Opanga zithunzi zolaula pa intaneti nthawi zambiri amatha kupeza phindu lalikulu ngati angathe kupanga zithunzi, makanema, ndi nkhani zongopeka. Ndipo kuti akwaniritse chilakolako chosatha cha chilakolako cha kugonana cha ofunafuna, amalonda awa apanga zinthu zachilendo zodzaza ndi zizindikiro zamphamvu zogonana.

 

Chikoka cha kugonana chomwe chili pafupi kwambiri chomwe chimapezeka pa intaneti chimapangidwa kuti chikope akazi komanso amuna (ngakhale m'njira zosiyanasiyana)—ndi anthu onse a LGBT, osati amuna okhaokha. Zachilendo komanso zachilendo za zithunzi izi zongopeka zimawonjezera mwayi woti zidzakulitsa chilakolako cha kugonana ndikukwaniritsa zilakolako zovuta kukhutiritsa. Ndipo kupita patsogolo kwa ukadaulo kumawonjezera gawo lina ku bizinesi yolenga iyi, kuyambitsa chilakolako cha kugonana m'njira zomwe sizinali zotheka kale. Zotsatira zake ndi zakuti zolimbikitsa zotere zimatha kukweza malo osangalatsa a ubongo wanu kuposa zomwe zinalipo kale. Monga momwe zilili, "whew!"

Zitsanzo zomwe ndigwiritse ntchito pofotokoza momwe zatsopano zina mumakampani opanga zachikondi/zogonana/zolaula za madola mabiliyoni ambiri zimatha kutipangitsa kukhala ndi chizolowezi chofuna kuledzera (ndipo ngakhale kukankhira ena mwa ife poyamba) zidzachokera mu A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the World's Largest Experiment Reveals About Human Desire (lolembedwa ndi Ogi Ogas ndi Sai Gaddam, 2011). Mu positi yotsatirayi (gawo 11 la mndandanda wanga wa magawo 12 kutengera buku lofunikali) ndipereka zitsanzo zingapo zoyimira mitundu ya matsenga omwe intaneti imagwiritsa ntchito kutikopa. Koma nditafotokoza zinthu zina ndi nkhani zomwe zimakonzedwa makamaka kuti ziwonjezere chilakolako chathu, ndipita ku gawo langa lomaliza, lomwe limathera ndi chenjezo. Izi zikutanthauza kuti, chifukwa cha mphamvu yapadera yomwe malingaliro ambiri a zolaula angakhale nayo pa ife (kapena pa ife), pamapeto pake amatha kukhudza—m'njira zosayembekezereka—kugonana kwathu, malingaliro athu oyambira pa kugonana, ndi ubale uliwonse wapamtima womwe tingapeze.

 

Koma apa ndikufuna kuwonanso mitundu ina ya zolaula ndi zolaula zomwe ziyenera kuonedwa ngati zongopeka (ndi chenjezo lakuti zambiri mwa zinthuzi zokopa anthu zitha kuonedwa ngati zongopeka chifukwa mosakayikira ndi zongopeka kwambiri, "zongopeka," kuposa zenizeni). Ndipo kumbukiraninso kuti cholinga chopanga zinthu zotere, moona mtima, ndikuyambitsa chilakolako. Kwa opanga ake omwe ali ndi chizolowezi chopanga "zinthu zawo," pali mwayi waukulu woti mubwezere zambiri ... ndi zina zambiri.

Umu ndi momwe Ogas ndi Gaddam amayesera kufotokoza mwachidule mphamvu ya chizolowezi cha vutoli: "Mitundu ina ya zolimbikitsa kugonana imagwirizanitsa zizindikiro zambiri zogonana mu mtundu wa chinyengo chomwe timachitcha malingaliro olakwika okhudzana ndi kugonana . Ndi ukadaulo wamakono komanso luso la anthu , zizindikiro zakale zogonana tsopano zalumikizidwa pamodzi m'njira zatsopano zomwe zinganyenge kapena kukulitsa malingaliro athu okhudzana ndi kugonana, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti amuna ndi akazi akhale ndi zilakolako zatsopano zokhudzana ndi kugonana" (pp. 214-15).

