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Kodi lingaliro la kugonana kotheratu ndi lotani?

Mukumva "kuchoka" ndikudzifunsa choti muchite nazo? Mutha kungokhala osowa chakudya. Ngati ndi choncho, kugonana payekha mwina sikungathetse malingaliro oti china chake… sichabwino.

Zimapezeka kuti zosowa zakugonana sizongofunikira chabe. Zosowa zakugonana nawonso ubwenzi wapamtima zosowa. Kwa anthu ogwirizana monga anthu, kukhudzika ndi kukondana komanso kukondana ndi anzawo amakhala "osangalala." Ndiye kuti ubongo wakonzedwa kutipatsa mphoto chifukwa chochita nawo mwa kupanga tizilombo toyambitsa matenda omwe amachititsa kuti tikhale ndi moyo wabwino.

Kunena izi mosiyana, malangizo oyambira oyang'anira mphotho zathu zoyambira ndi chakudya, madzi, kulumikizana komanso kukhwima. Tsopano popeza moyo wamasiku ano sukukwaniritsa zosowa zathu zothandizana kwambiri komanso kulumikizana bwino, mphotho yathu yoyang'anira ndi "kuyang'ana mozungulira" kudzaza chosowacho ndikumverera bwino momwe zingathere. Monga chakudya chosapatsa thanzi, zolaula pa intaneti ndizoloweza mmalo zolimbikitsa zomwe zimatipusitsa kuganiza kuti tapeza chinthu chofunikira kwambiri. Monga mnyamata wina anafotokozera, "Palibe mkazi weniweni amene ali mwa inu, koma mumamva ngati alipo. Mukupeza mphotho yoti mukayang'ana pamakona owala, omwe amakulimbikitsani kuti mukhalebe mmalo motuluka. "

Zachisoni, zisangalalo zayekha sizipereka chimodzimodzi zolimbikitsa zokhudzana ndi matenda a m'maganizo monga kulumikizana kwenikweni — ndipo kufunafuna kwawo kungakhale kosavuta chifukwa cha lero kusokoneza zolaula kapena osokoneza mphamvu kuposa anthu. Pamene tikupanga zowonjezereka ndi zowonjezereka, nkhawa yowonjezera ingathe kukhala yokhutira.

Ndizosangalatsa pamene zosowa zathu zogonana / kukhudza / kucheza zimakwaniritsidwa phukusi limodzi lokongola, losavuta: wokonda. Koma ambiri aife timadutsanso zipululu m'moyo wathu wachikondi. Kodi mwachizolowezi omwe amapita kuchipululu amachita? Pitani ku oasis. Pano pali makumi awiri mphambu makumi awiri mphambu zisanu ndi ziwiri omwe adapeza oases mwa kubisalira abwenzi.

Munthu woyamba (wamwamuna):

Ndili ndi bwenzi lachikazi lokhala ndi maubwino, koma maubwino ake ndikuti amakonda kubwera kamodzi pa sabata ndikungokakamira pamene timaonera kanema. Ndi namwali, ndipo mwina ndi lingaliro labwino kuti tisamagonane naye atapatsidwa mbiri yake. Zimandimasula kwambiri kuti ndisiye ZOFUNIKA zogonana. M'mbuyomu ngati mkazi yemwe amandifuna anali ine, ndimangoganiza zogonana. Koma tsopano ndikhoza kumasuka ndikukhala.

Munthu wachiwiri (wamwamuna):

