Kodi n'zosadabwitsa kuti amakumana ndi zovuta kuti apeze zovuta pamene buku lawo lalangizi ndi lopotoka?
Kusiyana ndi zolaula ndizomwe zimalimbikitsa kugonana, kodi kutayika koyambirira kumathandizira kuwonongeka kwa erectile ndi nkhaŵa za amuna?
Kafukufuku wa amuna 2,000 aku Britain wanena kuti 50% ya anthu azaka za m'ma 30 anali ndi vuto lopeza ndi kusunga chilakolako chogonana. Ngakhale izi sizikutanthauza kuti amavutika ndi vuto la kugonana (ED), kapena amakhala ndi mavuto otere nthawi zonse, nkhawa yokhudza momwe amuna amagwirira ntchito ikuchulukirachulukira (pakati pa amuna ogonana amuna okhaokha komanso amuna odzisunga). Amaopa kuti sadzaima mokwanira kuti agone - mosiyana ndi "amuna enieni" omwe nthawi zonse amakhala okonzeka kuchitapo kanthu. Chodabwitsa n'chakuti uwu ndi umodzi mwa mibadwo yoyamba kukhala ndi chilakolako chogonana kuyambira ali aang'ono ndi zolaula za pa intaneti zosavuta kupeza.
Pakhala nkhawa zambiri zokhudza momwe zolaula pa intaneti zimakhudzira maganizo a achinyamata, kuphatikizapo filimu ya Beeban Kidron, yemwe ndi director-campaigner, ya mu 2013, yotchedwa InRealLife . Posachedwapa, Ian McEwan adawona kuti zolaula zikusokoneza ziyembekezo za achinyamata pa kugonana. Komabe, bwanji ngati chimodzi mwa nkhawa zomwe zimachitika mobwerezabwereza (kuchuluka kwa zolaula) chapangitsa kuti pakhale vuto la kugonana kosakwanira kwenikweni - koma nkhawa yokhudza kugonana - kwa anyamata achichepere?
Nthawi zambiri amaika maganizo awo pa chikhalidwe chawo chokhudzana ndi chikhalidwe chawo, zomwe zimakhudza amai - zomwe amayembekezere kuyang'ana (milomo yotupa ndi mawere, palibe tsitsi lachabechabe) momwe akuyenera kukhalira (kugonana). Zomwe zikuoneka kuti lipotili likuwonetsa kuti anyamata achichepere akhala akukhudzidwa ndi zolaula, zomwe zikudziwonetsera zokha mu ED ndi zovuta za ntchito.
Kodi izi zingakhale zodabwitsa chonchi? Monga momwe atsikana angachitire mantha ndi momwe kugonana kumasonyezedwera mu zolaula, momwemonso anyamata. Kuphatikiza apo, kuwonetsedwa nthawi zonse ndi zolaula kuyambira ali aang'ono kungapatse anyamata malangizo omveka bwino a momwe akuyembekezeka "kuchita" ngati "amuna enieni" ongopeka. Mwanjira yopotoka, amuna otchuka pa zolaula amakhala zitsanzo, ndipo malingaliro achichepere okopa chidwi amachoka ndi malingaliro akuti zolaula sizimangowonetsa mtundu winawake wa kugonana (njira ) , koma, m'malo mwake, mtundu wokhawo wa kugonana woyenera kukhala nawo. Kuwonjezera pa chisokonezo, ochita sewero owonetsa zolaula omwe amakhudzidwa ndi kugonana nthawi zonse si mtundu wa akazi omwe angakumane nawo m'moyo weniweni.
Ndizosadabwitsa kuti anyamata ena amantha amawopa kuti iwo (ndi zosokoneza zawo) angalepheretse kuchita zokhudzana ndi zokhudzana ndi kugonana zowonongeka zomwe zidakalipo kale ndi zovuta zowonongeka. Kapena kuti nkhawa imeneyi ingagwirizanitsidwe kwambiri ndi maganizo aumunthu osati kuwonetsa zolaula zosavuta komanso kuwonetsa zosafunikira kwenikweni, monga jeez, osadandaula, kuthamanga, m'dziko lenileni, nthawi zina kusokonezeka kwa erection ndi koyenera komanso palibe chodandaula.
Monga momwe zolaula zimakhudzira akazi, zimathandizanso kuti amuna azigwira bwino ntchito, mwachiwonekere akusiya anyamata ambiri akudandaula za ntchito zawo, mpaka momwe sangakwanitse. Osadabwitsa, sichoncho, momwe zolaula zimayenera kukhala "kwa amuna", koma zimawatsutsa?