Pa Epulo 5, 2014, Rory Patrick adalengeza kwa otsatira ake a Twitter kuti asiya kudziseweretsa maliseche kwa masiku 100. Posakhalitsa, hashtag idayambitsidwa: #Rory100. Anzake ndi omuthandizira adamulimbikitsa, adamutumizira mauthenga olimbikitsa komanso odabwa kwambiri, komanso mwachibadwa mauthenga ena osokoneza.
Nditangomva za vuto langa, ndinayamba kuganiza kuti, Kodi ndingachite izi? Kodi ndingathe kupitirira miyezi itatu popanda kudziseweretsa maliseche? Ngakhale kamodzi kokha? Ayi. Palibe aliyense wa ife amene angathe. N'zoopsa. Zoopsa. Ankaganiza chiyani?
Chochititsa chidwi n'chakuti, amuna ambiri akusankha kuchita zomwe iye anachita. Amadzitcha okha "Nofappers" ndi " Fapstonauts ," zomwe zimamveka ngati anthu omwe amangochita zinthu mopanda mphamvu. Gulu la anthu ambiri silimaona kuti kuchita zinthu mopanda mphamvu n'kovuta. Malinga ndi Nofap.org (inde, izi ndi zenizeni), zifukwa zopewera kukhutitsidwa ndi munthu payekha zimasiyana, koma zotsatira zake zimati ndi zabwino. Ena amafuna kusiya zizolowezi zolaula, zomwe zimapatsa makompyuta awo malo ambiri osungira zinthu molimba mtima. Gululi limadzitamandiranso kuti mudzakhala ndi kudziletsa kowonjezereka, nthawi yochulukirapo m'manja mwanu (tsopano popeza manja anu ndi omasuka), komanso malingaliro abwino.
"Anthu ambiri osagwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo anafotokoza za chisangalalo chowonjezeka m'miyoyo yawo yonse, makamaka m'malingaliro awo okhudza kugonana ndi ubale wa anthu," akutero tsamba la Nofap's About . Anthu ammudzi akhala olimba mokwanira kukhala ndi mawu awoawo. Mawu ambiri amamveka ngati zinthu zomwe Redditor amalankhula atagona usiku wonse akumwa mowa wambiri, monga "Blue Petal," yomwe ndi yachikazi yofanana ndi mipira yabuluu. Komabe, izi ndizomveka bwino, popeza bungweli linayambitsidwa chifukwa cha ulusi wa Reddit. Wogwiritsa ntchito wina adalemba ziwerengero pa subreddit ya "Today I Learned", ponena kuti amuna omwe amapewa kudziseweretsa maliseche kwa masiku 7 amawonjezera kuchuluka kwa testosterone yawo ndi zoposa 45%. Kuchokera pamenepo, lingaliro la "vuto losadziseweretsa maliseche" linayamba.
Rory Patrick, komabe sanadziwe za gulu la Nofap pamene adayamba izi. Anadzipangira yekha ntchitoyi, m'malo mochita nawo a Fapstronauts, iye adalemba kawirikawiri za kupita kwake kwa otsatira ake. Pa July 13, kuyang'ana kwa masochistic kotsirizaku kunatha. Ndikhoza kumayankhula naye za izo, ndikupeza ngati ubwino wokhala ndi maliseche ndi weniweni, popanda kudziyesera ndekha.
VICE: Ndiyenera kudziwa chifukwa chake. N’chifukwa chiyani unadzichitira wekha izi, komanso chifukwa chake unachita masiku 100? Masiku zana, bwanawe. N’chifukwa chiyani? N’chifukwa chiyani? Rory Patrick: Ndinangoona momwe kudzidzimuka kunasinthira moyo wanga watsiku ndi tsiku. Mwachitsanzo, nthawi zina ndinkakonzekera kupita ku gym kapena kuthamanga, kenako ndinkadziuza ndekha kuti, “Chabwino, uthamange, choncho tiyeni tikhale ndi nthawi yabwino ndekha tisanachite zimenezo.” Komabe, nditamaliza kudziseweretsa maliseche, ndinkadzipeza nditagona pabedi langa ndikuonera TV ndi thumba la tchipisi m’malo mothamanga kwenikweni. Kubweranso kunali njira yanga yaikulu yothetsera kupsinjika maganizo kapena ululu, ndipo zimenezo sizinkaoneka ngati zabwino kwenikweni. Choncho pamene mnzanga ankalankhula za gulu la anthu omwe anali opanda kwa masiku 90, ndinayankha mopikisana, ndikunena kuti nditha kuchita masiku 100. Ndinkangoyembekezera kuti vutoli lindipatse mphamvu yoti ndisagone kwa kanthawi.
