Kugonana kwa Ogonana: Kodi N'chiyani Chimawapangitsa Kukhala Amuna Otero?
Lingaliro chabe la "chizolowezi chogonana" limakwiyitsa anthu ambiri. Ndikulankhula pano za olemba omwe amanyoza za "Nthano" za kugonana ndi omwe amatsutsa kuti lingaliro lonse la chizoloŵezi cha kugonana ndilo chikhomodzinso cha mankhwala osokoneza bongo ndi ndalama zomwe zimapangitsa anthu odziwa bwino kugonana.
Mchitidwe wa kugonana kosokoneza kugonana
Ndimakonda kuwona "otsutsa" awa, monga momwe ndimawaitanira, monga gawo lachikhalidwe chachikulu cha anthu komanso omwe ali woyenera kuphunzira okha.
Pakalipano kutsutsana ndi lingaliro la kugonana kwachiwerewere kumakhala ndi zosangalatsa ziwiri.
1. Kugonana ndizowona basi khalidwe labwino.
Amuna ndi akazi awa ali ndi chitetezo chothandizira ku gawo lonse la mankhwala osokoneza bongo ngati kuyesa kuletsa ufulu wokhudza kugonana. Nthawi zina mabulogu awo komanso ndemanga zawo pa intaneti zimawoneka ngati zoseketsa, (mwamantha?) Poteteza machitidwe omwe amanyazitsidwa nawo. Uthengawu ndikuti "tonse timazichita ndipo mukuganiza kuti 'akudwala' chifukwa mukuvutika kwambiri!" Ichi ndiye chisankho chosadziwika chomwe chikuwoneka kuti chikutsutsana ndi malingaliro.
2. Kugonana ndizowona basi khalidwe losasamala.
Mtsutso uwu umachokera konsekonse kuphatikiza ena asayansi. Zimachepetsa kukula kwa vutoli komanso kuvutika komwe kungayambitse, ndipo uthengawu nthawi zambiri umakhala kuti "omwe mumawati osokoneza bongo mukungokhala ndikuchita zoyipa ndipo muyenera tengani udindo ndipo pangani! "
Nthaŵi yachiwiri iyi imatenga mawonekedwe omwe "ngati kugonana kungakhale chidakwa ndiye chirichonse chingathe, " kapena "ngati tilekerera anthu kuti adziwe kuti ndi matenda ndiye pali malo otsetsereka omwe amatsogolere kuti wina asatenge udindo uliwonse wa chirichonse." (OMG!)
Zonsezi zikugwirizana ndi kunena kuti sitiyenera mankhwala nkhani yokhudzana ndi kugonana komanso kuti tisakhale kwenikweni do Chilichonse chokhudza izi. Onani fayilo ya Mkonzi Woyamba wa New York Times kuti mukambirane bwino.
Tifunika kumvetsetsa otsutsa, osati kuwatsutsa
"Okana" akhala akupezeka nthawi zonse mogwirizana ndi pafupifupi chilichonse chosavomerezeka chomwe chakhala chikupezeka m'mbiri yonse. Nthawi zina amatenga malo ovomerezeka pagulu omwe amatsata zachipembedzo kapena zina ndikupanga izi, monga kuwotcha ampatuko kapena kuwatsekera m'ndende odwala matenda amisala. Nthawi zina adangodzinamizira kuti ziwembu monga 9/11 zigawenga zidalidi zaboma kapena kuti kuphulikako sikunachitike.
Izi ndi zoyesayesa kwambiri kufotokoza kapena kuthana ndi chinthu chomwe sichimvetsetseka kapena chosamvetseka. Pankhaniyi onsewa kuteteza njira ndipo palibe paliponse momveka bwino kuposa mmalo mwa chizolowezi chogonana.
Okana kugwiritsira ntchito chiwerewere akuyenda mumsewu woyendetsedwa kale ndi iwo omwe amafuna kudziteteza pamachitidwe kapena malingaliro omwe amawopseza kwambiri. Izi ndizowona makamaka m'mbiri yaposachedwa pakusintha kwa matenda amisala. Zakhala pang'onopang'ono kuti "machimo owopsa" adabwereranso monga zowawa zamunthu m'maganizo.
Kuopa ndi kunyansidwa ngati gawo lachitukuko
Chifukwa ndimakhulupirira kuti okana zakugonana akuchita moona ndi mantha osazindikira, ndikuganiza kuti akatswiri sangathe kuwachotsa koma amafunika kuwamvetsetsa. Tikapanda kutero sangachoke ndipo apitilizabe kusokoneza anthu onse ndikulowa m'njira yofananira ndi omwe amakana kutentha kwanyengo momwe angatetezere chilengedwe.
Pamene zikhulupiliro ndi mantha zomwe zimayambitsa matenda a chikhalidwe cha anthu zimayamba kutha, nkhaniyo imayenda motsatira ndondomeko yodziŵika bwino pozindikira za anthu kuchokera ziwanda ku kuphwanya malamulo ku mankhwala ku kubwezeretsedwa. Choyamba vuto, nenani uchidakwa, ndi makhalidwe osalephereka, ndiye ndi vuto lalamulo, ndiye a matenda a zachipatala, ndipo pamapeto pake nkhani yaikulu ya zaumoyo kapena zachipatala.
Kusiya vuto la mchitidwe wogonana mosaloledwa, izi zikutanthauza kuti njira zomwe anthu akuchita pakadutsa chizolowezi chogonana zikupitilira ziwanda komanso milandu koma sizinafikebe kuchipatala. Kusintha kumeneku kupita kuchipatala chathunthu kudzatanthawuza kusintha kwa kuzindikira. Izi zimaphatikizapo kuthana ndi mantha, kutsutsana ndi ziweruzo, ndikukopa anthu kuti asiye ziweruzozo. Zili ndi ife kufotokozera moleza mtima.
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