lolembedwa ndi Kristine Fellizar ( ulalo wa nkhani )
Sindikutsutsa zolaula mwanjira iliyonse. Ndipotu, ndili ndi makanema angapo osankhidwa omwe amaikidwa nthawi iliyonse ndikakumana ndi vuto. Koma chimodzi mwazinthu zomwe sindimakonda kwambiri ndi momwe zolaula zodziwika bwino zingakhudzire anthu - makamaka anyamata omwe ndidakumana nawo kale. Nkhani zanga zambiri zogonana zimakonda kukhala za anyamata omwe adatsimikiza zomwe akuyembekezera kuchokera ku chilichonse chomwe adawona mu zolaula zodziwika bwino. Mwachidule, nthawi zonse zinkandikhumudwitsa, ndipo monga momwe kafukufuku watsopano adapezera, mwina ngakhale kwa iwo.
Malinga ndi kafukufuku yemwe adaperekedwa pamsonkhano wapachaka wa American Urological Association, kuonera zolaula kwambiri kungayambitse mavuto pa moyo wanu wogonana , makamaka ngati ndinu mnyamata wachinyamata komanso wosadziwa zambiri zokhudza kugonana.
"Kuonera ndi kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula nthawi zambiri kumachitika munthu ali yekha," katswiri wodziwa za ukwati ndi mabanja komanso katswiri wodziwa za chiwerewere Jenner Bishop , LMFT, CSAT-S, akuuza Bustle. "Kugonana munthu ali yekha kuli ndi mtundu uwu wa njira yodabwitsa yolankhulirana. Kupanikizika kwa maliseche komwe mumakonda, liwiro la maliseche - zonse zomwe zimayesedwa ndi zomwe zidzamusangalatse munthuyo. Chifukwa chake mukaphatikiza zithunzi zamphamvu komanso zokopa zomwe zolaula zingapereke ndi njira yabwino kwambiri yolankhulirana, zimakhala zovuta kuti munthu wina weniweni, wamoyo, wathupi ndi magazi akukhudzeni momwe mukufunira kukhudzidwira."
Kafukufukuyu, womwe unasindikizidwa mu The Journal of Urology , unachitidwa ndi wofufuza wamkulu, Dr. Matthew Christman, katswiri wa urologist ku Naval Medical Center ku San Diego ndi anzake omwe adafufuza amuna 312 azaka zapakati pa 20 ndi 40. Onse omwe adachita nawo kafukufukuyu adapita ku chipatala cha urology ku San Diego kuti akalandire chithandizo. Ngakhale kuti kafukufukuyu adapeza kuti amuna atatu pa 100 aliwonse okha ndi omwe amati amakonda kuseweretsa maliseche kuposa kugonana kwenikweni, panali ubale wofunikira pakati pa chizolowezi cha zolaula ndi vuto la kugonana. Izi ndi zomwe kafukufukuyu adapeza:
Amuna Amene Amakonda Porn N'zotheka Kukhala Osakhutira ndi Moyo Wawo Wogonana
Izi sizosadabwitsa konse, koma amuna omwe adafunsidwa omwe amakonda kuseweretsa maliseche pazakugonana nthawi zambiri amakhala okhumudwitsa. Amuna achichepere, makamaka, anali ndi mwayi woti anene zakonda zolaula komanso kusakhutira ndi moyo wawo wogonana.
Chiwerengero cha Amuna Ndi Mavuto Okhudza Kugonana Akukwera Ndi Mtengo Wa Porn Amadya
Malinga ndi kafukufukuyo, pafupifupi anayi pa zana la amuna amati amawonera zolaula kuposa nthawi 11 pa sabata. Ngakhale atatu okha peresenti amati amakonda kugonana ndi kugonana, ambiri mwa iwo (pafupifupi 80 peresenti), amavomereza kuti ali ndi vuto la kugonana. Komabe, kuchuluka kwa kugonana kosagwira ntchito kunali kochepa kwambiri mwa amuna omwe anati amakonda kugonana popanda kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula.
Ngakhale olembawo akunena kuti kugonana kwa amuna achichepere kumakhala kochepa kwambiri, pakhala kuwonjezeka kwa milandu posachedwapa. Mwachibadwa, izi zinawachititsa kuganiza kuti zizoloŵezi zoonera zolaula zingakhale zofunika kwambiri chifukwa chake.
Kuonera Zolaula Kwambiri Kungakulitse Kulekerera Kwa Munthu
Chimodzi mwazifukwa zakuti kuonera zolaula kwambiri kumatha kuyambitsa mavuto ndi "kulolerana." Mofanana ndi mankhwala ena, owonera zolaula amatenga nthawi yayitali powaonera. Sizingatheke kuyankha zochitika zenizeni padziko lapansi chifukwa sizikugwirizana ndi ziyembekezo zomwe ali nazo, chifukwa chake ayenera kudalira zolaula kuti amasulidwe.
"Sizovuta konse kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula ngati njira yomwe timaphunzirira zakugonana komanso kugonana komanso kucheza ndi ena."
Monga momwe Shirani M. Pathak, katswiri wa zamaganizo komanso woyambitsa Relationship Center ku Silicon Valley akuuzira Bustle, izi zakhala zikuchitika. "Akazi ambiri amanena kuti sangathe kuletsa amuna awo, zomwe zimapangitsa akazi kudzimva osakwanira komanso amuna awo kudzimva okhumudwa, kapena amuna sangathe kukhala ndi chilakolako chogonana, zomwe zimapangitsa amuna kudzimva osakwanira komanso akazi kudzimva okhumudwa," akutero Pathak. "Sizothandiza kwenikweni pamene zolaula zimagwiritsidwa ntchito ngati njira yomwe timaphunzirira za kugonana ndi kugonana komanso kugwirizana ndi ena. Mwatsoka, chifukwa cha kuchuluka kwa anthu omwe ali ndi nthawi yathu ya digito, zikukhala zachilendo kwambiri."
Amayi Sakukhudzidwa Ndi Zithunzi Zolaula Monga Amuna
Kafukufuku wina omwe adawonekeranso adawoneka mwa amayi komanso momwe amaonera zolaula. Mosiyana ndi amuna, panalibe chiyanjano chofunika pakati pa kugwiritsira ntchito zolaula ndi kukanika kwa kugonana.
"Ndikukhulupirira kuti izi zimachitika chifukwa m'modzi, azimayi sawonetsedwa zolaula kuyambira ali mwana ngati amuna ndi awiri, chifukwa azimayi amakonda kudalira malingaliro ndi malingaliro kuti awathandize pogonana pomwe amuna amakonda kudalira zowonera komanso zithunzi, "adatero Pathak. "Tsoka ilo, amuna omwe ali ndi chidwi chofuna kuona ndi kulandira ndikumasulira kuti zomwe akazi amafuna ndizoyimira zolakwika zochokera kwa omwe ali mmenemo ndi cholinga chofuna kusangalatsa makampani akulu akulu achimuna."
Kotero ngati munayamba mwadzifunsapo ngati kuonera zolaula kwambiri kungakhudze moyo wanu wogonana, zikumveka ngati zingatheke. Ponseponse, kafukufukuyu ndi chikumbutso chabwino kuti zolaula zambiri zodziwika bwino sizili ngati kugonana m'moyo weniweni . Ngati mukuganiza choncho, mwina mungakhumudwe - ndipo zikuwoneka kuti moyo wanu wogonana ungakhumudwenso.