Lachiwiri, January 17, 2017. Lumikizani ku nkhani
Amuna aang'ono ngati 20 ali ndi vuto la erectile, lotayidwa chifukwa chogwiritsa ntchito zolaula, zomwe zimatha kukhala chizolowezi, atero a Gwen Loughman
Mdima wa intaneti ndi zolaula. "Zithunzi zolaula zakhala mliri waukulu pakati pathu," akutero Nuala Deering, ubale ndi wodwala kugonana ndi Relationships Ireland. "Ife sitikulimbana nazo momwe ife tiyenera. Izo sizolandizidwa ndipo zimapezeka kwaulere kwa aliyense wa zaka zomwe ali ndi mwayi wa intaneti. Sitingathe kuchepetsa zolaula, koma tikhoza kuphunzitsa komanso kuthandiza mabanja kukonzekeretsa ana awo kuti athetse mavuto omwe sanachitikepo. "
Kuzoloŵera kugonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kumatchulidwa kuti ndi tsunami yotsatila. Amuna omwe ali ndi zaka zoposa makumi khumi ndi ziwiri (20) ali ndi zaka khumi ndi zisanu (18) akumbukira kuti, ngati alipo, mwana wophimba pulasitiki amagwiritsa ntchito mapepala apamwamba. Dziko losautsa likuthamangako pang'ono ndi kukhudza kwa batani.
Amuna awa akupereka ndi zomwe poyamba adakumana ndi vuto lachikulire: kutayika kwa erectile. Awa ndi anyamata okhwima, opanda vuto lachipatala, koma kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula, zomwe nthawi zina zimakhala zoledzeretsa, zimakhala zolepheretsa kugonana kwawo.
Dr June Clyne, wogonana ndi chiwerewere komanso wogonana (www.sextherapyireland.com), akuwona chiwerengero chowonjezeka cha amuna mwa iye omwe akufotokoza zovuta kupeza, ndi kusunga, kukonzekera, pamene akugwirizana ndi anzawo.
"Amuna awo a 20s, 30s, 40s, ndi zina zotero, amapezeka ndi mavuto mu erectile ntchito. Kwa ena, iwo alibe vuto lokhazikitsa, koma amakhala ndi vuto ndi kusunga limodzi. "
Dr Clyne akuti mabwenzi ambiri atha chifukwa cha zolaula. "Kuonera zolaula pa intaneti kumawoneka kukhala kovomerezeka, choncho, mwina, ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zifukwa zomwe anthu amachedwetsa kugonana ndi zolaula zawo. Ndipotu, 'sikuti aliyense akuyang'ana'? "Amati zithunzi zolaula zimapereka chisangalalo cha kanthaŵi kochepa, koma zimabweretsa mavuto a nthawi yayitali, kuphatikizapo kuwonongeka kwa erectile, zomwe zingagwiritse ntchito ntchito yoyamba ya Viagra.
Nuala Deering akuti amuna a 19 ndi 20 omwe akukumana ndi mavuto a erectile nthawi zambiri amadziwa kuti kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kumawasokoneza ndipo ambiri a iwo amafuna Viagra. "Iwo, poyamba, amapeza mankhwala kuchokera kwa GP wawo, koma nthawi zambiri amapeza pa intaneti, zomwe sizili bwino. Kusokonezeka kwa Erectile kumakhala kovuta kwambiri panthaŵi yaying'ono ndipo Viagra imawoneka ngati kukonzekera mwamsanga ndi kudalira kanthawi kochepa. Komabe, kugonjera kwa nthawi yaitali pa Viagra sikokhazikika ndipo ndibwino kuti athandize akatswiri kuti athetse vuto lililonse. "
Dr Clyne akuvomereza. "Tiyenera kuyang'ana zifukwa zomwe anthu akuonera zolaula. Kodi ndikumva chisoni, kudzichepetsa, kupezeka mosavuta / kupezeka, kuthetsa maganizo? Kodi ndizoti takhala tikugwiritsidwa ntchito kwambiri kuti tigwirizane ndi zojambulazo, kotero kuti ndife osungulumwa, kuti sitikudziwa bwanji, kapena kuti, kuti, tikamayandikira munthu weniweni? Ndipo kwa iwo omwe kale ali mu ubale, kuchotsa? Nkhani yabwino ndi yakuti kafukufuku akuwonetsa ma dopamine mu ubongo amatha kubwerera ku miyezo yochepa mu miyezi itatu, atasiya kuonera zolaula pa intaneti. Ndikuganiza kuti ngati wina akuvutika kusiya khalidwe loonera zolaula, amafufuza thandizo la akatswiri kuchokera kwa munthu wodziwa bwino dera lino. "
Kodi zithunzi zolaula zingakhale zophunzitsira achinyamata?
