Pali mkuntho ukubwera. Ndikhoza kuzimva pamene ndikuima pa ngodya ya kumtunda ku London, ndikuganizira za ana anga. Lily ndi Rose onse ali ndi zaka 11. Mmodzi ndi wopenga za agalu, winayo amakonda akiti.
Iwo ali ndi zaka zochepa ngati mahomoni ayamba kusuntha, ndipo akhoza kukhala akuzungulirana kuzungulira chipinda ngati anyamata okwiyitsa mphindi imodzi koma akuwombera pang'onopang'ono.
Atsikanawa akuyandikira 13, zaka zomwe Chevonea Kendall-Bryan anali nazo pamene adatsamira kuchokera pawindo limodzi pazitsulo lachinayi pa malo ogulitsira pamsewu. Mnyamata yemwe amadziwa anali pansi apa, koma uyu sanali Romeo ndi Juliet. Ayi.
Chevonea adamukakamiza kuti amuchitire zogonana, ndipo adamuimbira foni yake ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wake onse. Anamuopseza kuti adzalumpha kuchokera pawindo ngati sanachotse. Kenaka adagwa ndipo adagwa pansi 60 mapazi, akufa chifukwa cha kuvulala kwakukulu kwa ubongo.
Amayi ake akunena kuti tsopano ayamba kukonzekera zomwe zikuchitika kwa atsikana aang'ono. Iwo ali pansi pa kupsyinjika kwakukulu, kuti apirire ndi dziko loipitsitsa, lovuta kwambiri komanso logonana kwambiri kuposa chirichonse chimene makolo awo adziwa.
"Kuyambira kale, asanakwatirane ndi anyamata, amatsatsa malonda, amamagazini a atsikana, mapulogalamu a pa TV komanso zithunzi zolaula zomwe zimapezeka nthawi zambiri m'chipinda cham'nyamata." Anatero katswiri wa zamaganizo, Steve Biddulph, dziko lolimbikitsa buku lotchedwa Kukweza Atsikana.
Ndikumutsata wogulitsa kwambiri Kuukitsa Anyamata - ndipo ali pampanipani, akutsogoleredwa kuti akhulupirire kuti asungwana aziwoneka ndikukhala ngati nyenyezi zolaula. Ana athu akusanduka zolaula.
"Kawirikawiri atsikana omwe amalandira zinthu zonyansa," adatero Claire Perry MP, yemwe wasankhidwa kukhala mlangizi wapadera wa David Cameron pankhani yogulitsa ndi kugonana kwaunyamata. "Tili ndi atsikana aang'ono akufunsidwa kulemba mayina awo pa boobs ndi kutumiza zithunzi. Makolo angadabwe kwambiri kudziwa kuti izi zikuchitika bwino kwambiri sukulu iliyonse m'dziko. Ana athu akukula m'dziko lokonda kugonana. "
Kotero uwu ndi mphepo yamkuntho yomwe atsikana anga ayandikira. Ndikhoza kumva kale zongomveka. Chifukwa cha iwo, ndikufuna kudziwa, ndiipa bwanji? Kodi zafala bwanji? Ndikupempha kuti ndiyankhule kwa azimayi Perry, ndipo ndikudikira kubwereza ndikuwerenga kafukufuku wa National Society of Prevention of Cruelty to Children, zomwe zikusonyeza kuti ndizoipa ndithudi. Ochita kafukufuku omwe adafufuza mozama za moyo wa ophunzira ku sukulu ziwiri za ku London ku 2010 amati chaka chachisanu ndi chitatu chinali pamene anayamba kusokonezeka ndi kukhumudwa ndi zofuna za kugonana ndi zofuna zawo.
Claire, yemwe ayenera kukhala 12 kapena 13, akuwongosoledwa kuti akunena za anyamata a m'kalasi yake: "Ngati akufuna kugonana, amalankhula tsiku lililonse mpaka mutero."
