Kusokonekera kwa Erectile kumachitika ndi 75% ya amuna aku Britain azaka 18 mpaka 25 - m'badwo woyamba kukula ndi zolaula 'pampopi'
Ndi Joe Madden, 30 September 2016
"Kwenikweni, zolaula zimasokoneza dick wanga kuti zisamagwire ntchito ndi mafani enieni."
Lumikizani ku Nkhani Yathunthu
Ndamudziwa Alec kwazaka zopitilira khumi. Ali ndi zaka zoyambirira za 30, London, komanso wolemba bwino. Ndiwoseketsa, wotchuka komanso wokongola kwambiri. Koma kwakanthawi kumeneko, osadziwika kwa ine, anali kulimbana ndi vuto lapadera la m'zaka za zana la 21.
Kwa nthawi yayitali ya bachelordom, Alec adagwera zizolowezi zoyipa mu dipatimenti ya crotch. Popeza anali ndi zina zambiri zoti akwaniritse usiku wamkati mwa sabata, amatha kuwotcha zolaula ndikudzikakamiza - mobwerezabwereza. Ndipo kachiwiri. "Ndikadakhala ndikumenyetsa kwambiri ndikadapanda kuti ndikhale zolaula," akuvomereza, "koma zolaula zimandipangitsa kuti ndikhale ngati munthu wopanda umunthu."
Zotenga nthawi monga momwe zidaliri, zizolowezi ngati za Alec zodzisangalatsa sizimawoneka ngati zodandaula - mpaka atadzipezera bwenzi. Ndipo ndipamene zimakhala zovuta, chifukwa kumeneko, atakumana ndi moyo weniweni, wopuma, adalephera kupeza erection - mobwerezabwereza. "Mwamwayi, anali woleza mtima kwambiri komanso womvetsetsa," adatero wiche, "chifukwa zidatenga nthawi yayitali kuti zikonzekere." (Spoiler chenjezo: awiriwa tsopano akuchita.)
Nkhani ya Alec si yachilendo ayi. Kusokonekera kwa erectile (PIED) pakati pa anyamata ndi nkhani yotentha pankhani yokhudza kugonana pakadali pano. Ndikothekadi kuti mumadziwa bambo yemwe ali ndi PIED, ndipo mwina mutha kukhala pachibwenzi ndi mmodzi: ngati mwamuna wanu nthawi zambiri samatha 'kumaliza malondawo' nthawi yachisangalalo wamkulu, mutha kukhala wamasiye wamaliseche. M'malo mwake, kupezeka kwapadera kwa zinthu zowerengedwa ndi X kumapangitsa akazi amasiye ambirimbiri tsiku lililonse. Malinga ndi Sexual Advice Association, 75% ya amuna aku Britain azaka 18 mpaka 25 - m'badwo woyamba kukula ndi zolaula 'pampopi' - adakumana ndi zovuta za erectile.
Alexander Rhodes, yemwe anayambitsa NoFap.com (zambiri pambuyo pake), ali wotsimikiza za kulumikizana pakati pa kuwuka kwa zolaula ndi kutsika kwa boner: "Kutengera kafukufuku amene mumachitika pakhala pali kuwonjezeka kulikonse pakati pa 600% mpaka 3,000% Kulephera kwa erectile mwa amuna ochepera 30 kuyambira pomwe intaneti idafika. Ndizowopsa pang'ono, eti? ”
DINANI APA
Ndi zipinda zake zodzaza ndi dzuwa komanso zokongoletsera zokongoletsa, machitidwe azakugonana a Janet Eccles - okhala m'mudzi wokongola wa Greater Manchester - samva ngati malo omwe zipolowe zakugonana zimavomerezedwa ndi misozi. Izi ndiye kuti, mfundo ndi iyi: atachotsedwa pamiyendo ndikumwaza kwake kwamanyazi kwa Mancunian, makasitomala a Eccles awulula zomwe sanayesepo kuuza munthu aliyense.
Atandipatsa moni, atakhala pansi ndikupatsani khofi, Eccles akutembenukira ku nkhani yomwe ili pafupi nayo: nambala yowonjezereka ya anyamata omwe akubwera kudutsa pamakomo ake omwe ali ndi ziwalo zosavulaza chifukwa cha zolaula zawo.