Kotero munapanga chisankho kenako n’kulemba ma hashtag anu a masiku 100 pa Twitter. Kodi chithandizo chakhala bwanji? Chakhala chosangalatsa kwambiri. Anthu a pa Twitter akhoza kukhala ndi chiyembekezo komanso chithandizo chabwino kwambiri. Ine ndi mnzanga Josh tinayamba kujambula zithunzi zathu tikuchita salute ya The Hunger Games ndipo anthu anaiona ndipo ankajambula zithunzi zawo akuchita salute ndi hashtag. Zinandidziwitsa kuti anthu ankandiganizira ndipo zinandipangitsa kukhala woona mtima, chifukwa zinkaoneka ngati anthu akusangalala nazo. Sindinkafuna kuwononga usiku umodzi chifukwa ndinali ndi nkhawa ndi ntchito ndipo ndinkafunika kuichotsa. Munali ndi anthu ena omwe ankandifunsa sabata iliyonse ngati ndibweranso ndipo ena ankanditumizira zovala zamaliseche nthawi ndi nthawi kuti ndiyesere kubwera, koma nthawi zambiri anthu anali kunditsatira ndipo ankayembekezera kuti nditha masiku 100 amenewo.
Kodi munkachita maliseche kangati musanachite izi? Tsiku lililonse. Pa avareji, tsiku lililonse. Monga ndanenera kale, zinali zofunika chifukwa ndinkadziwa kuti nthawi iliyonse ndikapanikizika, ndinkamva kufunika kobwerera kuchipinda changa ndikuchoka kapena kukhala pachibwenzi ndi munthu wina. Nthawi yanga yogona inalinso yogwirizana ndi kubwera. Kubwera ndisanagone nthawi ina kunakhala chizolowezi. Mwina ndiyenera kukhala ndi luso losiyanasiyana lothana ndi mavuto a moyo kusiyana ndi kudzivutitsa ndekha.
Kodi ndi liti pamene linali lovuta kwambiri? Kodi panali masiku enieni omwe mungakumbukire pamene munatsala pang'ono kusiya? Munakana bwanji mayesero? Masiku anayi oyambirira anali oipa, ndipo zinali zoonekeratu kuti kubwera kunandithandiza bwanji kuti ndikhale ndi moyo tsiku ndi tsiku. Ndinali ndi chizolowezi chobwera ndisanagone. Poyamba chizolowezi changa chinali chokhazikika pakuyesera kubwera ndi kugona. Nditayamba, ndinkaonerabe zolaula pang'ono kenako n’kugona osadzikhudza. Kugona kunali kosatheka. Ndinkangoyendayenda usiku wonse, ndikuyesera kupuma maola atatu nthawi imodzi. Ndinayesa chilichonse kuyambira mapiritsi ogona mpaka kudya nditatopa, ndipo ndinkavutikabe kugona kapena kugona.
Tsiku lina vuto lonselo linali pangozi, atatha anthu ena a Twitter atabwera kuchokera kunja kwa tawuni. Timamwa mowa kwambiri, ndipo nthawi zina tikamamwa mowa kwambiri, tsiku lotsatira ndikudandaula kwambiri. Ndimakumbukira makamaka kukhala tsiku la 86, chifukwa ndinadziuza ndekha kuti, "Chabwino, mudachita masiku a 86. Anthu ambiri sakanatha kuchita masiku a 86, "Ndili ndi tambala wanga m'manja mwanga, ndikukonzekera kuyamba kumangogwedeza. Pomwe ndinapuma kwambiri, bwenzi langa anandilembera kalata (ine ndikanatumizirana mauthenga ambirimbiri, koma panali pakati pausiku), ndipo ndinali wothandizira, ndipo zinandipatsa mphamvu zomwe ndikufunikira kuti ndizingomuka sambani ndikugwedeza.
