LINKANI KU ARTICLE April 27, 2016 ndi Dr. Barbara Winter
Dokotala Barbara Winter akuti achinyamata omwe amagwiritsidwa ntchito pa zolaula angayambe kukondana ndi mavuto awo.
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Masiku awiri apitawa mwana wanga wamwamuna wazaka 18 wazaka zakubadwa adabwera kwa ine ndikufunsa… "amayi, bwanji mukuyang'ana kwambiri zolaula ,?" momwe amandimvera nthawi zambiri ndikulankhula za zabwino, zoyipa komanso zoyipa komanso chikhalidwe chathu chokhudzidwa ndi kugonana kwadijito, kutengeka kwanga ndi vuto la oculus ngakhale. Zambiri mwa izi zakhala zikuchitika posachedwa. Tsiku lotsatira m'kalasi yake yamwala wamtengo wapatali, adadabwa (kapena ayi) kulandira kuchokera kwa ine chithunzi cha chikuto cha masiku a nkhono Time mutu wakuti "PORN, ... ndi kuopseza."
Kodi akudabwa ngati ndikudya? Mwina. Chabwino, ndikuchita pafupifupi nthawi zonse-ku ofesi yanga.
| Monga zolekerera zimapita, izi zingakhale zofulumira komanso zokwiya. Zolaula zikufalikira-sizidziwika, zotsika mtengo (zosavuta nthawi zambiri) ndipo, zogwirizana kwambiri, zowonjezeka. |
Kwa kanthawi tsopano, ndawona ndikufika ku ofesi yanga gulu la amuna, amuna achikulire, omwe kugonana kwawo kuli kochepa. Izi zikutanthauza kuti penise yawo siigwira ntchito momwe iwo amafunira pamene ali ndi anthu enieni. Ndipo ngakhale anyamata achikulire angapereke kuchipatala movutikira m'chipinda chogona chifukwa cha nkhawa za anthu, mankhwala osokoneza bongo, Asperger ndi zina za chiyanjano, chiwerengero chikuwonjezeka ndipo zolaula nthawi zambiri zimakhala zoyipa.
Kulephera kupeza kapena kusunga erection ndi munthu weniweni kumaonekera mu ofesi ya opatsirana pogonana. Nthenda ya erectile-yochitidwa ndi PIED-yojambula-monga momwe yatchulidwira, yakhala yina khalidwe loledzera or kusokoneza bongo. Izo zikuwonetseredwa mmbuyo mwanga.
Nthawi zambiri zipangizo zamakono zimaweruzidwa kuti tibwezeretse ubongo wathu ndikusokoneza maubwenzi athu. Tsopano zikuwoneka kuti kukonda kwathu ndi digito ndikumakhudza momwe timagwirira ntchito m'chipinda chogona. Ndipo ngakhale kuti vutoli laperekedwa kwa kanthawi tsopano, manambala akuwoneka akukula.
Mwakutanthawuza, kuledzera kumaphatikizapo zinthu ziwiri-kulekerera ndi kusiya. Kulolerana kumatanthauza lingaliro loti timafunikira kuchuluka kwa zinthuzo kuti tikwaniritse zomwezo. Kuchotsa kumatanthauza kuti ndikuchotsa mankhwalawo timakhala ndi zofooka zina mpaka titafika poyambira. Zonsezi zimakhudzana ndi kudalira thupi. Kuzoloŵera-kwachilendo, kudabwitsidwa, ndi nkhawa, kumakweza ubongo wa ubongo-ndipo njira zathu zosangalatsa komanso zopindulitsa zimatha kupezeka kulikonse, nthawi iliyonse. Njirayi yafanizidwa ndi kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo monga cocaine. Zolaula ndi mankhwala osokoneza bongo ndipo kuyenda kuchokera pawindo limodzi kupita kwina ndi gawo lowopsa chifukwa kumakulitsa kuthekera kolimbikitsana kwambiri komanso kovuta kusintha mawonekedwe. Sizomwe zimachitika m'zipinda zenizeni zogona ndi anthu enieni.
| Asanayambe anyamatawa ali ndi mwayi weniweni paubwenzi wawo pa Intaneti ndipo ena a iwo akhala ovuta kugwira ntchito mosayenera. |
Monga zolekerera zimapita, izi zingakhale zofulumira komanso zokwiya. Zolaula zikufalikira-sizidziwika, zotsika mtengo (zosavuta nthawi zambiri) ndipo, zogwirizana kwambiri, zowonjezeka. Belinda Luscombe, mlembi wa Nthawi ziŵerengero ziŵiri zomwe zimaonetsa zolaula koyambirira; iye anati maphunziro awiri osiyana adapeza zaka zambiri kuti akhale 12 ndi 13.