"Amuna ena azolowera kwambiri kudina batani ndikufulumira kukopeka ndi kugonana," akutero a Eccles. "Kenako akupeza kuti mayi weniweni, wamoyo ndi mwazi samawapatsa kugwiranso chimodzimodzi, komwe kumabweretsa mavuto.
Pakhala pali pakati pa kuwonjezeka kwa 600% mpaka 3,000% pakukanika kwa erectile mwa amuna ochepera 30 kuyambira pomwe intaneti idafika
"Kulephera kwa Erectile ndiye vuto lomwe aliyense amalankhula, chifukwa mwa anyamata ndizodziwika kwambiri, ndipo amene amasiya anzawo akuganiza, 'O, samandifuna!' Koma kumaliseche msanga kumayambanso, mwinanso kubweretsanso kukodzera kumene, komwe kumachititsa kuti munthu asamakonde. ”
Popanda boners pambali, PIED ikhoza kudziwonetseranso yokha ngati kusagonana kosalekeza komanso kosalekeza. “Munthuyu angakhale akupanga zifukwa; kugona nthawi zosiyana ndi mnzake; mpaka kufika podzudzula mnzake, ” akuti Eccles. Kusafuna kuthana ndi vutoli kumachitika chifukwa cha manyazi awiri a PIED: sikuti sangangogonana, mwina atha kusiya zolaula.
Koma ngakhale sikuti aliyense amene ali ndi vuto la PIED amakhalanso wogwiritsa ntchito zolaula pomwe pali, monga mungaganizire, pamakhala magulu ambiri pakati pamagulu awiriwa. Ndipo sikuti ndi nkhani ya anyamata okha osasamala ma libidos awo kutali - china chake chonyenga komanso chokhazikika kwambiri chikugwira ntchito.
"Zithunzi zolaula zimagwira ntchito ngati bongo," atero a Dr Nicola Ray, katswiri wazamisala ku Manchester Metropolitan University. "Chizolowezi chomwe umagwiritsa ntchito chimagwira ma neural circry ndikubera njira zomwe zimakhudzana ndi mphotho zachilengedwe zambiri kuti azimvera. Kotero zolaula zimakhala chinthu chokha chomwe ubongo umamvetsetsa pokhudzana ndi kukakamiza kugonana; kwenikweni kugonana kwenikweni sikukhala kosangalatsa kwenikweni. ”
Kuwonjezera kuchitidwa kwa mitsempha imeneyi ndi chizolowezi chofala cha 'kukonza' - kukhala pachimake kwa nthawi yayitali momwe angathere, ndikudumpha kuchokera kanema mpaka vidiyo mu utsi wopepuka. Wogwiritsa ntchito zolaula aliyense wachita izi pamlingo winawake, koma amuna ena akulemba gawo lotsatira: "Pali kusiyana kwakukulu pakati pa kudula mitengo kwa mphindi 30, katatu pamlungu," akutero a Eccles, "ndikuwonera zolaula zisanu , Maola asanu ndi limodzi osalunjika. ”
ZOKHUDZA KWAMBIRI
Pakati pa zochitika zoterozo, zolaula zikuwonetsedwa zidzakula mwamphamvu: mavidiyo omwe amawoneka kuti ndi ovuta komanso oposa-ola limodzi pa nthawi imodzi akhoza kukhala tikiti pa ora atatu.
"Kwa ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula kwa nthawi yayitali milingo yolimbikitsira yomwe ikufunika kuti iwonjezeke ndikuwonjezeka," akutero a Eccles. "Zili ngati chidakwa chomwe chimakhalapo kwa nthawi yayitali chomwe chimafunikira kutsitsa botolo la whiskey asanamvepo phokoso. Musanazindikire, mukuyang'ana zinthu zokongola kwambiri. ”
Kutsika kumeneku kumamveka bwino ndikusokoneza ubongo - zomwe zimawononganso ziwalo zoberekera. "Ubongo wanu umatulutsa dopamine wocheperako - neurotransmitter yomwe imakupangitsani kuti musangalale - pomwe mumaonera zolaula," akufotokoza Dr Ray. “Umafunikira zinthu zowonjezereka komanso zodabwitsa kuti dopamine iziyenda, ndipo pamapeto pake" zotopetsa "zogonana zenizeni sizimapezeka konse muubongo.” Yikes.
