Eya, kodi zimathandiza kuwona kuonera zolaula ngati zachiwerewere?
Wodandaula woledzera yemwe anali kubwereranso nthawi zonse:
Ndinawerenga ndikuphunzira buku lalikulu la filosofi lolembedwa ndi Papa John Paul Wachiwiri lotchedwa Chikondi ndi Udindo . Ngati nditalangiza munthu buku, ndi bukuli. Ndaphunzira mokwanira chifukwa chake zolaula ndi chilakolako cha kugonana zisanachitike chikondi n'zolakwika.
Kubwezeretsa zolaula ndi malo amodzi pomwe machitidwe amakhalidwe abwino angawonongeke, ndikuchedwa kuchira. Mukulimbana ndi mankhwala amubongo: kusokonekera kwa dopamine. Zimatengera nthawi komanso kusasinthasintha kuti mubwezeretse ubongo wanu kuzinthu zodziwika bwino. Njira yachilengedwe yochiritsira imatha kupitilizidwa ndikubwezeretsanso zolaula ndi zabwino zomwe ubongo wanu udasinthiratu kufunafuna. Zinthu monga kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi, nthawi yachilengedwe, kuyanjana, kudalirana, kukopana ndi omwe ungakwatirane nawo komanso kukhala chete komanso kulumikizana ndi Mulungu. Mwachidziwikire, pemphero lingakhale njira yokwaniritsira izi. Momwemonso kusinkhasinkha.
Kuyang'ana pa cholakwika
Chomwe chikuwoneka kuti sichikuthandiza ndi kuganizira chifukwa chake kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula "ndi kolakwika." Chifukwa chake ndi chakuti kuchita zinthu "zolakwika" nthawi zambiri kumawonedwa ndi ubongo wanu ngati kosangalatsa, kolimba mtima komanso koopsa. Ubongo wanu unasintha kuti ukhale ndi chiopsezo. (Zinapangitsa kuti kusaka mammoth kukhala kopindulitsa kwambiri.)
Mukayambiranso, kapena kuziganizira, malingaliro "olakwika" amathanso kudzetsa nkhawa. Ngati zolaula ndizofunika, ndiye kuti mumadzitcha 'munthu wachiwerewere' nthawi iliyonse mukayambiranso. Choyipa chachikulu ndichakuti, gawo loyambirira laubongo wanu (osatha kumvetsetsa lingaliro la "chikhalidwe") zingwe zonse zomwe zimakhudzana ndi ziwalo zanu kuti "zizikulitsa" mtsogolo.
Chifukwa chake, gawo ili laubongo wanu limakulitsa mwamphamvu chilakolako chanu chogonana komanso zipsinjo, osati zolaula zokha. Ndikulimbikitsanso kuti muzimva 'nkhawa' komanso 'zachiwerewere'. Chifukwa chake, msinkhu wachikale, "chiwerewere, chiopsezo ndi nkhawa = kugonana kwabwino." Ndipo mukalimbikitsanso equation iyi, kumakhala kovuta kwambiri kuti muzule pambuyo pake m'moyo wanu. Onani chifukwa chomwe Ted Haggard adapitilizabe kukulitsa chidwi chake?
Mankhwala osokoneza bongo omwe amayendetsedwa ndi dopamine
Chowonadi ndi chakuti, mutha kukhala munthu wamakhalidwe abwino… wokhala ndi chizolowezi cha dopamine yopangidwa ndi zolaula, komanso kusintha kwa ubongo. Nyengo. Kusintha kumeneku kumasinthidwa, ndipo njira yosinthira imagwiranso ntchito mosadalira chikhalidwe chanu.
Mwachidule, kupangitsa zolaula kukhala nkhani ya makhalidwe abwino kungakuwonongereni kwambiri kugonana kwanu. Zimachita izi mwa "kupatsa mphotho" (kapena kuyambitsa) ubongo wanu chifukwa cha khalidwe lomwe mukufuna kusiya. Izi zingangopangitsa ntchito yanu kukhala yovuta. Ngati muli oona mtima ndi inu nokha, mungazindikire kuti mukufuna kuti kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kukhalebe 'tchimo,' chifukwa zimapangitsa kuti kugwiritsa ntchito kwake kukhale kosangalatsa komanso kosangalatsa . Uwu ndi umboni wa vutoli lomwe lafotokozedwa pamwambapa. Ingomwetulirani ndi chinyengo chomwe ubongo wanu wakale ukukusewerani. Siyani 'chimo' chokopa, povomereza kuti iyi ndi nkhani yongolumikiza ubongo.
Mutha kupita patsogolo kwambiri poona zolaula ngati zithunzithunzi zomwe mukufuna kusiya kuwononga nthawi yanu. Erotica ndi "njira zomwe zimatulutsa dopamine". Akukusokonezani pazoyenera kuchita kuti muthane ndi omwe mungakwatirane nawo moyenera. Palibe china. Zosasiyana ndikutulutsa ndudu.