Kamal, mnyamata wa chaka chomwecho, akuti: "Ndikunena kuti ndili ndi chibwenzi, ndikumupempha kuti alembe dzina langa pachifuwa chake ndikutumiza kwa ine ndikuziika pa Facebook kapena Bebo kapena chinachake . "Chithunzi chojambula pa foni yake, chowonetsedwa ndi aliyense kwa yemwe amamutumizira mauthenga, ndi chithunzi cha clever's girlfriend's. Anyamata ena kusukulu kwawo ali ndi zithunzi zoonekera kwa atsikana osiyana a 30 pa foni yawo. Amasinthiratu monga momwe tinkasinthira makadi a mpira. Ngati iwo amamukonda mtsikana, amamutumizira chithunzi cha ziwalo zawo zoberekera. Monga mtsikana wina adanena kuti atatuluka lipoti, kutumiza zithunzi za ziwalo za thupi lanu ndi "kujambula kwatsopano".
Anyamata akhala akuyesa mwayi wawo, koma tsopano ali ndi njira zamakono zogwiritsa ntchito kupanikizika, pa mafoni ndi makamera ndi mauthenga omwe palibe munthu wamkulu omwe amawawonapo.
Chloe Combi, yemwe kale anali mphunzitsi yemwe adayamba ntchito yake ku "sukulu yokongola posh", analemba mu Times Educational Supplement kuti: "Kuyankhula kovuta kwambiri komwe ndakhala nako kunali ndikusokonezeka, munthu wosokonezeka wa 45 . Ndinayenera kumufotokozera kuti tisiye kusukulu mwana wake wamkazi yemwe sali wosokonezeka, wosasokonezeka, wokondedwa chifukwa anali atagwidwa ndikugwiritsira ntchito mzere wa anyamata m'nyumbamo za anyamata. "
Mayi Combi adapitiriza kunena kuti: "Mnzanga wina yemwe amaphunzitsa kusukulu ina (zovuta kwambiri kuposa ine) adanena kuti zakhala zovuta kwambiri kuti apite panthawi yamadzulo onse kuti ateteze zochitika zomwezo."
Nchiyani chomwe chimayambitsa zonsezi? Tifunika kufufuza zambiri, akatswiri amati. Koma kwa kholo loopsya, likuwoneka ngati zotsatira zoopsa za kuyesa kwakukulu. Chifukwa cha intaneti, anyamata athu ndi atsikana ndi ana oyamba kukula ndi maulendo a pakompyuta pafupipafupi. Porn zakhala mbali ya anthu akuluakulu, amajambula zonse kuchokera ku malonda kupita ku mabuku ogulitsa kwambiri monga makumi asanu a Shades of Gray. Inde ana athu amakhudzidwa.
Mayi Diane Abbott, yemwe ndi mtumiki wa zaumoyo, adanena sabata yatha kuti: "Ndikufuna kunena zomwe ndikukhulupilira kuti ndikumuka kwa munda wamtchire, chikhalidwe chachitsulo m'masukulu ndi mabungwe a British, omwe aperekedwa kuposa mabanja achiBrithani, kupanga teknoloji, ndi chikhalidwe cha Britain chakuchulukirapo. "
Amayambitsa achinyamata, ndi mapensulo omwe amanyamula zidole za Playboy bunny ndi zidole za Bratz zomwe zikuwoneka ngati atangomaliza kusinthana pazowonjezera. Nsapato zapamwamba zimagulitsidwa kwa atsikana ali ndi zaka zisanu ndi zitatu, kuphatikizapo zikhomo zomwe zimakhala ndi zilembo zomwe munthu wamkulu angamve kuti aziwomba saucy. Mapikisano ndi magulu okhudzidwa ngati Mumsnet amangoletsa zinthu monga izi kwa kanthawi, mpaka zatsopano zitatulutsidwa.