Transsexual (aka "Shemale," "T-Girl," kapena "Ladyboy") Zolaula

Ndakambirana kale za chinyengo cha zolaula za amuna okhaokha m'mauthenga akale (monga "Simungathandize kwambiri zomwe zimakupangitsani kukhala okondwa"). Chifukwa chake ndingotchulapo mwachidule apa—ndipo kuchokera pamalo osiyana pang'ono. Zithunzi kapena makanema ojambulidwa ndi X a akazi osintha chiwerewere (omwe omvera akuluakulu ndi amuna ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha), amapatsa owonera chilimbikitso chatsopano cha mbolo yolumikizidwa ndi thupi la mkazi (kapena mwamuna wakale) yemwe, kudzera mu mankhwala ambiri a mahomoni, tsopano ali ndi mawere ozungulira bwino komanso thupi lokongola kwambiri lachikazi. Ndipo "zokongoletsa" za mbolo yoyima ndi chizindikiro champhamvu cha kugonana osati kwa amuna okhaokha komanso kwa anthu ambiri osakwatira—makamaka zikaphatikizidwa ndi zizindikiro zina zodziwika bwino zomwe amuna ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha (ndi amuna ambiri ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, nawonso) amapeza kuti zikukopa chidwi. Ichi ndichifukwa chake zolaula za amuna okhaokha ndi gulu lofufuzira lodziwika bwino, kapena "niche," pa intaneti kuposa momwe anthu ambiri angaganizire. Mukaphatikiza mitundu iwiri yosiyana kwambiri ya zizindikiro zogonana za amuna—ndiko kuti, zizindikiro zodziwika bwino za akazi zokhala ndi chizindikiro chachilendo kwambiri cha chiwalo chogonana cha amuna choyimirira—ndipo mumapeza mtundu wa zachilendo zogonana zomwe zimatha kupsetsa ubongo wa amuna.

Anthu Achijapani (kapena Hentai)

Anime yaku Japan [zojambula zolaula] kapena hentai zimatitengera moonekera kwambiri m'njira yodabwitsa iyi yoopsa. Ndipo malingaliro olakwika ogonana amatha kumasulidwa ku zoletsa zonse zachibadwa zenizeni. Chifukwa chake anthu osintha chiwerewere, omwe amadziwika kuti futanari , amatha kukulitsa chinyengo chakuti chilakolako chathu tsopano chafika pamalo abwino kwambiri. Monga momwe Ogas ndi Gaddam adanenera: "Makhalidwe a Futanari amajambulidwa ndi matupi a akazi ambiri, nthawi zambiri achichepere [chinthu china champhamvu cholimbikitsa kugonana kwa amuna], okhala ndi mabere akulu ozungulira ndi ziboliboli za hourglass, maso akulu okhala ndi nsidze zazitali, ndi nkhope zokongola. Amakhalanso ndi mbolo zazikulu ngati za akavalo" [!] (tsamba 219).

 

Kubwerera ku dziko lenileni, njira yatsopano yogwiritsira ntchito ma model ndi akazi osintha kugonana kuti ayambe kugwiritsa ntchito pulogalamu yachibadwa ya chilakolako cha amuna ndikugwiritsa ntchito akazi enieni ovala ma dildos omwe ali ndi zingwe, zomwe zimawoneka ngati zenizeni (ngakhale kukula kwa chiwalo chawo chopangidwa, moona mtima, kungawoneke ngati kochulukitsidwa mopanda nzeru). Njira ina iyi ikuwonetsa chinyengo china chogonana chomwe chimagwiritsidwa ntchito popezera mwayi wapadera wa amuna wofuna kudzuka kudzera mu kulumikizana kwatsopano (osati kosangalatsa) kwa zizindikiro zogonana. Kuphatikiza apo, zochita zogonana zomwe chiwalo choterechi cha akazi chimalola zingakopenso malingaliro a amuna okhudzana ndi kugonana pankhani yokhudza kutenga gawo logonjera la kugonana lomwe amuna ambiri amakumana nalo akayamba kugonana.

