Nkhaniyi (wotanthauzira Google) imagwira akatswiri atatu omwe amati zolaula zimayambitsa mavuto azakugonana: Socionomen Inger Björklund, psychotherapist ku RFSU Clinic; Dokotala wamkulu wa Stefan Arver komanso mtsogoleri wa Center for Andrology and Sexual Medicine ku Karolinska University Hospital ku Hudding; Psychiatrist a Goran Sedvallson.
Achinyamata ambiri akuvutika ndi "zolaula." Pa intaneti, amafufuza anthu omwe ali ndi vuto lomwelo. "Ndinali pafupi pomwe ndimayang'ana zolaula - osati ndi mwana wanga wamkazi," anatero m'modzi mwa omwe anakhudzidwa.
Tsamba laku US Ubongo Wanu pa Zithunzi umalimbikitsa amuna omwe amakonda kuwonera zolaula zambiri ndipo sangathenso kuyeserera akafuna kugonana. Cholinga chake ndi kuwonera momwe zolaula zimakhudzira mphotho yaubongo ndipo zimabweretsa zovuta "zowunikira", zomwe sizingasangalatse mnzake "weniweni".
Tsopano zikuwoneka kuti zochitika izi zafika ku Sweden. Pa ukonde pali madandaulo angapo omwe anthu ambiri, makamaka achinyamata, akukambirana za vuto lokhala ndi nthawi yogonana. Kawirikawiri ndikuti nthawi zambiri amangochita maliseche pamene akuwona zolaula.
Maphunziro a mafunso ophatikizapo a Youth Board amasonyeza kuti anyamata asanu ndi anayi mwa khumi aliwonse amawonera zolaula nthawi zonse, zomwe zilipo kwa atsikana ndi zitatu mwa khumi. Atsikana nthawi zambiri amavomereza kuti amagwiritsa ntchito zolaula kuti azisangalala, anyamata, komabe kuti adzikhutire.
Mnyamata wina wazaka 19 akulemba pa nätsajt adazindikira kuti china chake sichinali "cholondola" ndipo adafunafuna kudziwa chifukwa chake samatha kupeza udindo pomwe anali ndi bwenzi lake. Ankangokhala wokondwa ngati amawonera zolaula komanso kuseweretsa maliseche. Mkazi wamaliseche atagona patsogolo pake pabedi, palibe chomwe chidachitika, iye ndi zonsezi sizinali zokwanira.
Socionomen Inger Björklund, katswiri wa zamaganizo pa RFSU Clinic ku Stockholm kwa zaka zisanu, akuti achinyamata ambiri ndi akuluakulu akuwoneka kuti ali ndi mavuto okhwima akatha kuona zolaula zambiri. Iye ndi anzake sanaganize kuti vutoli ndi losafuna kuyang'ana popanda kuyesa kuwona vutoli.
- Koma zikuwoneka kuti chenicheni sichokwanira kuti chikhale ndi chisangalalo chokwanira. Munthu "mano" si mnzake weniweni. Izi sizinthu zatsopano, koma zolaula zamasiku ano zimapezeka usana ndi usiku. Ma foni, ma I-pads, makompyuta, ma TV - nthawi iliyonse komanso kulikonse komwe mungathe kuwona makanema apamwamba kwambiri, atero Inger Björklund.
Anatinso zodabwitsazi nthawi zina mwina zimatha kukhala pazifukwa zosiyanasiyana zitha kuwoneka ngati zovuta kulumikizana kwambiri ndi munthu wina. Ndiye ndizosavuta kukhala ndi moyo wogonana mdziko labwino kwambiri.
- M'moyo "weniweni", mumakhala pachiwopsezo. Aliyense amene amawonera zolaula samakhazikitsa ubale uliwonse ndi ena. Chifukwa chake, kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kwambiri kumapangitsa kukhala kovuta kupeza moyo wamba wogonana.