Kotero lamulo ili silinaphatikizepo kugonana? Kodi izi zinaphatikizaponso kusagonana? Sindinaloledwe kubwera konse. Kotero sindikanatha kudziseweretsa maliseche kapena kugonana mpaka kumapeto.
Kodi zinakukhudzani bwanji? Pambuyo pa masiku anayi oyamba aja, zinthu zinali bwino kwambiri. Ndinagwiritsa ntchito nthawi yobwera kuti ndithamange ndikuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi. Ndinamva bwino kwambiri. Ndimagwira ntchito yoletsa kudzipha ndipo ndimadziwa kuti ndimalumikizana bwino ndi anthu ndipo ndimamvetsera mozama kwambiri. Ndinali kulemba zambiri kuposa kale ndipo ndimatenga nthawi yowerenga. N'zokhumudwitsa kuganiza kuti zochita zonse zomwe ndinkachita kale zinali kungomva ngati, Hei, ndili ndi mphindi 20 zaulere pano, mwina ndiyenera kuwona ngati pali zolaula zabwino , zomwe nthawi zonse zimakhalapo.
Tsiku la 100 litafika kumapeto, zinatenga nthawi yayitali bwanji kuti mudzipumulenso? Kodi munachitapo chilichonse chapadera kukonzekera chochitika chachikulu? Tsiku lomaliza linali labwino kwambiri. Unali mpikisano womaliza wa World Cup, kotero ndinaonera zimenezo ndi mnzanga. Atachoka, ndinachita masewera olimbitsa thupi ndikuyeretsa nyumba. Ndinatenga nthawi yometa tsitsi, kudula, ndikudula thupi langa lonse kuti ndikonzekere ndekha. Ndinapita kukwera njinga kuti ndichepetse nthawi, kenako, pamene nthawi inali pafupi pakati pausiku, ndinakumana ndi anzanga ena kuti timwe. Mnzanga wokhala naye m'chipinda chimodzi komanso mnzanga wapamtima analonjeza kuti atuluka m'nyumbamo, kuti ndikhale wokweza mawu momwe ndimafunira. Ndinalemba zikomo pa Twitter, ndipo nthawi itakwana, ndinali maliseche ndipo ndinasangalalanso. Zinangotenga mphindi zochepa, ndipo mapeto anali odabwitsa.
Ndimakumbukira ndikugwedezeka mwakuya monga momwe ndinali ndisanamvepo kale, ndiyeno ndinatsiriza pamtima panga pachifuwa sindinamvepo kuyambira ndili pasukulu yapakati. Chiwonetserochi chinabwereranso m'chipinda chonse osachepera maminiti 20. Ndinalembapo chithunzi cha ine ndikumwetulira ndikubwerako kwa kanthawi. Sindinagwedezeke kuyambira tsiku la 100, koma sindinali mlendo kwa ine ndekha. Zinali zofunikira masiku a 100. Ndikudziwa bwino chifukwa chake ndikuyenera kubwera tsopano kuposa kale. Ndizofunika. Ine ndachiphonya icho, ngakhale, ndipo ine ndiri wokondwa kubwerera.
Kodi mapulani anu ogonana ndi otani? Kubwerera ku zakale, kapena mukusintha zinthu? Unali ulendo wokongola masiku angapo apitawa. Aliyense pa intaneti anali kufuula kuti andithandize ndipo sanabwere nane kukondwerera mapeto a ulendo. Koma sindingodzipangitsa misala. Ndikuchita ngati ndikumwa madzi pang'ono. Ndiyesetsa kudziletsa ndekha ndikusunga zizolowezi zomwe ndakhala nazo masiku 100 apitawa. Chifukwa chake ngati nkhawa kapena nkhawa zikundigwira, sindimangodumphira pansi pa zivundikiro kapena kutumizirana mameseji kuti ndicheze. Ndikufuna kulandila nthawi imeneyo ndi chinthu chabwino pang'ono. Nyumba yanga sinakhalepo yoyerapo, ndipo thupi langa lakhala likugwiritsidwa ntchito kwambiri kunja kwa ntchafu yanga kwa masiku 100 apitawa, ndipo chiyembekezo changa ndichakuti izi zipitirire.
Kodi mungatero kachiwiri, kapena chiyani? Inde, ndithudi. Ndidzachitanso kachiwiri, kunena zoona.