Pambuyo pofotokozera kwa bwenzi langa za momwe ndimaganizira kuti ndafa ndi njala, nthawi yomweyo adavula malaya ake ndikundizembera pabedi langa. Ndinadabwa kwambiri ndi momwe adaziperekera. Tidakhala pafupi maola 2, titakhala moyang'anizana ndi bolodi langa lamutu nditamugwira ndi mutu wake pachifuwa. Tinkalankhula nthawi zambiri, ndimakhala chete apa ndi apo. Kukambirana kunali kotseguka. Tidawulula zinsinsi ndipo zidamveka mwachilengedwe. Ndikutsimikiza izi sizikadachitika tikadapanda kubisalira.
Mulungu wanga, malingaliro achitetezo anali osaneneka. Soooo basi, sindikudziwa, KODI. Ndikuganiza tsopano kwa ine ndimo: Umu ndi momwe mwamuna ndi mkazi ayenera kukhalira wina ndi mnzake. Mwanjira yosachita zachiwerewere, ndimangomva kuti bambo wamwamuna akumukakamiza mtsikanayo pachifuwa ndikumuteteza. Ndinaziona pankhope pake. Amangowoneka womasuka kwambiri, wokonzeka kugona. Sindinayesere dala kukumbatirana nthawi yayitali, chifukwa chake izi ndizatsopano. Ndiyenera kuvomereza kuti zina zakukhudzani zinali zodzutsa mtima - kachiwiri, sindinazolowere kulumikizana osakhala ndi zolinga-ndipo ndimakhala ndi chidwi ndi mpira wamtambo madzulo koma sizinali zoyipa konse.
Atachoka, ndinasinkhasinkha pang'ono ndikuganiza chiyani? Maganizo ochepa kwambiri. Zinali zodabwitsa! Ndikumufunsanso kuti achite izi.

Munthu wachitatu (wamkazi):

Tonse tinkadziwa kuti sizitsogolera kugonana. Sizinatsogolere kukupsompsona. Kunali kungozunzana, kukumbatirana komanso kupsinjika ngati tifuna. Zinakhudzanso pafupifupi maliseche athunthu, komabe. Ndipo mukudziwa chiyani? Izo zinali zabwino.
Sitinakhazikitse malire tisanayambe, koma sanadutse chilichonse chamkati mwanga. Adatsegulidwa pang'ono titagona limodzi, zomwe zinali zenizeni. Anati kunali pafupi kuti munthu asayatseke pang'ono akamagona ndi msungwana wokongola, wamaliseche-ndikuti atenganso nkhuni zam'mawa. Koma "kutembenuzidwa kwakuthupi" ndi "malingaliro ofuna kugonana" ndizosiyana.
Ankasamala kuti ziwalo zawo zoberekera zizikhala kutali ndi ine ndikakhala chilili, ndipo sindinkakhala womangika konse. Zinali zosangalatsa zogonana. Zinalinso zomangirira. Tidzakhala mabwenzi nthawi zonse tsopano, ndipo takhala ndi zokambirana zazitali komanso zowona zaubwenzi ndi kugonana komanso zinthu zosiyanasiyana. Kuthana ndi chiwonetsero chokhala maliseche palimodzi kunapangitsa kukhala kosavuta kuthana ndi zomwe zili zovomerezeka kukambirana. Zinali zosangalatsa komanso zodalilika kuti ndimatha kugona maliseche ndi mnyamata yemwe anganene moona mtima kuti ndinali wokongola koma osagwiritsa ntchito molakwika udindo wake ngakhale pang'ono.
Tsopano ndikumbatira aliyense. Ndigona aliyense, kugonana kulikonse, malinga momwe angafunire — bola ngati ali oyera komanso amandipangitsa kukhala womasuka. Silikupweteka aliyense. Zimandipangitsa ine, ndipo aliyense amene ndikumulera, wokondwa.

Munthu wachinayi (wamkazi):

[Patatha mwezi umodzi mayiyu atalumbirira amuna kwakanthawi kuti akaphunzire mayeso aukadaulo adayamba kugona tulo tofa nato, komwe sikungayankhe mankhwala aliwonse.]

