Kusokonezeka kwa erectile kopangidwa ndi zithunzi kukufala kwambiri
Katswiri wa za amuna akuti akuopa kuti kugwiritsa ntchito kwambiri zolaula pa intaneti kungachititse kuti mnyamata m'modzi mwa anyamata 10 aliwonse akhale ndi vuto la kugonana. Dr Andrew Smiler adati kupeza mosavuta zithunzi zolaula zosatha kumachititsa kuti anyamata athanzi akhale ndi vuto la kugonana. Iye anauza The Independent kuti: “Anyamata omwe ndimawaona, ambiri mwa iwo ali pakati pa zaka 13 ndi 25. Ambiri mwa iwo, makamaka, ali ndi thanzi labwino.
"Choncho ngati ndikuchita zolaula kamodzi patsiku kwa 15 maminiti koma ndikuchita zimenezi tsiku lililonse kwa zaka zisanu, ndikuyenda bwino kuti ndikhale katswiri wa zolaula."
Anachenjeza kuti chifukwa ambiri ogwiritsa ntchito olemetsa ali achinyamata, chizoloŵezi chimakula kwambiri.
"Ngati ndine 17 ndipo ndi 90% ya zochitika zanga zokhudzana ndi kugonana, ndiye kuti ndaika khama kwambiri kuzinthu zosiyanasiyana zamakono zokhudzana ndi kugonana koma ndaika nthawi yaying'ono kuti ndikuwonetsetse kugonana kwanga ndi munthu wina , kotero zimakhala zovuta kwambiri kuti udziwitse kwa munthu wina ndipo mumadzipeza kuti muli njira ina yomwe nthawi zambiri imakhala yosiyana kwambiri ndi kugonana ndi munthu. "
Kafukufuku wa mu 2014 adapeza kuti amuna atatu mwa atatu amaonera zolaula tsiku lililonse, ndipo popeza kuti kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kwakhala kukuchulukirachulukira m'zaka zingapo zapitazi - makamaka chifukwa cha kubwera kwa mafoni a m'manja ndi kulumikizana kwa data mwachangu kwambiri - mwina chiwerengerocho tsopano chakwera kwambiri.
Dr Angela Gregory, wothandizira kugonana pa chipatala cha Nottingham University, adati: "Amuna akuyamba kukhala okhudzana ndi kugonana komanso kukondana ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi."
Kwa amuna ena, amayamba kugonana ndikugonana nthawi zonse. "Ziri ngati zipsinjo zomwe sangathe kuzilemba ndipo nthawi zonse amakhala m'malingaliro awo," adatero Gregory.
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Ngakhale kuti anthu ambiri amagwiritsa ntchito zolaula, pakadali pano palibe amene wapezeka kuti ali ndi vuto la "chizolowezi chogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha" kotero Dr Smiler, wolemba buku lakuti Dating and Sex: A Guide for the 21st Century Teen Boy , sakonda kugwiritsa ntchito mawuwa. Gregory, kumbali ina, amakhulupirira kuti amuna ena amakhala ndi zizolowezi zenizeni zogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.
Nthawi zambiri amawona anyamata omwe ali ndi mavuto okhwima koma nthawi zambiri sagwirizana ndi zolaula monga zimaonedwa kuti ndi zachilendo kuwonerera.
Mwamwayi, vuto lopweteka la erectile limakhala losavuta, mosavuta ngati muli mnyamata wathanzi: "Ngati mungathe kuimitsa [maliseche], mukhoza kubwezeretsa dongosolo lanu kuti likhale labwino," akutero Gregory.
Amalimbikitsa kuyenda kozizira masiku 90 - amuna ena zimawavuta, ena zimawavuta. Ndipo Dr Smiler akuwonetsa kuti muyenera kubwezeretsanso thupi lanu ndi malingaliro anu, chifukwa chake amalankhula ndi makasitomala ake ambiri pazomwe zimawoneka bwino.
Ngakhale kupweteka kwa erectile kupweteka ndi vuto lalikulu kwa amuna omwe amadzionetsera maliseche nthawi zonse, amangowonongeka akuwonetsanso kugonana m'malingaliro awo.
"Pa zolaula, kugonana nthawi zonse kumachitika mosavuta, aliyense amakhala ndi nthawi yabwino ndipo palibe amene amakana kapena kunena kuti" Sindikufuna kutero ", adatero Dr Smiler.
“Koma kunena zoona, sikuti nthawi zonse anthu amakhala ndi nkhawa. Nthawi zina mumatha kugwa mukamavula mathalauza ndipo ndizoseketsa. Koma palibe zomwe zimachitika pazenera ndipo anyamata amayembekezera kuti zonse zikhale zosavuta ndipo sakudziwa choti achite, "adalongosola.
Palinso vuto la anthu ambiri omwe samawoneka ngati nyenyezi zolaula. Dr Smiler, yemwe amagwira ntchito kwambiri ndi anyamata akuluakulu a 13-25 ndipo analemba buku pa masculinity, amakhulupirira kuti zithunzi zolaula "zimasintha malingaliro ndi ziyembekezo za yemwe ali wokongola," kutanthauza kuti amuna ambiri amapeza kuti akukonda kwambiri.
Gregory amakhulupirira kuti ngati zolaula zimakhala zovuta, zowoneka bwino komanso zodziwika, amuna ambiri adzakumana ndi mavuto a chiyanjano ndi kugonana.
Kodi pali zolaula zomwe munthu angathe kuziwona? Zimadalira munthuyo, koma Dr Smiler amakhulupirira kuti munthu akhoza kuseweretsa zolaula kamodzi katatu patsiku ndipo "sichidzakhalanso ndi zotsatirapo pa moyo wake wa kugonana kusiyana ndi zaka za 50 zapitazo pamene anyamata akulakwitsa pojambula zithunzi -wasungwana. "
Koma mukadzipeza mukuseweretsa maliseche tsiku lililonse - ndipo ndiyo njira yokhayo yomwe mumaseweretsa maliseche - ndipamene mukupita pamavuto.
ndi Rachel Hosie