Chikondi chosiyana

Monga momwe zalembedwera m'mauthenga akale, zizindikiro za kugonana kwa akazi—poyerekeza ndi za amuna—nthawi yomweyo sizikuwonetsa zithunzi zambiri komanso zimakhala ndi malingaliro komanso malingaliro. Ndiye kodi ndi chiyani chomwe chingafanane ndi zolaula za amuna okhaokha pankhani ya chilakolako cha kugonana kwa akazi ? Simuyenera kuyang'ana kwina kulikonse kupatula ku mndandanda wodziwika bwino wa Stephenie Meyer, Twilight , monga chimodzi mwa zitsanzo zodziwika bwino za mtundu waposachedwa wotchedwa paranormal romance . Pogogomezeranso zomwe zakhala zikuchitika kuti zizindikiro za kugonana zikhale zokopa kwambiri, Ogas ndi Gaddam adati: “M'zaka khumi zapitazi, ma vampire okongola, mimbulu yolusa, ndi mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya zilombo zauzimu zalowa m'malo mwa anthu wamba kukhala ngwazi ndi ngwazi zodziwika bwino zachikondi.” Ndipo kodi n'chiyani chomwe chingakhale chokopa kuposa ngwazi ya Meyer, Bella Swan, yemwe anakakamizika kusankha “pakati pa Edward Cullen, mtsikana wokonda vampire wokwiya komanso mtsikana wokonda wa werewolf Jacob Black” (tsamba 221)?

Zili ngati kuti owonera ambiri a nkhani zachikondi za akazi (monga zolaula za amuna) kwa zaka zambiri atopa pang'ono ndi zomwe zimaperekedwa nthawi zonse. Kotero tsopano ikufuna china chatsopano, chosinthidwa, kapena ngakhale chodzaza ndi mphamvu kuti ubongo wake wogonana ukhale wokonzeka mokwanira. Ngakhale amuna a alpha adzachitabe ntchito ... bwanji za ma super alpha ena? Ndipo kusiyanasiyana kosatha kwa malingaliro olakwika omwe angawonekere popanga ngwazi zodabwitsa kumapangitsa kuti chizindikiro champhamvu cha kugonana cha zinthu zatsopano chikhale chosatha. Ndipo, ndithudi, ma vampire ("ma alpha pakati pa ma alpha") akhala, ndipo nthawi zonse adzakhala, makamaka okopa akazi ngati zolimbikitsa zogonana.

 

Chibwenzi chomaliza chomwe ngakhale ngwazi zapadera ziyenera kudutsamo ngati akufuna kuvomerezedwa komaliza ndi omvera awo achikazi ndichakuti kupitirira luso lawo lakuthupi, chuma chobadwa nacho, komanso chitetezo champhamvu, amatha kusinthidwa ndi "matsenga a hoo hoo" a ngwazi kukhala mnzawo wachikondi komanso wodzipereka kwambiri—tsopano wokhoza kudzipereka ku mtundu wa ubale wa mkazi m'modzi womwe akazi amalakalaka kwambiri. M'mabuku achilendo, ngakhale pamene ngwazi si chinthu china kupatula munthu, kukula kwake kwa umuna ndi mphamvu zake zimaperekedwabe mwanjira yomwe pamapeto pake imakakamiza kuyamikira ngati nthano kuposa mwamuna wamba. Ngakhale kuti sangakhale vampire kapena mulungu, akadali wamkulu kuposa moyo: mtundu wa chinyengo chomwe chingapangitse ngwazi (ndi wowerenga wosangalala, yemwe akugwirizana naye kwambiri) kutopa ndi chilakolako chachikulu. Kuphatikiza kosatheka kwenikweni kwa zizindikiro zogonana, ngwazi zotere zimapatsa owerenga kapena owonera chiwonetsero chachikondi chosangalatsa chomwe chingapangitse kuti zithunzi zachilengedwe zambiri ziwoneke ngati zopanda pake poyerekeza. Kambiranani za kusonkhezera kwambiri! — ngwazi zolota izi zimapangidwa mwaluso, modabwitsa kuti zikope chilakolako cha mowa.