Amayi, inde, onaninso zolaula - nanga bwanji sizikuwononga machitidwe anu ogonana chimodzimodzi? Sikuti mumangogwiritsa ntchito zolaula mopepuka - pafupifupi gawo limodzi mwa amuna atatu amavomereza kuti amaziwona tsiku lililonse, poyerekeza ndi azimayi 3.8% okha - mumakondanso zolaula zosiyanasiyana kwa ife. Monga a Eccles ananenera, "zinthu zambiri patsamba lalikulu laulele zimangolunjika kwa amuna okha - ndipo ndi basi zowawa. "
Ntchito yanga yoyendetsa ndege - zikomo chifukwa chofunsa - idayamba m'masiku omaliza a nthawi ya 'analogue porn', pomwe maginito osavala - omwe amapezedwa pamaulendo ofiira opita kwa ogulitsa nyuzipepala - zidali zachizolowezi. Nthawi zina ndimakhala ndi tepi ya VHS - kope laling'ono la kope - kokhala ndi zolaula za 70s zaubweya zomwe nthawi zambiri zimakhala zoseketsa kuposa kumangodzutsa.
Kumapeto kwa mchaka cha 1990s zolaula za pa intaneti zidafika, koma nthawi zambiri zimakhala zolimbikira kuposa momwe zimafunira. Kuthamanga kwadongosolo kunapangitsa lingaliro lakukonza loto la wamisala: kutsatsira makanema kudakali zaka zambiri, ndipo sindingakuuzeni kuchuluka kwa ma boners oleza mtima omwe ndidafuna kuyembekezera jpeg m'modzi kuti adzipangire pazenera. (Zambiri zambiri? Ndiyimitsa tsopano, ndikulonjeza.) Kulimbana, monga akunenera, kunali kwenikweni.
NJIRA YOKWERENGA
Kalelo ndikadaphedwa chifukwa chowonera zolaula zomwe achinyamata masiku ano ndi 20-somethings ali nazo. Ndikuwonedwa kuchokera pomwe ndimawona zaka zanga za 30, komabe, paradiso wankerayo ikuwoneka ngati ndende, ndipo ndikuthokoza kwambiri kuti ndiphonya. Sizangochitika mwangozi kuti m'badwo woyamba wopita kuubwana wazaka za smartphone, wi-fi ndi Pornhub nawonso ndi oyamba kudwala PIED modabwitsa. Kodi muli ndi chibwenzi china 20? Ayenera kuti anali akuyang'ana zolaula zolaula kuyambira ali mwana, ndipo sizinakhale zabwino kwa ubongo wake. "Tonse tili pachiyeso chachikulu padziko lonse lapansi pompano, chifukwa sipanakhalepo nthawi yoti aliyense - kuphatikiza ana - azioneka zolaula. Sitikudziwabe zonse zomwe zidzachitike, "atero a Jon Brown, a NSPCC pothetsa nkhanza zakugonana.
'Ndinali kuseweretsa maliseche kangapo patsiku. Ndinaganiza kuti ndiyenera kupuma kwa masiku angapo, koma sindinathe. '
Amuna omwe adawonapo zolaula kuyambira ali mwana amakhala ndi nthawi yovuta kwambiri yowononga ubongo wawo - njira yotchedwa 'kukonzanso'. Dokotala wa GP komanso wogonana Dr Anand Patel wachita ndi odwala PIED ambiri: "Akadutsa zaka 35 zidzawatengera masabata eyiti mpaka 12 kuti ayambirenso," akutero. "Koma ngati ali ndi zaka zosakwana 35, ndipo amakulira zolaula pa intaneti, adzafunika miyezi isanu ndi umodzi kapena 12."
Kulimbana ndi odwala achichepere a PIED, mwina, koma Dr Patel ndiwofunitsitsa kuyang'ana pazabwino: "Monga momwe angachitire manyazi, amuna awa ayenera kudziwa kuti 'sanamangidwe' mwanjira imeneyi," akutero. Kuchira kwathunthu ndikotheka - if iwo amagwira ntchito pa izo. Chinachake chiyenera kupitirira kwa amuna mu moyo wanu.