Makampani apamwamba, omwe amawathandiza kuti aziphika ana asanayambe msinkhu, amaphunzitsa atsikana ang'onoang'ono kuti aziphwanya ndi kugaya. Sindine wamwano, koma ndaitanidwa kuti ndifunse chifukwa chake 10 wazaka zakubadwa akujambula zomwe zimayendera mu kanema komwe Rihanna akuyendetsa ngati wolamulira ndikuimba, "Bwerani mwana wamnyamata, kodi mungapezeke izo? Bwerani mnyamata wamwano, mnyamata, kodi ndinu wamkulu mokwanira? "
Akugwira ntchito kumbuyo, Rihanna akutsutsa zithunzi zoopsa kwambiri zomwe amagwiritsidwa ntchito ndi nyenyezi zina zamphongo za hip hop, omwe mavidiyo awo amasonyeza bwino akazi ngati akapolo ogonana. Iwo, nawonso, amapereka khalidwe lopukutidwa la khalidwe mu zovuta zolaula, zomwe zimangokhala pang'onopang'ono, pamatsanzira a YouTube.
Silibisika kuseri kwa paywall, ili mfulu. Ndipo simukusowa kunena kuti ndinu 18 kuti muwone. Izi sizinthu zolaula pamapulatifomu apamwamba, zomwe ndi zomwe tinkagwira manja pamene ndinali mnyamata. Zoopsa, zachiwawa zomwe ana athu angakhoze kuziwona mosavuta tsopano zingapangitse manyazi nyenyezi zolaula zaka sevente. Kapena kuponyera.
Kuwerengedwa kwa zinthu ngati zimenezi kwasintha kumvetsa kwachibadwa. Aphunzitsi atatu omwe anafunsidwa ku TES chaka chatha adanena kuti akukhulupirira kuti kuonera zolaula kunali "kovulaza" pa ophunzira. Mmodzi adati asungwana anali kuvala ngati "zidutswa za pulasitiki zotchedwa inflatable" pamene wina adanena kuti ena "sanagone popanda kuwona zolaula".
Komabe, palinso umboni wosokoneza kuti zithunzi zolaula zakhala zofala kwambiri moti ana ena amaona kuti ndizo "zachilendo". Kuphunzira kwa NSPCC yopanga uphungu ku 2010 kunawona kuti kuyang'ana zolaula zapamwamba kunawoneka ndi anyamata ngati chizindikiro cha kusimidwa. Amafuna kuyang'ana-ndi kuzungulira - kujambula zithunzi zolaula panyumba pa mafoni ndi atsikana omwe amadziwa.
Ichi ndi mbali ya zochitika zotchedwa sexting, kusinthanitsa mauthenga achiwerewere kapena mafano ndi mauthenga, matelefoni ndi malo ochezera a pa Intaneti. Chevonea Kendall-Bryan anavutitsidwa ndi izo, ndipo zoipitsitsa. Iye adanyozedwa ndi anyamata kuyambira zaka 11, coroner anamva kale mwezi uno. Pa 13, adakakamizidwa kuchita zachiwerewere pa 18 wazaka zapatha pambuyo pa phwando. Mnyamata wina wa 15 anafunsanso chithandizo chomwecho - kapena ankaswa mawindo a nyumba yake ya kumwera kwa London. Pamene anamvera, adamujambula pa foni yake ndipo adagawira chikondwerero chozungulira sukulu yake.