Tsiku lina, ndikulankhula ndi mnzanga, ndinadabwa mokweza kuti, "Ndi liti pomwe ndinakhudzidwa?" Zinanditengera nthawi yayitali kuyambira pomwe ndinakhudzidwa, kotero kuti ngakhale kukumbatiridwa ndi bwenzi kunamveka kwachilendo. Ndinazindikira kuti ndikulakalaka nditamangidwa; Ndinadzimva wopanda kanthu ndipo ndinataya mtima mkati.
Ndinazindikiranso kuti mphamvu zanga zinkasinthasintha mwa njira yopanda chidziwitso, zomwe zinandisiya kuti ndisapereke chikondi komanso mphamvu zambiri kwa anzanga ndi abwenzi anga. Mnzanga wamkazi yemwe ndinkakambirana naye, adanena kuti amatha kuzindikira kuti pamene sakulimbitsa mwezi umodzi, amakwiya ndipo amakwiya kwambiri ndi amuna, kuchepetsa mwayi wake wamtsogolo wokhala nawo pachibwenzi.
Pambuyo pa zokambiranazi, mwayi unabwera kuti mnzake wachinyamata abwere. Malowa anali omveka kuti titha kutonthozana popanda zochitika zina. Tinagundana kwa ola lathunthu, tikungocheza za tsiku lathu. Ndinaganiza, “Ndikugona tulo usikuuno!” ndipo voilà. Kwa nthawi yoyamba miyezi itatu, ndinagona nthawi yomwe ndimagona ndikudzuka ndikutsitsimutsidwa. Tsiku lotsatiralo, tinawonera kanema nkuphatikizana. Ndimamva bwino kwamasabata angapo. (Anapita ku South America posakhalitsa pambuyo pake.)
Ndikulankhula ndi bwenzi latsopano, ndidamva kuti ali ndi mgwirizano ndi mkazi yemwe anali pachibwenzi naye. Onsewa amadziwa kuti sanali "oyenera" wina ndi mnzake. Komabe kulumikizana kwawo pafupipafupi, kwakuthupi kumawalola kuti apewe kupita kudziko lapansi ngati osowa, osakwatiwa. Adafotokoza, "Ndikuganiza kuti amuna amasiya masewera awo ngati sanakhalepo ndi chibwenzi kwakanthawi." Mphamvu zake zinali zogwirizana; adatha kuyang'ana kwambiri kukwaniritsa cholinga cha moyo wake, ndikusangalala ndi moyo. Kukumana ndi akazi atsopano kunali kosavuta kwa iye, popeza anali wamwamuna wathanzi komanso wosavuta. Atakumana ndi mkazi watsopano wokhala ndi mwayi wokwatirana naye, sanawone kufunika kothamangira pabedi ndikutaya mwayi wakukulira chibwenzi. Werengani zambiri za zomwe adakumana nazo mu "Kodi Mumakhala ndi Njala Yamtundu?"

Kodi kukhala wokhutira ndi kugonana kungatheke bwanji?

Makonda amakono otipangitsa tonse kudzisamalira tokha pogonana maliseche zimafooketsa zosowa zathu zazikulu zakukhudzana ndi kucheza. Chifukwa chake, ambiri aife sitikudziwa momwe chisinthiko chidatiumbitsira. Mwachitsanzo, zangokhala zaka makumi angapo kuchokera pamene asayansi adazindikira (modabwa) kuti ana amasiye amasiye amakonda makanda odyetsera tayi "amayi" opanda mkaka kuposa "amayi" a waya wa nkhuku ndi mkaka. (Mverani a masewero owonetserako a wailesi za kuyesera uku.)

Phindu lokhala ndi mtima wopatsa limaphatikizapo chifukwa cha oxytocin, mahomoni omwe amapangidwa chifukwa cha chikondi, makompyuta omwe amawopsa chifukwa cha cortisol (hormone yovutitsa). Oxytocin imathandizanso kuchepetsa kupweteka (mwachitsanzo, kuwonjezera kupweteka kwapweteka) poyambitsa kumasulidwa kwa endorphins, motero kumapangitsa kukhala ndi moyo wabwino komanso ntchito. (Zowonjezera sayansi yopindulitsaKoposa zonse, kugwira kotetezeka kumatsegulira ndikutonthoza oyang'anira mphotho zathu zoyambirira, chifukwa chake sitingakhale okhudzidwa ndi zopangira zina.

Kotero, ndi ndani wa oasis wanu wotsatira? Dziwani wina aliyense amene mungakulitse ubale wothandizana naye? Nazi malangizo ena:

Osatsimikiza kuti mungakambirane bwanji nkhaniyo? Gawani nkhani yokhudza lingaliro ndikupeza zomwe bwenzi lanu akulingalira.
Amzanga omwe adutsa kuchipatala, kapena kuphunzitsidwa ndi machiritso ena, kawirikawiri amavomereza kusinthanitsa machiritso ndikuphunzitsanso malire abwino.
Pitani ku phwando lakunyoza, kapena pangani wanu nokha ndi anzanu.

