Achinyamata ambiri amaonera zolaula pa intaneti nthawi yayitali asanakumane ndi zochitika zogonana. Izi zimasintha momwe amachitira ndi kugonana kwawo. Nayi nkhani ya Daniel.
MUNICH - Mantha akulimbana ndi Danieli. Kuopa kubwereranso, kubwereranso ku zizoloŵezi zake zakale zoledzera sikuli koyenera chifukwa zingakhale zophweka.
Kuledzeretsa kwake sikudalira mankhwala osokoneza bongo, mowa kapena kugula, koma zolaula. Ngakhale zithunzi za atsikana ovala bikini m'maseŵera otchuka amatha kusokoneza malingaliro Daniel watha kudzimangira yekha mothandizidwa ndi katswiri. Anakwanitsa kupeza diploma ya sekondale chaka chatha chaka chatha, koma pokhapokha kupititsa payekha, komanso pothandizana ndi gulu lothandizira anthu oledzera. Anakhala zaka patsogolo pa laputopu yake, kuonera zolaula ndi maliseche katatu patsiku. Wothandizira wake akunena kuti ayenera kunyada chifukwa chothawa mowopsya. Koma Daniel samadzikuza, amangochita manyazi.
Amagwira ntchito ku Café masiku ano kuti asungire ndalama ndikusamukira ku Australia, kuyenda ndi kuyendayenda, koma koposa zonse kuziiwala.
Achinyamata nthawi zonse akhala akuwonetsedwa zokhudzana ndi kugonana chifukwa akufuna kudziwa zomwe mungachite pamene mukugonana, ndipo koposa zonse, momwe kugonana kumagwirira ntchito. Mibadwo ya achinyamata yasokoneza masamba a Playboy ndi magazini ena kuti akwaniritse zosowa zawo za chidziwitso pa mutuwo. Koma masiku ano, zaka zakubadwa za 12 zikuwonera kale mafilimu oonetsa zolaula pa Intaneti ndi kuseweretsa maliseche pamene akuwayang'ana. Palibe boma limodzi la Germany lomwe laphatikizapo zolaula mu syllabus, ngakhale kuti ena 40% mwa onse a zaka 11-13 awona zithunzi zolaula kapena mafilimu kamodzi kamodzi m'miyoyo yawo. Amagwiritsa ntchito mafilimu ogonana omwe amatha kufotokozera anthu kugonana ndi nyama kapena mkazi wogonana ndi amuna asanu nthawi imodzi.
Koma kodi izi zimawakhudza motani achinyamata? Kodi Daniel ndi yekhayo kapena kodi nkhani yake ikuyimira zochitika zowopsa? Klaus Beier, yemwe ndi katswiri wochita zachiwerewere ku Berlin, ananena kuti “kungakhale kupanda nzeru kukhulupirira kuti kuonera mafilimu olaula kumawakhudza kwambiri achinyamata. Zochita za anthu [zojambulidwa mufilimu ndi pazithunzi] zimakopedwa ndikusungidwa muubongo. ”
Zokambirana ngati zolaula zikuvutitsa kapena ayi, zakhala zikuchitika kwa zaka zambiri. Asayansi anali, mpaka pano, osadziwa kuti zithunzi zolaula zimakhudza bwanji achinyamata komanso chifukwa chake achinyamata ena amayamba kumwa mowa mwauchidakwa pomwe ena sakhala oledzera. Kafukufuku watsopano watsimikizira kuti kuonera zolaula tsiku ndi tsiku sikungowonjezereka pakati pa achinyamata koma kuti kungachititse kuti asagwire bwino ntchito. Kafukufuku wina wa ku Swedish wasonyeza kuti achinyamata omwe amaonera zolaula tsiku ndi tsiku amakhala akusiyana kwambiri ndi makolo awo, kutenga mankhwala ambiri ndipo amavutika ndi vuto lopanikizika kuposa awo omwe sali oonera zolaula.
Poyamba tinalumikizana ndi Danieli kudzera pa webusaiti ya Germany yomwe idaperekedwa ku zolaula zomwe anyamata akukambirana za kukhumudwa kwawo pamene akuwonerera zolaula nthawi iliyonse yamasana kapena usiku koma amalephera kugonana ndi anthu enieni. Maubwenzi awo amavutika chifukwa sangathe kukonzedwa pamene ali ndi anzawo, koma pokhapokha akuwonerera zolaula.
Daniel anayamba kusuta chamba kuti asangalale, kumangokhalira kumangokhalira kumangokhalira kumangokhalira kumangokhalira kukhumudwa. Mkalasi yake inayamba kunjenjemera chifukwa chakuti ankachita zolaula ali m'kalasi. Makolo ake ndi aphunzitsi ake ankadandaula chifukwa iwo analephera kupita naye kwa iye ndipo anamutumizira imelo yosamalitsa. Imelo inafuna kuti amutsimikizire kuti kukhala wachinyamata kunali kovuta kwa iwo, nawonso, ndipo iwo akufuna kuti akhale ndi wina woti aziyankhula naye. Imelo imakhudzana ndi mawebusaiti a othandizira, omwe amadziwika bwino pa achinyamata.
Kodi amadziwa kusiyana pakati pa filimu ndi zenizeni?
