Mwachiwonekere, kusakhoza kukonzekera ndi vuto lathupi, koma zinthu zingapo, kuphatikizapo zachipatala kapena zakuthupi, komanso zovuta zamaganizo ndi zamaganizo zingayambitse. Nazi zina mwazimene zimayambitsa: kuthamanga kwa magazi, matenda a mtima, shuga; mankhwala ena; kugwiritsa ntchito mowa ndi mankhwala, kusuta; kupanikizika, nkhawa, mkwiyo, nkhawa; kunenepa kwambiri, kudzikonda, kutsika kwa libido. Zokwanira monga momwe mndandandawu ukuwonekera, chinthu chomwe sichikuwoneka kuti chikuwoneka pazomwe zimayambitsa zovuta za erectile ndi zolaula.
Koma kodi kuonera zolaula sikuyenera kukuthandizani kupeza chilakolako chogonana, osati kuletsa chilakolakocho? Mwina, mwina ayi.
Pambuyo pa intaneti, kupezeka kwa zolaula kunali kokha ku mavidiyo ndi zolaula, monga Playboy ndi Penthouse. Pamene amuna ena anali ndi magulu a anthuwa, anyamata ambiri anali ndi mwayi wochepa. Koma intaneti tsopano yachititsa kupezeka kwa zithunzi zolaula ndi mavidiyo pafupipafupi komanso mopanda malire.
Zithunzi zosathazi zogonana zawonjezera chilakolako chachibadwa cha amuna chofuna "kusaka" ndi kuganizira za kugonana. Zotsatira zake, chisangalalo choganizira za kugonana pamodzi ndi zithunzi zambirimbiri zolimbikitsa zasintha kuyang'ana zolaula kukhala masewera ofunafuna zithunzi zosangalatsa komanso maloto kwa amuna ambiri . Ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zifukwa zazikulu zomwe amuna amaonera zolaula , komanso momwe zingakhalire zachizolowezi ndikuwononga maola ambiri. Nayi zomwe mayi wina anandiuza:
Ngakhale izi zitakhala zodabwitsa bwanji, amuna ambiri andivomereza pondilangiza kuti ali ndi zithunzi zolaula zambiri kuposa munthu uyu. Monga mwamuna uyu, amuna ambiri sadziwa kuti kuonera zolaula ndi vuto lalikulu bwanji. Ndipotu, kodi sizachilendo kuti amuna azifuna kuyang'ana mkazi wamaliseche? Inde, koma kuchuluka kwa chilichonse kumayambitsa mavuto - ngakhale zinthu zabwino (komabe zolaula si zabwino).
Tsopano amuna ambiri akunena kuti akuvutika kupeza ndi kusunga chilakolako chogonana akamagonana ndi akazi awo. Ndikudziwa amuna omwe ali ndi vuto lofika pachimake akamagonana ndi akazi awo kapena atsikana awo. Ndipo amuna ena amatha kutaya chidwi chogonana ndi mkazi weniweni. Kodi amuna sayenera kuganizira za kugonana masekondi 6 aliwonse? Kodi sayenera kukhala oganizira kwambiri za kugonana kotero kuti angagonane nthawi iliyonse? Kodi n’chiyani chimapangitsa? Zolaula zingayambitse mavuto a chilakolako chogonana.
Kuukitsa kugonana kumatulutsa mankhwala osangalatsa a dopamine mu ubongo. Monga chirichonse, dopamine wambiri angakhale vuto. Poona zolaula zimakhala zachizoloŵezi zingayambitse mitsempha mu ubongo kuti ikhale yosamvetsetseka komanso yomvera dopamine. Izi zimabweretsa chibwenzi chokwanira (ndi mkazi weniweni) kukhala wosakwanira kuti apange dopamine yokwanira kuti azimutse. Zotsatira za kusintha kumeneku mu ubongo (zomwe zimasinthidwa ndi njira) zikhoza kuwonetsedwa m'mafotokozedwe apambuyo a amuna omwe akusowa zolaula zambiri kuti awutse ndi kufika pamasewera.
Pali madokotala omwe amanena kuti zolaula za erectile zosokoneza ndi nthano. Koma palinso anthu ambiri amene amakhulupirira zolaula ndizosavulaza. Sindikugwirizana nazo.
Zoona zake n'zakuti zimapatsa chisangalalo cha kanthawi kochepa koma limodzi ndi zimenezo limabweretsa mavuto a nthawi yayitali. Kudziseweretsa maliseche mobwerezabwereza pakapita nthawi kumawonjezera mwayi woti munthu ayambe kugonana, komanso kutopa . Zotsatira zake, chilakolako chogonana, kaya chenicheni kapena cha digito, chomwe chinkapangitsa kuti munthu asangalale nthawi yomweyo sichinathenso, ndipo chimafunika zinthu zambiri zatsopano komanso zatsopano.
Kuzindikira zonsezi sikuli kovuta kuwona momwe kugonana kwabwino ndi munthu amene mudakhala naye kale sikungamukhumudwitse wogwiritsa ntchito zolaula monga momwe amachitiranso. Mwamuna m'modzi yemwe ndimamuthandiza kuti ndizigwiritsa ntchito zolaula amafunika kuseweretsanso maliseche atagonana ndi mkazi wake.
Nkhani yabwino ndi yakuti vuto la kugonana molakwika ndi lotha kusintha . Siyani kuonera zolaula ndi kuseweretsa maliseche, ndipo nthawi zambiri mkati mwa miyezi itatu kuchuluka kwa dopamine muubongo wanu kumabwerera pamlingo wabwinobwino. Komabe, kusiya kuonera zolaula n'kosavuta kunena kuposa kuchita. Ngakhale kuti pali zolinga zabwino, mphamvu yoledzera ya zolaula komanso kupezeka kwake mosavuta zimapangitsa kuti zikhale zovuta kwambiri kwa amuna ambiri kusiya okha popanda thandizo la akatswiri.
Pali nthano zambiri za amayi zomwe tonse tidamva tili ana. Limodzi mwa mawu otchuka kwambiri a amayi ndi lakuti, “Valani jekete. Mudzadwala chimfine.” Koma linanso limakhudza kapangidwe ka thupi la mwamuna, “Ngati mupitiriza kusewera nalo, lidzagwa tsiku lina.” Ine ndimaganiza kuti, “Kuseweretsa maliseche kudzakupangitsani kukhala akhungu.” Mwachionekere, sikudzagwa kapena kukhala akhungu, koma ndi nthano kuti kuyang'ana zolaula kulibe vuto ndipo zoona zake n'zakuti kusagonana ndi amuna kungakhale chimodzi mwa zotsatira zake.