bwino za chizolowezi changa.
- 8. Bwezeretsani zipinda za chipinda chanu kulikonse komwe mukupeza kuti mukubwezeretsanso kwambiri
Ngati ndi chipinda chanu usiku komwe mumakhala mukuyang'ana zolaula, khalani ndi nthawi yanu yopumula pokonzanso chipinda chanu. Ndazindikira kuti chilengedwe chathu chimatha kuyambitsa zolaula, ngakhale palibe chilichonse chokhudzana ndi zolaula. Ndimakhala pakati pa mizinda iwiri, umodzi mkati mwa sabata kuntchito, ndi wina kunyumba kwa amayi anga kumapeto kwa sabata. Ndinazindikira kanthawi kapitako kuti nthawi iliyonse ndikabwerera kumapeto kwa sabata, ndimabwereranso, ndipo sizinali chifukwa choti ndinali ndi nthawi yambiri yopumula: ndichifukwa choti ndimaganizira za chisangalalo chobwereranso kumalo omwe ndidakulira mkati, pomwe ndidabwereranso kwambiri. Kukonzanso mipando kumatha kuthana ndi chizolowezi chowonera malo athu, motero kutithandiza kusiya chizolowezi chathu chakuwona zolaula mosaganizira.
- 9. Kumbukirani kuti kuseweretsa maliseche ndizochepera zoipa ziwiri, ndikuzindikira kuti zikhoza kukhala zowonongeka (ngati sichoncho) kusiyana ndi zolaula
Ndinadabwa kwambiri tsiku lina miyezi ingapo yapitayo nditapita kukadziseweretsa maliseche, koma m'malo mongopita kuchimbudzi "kukachotsa" ndinapita kuchipinda changa ndikukhala nthawi "ndikuyang'ana thupi langa" (zilizonse zomwe zikutanthauza). Sindinkaganizira kwambiri zakumasulidwa, komanso ndikulimbikitsidwa kupezeka ndikumva zomwe thupi langa limakonda kumva, osagwiritsa ntchito zithunzi zilizonse, kaya zenizeni kapena zongopeka, kuti ndichite motero.
Chenjezo, komabe, ndilofunikira. Ndazindikira kuti nthawi zina ndimamvabe chikumbumtima ndikatha kuchita izi, ndipo ndimamva ngati mwanjira zina, zitha kungotulutsa zomwezo monga kuyang'ana zolaula - ndiye kuti zitha kukhala zosokoneza bongo. Mwamwayi sindikuganiza kuti imagwiritsa ntchito milingo yathu ya dopamine kapena chilichonse mwamphamvu ngati zolaula, koma imawatsata. Chifukwa chake khalani osamala ndi izi, ndipo mwina mutha kuyesetsa kuchepetsa kuchuluka kwa maliseche anu.
- 10. Pitani ndi kutumiza / kuwonetsa / r / zolaula monga momwe zingathere
Nthawi zambiri ndimawona zomwe anthu akulemba pano tsiku lililonse, kuwonetsetsa kuti ndikupereka ndemanga ndikukweza zolemba kuchokera kwa anthu atsopanoli mpaka pano. Ndikulimbikitsanso kutenga nawo mbali pamavuto amwezi uliwonse, pokumbukira kuti si masewera ongomenya, komanso sitimangoyang'ana "maulamuliro apamwamba", kapena kungotsata mbiri yathu. Kukhala opanda zolaula ndikutanthauza kukhala ndi moyo wosintha, kukhala munthu yemwe takhala tikufuna kukhala, koma osakhoza kuchita m'mbuyomu, chifukwa zolaula zimatibweza m'mbuyo. Tsopano popeza tonse tili pano ndipo tikufuna kusintha.
Maubwino omwe ndawona akugwira ntchito limodzi ndi upangiri wanga womwe ndakhala ndikupitako kuyambira Meyi. Sindikhala ndi nkhawa zambiri pakati pa anthu, ndimadzidalira, ndimadzikonda ndekha tsopano popeza ndikugwira ntchito yosintha moyo wanga kuti ukhale wabwino. Mutha kumva izi pafupipafupi, koma ndimawona ngati ndikumveka bwino pamaganizidwe anga, ngati utsi wachotsedwa m'mutu mwanga womwe umandilola kuti ndiwone mavuto omwe ndili nawo (onani mfundo 2), ndikutha kuyanjana ndi ena.
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