Chifukwa chimodzi chovuta chimene anthu zikwizikwi amachitira zachiwerewere kuposa iwo makolo ndi machitidwe olakwika omwe amaphunzira pa intaneti. Tsopano pali gulu lomwe likuyesera 'kuyambiranso' malingaliro awo
"Volakov", monga amadziwika pa bwaloli - ndipo sakufuna kuti azindikire zina zilizonse - ndi wazaka 18 yemwe ali ndi vuto. Sangathe kumangika ndi chibwenzi chomwe amamukonda. Vuto lake silakuthupi. Komanso silimavuto am'maganizo monga kuda nkhawa. Chifukwa chomwe Volakov alibe mphamvu, amakhulupirira, ndizolaula pa intaneti.
Ndipo siye yekha. Volakov ndi mmodzi chabe mwa anthu a 200,000 a NoFap - "fap" pokhala ofanana ndi American "wank" - gulu la pa Intaneti likuyesera kuthana ndi nkhani zomwezo. Zifukwa za Volakov ndizovuta zotchedwa Erectile, zomwe zimayambitsa vuto la kugonana la 21st, zomwe anthu amatha kukwaniritsa kapena kusunga malingaliro olaula, koma osati ndi wokondedwa weniweni. Ndipo vutoli si vuto lokhalo. Kuthamangitsidwa kochepa, kutayika kwa libido, ndi kutaya kwa mbolo ndi zina mwa zizindikiro zowonongeka pamsonkhano, pamodzi ndi mavuto a maganizo monga chisokonezo chaumphawi, kusowa mtima komanso kukhumudwa.
Mnyamata wina yemwe adakumana nawo zonsezi ndi amene anayambitsa NoFap mwiniwake, wazaka 26, dzina lake Alexander Rhodes, wochokera ku Pennsylvania. Rhodes akuyamba kuonera zolaula anali mnyamata wa 11 wazaka za m'ma 90. Pogwiritsa ntchito webusaiti ya masewera, iye adawona kuti pali vuto linalake lokhudza kugwiriridwa. Rhodes anati: "Chinali chithunzi chabe, koma chinali chokwanira kuti mnyamata atenge chidwi." Zithunzi zolaula za Rhodes zimakula mofulumira pa zomwe amachititsa kuti "intaneti" ifufuze zithunzi monga "miyendo" kapena "m'mimba" kuti muwonere mavidiyo ophatikizira ovuta kwa maola ambiri pamapeto - nthawi imodzi nthawi 14 pa tsiku. Posakhalitsa ntchito zolaula za Rhodes zinakula kwambiri moti anadzivulaza yekha. "Ndinayesa kupuma kwa tsiku kuti ndisavulaze ndipo sindinathe ngakhale tsiku limodzi. Ndimangochita maliseche chifukwa cha ululu. "
Muzochitika zake zoyamba zokhudzana ndi kugonana, Rhodes adasokonezeka kuti apeze kuti sangathe kumangirira. Pambuyo pake anakumana kuti amatha kupirira ndi kuganizira za zolaula koma ngakhale apo sankatha kugonana. Potsiriza, pozindikira kuti adali ndi vuto, Rhodes adapita ku intaneti kuti amuthandize koma sanapeze kanthu kokhudza zochitika zake. Anayamba kutumiza maofesi a anthu omwe adakhala ndi thanzi labwino komanso posakhalitsa. Panalibe malo odzipatulira kuti akambirane za mutuwu, kotero ku 2011 Rhodes anakhazikitsa NoFap, gulu pa tsamba lothandizira anthu ku Reddit. Rhodes anati: "Ndinkayembekezera, ngati anthu asanu ndi atatu. "Makumi asanu, nsonga." Mmalo mwake manambala oyambirira anali "oopsya" ndipo gulu la Reddit linakula mofulumira.
Mofulumira zaka zisanu ndipo NoFap ili ndi mamembala oposa 200,000, kapena "Fapstronauts", ndipo ndi amodzi chabe mwa anthu amitundu yofanana. Mawebusaitiwa amapereka malo osagawana mavuto komanso amati, yankho: "kubwezeretsanso".
Kubwezeretsanso kumaphatikizapo kupeŵa zolaula; zolaula ndi maliseche; kapena zolaula, maliseche ndi kugonana, kuyambira masiku a 90 kapena kutalika. "Obwezeretsa" amanena kuti kudziletsa kwa nthawi yaitali kuchokera ku zolaula ndi "rewiring" za ubongo wawo (motero mawu akuti kubwezeretsanso) akuchiritsa mavuto awo onse, ngakhale opanda mphamvu. Ogwiritsira ntchito amangonena kuti asakhalenso ndi chidwi chawo pa kugonana ndi enieni enieni koma komanso ndi moyo wamba, ngakhale kukhala ndi "mphamvu zazikulu" zokhudzana ndi mphamvu zawo zatsopano, kugwirizana ndi anthu ndikudzipangira ntchito zosiyanasiyana.