Ndipo kodi nkhani ya Ogas ndi Gadidam ndi chidule chotani? "Ngati anime ya Japan amapereka ufulu waukulu wopanga zinthu zowonongeka zomwe zimapangitsa ubongo wamwamuna, ndiye kuti chikondi chofanana ndi chachikazi chimayenderana ndi ubongo wazimayi" (p. 225).

 

Gay EroRom

Akazi ambiri amaona kuti zolaula za amuna kapena akazi okhaokha zimawapangitsa kukhala okonda kugonana (monga momwe kugonana kwa akazi okhaokha kwakhalira kotchuka kwambiri pakati pa amuna). Komabe, chidwi cha akazi chochulukirachulukira pa zolaula zoterechi chikadali chachiwiri poyerekeza ndi chidwi chawo chachikulu pa nkhani zachikondi za amuna ndi akazi, mtundu wa nkhani zongopeka, kapena EroRom , zomwe cholinga chake chinali akazi omwe (makamaka malonda) sanalipo zaka khumi zapitazo. Monga momwe zinalili mu Brokeback Mountain — poyamba inali nkhani yochepa yolembedwa ndi mkazi — yomwe inkaonedwa ndi akazi ambiri, nkhani zachikondizi sizimayang'ana kwambiri ubale weniweni koma zimangoyang'ana kwambiri pa ubale weniweni wa munthu wofatsa, wosamala, komanso wamaganizo.

Zikasokoneza Nkhani

Koma chizolowezi chachikulu apa ndi kutchuka kwakukulu pa intaneti kwa mtundu wa "nkhani zongopeka" zomwe zimatchedwa slash . Pano tili ndi amuna ndi akazi okonda amuna monga Harry Potter/Draco Malfoy, kapena Frodo/Legolas. Dziwaninso kuti tayikidwa mkati mwa dziko longopeka la chinyengo cha kugonana - malo a maloto okhaokha omwe ali kutali ndi zomwe zingatheke tsiku ndi tsiku. "Kutali" kuposa nkhani zachikhalidwe zachikondi za amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, nkhani zimenezi zimakhala ndi kapangidwe ka nkhani kofanana kwambiri, "kofanana ndi akazi" chifukwa nkhaniyo nthawi zambiri imatseka ndi kugonana kosaneneka komanso kwamaganizo pakati pa amuna awiri omwe sanali pafupi. Mwachidule, monga m'mabuku akale achikondi, nkhani iyi mwaluso (kapena mwamatsenga) imakonzanso maganizo a amuna kuti agwirizane bwino ndi zomwe akazi amakonda.

Ogas ndi Gaddam akuti nkhani zopitilira theka miliyoni zitha kupezeka pa intaneti, pafupifupi zonse zolembedwa ndi akazi achikazi. Ndipo olemba awiriwa akuwonetsanso mwayi woti nthano zoterezi, popanga zodzikakamiza zosiyanasiyana zazimayi motsutsana ndi zowoneka, zimapatsa azimayi chinyengo kwambiri kuposa zolaula za amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Osati kuti ubongo wamwamuna sungayankhe pazopeka (kapena, monga O & G amazitchulira, "chinyengo chamalingaliro"), koma kuti mawu olembedwa omwe amawatembenuza amasiyana mosiyana ndi nkhani zosemphana, EroRom yamwamuna kapena wamkazi zachikondi zomwe zitha kukopa akazi.

