Kodi inuyo - kapena munthu amene mumamukonda - mwatopa ndi nkhani yonseyi yokhudza zolaula zomwe ndi zovulaza kwambiri?
M'malo modandaula za kusintha kwakukulu kwa munthu kapena payekha, kodi sikungakhale bwino kukana kudandaula za izi palimodzi?
Mwamwayi, olemba ochepa akhala akupereka zifukwa zomveka zochitira zimenezo . Ngati mukudziwa winawake wokonzeka kukhulupirira kuti zolaula si nkhani yaikulu, nayi njira ya masitepe anayi yomwe yatsimikiziridwa kuti ikugwira ntchito:
1. Awonetseni anthu omwe ali ndi nkhawa kwambiri ponena za zolaula monga zoopsa komanso zovuta.
Imodzi mwa ntchito zanu zoyamba ndizowongolera anthu okhudzidwa ndi zolaula mwa njira yomwe imawapangitsa kukhala owopsya kapena ochepa-awo-olemba. Pali njira zambiri zochitira izi, kuchokera ku zifukwa zachipembedzo changu chachangu kuopseza mantha. M'mawonekedwe aposachedwapa, wolemba wina akujambula chithunzi cha anthu osakhazikika amene amawona zolaula "monga zovuta kuwonongera thanzi lathu ndi chimwemwe" ndipo malonda omwe ali kumbuyo kwake ndi "mphamvu zamphamvu zomwe ziri pano kuti ziwonongeke kuwononga miyoyo yathu ya kugonana. "(1)
Zachitikadi! Nthawi iliyonse yomwe mungathe kugwira ntchito ngati mawu akuti "wreak havoc" (kapena "anti-screed screed"), mukudziwa kuti mukuyenda bwino.
2. Tsimikizirani molimba mtima kuti kafukufuku wovuta kwambiri sanatsimikizire kwenikweni za kuledzera kolaula.
Tikudziwa kuti izi ndi zovuta - popeza kafukufuku wambiri waubongo wochitidwa pa ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula amasonyeza zizindikiro zomveka bwino za chizolowezi. Yesetsani kupewa ndemanga 12 zovuta za mabukuwa , zomwe zonse zimatsimikizira kuti zolaula zimatha kusokoneza chilakolako cha kugonana.
Musadandaule. Simusowa ngakhale kubweretsa izi. Malingana ngati mukukhulupirira kuti mukuimira "kufufuza bwino kwa sayansi," anthu ambiri omwe amawerenga nkhani yanu sadziwa kusiyana.
Ingokumbukirani kukhala osagonja poumirira kuti “sayansi kulibe” ndi kukana motsimikiza kuti pali umboni uliwonse wabwino. Mfundo zabwino ngati mungathe kulumikiza umboni umene ulipo ndi anthu amisala amenewo, mwa kuwonetsa deta iliyonse yolakwika ngati yochokera ku tsankho, yochokera ku chipembedzo kapena “yochokera ku sayansi yabodza.” (2)
Ndizo zonse zomwe mukufunikira kunena. Popeza anthu ambiri amavomereza kutchulidwa kulikonse kwa sayansi (makamaka ziganizo zomwe amavomereza nazo) monga zovomerezeka, palibe ntchito yowonjezera pachithunzi ichi.
Pita ku yotsatira!
3. Nenani chinachake chosonyeza kuti simukunena kuti zolaula zonse ndi zabwino.
Izi ndizofunikira, chifukwa simuyenera kuoneka ngati munthu wodzikuza! Kuti mudzione ngati munthu woganiza bwino, onetsetsani kuti mwavomereza nthawi ina kuti pali mavuto ena okhudzana ndi zolaula.
Ndi udindo wanu kuzindikira zomwe mukufuna. Mwina njira yosavuta yovomerezera ndi momwe akazi omwe akuchita nawo zolaula amakhalira ndi mavuto ambiri amisala ndi thupi kapena kulumikizana kosalekeza pakati pa kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula ndi kuchepa kwa chilakolako chogonana komanso kukhutira ndi kugonana. Ngati mukufuna kukhala olimba mtima, mutha kuyambitsanso maphunziro 50 omwe adawunikidwa ndi anzawo omwe amalumikiza mwachindunji kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula ndi nkhanza zogonana.
Koma kuti mukhale osamala, mwina ndi bwino kukhalabe ndi maganizo oipa. Mwachitsanzo, atayesa kuthetsa nkhawa zambiri zokhudzana ndi zolaula, wolemba nkhani Lux Alptraum adapitiliza kunena kuti: "Palibe chomwe chikutanthauza kuti zolaula ndi zabwino kwenikweni , kapena kuti zimakhudza miyoyo yathu yogonana ndi zabwino zokha " (ndithu). Kenako adapitiliza kuvomereza kuti, "Pali chowonadi pa zomwe akunena zotsutsana ndi zolaula kuti zimakhudza malingaliro ogonana ndi kuzindikira kwa achinyamata." (3)
Kodi mwawona momwe mlembiyu adawakumbutsira omvera kuti malo ovomerezekawa adakali "odana ndi zolaula" - osati mtundu wina wodera nkhaŵa zokhuza kugonana kwa anthu?
Tsopano ku sitepe yotsiriza:
4. Onetsani chidwi pa chinthu china chomwe anthu angachikumbatire monga "vuto lenileni."
Ngati mukufuna kutsimikizira anthu kuti nkhawa za zolaula zapitirira muyeso, ndikofunikira kuti muwauze nkhawa zina zomwe zingalowe m'malo mwake.
Tapeza kuti n’kothandiza kwambiri kunena zinazake zokhudza anthu m’chikhalidwe chathu masiku ano omwe salankhula mokwanira za kugonana komanso osalankhula momasuka (ndipo amachita manyazi kwambiri akamalankhula).
Chomwe chiri chodabwitsa pa nkhaniyi ndi momwe izo, mwachindunji, zimatanthauzira otsutsa zolaula mwinamwake mantha ndi kutseka kugonana.
Musamangoganizira za ziwonetsero zolaula pagulu lachiwerewere - kapena kusadzikweza kosalekeza komwe nthawi zambiri zimagwiritsidwa ntchito, khulupirirani ife: ngati muwonetsa kudera nkhaŵa kwambiri za chikhalidwe "komwe kukambirana za kugonana kuli kovuta," ena amtima.
Alptraum akupitiriza kunena kuti "khalidwe la zolaula" silovuta monga chikhalidwe cha naïve kuzungulira.
Bwerani! Ndipo apo inu muli nacho icho.
Sikuti vuto silovuta. Kulankhulana momasuka ndi kugonana!
Chinsinsi cha 4 chochepetsa kuchepetsa zolaula za masiku ano. Ingowonjezerani madzi.
Ndani ayenera kudandaula za zolaula tikhoza kungosiya kuti tiyerekeze kuti ndizovuta?
(1) Lux Alptraum, Chimene Achimereka Amachimva Chokhudza Porn, New Edwards Times, June 23, 2017
(2) Martha Kempner, Zithunzi Zolaula Sizo 'Mavuto Aumoyo Wonse,' Palibe Chofunika Kwambiri Kodi Utah Olemba Malamulo Aganiza Bwanji, Rewire, Feb 12, 2016
(3) Lux Alptraum, Chimene Achimereka Amachimva Chokhudza Porn, New Edwards Times, June 23, 2017
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