Kumbukirani kuti kudula ndi utumiki kwa aliyense. Kukhudza kwanu kumapindulitsa bwenzi lanu monga momwe mumakukonderani, ndipo anthu owala amapangitsa malo kukhala osangalatsa kwambiri.

chenjezo: Ngati mungayesere lingaliro ili, mutha kusankha posachedwa kuti lingaliro lamakono, lakumadzulo loti 'anthu akhoza kukhala ndi moyo wathanzi akadya pang'ono zogonana komanso kuseweretsa maliseche' ndi… chabwino…chodabwitsa.

MAVUTO NDI NKHANI

Ndimaganiza kuti ndemanga za mayiyu zidalimbikitsidwa:

Zili ngati kuphunzitsa nyama kwenikweni. Ngati mukuphunzitsa galu mumayamba zosavuta ndipo musayembekezere zambiri. Akadziwa zofunikira zochepa monga kukhala, kubwera, ndikuzisiya mutha kuyamba pamalamulo ovuta kwambiri monga 'kuyenda mpaka chidendene'. Poyambira muyenera kuyembekezera kuti azichita misala, ndipo masiku ena sangayankhe konse. Koma ngati muli oleza mtima ndiye kuti asiya kutafuna tinsalu tanu ndikutulutsa pansi kukhitchini ndipo mudzakhala ndi mnzanu wokhulupirika. Ndikuganiza kuti ndikosavuta kuphunzitsa msuweni kuposa akazi okwatiwa ataliatali chifukwa alibe zokumana nazo zoyipa zomwe angaiwale kaye. Msuweni ali ngati kuphunzitsa galu ndipo mkazi amakhala ngati galu wopulumutsa…
Ndinangoyamba kumukumbatira tsiku lililonse, bola ngati zimamveka ngati ali womasuka naye. Poyamba kunali kufinya mwachangu, tsopano ndi kukumbatirana koyenera. Ndidakwera mnzanga wina wokhala naye pabwalo ndipo tidayamba kuyambatirana pagulu. Msuweni wanga akadali ngati 'inu nonse ndinu odabwitsa', koma ndikuganiza kuti akukonda tsopano. Tsopano popeza ali womasuka ndikunyinyirika ndimayesetsa kukankhira malire pang'ono: Kusisita mapewa ake, kapena kumugwira dzanja mwachidule. Nthawi zambiri amadabwa kwakanthawi, koma samabwerera. Madzulo ano ndinadutsa kuchipinda chake kuti ndikalankhule naye ndipo pamene ndimayankhula, mosaganizira, ndinayamba kusisita mapewa ake. Adandifunsa chifukwa chomwe ndidapezekera ndipo ndinamuuza kuti ndalipo kuti ndimusokoneze chifukwa ndinali nditatopa ndipo mnzake yemwe timakhala naye ali kunja. Ndidafunsa ngati ndikumutulutsa panja ndipo adati ayi ndiye ndidayamba kusisita bwino mapewa ake. Adadandaula kuti ndimupangitsa kuti agone padesiki yake, koma ndidazitenga ngati zoyamika.
Ndikuganiza kuti zimangotanthauza tanthauzo lakukhudzako osati kukhudza kokha. Ndikuganiza kuti anthu ena amatha kuwerenga zomwe ndangowerenga ndikuganiza 'akusisita azibale ake mapewa ??? Ndizolakwika '. Ndipo ngati ndimachita chifukwa ndimamupeza wokongola ndiye kuti zikanakhala zolakwika m'maso mwanga. Zitha kukhala ngati pachibale. Chinthu ndikuti, sindikumupeza wokongola. Ndimamkonda kwambiri ngati m'bale kuposa msuweni kwenikweni. Tinali pafupi kukula ndipo tsopano tili m'zaka zoyambirira za 20 ndipo tikukhala limodzi. Chomwe chiri ndichakuti, m'mabanja ena kusisita abale kapena azibale awo mapewa kungakhale kofanana, komanso mulingo wokhudza womwe uli wathanzi kuposa zomwe anthu ambiri masiku ano amakumana nazo.
Muyenera kudziwa zomwe mukuganiza mukamugwira munthuyo, ndikuzindikira zomwe mukufuna kuchokera pakukhudza kwanu. Ngati zolinga zanu sizili zachikondi yesetsani kupewa. Zimakhala zovuta mukakhala osowa koma mudzalandiranso mphothozo.