ZOTHANDIZA FAP-ULUOUS
Ndikukwera Skyping ndi wazaka 26 wokhala ku Pittsburgh, Alexander Rhode, yemwe adayambitsa tsamba lachiwerewere la NoFap.com, komanso wojambula-pa intaneti wa amuna omwe akulimbana ndi chiwerewere chawo pa intaneti. ("Fap", mwa njira, ndi onomatopoeic slang yokhudza maliseche achimuna, kuchokera ku phokoso la fap-fap-fap mbolo yomwe imakokedwa mwachangu. Inde, zowonadi). Wi-fi ili muofesi ya NoFap, chifukwa chake a Rhode adapita nayo ku Starbucks yapafupi kuti tikambirane. Ndikuwona makasitomala aku genteel akuwombera kumbuyo kwawo akuwoneka osokonezeka kwambiri.
"Chifukwa chake, ndingodumpha ndikunena," akuusa moyo Rhodes, pokonzekera kuti apeze. "Nthawi ina ndimakhala ndikuseweretsa maliseche nthawi 14 patsiku, ndipo ndidaganiza kuti ndiyenera kupuma kwa masiku angapo, ndipo ndidapeza kuti sindingathe. Ndipo ndinkadziona kuti ndilibe mphamvu. ”
Rhodes adayamba kukhala wopanda nkhawa - komanso wokonda - zolaula zomwe adachita pa moyo wake. Icho chinapha chikoka chake kwa akazi enieni; amayambanso kujambula zolaula m'mutu mwake panthawi yogonana. Chifukwa chake adakhazikitsa gulu la NoFap ku Reddit, lomwe mwachangu lidakopa "ma Fapstronauts" anzawo masauzande ambiri padziko lonse lapansi ndipo pamapeto pake adakula kukhala NoFap.com.
"Ndi nsanja yomwe imapereka zida ndi chithandizo kwa iwo omwe asankha kuti asakhale ndi, machitidwe ena kwakanthawi," a Rhode akufotokoza, kudziletsa chifukwa cha owerenga ake a Starbucks. NoFap sichoncho, akutsimikiza, bungwe lotsutsa zolaula. “Sitikufuna malamulo oletsa zolaula. Tikukhulupirira kuti ndi ufulu wamunthu kuchita chilichonse chomwe mukufuna kuchita, bola ngati sichikupweteka wina aliyense. Koma ngati muli pachibwenzi, mwayi woti zolaula kwambiri zitha kuwononga moyo wanu wogonana, ndipo ngati moyo wanu wogonana wakhudzidwa, zimafalikira mdera lililonse. ”
Izi zikachitika, atero a Rhode, njira yokhayo yotsogola ndiyo njira yokhayo yakutsogolo. Dr Patel akuvomereza. "Mumagwira PIED mofanana ndi momwe mungachitire ndi chizolowezi chilichonse, poletsa izi. N'zovuta kusiya kuonera zolaula, koma udzayambiranso kusangalala ndi chilakolako chogonana popanda kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala. ”
Palibe amene ndinalankhula naye chifukwa chofuna kuwonetsa zolaula kapena kuzichotsa pa webusaitiyi - koma aliyense adavomereza kuti chinachake chiyenera kusintha pofuna kupewa mibadwo yambiri yomwe miyoyo yawo yokhudzana ndi kugonana idawonongedwa.
"Zolaula sizikambidwapo maphunziro a kugonana," atero a NoFap a Rhode, "ndipo nthawi zambiri sizimakambidwapo m'mabwenzi. Sayenera kukhala nkhani yoletsedwa. ”
Kulankhula ngati bambo ndikuganiza kuti tiyenera kukhala owona mtima kwambiri komanso osabisa zakugwiritsa ntchito zolaula komanso zomwe zimakhudza ife ndi inu, akazi athu ndi atsikana. Ngati ziwerengerozo ziyenera kukhulupiliridwa, gawo limodzi mwa magawo atatu a amuna akudya, tsiku ndi tsiku, cholimbikitsa kwambiri chomwe chimasiya ubongo wathu. Tonsefe tili bwino pochenjezedwa za misampha yomwe ingakhalepo pakumwa mowa, kusuta fodya, kutchova njuga ndi zina zotero, ndiye ili nthawi yoti tivomereze kuti kubisalira ku Pornhub kumakhalanso ndi maudindo ena. Ndipo ngati tikukana? Chabwino, mutha kukhala ndi ufulu wanu woti mutisiye - tokha, mutayang'ana pazenera, mutayika momvetsa chisoni ndi zinthu zenizeni pomwe chenicheni chimatuluka pakhomo.
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