Lingaliro la kubwezeretsanso kachiwiri kumaphatikizapo pazinthu zina zosadziwika bwino za ubongo zomwe zimagwirizanitsa pamodzi kukula kwa zolaula ndi kusintha kosatha kwa zolaula ndi kusintha kwa neural kumapangitsa ubongo wamunthu kukhala okhudzana ndi kugonana. Izi zimawapangitsa kuti azifufuza mofulumira komanso mobwerezabwereza "kugunda" ndikuwasiya kuzizira ku zochitika zenizeni za kugonana zomwe sizikugwirizana ndi zofuna zawo zolaula.
Sayansi ikutsutsidwabe monga momwe zilili chitsanzo cha chizoloŵezi cha zolaula zomwe nthawi zambiri zimachitika ndi izo. Koma ngakhale kuti alibe umboni wolimba, umboni wa anecdotal ukukwera. Katswiri wina yemwe adawona choyamba ndi Robert Weiss, wolemba nkhani za kugwiritsira ntchito kugonana ndi mkulu wotsatila wamkulu wa Elements Behavioral Health, makampani ambiri a ku United States omwe amachititsa kuledzera. Weiss, amene wakhala akugonjetsa kugonana kwa zaka zoposa 20, adawona chiwerengero cha anyamata omwe ali ndi mavuto okhudzana ndi zolaula ku intaneti akuwonjezeka kuchokera pafupi-zero mpaka kotala la odwala ake onse, osachepera theka la awa omwe akudwala erectile.
Atafunsidwa ngati akuganiza kuti zolaula zomwe zimapangitsa kuti erectile iwonongeke ndizochitika zenizeni, Weiss akuti: "Inde mwamtheradi, ngati mukugwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti ngati njira yanu yokhayo yodzutsira, mukumenya ubongo wanu mulingo wapamwamba kwambiri wa dopamine, komanso chiyembekezo chachikulu chokhudzana ndi kugonana, ndiye mukalowa muchinthu chenicheni, chomwe chimatha kukhala chonunkhira pang'ono, chonyowa pang'ono komanso chosakhala chosangalatsa, zili ngati - ndingakonde ingoyang'anani zolaula zanga. ” A Weiss akuwonetsanso kuti vuto latsopanoli ndi losiyana ndi mitundu yazikhalidwe zakugonana yomwe nthawi zambiri imakhudza zowawa zoyambirira monga kuzunzidwa. M'malo mwake, malinga ndi Weiss, asing'anga akuwona anyamata achichepere omwe adaleredwa bwino atembenukira ku zolaula ngati njira yopulumukira zovuta pamoyo weniweni.
Koma vutoli silongokhudza achinyamata osakwatira omwe amakhala okha m'zipinda zawo. Amuna achikulire omwe ali ndiubwenzi wolimba, komanso anzawo, akutembenukira kuma foramu kuti apemphe thandizo. Wobwezeretsanso, bambo wokwatiwa yemwe ali ndi ana omwe amatumiza dzina "Sender", akufotokozera momwe kudalira zolaula kunamupangitsa kuti agwiritse ntchito mkazi wake ngati mtundu wa "zopeka zolaula". "Sindingakhale wachisangalalo pokhapokha ngati samakumana nane," akutero. "Zidandivuta kwanthawi yayitali." Chojambulira china pamsonkhanowu ndi mkazi wachidatchi wazaka 49 komanso mayi wa ana atatu omwe amagwiritsa ntchito dzina loti Volpool. Volpool adalemba kuti mnzake wazaka 44 akumenya nkhondo yolimbana ndi zolaula pa forum ya Reboot Nation. Iye anati: “Zimasokoneza ulemu wako. “Pozindikira kuti wokondedwa wako amakonda zolaula kuposa iwe. Ndizovuta kuthana nazo. ”
Koma vuto silikukhudza akazi okhaokha. Nambala yowonjezera ikubwera ku maofesi ndi zochitika zawo zokhudzana ndi zolaula, kuphatikizapo mtundu wazimayi wa zolaula-womwe unachititsa kuti erectile iwonongeke yomwe imaphatikizapo kusakhoza kukhala okwera popanda kuthandizidwa ndi zolaula.