June Clyne sakuganiza choncho. "Zoonadi, izi si maphunziro omwe amafunikira. Palinso malo ena ophunzitsa zachiwerewere omwe sali zolaula. Ine sindiri 'wotsutsa' zolaula, koma pamene ndikuwona zambiri za kuwonongeka komwe kumandichititsa kumandifunsa mafunso ngati kulibe phindu lililonse, kunja kwa ndalama za nambala yosankhidwa. "
Nuala Deering akuti: "Ndi achinyamata, malemba awo okhudzana ndi kugonana, chisangalalo, ndi chiyanjano chotani chikukambidwa ali aang'ono. Izi n'zovuta kusintha. Popanda kudziwa zambiri zokhudza anthu kuti azitha kugonana, achinyamata angakhumudwe mwakachetechete mu zovuta zogonana, mavuto a ubale, ndi chizolowezi chogonana. "
Kodi timaphunzitsa motani achinyamata athu za kuonongeka kwa zolaula komanso zomwe zingatheke?
Deirdre Seery, Mkulu wa bungwe la The Sexual Health Center, Peters Street, Cork, akunena kuti chipatala chawo chimapereka mwayi wophunzitsa achinyamata kugonana. Iwo akhoza kufunsa mafunso ndipo amawayankha iwo ndi akatswiri. Iye akuti kulankhula ndi achinyamata achinyamata si sayansi ya rocket. "Iwo ali ndi chikhumbo chachibadwa chokhudza kugonana ndipo ambiri a 13- ndi a zaka za 14 amagwiritsa ntchito intaneti kukhala opanda chiyero chonse."
Ichi ndichifukwa chake makolo ayenera kukambirana ndi achinyamata awo za kugonana.
Achinyamata amavutika kwambiri kuposa ana. Sizingatheke kutsogolera zochitika zawo zonse, motero iwo amatha kuona zolaula. Mnyamata wachikulire ayenera kumva, ndikudziwa, za mdima wambiri wolaula. Kodi kholo lingapereke motani chidziwitso ichi m'njira yopindulitsa?
Kodi makolo angakwanitse kuchita chiyani pamene zinthu zonse zikulephera ndipo achinyamata awo akupitirizabe kugwiritsira ntchito, ndikusangalatsidwa ndi zolaula?
Catherine Hallissey, maphunziro ndi katswiri wamaganizo a ana, akuti ngati achinyamata akufunitsitsa kuona zolaula, adzapeza njira. Akuti ndi ntchito yaikulu komanso kuti, ngakhale malire ake, makolo sangathe kugwiritsira ntchito zomwe zingaoneke kunja kwa nyumba. Wapereka ndondomeko yothandizira makolo komanso achinyamata.
1. Kugonana ndi kugonana sizongokhala nthawi imodzi. Khalani otseguka, ndipo yambani kukambirana mofulumira, ndi 'nthawi yochepa' kawirikawiri, osati chigumula cha chidziwitso mu gawo limodzi ndi m'tsogolo.
2. Ndi nzeru kukhala ndi malire. Komabe, cholinga chachikulu chiyenera kukhala kumanga ubale wanu ndi mwana wanu, choncho ali ndi luso komanso maganizo okhudzana ndi kugonana pamene akukula.
3. Kumbukirani, chilakolako chogonana ndi chachilendo komanso chamoyo chabwino komanso zolaula ndi chimodzi, ngakhale chovuta, njira yokwaniritsira chidwicho. Achinyamata nthawi zambiri amakhumudwa ndi zomwe akumana nazo. Izi zikachitika, mumafuna kuti azimva kuti angabwere kwa inu.
4. Zokambirana zanu siziyenera kuganizira za 'zolaula zoipa'. Fufuzani zomwe mwana wanu amaganiza komanso kumverera za zolaula. Adziwitseni zoopsa mwa njira yopanda chiweruzo.
5. Mukakambirana za nkhaniyi, gwiritsani ntchito bata, osalowerera. Palibe maphunziro, palibe mlandu, palibe manyazi. Musagwirizane ndi zolimbana ndi mphamvu. Gwiritsani ntchito nkhani yanu pasadakhale! Yesetsani kuti musayang'ane konse. Izi zidzakuthandizani kuti mwana wanu apitirize kulankhula nanu.
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