Akatswiri azakugonana, aphunzitsi ndi makolo amalankhula za "zolaula zam'badwo," za m'badwo womwe umakula ndimakanema olaula ndipo amadziwa, kalekale asanakumanepo ndi kugonana kwawo koyamba, mwachitsanzo, kugundana ndi zigawenga. Makampani opanga zolaula chithunzi cha kugonana limalangiza achinyamata kuti amuna amayenera kukhala ndi maliseche akuluakulu ndipo azimayi ndi "zinthu chabe zomwe zimayendetsedwa ndi chilakolako ndipo sizimatha kulowa mokwanira ndi umuna," akutero Profesa Beier.
Kotero, izi zimachita chiyani kwa achinyamata? Kodi onsewo ali pangozi yoti ayang'anire zomwe Daniel adayenera kudutsa, kapena amadziwa kusiyana pakati pa filimu ndi zenizeni?
Beier, yemwe akutsogolera bungwe la Institute of Sexology and Sexual Medicine ku Berlin Charité, akuti zaka zathu ndizapadera chifukwa "m'badwo wathunthu umakula" ndi makanema osonyeza momwe kugonana "kumayendera". Achinyamata ambiri amafotokoza zakulephera kwawo kukhala pachibwenzi chifukwa chogwiritsa ntchito zolaula. Koma Beier ali wotsimikiza kuti "ogwiritsa ntchito ambiri" zolaula pa intaneti akudziwa kuti zenizeni zakugonana ndi "zosiyana kwambiri" ndi zomwe zimawonetsedwa pa zolaula.
Daniel anali ndi zaka 12 pomwe adadina pa Youporn, imodzi mwamawebusayiti opambana kwambiri padziko lonse lapansi, koyamba. Anapeza tsamba la webusayiti m'malo osambiramo anyamata kusukulu, atazungulira khoma la cubicle. Adadabwitsidwa komanso adadzutsidwa ndi zomwe adawona komanso kufunikira kwake kwatsopano posakhalitsa. Anakhala maola ambiri patsogolo pa laputopu yake ndipo nkhawa zake zidachepa molingana ndi nthawi yomwe amakhala pamaso pa kompyuta yake. Choipa chake chinali chakuti "crasser" omwe adawonetsedwa m'makanemawa. Kuzungulira koipa.
Kafukufuku wochuluka ku California ndi ku Ulaya akuwonetsa kuti kugwiritsira ntchito zolaula tsiku ndi tsiku kumabweretsa kuvutika maganizo, nkhanza, kuvutika maganizo komanso kugonana. Malinga ndi maphunzirowa erectile kukanika pakati pa anthu omwe ali pansi pa zaka za 20 awonjezeka kwambiri.
Ena akufuna kuthana ndi vutoli pogwiritsa ntchito njira zomwe amati "njira zopanda pake." No-fap ndi liwu logwirizana ndi verebu "kukula," mawu aku America osonyeza kuseweretsa maliseche. Njira ya no-fap imaphatikizapo kusayang'ana zolaula zilizonse osatinso kuseweretsa maliseche. Daniel adayendera tsamba la no-fap atatha kugwiritsa ntchito mawu oti "zolaula" komanso "chizolowezi" ndipo adadabwa kuwona kuti ndi mawebusayiti angati omwe akukambirana nkhaniyi. Daniel adaganiza zopita kuzizira kwa mwezi umodzi ndipo adalengeza cholinga chake patsamba lino kuti adzikakamize kuti adziwone, ndipo adazindikira masiku ochepa kuti asakhale chete ndipo pamapeto pake anali ndi mwayi wamaganizidwe ena.
Wothandizira Marlene Henning alinso ndi chidziwitso pakuwonongeka komwe zolaula zimatha. Mnyamata wina wodwala posachedwa adamuwuza kuti "ndife mbadwo womwe umagunda ndi dzanja lamanzere pomwe lamanja likuwongolera mbewa." Amadziwikanso pophunzitsa ana zakugonana m'masukulu ndipo nthawi zina amadabwitsidwa ndi mafunso omwe ana achichepere amafunsidwa mosadziwika omwe amaphunzira asanapite kusukulu.
Mwana wake ali ndi zaka 16 ndikusewera makadi ndi anzawo kunyumba adawafunsa ngati akuwonera zolaula pa intaneti. Mwana wake woyamba ndiye adayankha, "Amayi, tikudziwa kuti izi si zenizeni!" Koma mnzake wina adati "nthawi zonse ndikagonana, ndimakhala ndi zithunzi zolaula m'mutu mwanga." Wina adaonjezeranso kuti "atsikana amaganiza kuti ayenera kuchita ngati atsikana m'mafilimu olaula."
Daniel, tsopano 18, akuganiza kuti wasweka khalidwe lake loyipa, ndipo ngakhale ali ndi chibwenzi chokhazikika, ngakhale kuti nthawi zina amavutika. Koma ndiko kubwereza komwe kumamulimbikitsanso kuti asiye zolaula.
Kulemba kwake komaliza pamsonkhano waku Germany "no-fap" kudalembedwa zaka ziwiri zapitazo, ndipo ndi kalata yayitali yotsanzikana. Adalemba za nthawi yomwe adapeza Youporn, kusungulumwa komwe kumabwera, kumverera kokhala pansi panthaka kwazaka zambiri. Koma Daniel adalongosolanso kuthawa kwake: "Kupeza anthu amalingaliro ofanana ndi zomwe zidandipulumutsa."
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