Anthu ena sakhulupirira zolaula, koma ndawonapo zotsatira zake poyamba.
Ndi Angela Gregory pa Ogasiti 19, 2016 ( ulalo wa nkhani yoyambirira )
Pali kuwonjezeka kwa amuna (ndipo nthawizina akazi) omwe amazindikira kuti kugwiritsidwa ntchito kwao pa intaneti sikungatheke, akuti NHS wogonana komanso wogwirizana ndi matenda a maganizo a Angela Gregory
Zaka zapitazi za 16 ndakhala ndikugwira ntchito nthawi zonse monga chibwenzi cha NHS ndi kugonana, ndikuchiza amuna ndi akazi ndi mavuto osiyanasiyana. Mavuto a kugonana angakhale ndi maphunziro azachipatala kapena a maganizo kapena osakaniza onse awiri.
Mu kliniki yathu timawona akuluakulu a zaka 18 patsogolo.
Kusokonezeka kwa Erectile nthawi zambiri kumagwirizanitsidwa ndi matenda a cardio, matenda a shuga, opaleshoni ya prostate, kuvulala kwa msana ndi multiple sclerosis. Komabe zaka zoposa zisanu zapitazi pakhala kuwonjezeka kwa anyamata akutumizidwa ku chipatala chathu cha NHS ndi kutsegula kwa erectile ndi kuchepetsa / kulepheretsa kukwera, ndipo posakhalitsa ndinazindikira kuti chizoloŵezi chawo chogonana pamodzi ndi ntchito zawo zolaula pa Intaneti chinali chinthu chofunika kwambiri kuti azigonana zovuta.
Ndizodabwitsanso kuti pali kuwonjezeka kwa amuna (ndipo nthawi zina azimayi) omwe amazindikira kuti kugwiritsa ntchito intaneti kogonana "sikunalamuliridwe", kuwononga maubwenzi awo, makamaka, kulanda miyoyo yawo.
Zaka 10 zapitazi zawona kusintha kwa digito komwe kwathandizira kulumikizana kwachangu; Chikhalidwe chakumadzulo chikuwumbidwa kwambiri ndi intaneti, mafoni anzeru komanso zoulutsira mawu. Pogwiritsa ntchito intaneti zolaula komanso zolaula zimapezeka komanso osadziwika; zakhazikitsa chikhalidwe chomwe chimaphunzitsa achinyamata za zomwe zili "zabwinobwino". Masiku apitawo pomwe kuwonekera kwathu pachinthu china chovala chovala chovala chovala chamkati cha agogo anu a Littlewoods kapena tsamba lofalikira la magazini achikulire monga Playboy ndi Penthouse.
Kodi chimachitika ndi chiyani ubongo waunyamata ukakumana ndi zolaula zothamanga kwambiri? Titha kungolingalira za zotsatira zamtsogolo, koma chomwe tikudziwa ndikuti monga anthu tonsefe titha kudzimva kuti ndife osakwanira, pamlingo winawake sitimafanizira poyerekeza ndi ena. Koma achichepere ali pachiwopsezo chachikulu ndipo amakhala pa intaneti amatha kuwona kaleidoscope yazithunzi zogonana komanso machitidwe amtundu wa Olimpiki kuti adzifanizire ndi iwo, kungodina kamodzi.
Kugonana kogonana kumayenderana ndi magwiridwe antchito, pakulowera kwa malo aliwonse okhala ndi chitsimikizo chotsimikizika nthawi zonse. Zomwe sizikukhudzana ndi chikondi, kunyoza, kukonda, kukondana kapena kutengeka. Uthengawu ndiwowonekera bwino, wolimba, wofulumira kulowa ngati kugonana kwakukulu ndipo "kulephera" kulikonse komwe mungakwaniritse kumatha kutumizidwa nthawi yomweyo pamalo ochezera a pa Intaneti.
Ena amakumana ndi mavuto okhudzana ndi kugonana komanso kutopa chifukwa cha nkhawa yokhudza momwe amagwirira ntchito kapena chifukwa cha kutopa maganizo ndi thupi chifukwa cha kudziseweretsa maliseche pafupipafupi. Malinga ndi webusaiti ya www.yourbrainonporn.org, mnyamata amakhala wamng'ono akayamba kuonera zolaula, nthawi zambiri zimatenga nthawi kuti asinthe mphamvu ya chilakolako chofuna kugonana. Kunena zoona, ayenera kuphunzira kupeza chibwenzi chawo kapena chibwenzi chawo chomwe chingakhale chokongola kapena chenicheni, chomwe chingakhale chosangalatsa.
