Lachiwiri, Januwale 17, 2017. Ulalo wa nkhani
Amuna aang'ono ngati 20 ali ndi vuto la erectile, lotayidwa chifukwa chogwiritsa ntchito zolaula, zomwe zimatha kukhala chizolowezi, atero a Gwen Loughman
Mdima wa intaneti ndi zolaula. "Zithunzi zolaula zakhala mliri waukulu pakati pathu," akutero Nuala Deering, ubale ndi wodwala kugonana ndi Relationships Ireland. "Ife sitikulimbana nazo momwe ife tiyenera. Izo sizolandizidwa ndipo zimapezeka kwaulere kwa aliyense wa zaka zomwe ali ndi mwayi wa intaneti. Sitingathe kuchepetsa zolaula, koma tikhoza kuphunzitsa komanso kuthandiza mabanja kukonzekeretsa ana awo kuti athetse mavuto omwe sanachitikepo. "
Kuzoloŵera kugonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kumatchulidwa kuti ndi tsunami yotsatila. Amuna omwe ali ndi zaka zoposa makumi khumi ndi ziwiri (20) ali ndi zaka khumi ndi zisanu (18) akumbukira kuti, ngati alipo, mwana wophimba pulasitiki amagwiritsa ntchito mapepala apamwamba. Dziko losautsa likuthamangako pang'ono ndi kukhudza kwa batani.
Amuna awa akupereka ndi zomwe poyamba adakumana ndi vuto lachikulire: kutayika kwa erectile. Awa ndi anyamata okhwima, opanda vuto lachipatala, koma kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula, zomwe nthawi zina zimakhala zoledzeretsa, zimakhala zolepheretsa kugonana kwawo.
Dokotala June Clyne, katswiri wothandiza anthu ogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi anzawo ( www.sextherapyireland.com ), akuona amuna ambiri omwe amagwira ntchito m'chipatala chake akunena kuti akuvutika kupeza, ndi kusunga, kugonana, akamagonana ndi akazi awo.
"Amuna awo a 20s, 30s, 40s, ndi zina zotero, amapezeka ndi mavuto mu erectile ntchito. Kwa ena, iwo alibe vuto lokhazikitsa, koma amakhala ndi vuto ndi kusunga limodzi. "
Dr Clyne akuti mabwenzi ambiri atha chifukwa cha zolaula. "Kuonera zolaula pa intaneti kumawoneka kukhala kovomerezeka, choncho, mwina, ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zifukwa zomwe anthu amachedwetsa kugonana ndi zolaula zawo. Ndipotu, 'sikuti aliyense akuyang'ana'? "Amati zithunzi zolaula zimapereka chisangalalo cha kanthaŵi kochepa, koma zimabweretsa mavuto a nthawi yayitali, kuphatikizapo kuwonongeka kwa erectile, zomwe zingagwiritse ntchito ntchito yoyamba ya Viagra.
Nuala Deering akuti amuna a 19 ndi 20 omwe akukumana ndi mavuto a erectile nthawi zambiri amadziwa kuti kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kumawasokoneza ndipo ambiri a iwo amafuna Viagra. "Iwo, poyamba, amapeza mankhwala kuchokera kwa GP wawo, koma nthawi zambiri amapeza pa intaneti, zomwe sizili bwino. Kusokonezeka kwa Erectile kumakhala kovuta kwambiri panthaŵi yaying'ono ndipo Viagra imawoneka ngati kukonzekera mwamsanga ndi kudalira kanthawi kochepa. Komabe, kugonjera kwa nthawi yaitali pa Viagra sikokhazikika ndipo ndibwino kuti athandize akatswiri kuti athetse vuto lililonse. "
Dr Clyne akuvomereza. "Tiyenera kuyang'ana zifukwa zomwe anthu akuonera zolaula. Kodi ndikumva chisoni, kudzichepetsa, kupezeka mosavuta / kupezeka, kuthetsa maganizo? Kodi ndizoti takhala tikugwiritsidwa ntchito kwambiri kuti tigwirizane ndi zojambulazo, kotero kuti ndife osungulumwa, kuti sitikudziwa bwanji, kapena kuti, kuti, tikamayandikira munthu weniweni? Ndipo kwa iwo omwe kale ali mu ubale, kuchotsa? Nkhani yabwino ndi yakuti kafukufuku akuwonetsa ma dopamine mu ubongo amatha kubwerera ku miyezo yochepa mu miyezi itatu, atasiya kuonera zolaula pa intaneti. Ndikuganiza kuti ngati wina akuvutika kusiya khalidwe loonera zolaula, amafufuza thandizo la akatswiri kuchokera kwa munthu wodziwa bwino dera lino. "
Kodi zithunzi zolaula zingakhale zophunzitsira achinyamata?