Njira yothandiza kusiya
Yesani izi: Ngati mukufuna kusiya zolaula, chitani choncho chifukwa simukukonda zotsatira zake komanso zosokoneza zake. Koma osayesa kusiya chifukwa cha zolaula za zolaula. Ikhoza kubwerera.
Kodi mungatani kuti mulumikizane kwambiri ndi ena ? (Kulumikizana ndi wopanga wanu kungakutonthozeninso, koma osati ngati kukupangitsani kumva ngati simukuyenera, chifukwa zimenezo zimakuvutitsani maganizo ndipo zingakupangitseni kubwerera m'mbuyo.) Perekani ubongo wanu zambiri zomwe unasintha kuti uzifune, ndipo sudzakhala ndi njala yofuna zinthu zosangalatsa zopangidwa.
Timamvera chisoni kwambiri anyamata omwe analeredwa kuti azigonana nthawi yomweyo mu nthawi yomwe zolaula za pa intaneti "zopanda vuto" zakhala paliponse. Ndani wa ife amene sakanaganiza kuti tikuthetsa vuto la "kugonana kwambiri, koma osakwatirana msanga" mwa kutembenukira ku zolaula? Komabe, zolaula za masiku ano zimaphunzitsa ubongo m'njira zosayembekezereka.
Dziwani kuti, mungakhale bwino musakugonana ndi anthu omwe mungakwatirane naye:. Yesani kalasi yovina, kucheza, kugwirira ntchito limodzi, etc. Kukopana kungakhale kotsitsimula kuposa cyber erotica komwe kumakusiyani inu kuti mufune zambiri. Koma ndani adadziwa ???
Langizo: Dzikhululukireni nokha ndikukhazikitsanso kulimbana kwanu monga kapangidwe kake ka ubongo m'malo molimbana ndi vuto. Ndi bwino kupempha thandizo kwa Mulungu. Koma funsani kuti ubongo wanu ukhale m'malo moyang'ana 'machimo' anu. Mwina wopanga wanu amakukondani kuti muzichita zinthu mwamphamvu m'malo mokhala katswiri pa "uchimo."
Wachiritso wina anati:
Monga inu, ndimakhala ndikulimbana ndi vutoli kwazaka ndi zaka osagwiritsa ntchito zina zabwino, ndipo sizimagwira. Palibe kudziuza ndekha kuti 'izi ndizolakwika' zomwe zingandipangitse kusiya. Ndimaganiza kuti ndine munthu woyipa kwambiri ndipo sindingaleke kuchimwa.
Komabe, malingaliro anga anali osakwanira. Monga mukudziwa, chiphunzitso chachikatolika chimati tchimo lakufa limafunikira zinthu zitatu: 1) Iyenera kukhala nkhani yayikulu, 2) Muyenera kudziwa kuti ndiyolakwika, ndipo 3) Muyenera kusankha kuzichita. Ndi zizolowezi, komabe, palibe chosankha. Chifukwa chake, sichingakhale tchimo poyambirira! Simukusankha kuchita PMO, ubongo wanu womwe wakumverani wakukakamizani kuti muchite motsutsana ndi chifuniro chanu.
Osachimwa
Izi ndizosiyana kotheratu ndi kuchimwa. Ichi ndichifukwa chake Katekisimu imasiya "gawo losiyaniranapo" m'ndime 2352, gawo lonena za kuseweretsa maliseche: "Kuti apange chigamulo chofanana pazochita zamaphunziro ndikuwongolera zochita zaubusa, munthu ayenera kuganizira kusakhwima, mphamvu ya zomwe waphunzira chizolowezi, nkhawa kapena zina zamaganizidwe kapena mayendedwe omwe amachepetsa, ngakhale atachepetsako, kulakwitsa kwamakhalidwe. ”
Kuphunzira za izi kunandipangitsa kumva kuti ndili bwino. Ine sindine munthu woipa chabe chifukwa chakuti mwangozi ndakhala ndikuledzera! Muyamba kuwona kupambana kopambana polimbana ndi izi ngati chizolowezi m'malo mongokhala tchimo.
Ndizomvetsa chisoni; osamalira athu Achikatolika onse samadziwa za kuledzera kwa PMO. Chifukwa chake adatiphunzitsa izi m'mawu okhawo omwe amadziwa - mwamakhalidwe ndi uchimo. (Ndikulosera kuti Katekisimu wamtsogolo adzasinthidwa kuti awonetse zomwe tikuphunzira pano zakusokoneza bongo ndi zomwe zimabweretsa muubongo komanso kutha kusankha.)
Ngati mwapeza kuti kukambirana kumeneku pankhani ya makhalidwe abwino n’kothandiza, onaninso Kodi zolaula ndi vuto lalikulu kwa anthu achipembedzo?