Kugonana kungachititse atsikana kuganizira kudzipha, kudzivulaza, kukhala ndi vuto la kudya, kapena kuyesa kudzipangira okha mankhwala osokoneza bongo kapena mowa. Koma kodi kutumizirana zithunzi zolaula kumangochitika kokha m'masukulu a mumzinda wam'mudzi? Ayi, atero Prof. Andy Phippen wa ku Yunivesite ya Plymouth, yemwe adayambitsa zofukufuku ku Cornwall, Somerset ndi Devon. "Ndakhala mu sukulu zamitundu yonse - kuphatikizapo mkatikati mwa mzinda, kumidzi ndi kumidzi - ndipo sindingakumbukire limodzi lomwe kutumizirana zolaula sikunali vuto," akutero. "Si chinthu chachilasi kapena. Ndimapita ku sukulu zapamwamba, ndipo ana kumeneko amalankhula zambiri za izo. "
Komabe, ndikofunika kunena kuti ana angakhale akunena zoona ngati akuumirira kuti sanawapezepo. Owerengera omwe akukhudzidwawo amachokera ku 15 kufika ku 40 peresenti ya ophunzira, malingana ndi komwe muli. Ndipo ndikayankhula ndi Claire Perry, iye akuvomereza kuti: "Yankho ndilo sitikudziwa. Ndikuganiza kuti ndi vuto lalikulu. Ndimadziwa kuti ngakhale m'dera labwino kwambiri, lopanda thanzi kwambiri, ana amachita zimenezi. "
Kodi si bwino kuti tipeze? "Inde. Ndicho chifukwa chake ndibwino kuti mtsutsano ukuchitika. Kuponderezana kwakhala kochitika nthawi zonse, komabe teknoloji imatanthauza kuti tapatsa ana athu malo omwe palibe akuluakulu oyang'ana maso. Ife tiyenera kuchita chinachake pa izo. Ndikuyembekeza kuti padzakhala zokambirana zambiri zovuta sabata ino. "
Kwa masiku angapo apitayi, akuimbidwa mlandu wosasamala, atatha kunena kuti makolo ayenera kuwerenga malemba ndi maimelo a ana awo. "Ngati mwana wanu akupita ndi winawake yemwe mumaganiza kuti akumwa mankhwala osokoneza bongo, mungamve kuti muli ndi ufulu wochitapo kanthu. Mwanjira ina, sitimva kuti tili ndi ufulu wochita zimenezi pa intaneti. Ife tiri pa phazi lakumbuyo. Koma ndikuganiza kuti zomwe achita sabata lino zikusonyeza kuti makolo akufuna kuchita izi. "
Ntchito yake yoyamba, komabe, ndi kuyang'ana pa intaneti. Chaka chatha, a Cameron adathandizira dongosolo la "kusankha-kulowa" kuti aletse zomwe zili pakompyuta yakunyumba. Lingaliro tsopano latayidwa, komabe. Upangiri udawonetsa kuti anthu ambiri amaganiza kuti ndichopanda pake, akuvomereza Akazi a Perry - koma tsopano akugwira ntchito ndi omwe amapereka ma intaneti pazosintha zingapo, kuphatikiza choletsa pazinthu zachikulire pa Wi-Fi yapagulu. Kunyumba, makasitomala amayenera kuwonetsetsa kuti ali ndi zaka zopitilira 18 ndipo akufuna kuti azipeza zomwe zili ndi achikulire, apo ayi malamulo adzagwiritsidwa ntchito. “Uyenera kuti, 'Sindikufuna fyuluta ija.' Tikakhala ndi izi, tidzatsogolera padziko lonse lapansi poteteza ana pa intaneti. ”
Zonsezi ndi zabwino, pokhapokha zitakhala zosachita kanthu pakutumizirana mameseji olaula. Mulimonsemo, anyamata a teknoloji monga a zaka zanga za 15 adzapeza njira yozungulira ngati akufuna. Inde, adzafufuza zithunzi za anthu ogonana. Anyamata amachita. Ndimangowopsya chifukwa cha tsunami ya hardcore ayenera kuwona nthawi iliyonse yomwe ayesa. Monga Claire Perry akuti: "Porn ndizophunzitsa kwambiri za kugonana ndipo si kumene ana athu ayenera kudziŵa."
Koma alongo ake, ndikudandaula. Sindikufuna kuti azikhala m'dziko limene chikondi chikutanthauza kuti mnyamata amakumana ndi mtsikana, mnyamata amatumiza chithunzi cha ziwalo zake. Lily ndi Rose siwo mayina awo enieni, mwa njira. Ine ndikuwopa kuti iwo akulowetsamo. Ife tikuyenera kuti tiyankhule, zovuta monga momwe zingakhalire.
Pokhala akulu, ifenso tifunikira kumveka bwino pamene mlanduwu uli. Ndimakumbutsidwa kuti pamene ndikupita kunyumba kukawakumbatira atsikana, ndikulemba kuchokera kwa mzanga wazaka 14 wa banja. Kuyankha kuitana kuti akambirane za mavuto omwe akukumana nawo, akulemba kuti: "MUSIMA ana. Sitigulitsa zolaula. Kukula kwakukulu kumachita. MUDZIWIKA! "
7: 30AM GMT 27 Jan 2013