Pakufufuza kwapadera, tidafunsa mtunduwo zomwe amawonera pa intaneti - komanso momwe zimakhudzira moyo wawo wogonana. Zotsatira zake zidzakudabwitseni
Kodi zolaula za pa intaneti zitha bwanji? Kodi zimakhudza bwanji ubale wathu? Ndipo kodi mbiri yosaka za makanda yosiyana bwanji ndi yazaka chikwi? Malinga ndi kafukufuku wathu, pafupifupi magawo awiri mwa atatu a ife (58%) amaonera zolaula. Tidawafunsa kuti amawonera chiyani, nthawi yayitali bwanji komanso kangati, ndipo ndi ndani. Apa, India Knight akuwonetsa zotsatira ndikufunsa zomwe zimatanthawuza m'miyoyo yathu yakugonana.
Ndimamva kutsutsana pa zolaula, chifukwa ndili womasuka kwambiri kuposa momwe ndimafunira. Malingaliro anga nthawi zonse akhala akuganiza kuti simungathe kulota apolisi, kukhala ndi moyo ndikungokhala, bola pakhale kuvomerezedwa ndipo palibe amene akuvulala - koma sindikudziwa chochita ndi izi kuti azimayi akuvulazidwa ndiye kwatsopano. . Ine ndimadabwitsidwa ndi zomwe azimayi achichepere amawona ngati ndizoyenera kuchita pogonana, makamaka ndi maonekedwe awo (ngati mwina sakukana) kukumbatira zinthu zomwe zimawoneka ngati zonyoza, zomwe nthawi zambiri zimakhala zopweteka komanso nthawi zina zachiwawa: kugonana komwe kumakhala ngati nkhonya kumaso.
Zimandidabwitsa kuti zomwe zimapangitsa kupweteka kapena kuchititsidwa manyazi zidachoka muukadaulo wa BDSM wawo (dzina loti ambulera komanso ukapolo, ulamuliro, kugonjera, kuzunza ndi masochism) ndipo tsopano ndi wamba. Pang'ono pomwe, kumenya, kulira pang'ono - kulibe vuto, kulira bonasi, ndiloleni ndingojambula pa foni yanga kuti ndiwonjezere zosangalatsa. Izi ndizofala: pamawebusayiti a zolaula, sizikukwanira mtundu wake. Ndi kugonana chabe. Sewero la achinyamata la HBO Euphoria, lomwe lidayamba pa Sky Atlantic Lachiwiri, limawunikira miyoyo ya achinyamata ogonana osokoneza bongo pakati pa America. Kanemayo amapereka chithunzi cha apocalyptic cha m'badwo woyamba wobadwa mu 21st century akamayandikira ukalamba. Pachigawo choyamba, mwana ndi mtsikana amapita kuchipinda kukapsompsona, koma kuti mnyamatayo atangochotsa mwadzidzidzi mavidiyo ake ndikuyamba kumuthamangitsa.
Zolaula zaukali ndi zomwe amakonda Z
Izi zili pafupi kunena zabodza kuposa nthano zopeka. Monga momwe kafukufuku wathu akusonyezera, kwa gen Z (okalamba a 22 ndi ochepera), "kugonana kwamwano" - kukoka tsitsi, kuluma, kumenya, kutsamwitsa komanso zina zankhanza - linali gawo lachiwiri lotchuka kwambiri la zolaula. Pafupifupi theka (42%) la okalamba omwe ali ndi zaka za 23 adanena kuti chinali chinthu chomwe amasangalala nacho. Palibe m'badwo wina womwe unayandikira: poyerekeza, 29% yokha yazaka zikwizikwi (23- mpaka 38 wazaka zakubadwa), 17% ya gen X (39- mpaka 54 wazaka zakubadwa) ndi 6% ya ana-boomers (okalamba 55 -73) adasankha. Zikafika ku BDSM, gen Z idatsogoleranso njira, ndi 17% kusankha, poyerekeza ndi 10% ya wina aliyense.
Ndipo sizongokhala pazithunzi: 12% ya gen Z-ers akuti adalandira maphunziro awo onse azakugonana kuchokera pa zolaula ndipo kotala lina linanena kuti zolaula za pa intaneti ndizomwe zimapanga "ambiri" pazomwe amadziwa. Mungaganizire kuti ogula amvetsetsa kuti zolaula sizowona, koma pafupifupi gawo limodzi mwa magawo atatu a anthu zimawawona kuti ndizofanana "(7%) kapena" zofanana "(24%) zogonana zenizeni. Nzosadabwitsa kuti azimayi achichepere amachita zogonana zoyipa, zomwe zimayambitsa nkhawa. Ichi ndi chinthu, osati chosazolowereka, chomwe chidachitika posachedwa kwa mwana wamkazi wazaka 14. Adali akupita tsiku lomwe amasangalatsidwa nalo. Chakumapeto, zinafika kuti mnyamata wokongola, waulemu yemwe amakhala naye nthawi yosangalatsa akuyembekeza kuti adzagonana. Anal sex, kuti ikhale yolondola. Mtsikanayo, yemwe anali namwali, anakana, ngakhale osafunsa ngakhale pang'ono kuti mwina izi zimapangitsa kuti ayambe kunenepa. Amatha kukambirana izi ndi amayi ake atafika kunyumba, ndipo ali ndi mtundu wa amayi omwe amauza ana ake za kusiyana pakati pa kugonana kwenikweni ndi zolaula za pa intaneti. Sikuti aliyense ali ndi mwayi - ndipo si mwana aliyense amene amamvetsera. Kupatula apo, izi ndizofanana. A young gen Z-ers akuyenera kuyamba kuwonera zolaula zaka zapakati pa 15 ndi 17, ndikuti tsopano amaziwona "masiku ambiri". Mosiyana ndi izi, ambiri opanga makanda sanayambe kuonera zolaula pa intaneti mpaka atakwanitsa zaka 30, ndipo tsopano akuti amawonera kamodzi pa sabata.