Kodi pali njira yothetsera vutoli? Inde, mayankho a Inger Björklund. Chinthu chofunikira kwambiri ndi kuzindikira kuti mumakhalabe ndi makhalidwe oipa. Choyamba ndi kudzifotokozera khalidwe lawo ngati vuto kapena chinachake chimene mukufuna kusintha.
- Ngati mukufuna thandizo kuti muswe kachitidwe kake ndikuyesera kuti mumvetsetse momwe zimakhalira limodzi kuti mukambirane zamankhwala ngati njira yobwezeretsanso moyo wogonana.
Pa webusaiti ya intaneti akulemba mnyamata yemwe anali namwali komanso wopanda kugonana kufikira zaka za 18.
Pamene amagonana koyamba, anali "osati Willie" ndi "blåvägrade" momwe adayesera. Mnyamatayo adayamba kufunafuna zambiri pa intaneti. Kumeneku adapeza zovuta zambiri zomwezo. Akupitiliza kuti:
"Zinakhala zolaula komanso maliseche monga momwe zimakhalira. Ngati kwa nthawi yayitali - kwa ine inali zaka zisanu ndi chimodzi - kuseweretsa maliseche komanso zolaula nthawi zambiri zimazolowera ubongo wama dopamine receptors kuti muwone zowoneka bwino. Mwanjira ina, thupi limatha kukhala lotentha komanso kusangalala nalo mwina limatha kuwona zolaula ndikuchita maliseche nthawi yomweyo. Mtsikana wamaliseche atagona patsogolo pa kama wanga palibe chomwe chimachitika, thupi siliganiza kuti ndizosangalatsa mokwanira. ”
Dokotala wamkulu wa Stefan Arver komanso mtsogoleri wa Center for Andrology and Sexual Medicine ku Karolinska University Hospital ku Huddinge. Wamva zodabwitsadi za "zolaula" zomwe wina amaulula zambiri zakugonana kudzera pa zolaula zomwe amadzasiya kuchita nazo chidwi.
- Ndikutha kulingalira kuti anyamata achichepere omwe samachita zogonana amatha kukhala ndi vuto logonana ngati atawonera zolaula zambiri. Kukhala m'dziko losangalatsa popanda anthu amoyo, monga momwe zolaula zimaperekera, kumatha kupanga ziyembekezo zosatheka za momwe moyo wogonana uyenera kuwonekera. Zingathenso kubweretsa zovuta kuti akhale oyandikana ndi otetezeka ndi wokondedwa wawo, zomwe zingayambitse mavuto monga kupeza udindo.
Ku chipatala ku Karlskrona, kulandiridwa kwachiwerewere kuchokera ku 1984. Goran Sedvallson, yemwe ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo komanso wodwala matenda opaleshoni, ananena kuti anthu amene amaonera zolaula zambiri amathera kumalo olakwika.
- Mwina amuna sangakwanitse kapena kusangalala akamachita zogonana zenizeni. Amalemba kwambiri zopeka zapa kanema wolaula kotero kuti sangathe kuchita zachiwerewere m'moyo weniweni. Zachidziwikire kuti izi zitha kubweretsa zovuta kwa munthuyo komanso pachibwenzi.
Vuto lakutaya zolaula lidzawonjezeka, chifukwa cha kupezeka kowonjezereka, khulupirirani Goran Sedvallson. Iye ndi anzawo ku Karlskrona adatenga chaka chatha motsutsana ndi alendo ena makumi asanu atsopano. Odwala anali azaka zapakati pa 17 ndi 80 - ndipo onse adamva kuti ali ndi zovuta zazikulu zogonana.
- Sitinalandirebe anyamata ndi anyamata omwe adakumana ndi "zolaula." Maganizo anga ndikuti poyambilira kuyang'ana zipatala za achinyamata ndi zina zotero - tsopano akufuna thandizo konse. Kwa wachinyamata, nkovuta kuvomereza kuti, mwachitsanzo, sangakwanitse mukakhala ndi mtsikana.
Thomas Lerner
Nkhani yoyambirira - https://web.archive.org/web/20211027054436/https://www.dn.se/insidan/verkligheten-inte-tillrackligt-upphetsande/
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