Malangizo obwereza bwenzi

[kuchokera membala wa gulu]

"Ndinakumananso ndi mzanga wamkazi pomwe mnzake anali komweko, ndipo nayenso amafuna kugona, ndipo sindinadziwe kumene kunali kupita."
Kodi zikuwoneka ngati akukupemphani kuti mugone naye, kapena simunali otsimikiza?
"Chomwe sindimafuna kwenikweni kuti ndigone naye (Akuwoneka ndikungofuna kusachita zibwenzi naye), ndipo ndine wokondwa kukhala bwenzi chabe."
Ngakhale mutagona naye, simuyenera_kugonana!
Zimamveka ngati palibe chikoka chogonana, koma ndiwe mabwenzi abwino kwambiri.
Kodi mungakonde kumupatsa zabwino, zotalika, ndikukumbatira? Ngati ndi choncho, mwinamwake mungasangalale kugona naye, popanda kugonana. Nazi mfundo zina zokhudzana ndi momwe mungachitire:
Ngati ena sakudziwa ngati akukupemphani kuti mugone naye, mutha kumufotokozera kuti: "Mukundipempha kuti tigone nanu?"
Ndipo ngati yankho lanu ndi inde, mutha kunena kuti "Chabwino, sindikufuna kugonana, koma ndi_ndingakonde_kugona ndikuseka ndikugona nanu. Kodi mungakonde kutero? ”
Musapereke chifukwa chomwe simukufunira zogonana pokhapokha atakufunsani. Ngati angafunse, mutha kunena kuti muli ndi ED ndipo mwina simungathe kuyimvetsa. (Izi ziyenera kuchepetsa nkhawa zake kuti mukumukana.)
Ngati adatuluka kunja, simunapitilirepo ngati mutangothamanga popanda kufunsa. Ngati iye avomereza pa mawu anu, ndiye zabwino!
Pambuyo pokhala limodzi usiku, mwina nonse mudzakhala ndi lingaliro labwino ngati mukufuna kubwerezanso. Mutha kupeza kuti kukopa kwawonjezeka. Ngati mukufuna kugona naye, onetsetsani kuti mumuuza! (Mwina sangadziwe zomwe mukuganiza.) Mumpatitseni bwino, ndikumuuza kuti, “Ndinkasangalala kwambiri kugona nanu. Kodi mukufuna kudzachitanso nthawi ina? ” Ngati ati inde, mutha kupereka nthawi yoti mubwererenso limodzi. Dziwani kuti simunanene kalikonse kuti mumamukonda kapena mukufuna kukhala naye pachibwenzi. Mutha kupitiliza kugona limodzi, ndikukhalabe ndi anthu ena ngati mungafune.
Ngati akuvutika kusankha nthawi yoti abwererenso limodzi, kapena zikuwoneka kuti amangokhala aulemu ndipo sakufuna kugona nanu, mutha kunena kuti, "Ngati mungafune kuti ndidzabweranso nthawi ina, ingondiyimbirani. ” Izi zimatsegula chitseko ngati angasinthe malingaliro ake. Zachidziwikire kuti ndinu mfulu kumuimbira foni, nayenso.
Ngati simukufuna kugona naye usiku wina, ingomuthokozani mwaulemu kuti wakuchezerani, ndipo musapereke mwayi uliwonse woti mudzagonenso.
Ndipo zowonadi ngati simukufuna kugona naye, simukakamizidwa kutero! Koma ndiye sindikumvetsa chifukwa chomwe mumamveka osokonezeka mu positi yanu yoyamba. Zikumveka ngati mumadziganiziranso nokha, ngati muyenera kupita naye kunyumba.
“Ndinkachita manyazi komanso ndinali ndi nkhawa chifukwa sindinali wamwamuna kwenikweni!”
Mukadzipereka kwa inu nokha (ndi mnzanu) kuti musagone, zimatenga kukakamizidwa, ndipo mutha kungokhalira kukumbatirana ndikupumula (zomwe zikumveka ngati mukufuna). Simusowa kuti mupange, ngati simukufuna. Zili ndi inu, popeza mwakhazikitsa malamulo. Ndipo ngati mupanga boner, ndipo amasangalala kwambiri, mutha kumuuza kuti mwina sizikhala, makamaka mukayesa kuvala kondomu. Mutha kunena, "Ndikungofuna kuti ndikusangalatseni kukugwirani - ndipo ndikufuna kugona pang'ono!"