Zolaula, chithunzi cha thupi komanso maubale
Sizachilendo kukhala namwali, mtsikana wazaka 14 wazaka zakubadwa ndipo amayembekezeredwa kugonana, ngakhale Teen Vogue posachedwa adathamanga chidutswa chotchedwa "Anal sex: zomwe muyenera kudziwa". Izi zimaphatikizidwa ndi chithunzi chachilengedwe - urethra, anus, ukazi ndi zina zotero - zomwe sizinaphatikizidwe ndi clitoris. "Anus ndiwokhazikika, ndipo kumva kukhala ndi chinthu m'dera lanu ndi kwapadera," akutero. Kumverera kokhala ndi kena mu nyini yanu yolimba kumakhala kwapadera, koma mwina ma vaginas ndi chiyani -? Kupusa? Zosangalatsa? Chopanda malire, ngakhale kwa owerenga magazini ya achinyamata omwe sanathebe kutha msinkhu?
Monga kholo la mtsikana wachinyamata, ndamva nkhani zambiri zabodza zokhudzana ndi zomwe achinyamata amafuna. Ena amatengera atsikana ovutitsidwa. Ena amatengera anyamata omwe samvetsetsa kuti vuto ndi chiyani poyembekezera zolaula - mwachitsanzo, sizikupezeka - kapena kufunsa zithunzi zapafupi. Ena amatengera anyamata ndi atsikana omwe amayamba kufooka chifukwa cha matupi awo chifukwa choonera zolaula. Ndipo sikuti ndi achichepere okha: pafupifupi kotala (23%) mwa omwe adafunsidwa m'mibadwo yonse adawona kuti kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula "kwasokoneza" mawonekedwe awo amthupi ndikuwapangitsa kuti azikhala ndi nkhawa momwe abwenzi ogonana angawadziwire. Izi zinali choncho makamaka kwa akazi. Mmodzi anati mavidiyo nthawi zonse amakhala "achichepere, atsikana okongola omwe alibe matupi kapena matupi athupi", pomwe ena amawonetsa zolaula zomwe zimapangitsa kuti asakhale otetezeka chifukwa cha tsitsi lawo komanso maliseche awo.
Nkhani zina kuzungulira izi ndizoseketsa pang'ono: mzanga anali kuwonera Tango Yatha ku Paris - kanema wakale wa 1972 pomwe Marlon Brando wazaka zapakati agwiririra achichepere a Maria Schneider, akugwiritsa ntchito batala ngati mafuta - pomwe atsikana ake Ana oyambira makumi awiri adalowa. Adanyansidwa, koma okhawo omwe amakhala ndi tsitsi lonse la pubic. Nzosadabwitsa: kuvomereza sikothandiza pa zolaula. Mosiyana ndi achinyamata omwe asanakhale pa intaneti omwe adakulira kokha ndi mafilimu olakwika komanso ma sheleti apamwamba osakira masheya, gen Z akhala ndi iw-fi ndi ma foni amoyo moyo wawo wonse (67% yamaulendo onse opita ku PornHub ku UK tsopano ali kudzera pa foni yamakono).
Mnzake waposachedwa wandiwuza za mwana wake wamwamuna wazaka zapamwamba za 19 wazaka zambiri, yemwe samatha kufotokoza za atsikana "abwinobwino" chifukwa amawonera zolaula nthawi zambiri zimakhumudwitsa. Akuchira ku zolaula zamtundu wa zolaula, ndipo ali kutali ndi yekhayo. Zotsatira zathu zikuwunikiranso za kuchuluka kwa zolaula kusintha zomwe zimakonda kugonana, ogwiritsa ntchito amatopa msanga pa zinthu “zofalitsika” komanso amakhala akusaka zinthu zolaula, zosokoneza. Pafupifupi gawo limodzi mwa magawo atatu (29%) adati kukoma kwawo kunachepa, ndipo chiwerengero chofananacho (31%) chakhala chikuvuta kwambiri kupeza zolaula zomwe zimagwirizana ndi zomwe amakonda. "Zimandivuta kupeza zinthu zomwe zimakwaniritsa zokonda zanga," atero abambo achimuna-X.
Zosachita kufunsa, zomwe zili zabwino pamsika wolaula sizabwino zachikondi. Pazofufuza zathu, 23% idati kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kwakhudza ubale, ndipo 17% ikuwona kuti ndizovuta kwambiri kudzutsidwa ndi zibwenzi zenizeni. “Zolaula zandisiyira sindikufuna kugonana kwachizolowezi,” anatero woyankha wina. Wina adatinso, "Zimandiyesa kukakamira malire pazomwe bwenzi wanga akufuna." Ena anali okhazikika: amawona kuti "ndizosatheka pachimake popanda zolaula".
Ndili mwana, nthawi zonse ndimangodziona ngati wotsogola, m'njira zosamveka bwino. Ndili wachinyamata, ndimaganiza kuti azimayi ambiri monga Andrea Dworkin adawonongeka ndipo amakhala osangalala, akumangokhalira kunena zamakhalidwe osawoneka bwino komanso momwe zolaula zonse zinali chikondwerero chogwiririra komanso kuvulaza azimayi, ngati Voice yabodza. poyang'ana m'mbuyo, akuwoneka ngati mneneri.
* Kafukufukuyu akuimira anthu onse aku UK. Mwa omwe adayankha 5,690, 3,415 (58%) adati amawonera zolaula za intaneti. Zotsatira zimatengedwa kuchokera ku gawo laling'ono la 3,415
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