Ndinayamba kuwerenga buku lakuti The Porn Trap lolembedwa ndi Wendy ndi Larry Maltz ndipo limafotokoza za kuthana ndi chizolowezi choonera zolaula. Zimandilimbikitsa kwambiri kuwerenga nkhani za ena omwe akulimbana ndi chizolowezi choipa kwambiri kuposa changa, omwe adutsa m'njira zakuda, ndipo awona miyoyo yawo ikusweka, kupeza kutsimikiza mtima kubwerera ku moyo wabwinobwino. Ngati anthu awa angathe kuchita izi, inenso ndingathe. Bukuli laperekanso malangizo ndi masewera olimbitsa thupi omwe ndingachite, makamaka ndili ndi nthawi yambiri.
Wolemba Wendy Maltz akuti:
Timathera theka la bukuli pochiza matenda ndipo tili ndi gawo lazinthu zambiri. Webusaiti yanga ili ndi nkhani zaulere ndi ma posters omwe angathe kutsitsidwa kuti athandize pakuchira matenda a zolaula: www.healthysex.com . [Pitani patsamba lawo la webusayiti pa The Porn Trap .]
Olembawo amalimbikitsa njira zisanu ndi chimodzi zoyamba zochotsera zolaula:
- Uzani wina za vuto lanu la zolaula
- Pezani nawo pulogalamu ya mankhwala
- Pangani malo opanda zolaula
- Yakhazikitsani maola makumi awiri mphambu anayi ndikuthandizira
- Samalirani thanzi lanu labwino komanso labwino
- Yambani kuchiritsa kugonana kwanu
Mafunso awa adzakuthandizani kupeza wina woti azinena:
- Ndani angandivomereze ngakhale kuti ndikumana ndi zolaula?
- Ndani ndingamukhulupirire kuti asandichititse manyazi kapena kundiletsa?
- Kodi ndakhala wokhoza kuulula ndani kale, ndi zotsatira zabwino?
- Ndani samanenera za ena?
- Ndani walemekeza chinsinsi m'mbuyomo?
- Ndani ali wachifundo komanso wokonda mavuto ake?
- Ndi ndani yemwe amamvetsa komanso amadziŵa za kuledzera ndi kuchira?