Tawona kuchuluka kwa anthu komanso anthu omwe ayamba kutsutsa zolaula. Aphunzitsi a Gary Wilson, a anatomy ndi physiology, (yamachikimachi.com) Ted-X Lankhulani mu 2012 The Great Porn Experiment lero ali ndi maonedwe oposa sikisi miliyoni. Zotsatira zake zokhuza zolaula zimayambitsa kudzipatula ndipo, monga Time mfundo zazikuluzikulu, zimanyengerera "achinyamata". Gabe Deem, 28, ndiye amene anayambitsa Reboot Nation. Atakhala chidakwa ndi zolaula pa intaneti akuphunzitsa amuna momwe angabwezeretu ubongo wawo. Iye akudziwa bwino kufunika kofulumira ndipo akulankhula kuti ali ngati zombie pamene anapita ku ozizira ozizira, chinthu chofunika kwambiri kuti asinthe makhalidwe ndi zamoyo zonse, (chikhalidwe chomwe chimabwera chifukwa cha matenda oyamba Ngakhale kuti ndondomekoyi ingakhale yoonekera (tilibe kafukufuku monga momwe zilili) anyamata akufunikira thandizo poyenda mmenemo komanso manyazi komanso zosayenera.
Kuledzera kwauchidakwa si chizoloŵezi chogonana kwa anyamatawa ndipo pamene magulu ena otchulidwa kale angakhale pachiopsezo chachikulu kuti chiwongoladzanja chikhale chosavuta kwa ena. Pali kukayikira komanso umboni wosonyeza kuti anthu achikulire amachira mofulumira kusiyana ndi amuna awa chifukwa amadziwa kuti kugonana ndi munthu weniweni amawoneka bwanji. Nthawi zambiri amatha kubwerera msanga mofulumira chifukwa ali ndi imodzi.
Asanayambe anyamatawa ali ndi mwayi weniweni paubwenzi wawo pa Intaneti ndipo ena a iwo akhala ovuta kugwira ntchito mosayenera. Chochitika ichi sichiwapatsa mpata wodziwa ngati ali okhoza kukhala ndi chiyanjano choyanjana chomwe sichichitika kawirikawiri pachiyambi chogonana. Kulephera, kukanidwa, ndi zovuta komanso zambiri mwazochitikira zoyambirirazi pamene zochitikazo ndizolakwika. Ayenera kuphunzira momwe angagwirire ndi kugonana popanda malingaliro komanso kuti azigwirizana kwambiri ndi wokondedwa wawo. Ayenera kuphunzira momwe angakhalire ndi ubale wabwino ndi matupi awo ndi kugonana, osati choncho, zolaula. Kugonana nthawi zambiri kumakhala ndi malingaliro; zolaula ndi mankhwala osokoneza bongo ndipo ngakhale kuti tsopano akusunthira malingaliro awo ndiye kuti ali kwinakwake.
Misonkho ya Epulo 23 ya Vanity Fair, Prince akuti akuti "" Ndikuganiza kuti panali njira ina yoti andiyambitsire zolemera komanso mwachangu. Ndinapatsidwa magazini ya Playboy, ndipo panali mabuku okonda zolaula ali paliponse. Idatengedwa mosavuta. Zinali zolemetsa kwambiri panthawiyo. Ndikuganiza kuti zidakhudza kwambiri kugonana kwanga. ”
Ndani akudziwa bwino zomwe mwana wanga anali kuchita panthawiyi nditamutumizira chikuto pakati pa tsiku la sukulu. Tikudziwa kuti zaka zikwizikwi zimalumikizidwa 24/7; log-on ikufanana ndi kuyatsa. Pomwe atsikanawo mwina anali pa Instagram, mwina anali kuyang'ana momwe amakondera (mpira ndiye) kapena kutumiza Snapchat. Ndikuyembekeza kuti ngakhale iye, kapena onse omwe anali nawo m'kalasi mwake, sanali kuonera zolaula.
- Onani zambiri pa: http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/how-porn-is-hijacking-the-sex-lives-of-our-young-men-bbab/#comment-2358711
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