Mkazi wina 'fapstronaut' ndi Sami Kiley wazaka 29 wa ku Georgia. Nkhani yake ndi yofanana kwambiri ndi mapepala ambiri. Anachoka koyamba kuwona zithunzi zolaula ali ndi zaka za 12 kuti adye maminiti angapo pa kompyuta yam'nyamata ali wamng'ono. Kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kwake kunakula kwambiri pamene anali ndi kompyuta yake komanso intaneti yothamanga kwambiri. Amayang'ana zolaula kwa maola ochuluka pokhapokha atayamba kuwononga maphunziro ake ndi ubale wake. "Zinayamba kundipangitsa kumva mmene sindinkafunira," akutero Kiley. "Zinasintha maganizo anga pa kugonana kwambiri. Chilichonse chinali chowonetsedwa. Sindinamvepo kuti ndili ndi mgwirizano wapadera umenewu pamene mumagonana komanso mumagwirizana kwambiri ndi munthu wina. "
Kiley anaganiza zosiya zolaula mu June atalowa ku NoFap. Mofanana ndi anthu ambiri opanga mafilimu, malingaliro ake owonera zolaula adakula kwambiri mpaka pamene anali kuyang'ana mitundu yomwe sinawonetsere zokonda zake za kugonana, kuti apeze chigamulo chokha. "Ndinkaona ngati ndasunthira kutali ndi chilakolako changa chogonana, ndikudzimvera chisoni. Ine ndinakhala pamenepo ndikulira ndipo ndinati, izi ndi zokwanira. Ndikufuna kuimitsa izi tsopano. "
Azimayi opanga mawotchi amapanga zochepa kuposa 5 peresenti ya gulu la NoFap, koma anthu ambiri amakhulupirira kuti nambala zomwe zimawonedwa pamasewera zimangokhala pamtunda. Ena amakhulupirira ngakhale kuti vuto la intaneti-kudalira zolaula, ngati silingathenso kusamalidwa, lingapangitse m'badwo wonse kugonana. Mmodzi wa iwo ndi amene anayambitsa Reboot Nation, Gabe Deem, mwamuna wazaka 28 wazaka zisanu ndi zitatu yemwe anadwala matenda ochititsa manyazi a erectile omwe amachititsa kuti apeze kachiwiri. Malingana ndi Deem: "Mukhoza kukhala ndi mtundu wonse wa anthu omwe amayenera kuwonera anthu ena kugonana pawindo kuti athe kugonana ndi munthu weniweni."
Pali umboni wosonyeza kuti mfundoyi ndi yongopeka chabe. Phunziro lina la Canada silinathe kupeza amuna omwe sanayambe awonapo zolaula. Ndipo kuphunzira kwa Japan kuti kuchepetsere mitengo ya kubadwa kunapeza kuti mnyamata mmodzi pa anyamata asanu, atafunsidwa ngati ali ndi chidwi chogonana ndi wokondedwa weniweni, adatero ayi, iwo anali okondwa kumangotsatira zolaula.
Zovuta zenizeni za vutoli sizikudziwikanso kwa zaka zambiri koma aliyense akuvomereza kuti zothetsera vutoli ziyenera kuchitidwa tsopano. Ena amafuna zojambula pa zolaula, monga Volpool, yemwe amasonyeza kusiyana kwa momwe timachitira zolaula ndi zida zina monga uchidakwa. "Sitolo ya mowa sichibwera kunyumba kwanga kawiri pa sabata kuchoka mabotolo a mowa paliponse kwaulere kumene ana anga angawapeze. Ndichomwe chimandikhumudwitsa kwambiri - kulikonse. "
Ena, monga Rhodes, sagwirizana, ndipo amagwiritsira ntchito mowawo pofuna kutchula mavuto omwe amaletsedwa. Rhodes akufuna kuwona kuzindikira kwakukulu ndi maphunziro abwino m'masukulu. Monga momwe akuchitira, yemwe amayerekezera zolaula ndi zotsatira zake ku zakudya zopanda kanthu komanso vuto la kunenepa kwambiri lomwe likugwiritsidwa ntchito m'masukulu.
Komabe, akuti Weiss, maphunziro a kugonana angapite mpaka pano. Amakhulupirira kuti makolo ali ndi udindo wofunikira - koma poyamba, akuti, tikufunikira chikhalidwe cha kusintha kwa momwe makolo amaonera miyoyo ya ana awo. "Ife tikufunikira makolo kuti afotokoze kuti zolaula sizinthu zenizeni," anatero Weiss. "Koma ife timakhala mu chikhalidwe komwe palibe yemwe akufuna kuganizira za kamnyamata kapena mtsikana wanga akuchita zinthu zoterozo. Masiku omwe makolo anganene kuti, 'Mwana wanga sakanakhoza kuchita zimenezo' atapita. Mwana aliyense akuyang'ana zolaula. Tiyenera kuyang'anizana ndi zimenezo ndikupitiriza. "
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