Gawo limodzi mwa magawo atatu a anyamata ndi amuna aku Britain amakumana ndi zolaula ali ana, koma zotsatira zake za nthawi yayitali sizimaphunziridwa bwino. Kodi kukana mwanzeru kuchita nawo nkhaniyi kumaika amuna pachiwopsezo?
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Kudzutsa Chidwi
Kaya mukugwiritsa ntchito gulu liti, zoona zake n'zakuti - akatswiri akulimbikira kuti MH - kunyalanyaza momwe zolaula zimakhudzira anyamata ndi amuna kumabweretsa mavuto kwa aliyense. Gulu lodziyimira pawokha la zolaula linakhazikitsidwa mu 2023 ndi boma la Conservative, ndipo linapanga lipoti mu 2025 lomwe limayang'ana kwambiri kuvulaza komwe kumakhudza akazi ndi atsikana achichepere. 'Osati pa momwe zolaula zimakhudzira anyamata ndi anyamata okha,' akutero Brooks. 'Zimenezo zikuphatikizapo thanzi lawo la maganizo, kumvetsetsa kwawo za ubale wabwino komanso mawonekedwe a thupi. Sipanakhalepo kuzindikira kuti amuna, anyamata ndi anyamata ndi omwe amazunzidwa ndi izi okha.' Akukhulupirira kuti chidziwitso chikusintha, monga momwe zikuwonetsedwera ndi nkhani yomwe idayambitsidwa ndi Netflix's. Achinyamata chaka chatha ndi Louis Theroux: Mkati mwa Manosphere filimu yolembedwa mu Marichi.
Sasaki ali ndi zolinga zomveka bwino ndi AIBM yomwe yapeza posachedwapa yokhudza zolaula. 'Kuti adziwitse anthu za kusowa kwa kafukufuku pazigawo zina za chithunzichi,' akutero. 'Ndikufuna kwambiri kuona akatswiri azachuma ndi asayansi azachikhalidwe omwe amafufuza mfundo akuyang'ana izi - chifukwa opanga malamulo akukhazikitsa mfundo zomwe nthawi zambiri sizili ndi umboni kapena zomwe sizinawunikidwe.' Akatswiri ku UK akutero MH kuti Online Safety Act ndi sitepe yoyenera pankhani yogwiritsa ntchito zolaula mwa anyamata. Kukhazikitsa kutsimikizira zaka kunayamba mu Julayi watha, ndipo malinga ndi kafukufuku wa Lucy Faithfull Foundation, 47% ya omwe adafunsidwa adati achepetsa kuchuluka kwa zolaula zomwe amaonera. 'Ndi poyambira,' akutero Brooks, ngakhale pali njira zothetsera mavuto pogwiritsa ntchito ma VPN [ma network achinsinsi] komanso kuti zomwe akuluakulu amanena zimapezeka pa malo ochezera a pa Intaneti. Dr Hall akuvomereza kuti zoletsa za anyamata zikutumiza uthenga woyenera. 'Koma siziyenera kuchitika popanda maphunziro,' akutero. Maphunziro atsopano a sukulu akukonzekera kuphunzitsa anyamata kusiyana pakati pa zolaula ndi moyo weniweni.
Komabe, mwina, ngakhale zomwe zikuchitika kutsogolo ndizofunikira, kuonetsetsa kuti pali umboni wotsimikizira malangizowo zikadali zofunikanso. Kodi Sasaki angakonde kuwona chiyani chomwe chikuyang'aniridwa pambuyo pake mu kafukufukuyu? Akuganiza kuti zolaula zitha kukhala ndi gawo pakuchepa kwa chibwenzi, kukwera kwa kusakhulupirirana komanso kusweka kwa chidaliro pakati pa amuna ndi akazi pankhani ya ubale wa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Malinga ndi National Dating Landscape Survey, anyamata azaka zapakati pa 22 ndi 35 omwe nthawi zambiri amagwiritsa ntchito zolaula anali ndi mwayi wowirikiza kawiri kuti amapewa kuchita chibwenzi. Ndi chinthu chomwe Ollie nayenso akufuna kudziwa, poganizira za mwamuna wazaka makumi atatu yemwe amamudziwa yemwe 'amasangalala' kwambiri kuonera zolaula tsiku lililonse m'malo mwa ubale weniweni.
Mndandanda wa Zolaula Zathanzi
Kodi chizolowezi chanu choonera zolaula chikukhudza moyo wanu?
'Ubale wabwino ndi zolaula ndi kusakhala ndi makhalidwe oipa kapena malingaliro oipa,' akufotokoza Crepsley-Fox. 'Monga, ngati mukugwiritsa ntchito nthawi yomwe muli nayo ndipo simukuwononga ndalama zanu zonse pa izo.'
Kodi muli ndi ulamuliro?
'Ngati mukumva ngati mukusankha nthawi yomwe mukufuna kuona zolaula, m'malo momva ngati muyenera kuchita nthawi zina, ndiye kuti ndi chizindikiro chabwino,' akulangiza Crepsley-Fox. 'Ndikofunikira kumva ngati muli ndi chisankho.'
Kodi mukupewa kumva chisoni?
'Dziwani ngati ikhala njira yothetsera kusungulumwa, nkhawa kapena malingaliro ena omwe mukukumana nawo,' akuchenjeza Dr. Hall. 'Kwa ena, zotsatira za zovuta zimawonjezera zomwe zinali zosangalatsa mpaka kufika poti zimakhala zovuta kwambiri.'
Mukumva bwanji mutatha?
'Ngati mwafika pachimake, kudzimva bwino ndipo mutha kuyang'ananso pazinthu zina, ndiye kuti zimenezo ndi zabwino,' akutero Crepsley-Fox. 'Koma ngati muli ndi "ngozi" yayikulu yomwe imatenga masiku ambiri, musanabwererenso kukakamizidwa, ndiye kuti pakhoza kukhala zotsatirapo zoyipa.'