Werengani zambiri: Yesani kusiya zolaula - zasintha moyo wanga
M'munda wa sexology / mankhwala ogonana pamakhala kutsutsana kambiri zakukhalapo ndi kagwiritsidwe ntchito ka mawu oti "chizolowezi chogonana". Zaka zambiri zapitazo panali nyuzipepala yonena za wochita sewero waku Hollywood A yemwe amafuna thandizo la "chizolowezi chogonana", ndipo ndikukumbukira ndikuganiza kuti zidamveka ngati chowiringula chifukwa cha kusakhulupirika kwake. Komabe, pazaka zingapo zapitazi ndadziwonera ndikuwonongeka komwe zochitika zolaula pa intaneti / zolaula zitha kukhala nazo kwa achinyamata komanso kuthekera kwawo kupanga ndikusungabe ubale wokondana komanso wokondana nthawi zonse. Ndipo osalakwitsa, okalamba nawonso ali pachiwopsezo chazithunzi komanso zapaintaneti.
Pansipa pali chitsanzo cha mwamuna wazaka 19 yemwe amamva kuti moyo wake umayang'ana poonera zolaula ndi zipinda zogonana.
- Amamva kuti mavuto ake adayamba pamene ali ndi zaka za 13 adayambanso kufotokozera zithunzi zojambulidwa pa Intaneti ndi anzake a kusukulu.
- Pogwiritsa ntchito foni yake pakalipano iye amadzikweza kasanu patsiku, m'chipinda chake, kuntchito komanso nthawi zina m'malo amodzi.
- Iye wakhala ndi chibwenzi chimodzi chogonana koma izi zinatha pamene anapeza kuti anali ndi chiwerewere chochuluka ndi anzake omwe adakumana nawo pa intaneti.
- Iye wayambanso kuona ma escorts.
- Sakonda kucheza ndi anzawo ndipo amadzimva kuti ali kutali ndi moyo "wabwinobwino".
- Waswa mafoni awiri anzeru poyesa kuletsa koma izi sizinathandize.
- Akuwona kuti moyo wake suyenera kukhala nawo ndipo sakudziwa choti achite.
Werengani zambiri: Ponena za kugonana mkamwa, kukhala mkazi n'koipa
Mwatsoka kwa anthu ambiri omwe ali mu mkhalidwe uwu, thandizo la NHS silikupezeka mokwanira kotero ambiri amapita ku ma forum apaintaneti kuti akapeze thandizo monga www.yourbrainonporncom ndi www.nofap.com . Akatswiri azachipatala achinsinsi amatha kupezeka kudzera ku College of Sexual & Relationship Therapists (COSRT) ndi mabungwe monga Relate. Chothandizanso ndi Understanding and Treating Sex Addiction lolembedwa ndi Paula Hall.
Makolo, kuletsa malo oonera zolaula ndizosankha koma zowawa zolaula pa Intaneti ndizomwe zili pamphepete mwa nyanja. Twitter, Snapchat, ndi malo oyankhulana nawo amasonyezeranso achinyamata ku zithunzi zachiwerewere, kukambirana momveka bwino ndi mavidiyo. Chodetsa nkhaŵa ndi chakuti ana ndi achinyamata akudzipereka okha mafano osayenera pa intaneti.
Mu 2012, bungwe la Child Exploitation & Online Protection Centre (CEOP) linapeza kuti zithunzi zambiri za ana zomwe zimapangidwa ndi kugonana zimayikidwa pa intaneti ndi ana ndi achinyamata okha popanda kukakamizidwa ndi anthu akunja.
Malo ochezera a pa intaneti komanso kukakamizidwa ndi anzawo ndi zida zamphamvu komanso zokopa ndipo sangafunsidwe kawirikawiri ndi aphunzitsi amanyazi omwe amawaphunzitsa zakugonana. Monga achikulire, gawo loyamba polimbana ndikutsutsa mphamvu zapaintaneti komanso malo ochezera a pa TV ndikuyenera kudziwa zomwe zimapezeka pa intaneti ndikupanga zokambirana momasuka komanso mosapita m'mbali.
Angela Gregory ndi Mtsogoleri wa Psychosexual Therapy ku Chandos Clinic, ntchito yothandizira kugonana kwa amuna ndi akazi omwe ali ku Nottingham University Hospital Trust. Panopa ndi mlembi wa British Society of Sexual Medicine.