June Clyne sakuganiza choncho. "Zoonadi, izi si maphunziro omwe amafunikira. Palinso malo ena ophunzitsa zachiwerewere omwe sali zolaula. Ine sindiri 'wotsutsa' zolaula, koma pamene ndikuwona zambiri za kuwonongeka komwe kumandichititsa kumandifunsa mafunso ngati kulibe phindu lililonse, kunja kwa ndalama za nambala yosankhidwa. "
Nuala Deering akuti: "Ndi achinyamata, malemba awo okhudzana ndi kugonana, chisangalalo, ndi chiyanjano chotani chikukambidwa ali aang'ono. Izi n'zovuta kusintha. Popanda kudziwa zambiri zokhudza anthu kuti azitha kugonana, achinyamata angakhumudwe mwakachetechete mu zovuta zogonana, mavuto a ubale, ndi chizolowezi chogonana. "
Kodi timaphunzitsa motani achinyamata athu za kuonongeka kwa zolaula komanso zomwe zingatheke?
Deirdre Seery, Mkulu wa bungwe la The Sexual Health Center, Peters Street, Cork, akunena kuti chipatala chawo chimapereka mwayi wophunzitsa achinyamata kugonana. Iwo akhoza kufunsa mafunso ndipo amawayankha iwo ndi akatswiri. Iye akuti kulankhula ndi achinyamata achinyamata si sayansi ya rocket. "Iwo ali ndi chikhumbo chachibadwa chokhudza kugonana ndipo ambiri a 13- ndi a zaka za 14 amagwiritsa ntchito intaneti kukhala opanda chiyero chonse."
Ichi ndichifukwa chake makolo ayenera kukambirana ndi achinyamata awo za kugonana.
Achinyamata amavutika kwambiri kuposa ana. Sizingatheke kutsogolera zochitika zawo zonse, motero iwo amatha kuona zolaula. Mnyamata wachikulire ayenera kumva, ndikudziwa, za mdima wambiri wolaula. Kodi kholo lingapereke motani chidziwitso ichi m'njira yopindulitsa?
Kodi makolo angakwanitse kuchita chiyani pamene zinthu zonse zikulephera ndipo achinyamata awo akupitirizabe kugwiritsira ntchito, ndikusangalatsidwa ndi zolaula?
Catherine Hallissey, maphunziro ndi katswiri wamaganizo a ana, akuti ngati achinyamata akufunitsitsa kuona zolaula, adzapeza njira. Akuti ndi ntchito yaikulu komanso kuti, ngakhale malire ake, makolo sangathe kugwiritsira ntchito zomwe zingaoneke kunja kwa nyumba. Wapereka ndondomeko yothandizira makolo komanso achinyamata.
1. Kugonana ndi kugonana si nkhani yongochitika kamodzi kokha. Khalani omasuka, ndipo yambani kukambirana msanga, ndi nthawi 'yochepa komanso kawirikawiri', m'malo mongodziwa zambiri nthawi imodzi kenako n'kukalamba.
2. Ndi nzeru kukhala ndi malire. Komabe, cholinga chachikulu chiyenera kukhala kumanga ubale wanu ndi mwana wanu, kuti akhale ndi luso lamaganizo komanso kulimba mtima kuti athe kuthana ndi vuto la kugonana akamakula.
3. Kumbukirani, chidwi chofuna kugonana ndi chachibadwa komanso chathanzi ndipo zolaula ndi njira imodzi, ngakhale yovuta, yokwaniritsira chidwi chimenecho. Achinyamata nthawi zambiri amatha kuvutika ndi zomwe amapeza. Izi zikachitika, mumafuna kuti azimva kuti akhoza kubwera kwa inu.
4. Zokambirana zanu siziyenera kukhala zonena kuti 'zolaula ndi zoipa'. Fufuzani zomwe wachinyamata wanu amaganiza ndi kumva zokhudza zolaula. Muuzeni zoopsa zake mosaweruza.
5. Mukamalankhula za nkhani zimenezi, gwiritsani ntchito mawu odekha komanso osalowerera ndale. Osapereka nkhani, osadzudzula, kapena manyazi. Musachite nawo mikangano ya mphamvu. Yesezani nkhani yanu pasadakhale! Yesetsani kuti musadabwe kwambiri. Izi ziwonjezera mwayi woti mwana wanu apitirize kulankhula nanu.