 

Kusintha Fiction

Mtundu wa mabuku a amuna omwe ndikunena pano umadziwika kuti nkhani yongopeka yokhudza kusintha kwa zinthu . Ndipo ngakhale dzina lake lodziwika bwino lingakhale lodzifotokozera lokha, ndi lachilendo mokwanira kuti liyeneretse kufotokozedwa bwino. Kutengera mawu a Ogas ndi Gaddam: “Mu nkhani zongopeka, mwamuna amasanduka mkazi kudzera m'njira zosiyanasiyana zodabwitsa: matsenga, mankhwala, ukadaulo wachilendo, kusintha majini, kapena opaleshoni. Kusintha kumeneku nthawi zambiri kumachitika mosafuna [monga, ayenera “kugonjera” kwa iko]. . . . Komabe, pamapeto pake, wozunzidwayo amazolowera kusintha kwake ndipo amalandira mosangalala moyo wake watsopano, ndi zabwino zonse zomwe ukazi umabweretsa” (tsamba 232).

Funso ndilakuti, poganizira zonse zomwe taphunzira zokhudza zizindikiro za kugonana zomwe zimakopa amuna nthawi zonse (zambiri zomwe zimakhala za amuna okhaokha komanso amuna okhaokha), kodi nkhani yokhudza kusintha kwa zinthu ingakhale "yabwinobwino" bwanji? Ndipo yankho ndilakuti, ngakhale kusankha kumeneku kungawonekere kodabwitsa bwanji poyamba, komabe mtundu wa mphotho za kugonana zomwe zimapereka si zachilendo. Taganizirani kuti nkhani zotere nthawi zambiri zimakhala zodzaza ndi kugonana kwachiwerewere, chifukwa mkazi amene wangosintha kumene amakhala pamalo pomwe ayenera kukhutiritsa amuna osiyanasiyana okonda kugonana. Taganiziraninso kuti mwamuna amene wasintha nthawi zambiri amachititsa amuna kutembenukira maso awo ndi kugwetsa misozi, popeza "iye" ameneyu amawonetsedwa ngati mulungu wamkazi wa kugonana, wokhala ndi mawonekedwe onse omwe amayimira zizindikiro zamphamvu za amuna—monga momwe chilakolako chawo pa iye sichimalamulirika. Mabere ake ndi akulu (mpaka akuluakulu kwambiri), mapazi ake ndi ang'onoang'ono, ndipo zovala zake zimakhala zokopa kwambiri komanso zamakono—kotero kuti, kwenikweni, Ogas ndi Gaddam amanena kuti: “Nthawi zina nkhanizi zimawerengedwa ngati malonda a Frederick's of Hollywood (!).

Zili ngati kuti m'maganizo mwawo, amuna ambiri amalakalaka kuti asachitenso ngati "chinthu chachuma" koma m'malo mwake amangoganiza zodzipereka ku malingaliro awo ndikuwonedwa mokweza ngati "chinthu chogonana" (chinthu chomwe akazi ambiri amachinyalanyaza). Ndi kusamvetsetsa kwakukulu, ngakhale kopusa, kwa maganizo a akazi, amaganiza kuti akanakhala mkazi , akanafuna kugwiritsa ntchito mwayi wa kugonana kwawo kofunidwa mwa kuchita zinthu zambiri zosadziwika. Komanso, monga akazi, sangaganize kuti sakanatanganidwa ndi kukula kwa mbolo. Ndipo, mosiyana ndi zimenezi, chifukwa cha kukonda kwawo akazi, sangaganize zoganizira kwambiri za malingaliro awo—ndiko kuti, ngati alipo ena omwe alipo kupitirira chilakolako chofuna kugula zinthu ndi kugonana.

 

Kupatula malingaliro achilendo a amuna otere, ganizirani positi yanga yomaliza, "Wolamulira Kapena Wogonjera? Chodabwitsa cha Mphamvu mu Ubale Wogonana." Pakati pa zinthu zina, ndikulankhula pamenepo za mfundo yakuti malingaliro a kugonjera kugonana—komanso kulamulira—angayambitse malo opindulitsa a ubongo wa amuna. Chifukwa chake ndi nkhani yongopeka yosintha (1) zizindikiro zodziwika bwino za kugonjera zimawonjezeredwa ku (2) zizindikiro zosiyanasiyana za amuna , zokhudzana ndi mawonekedwe aunyamata a mkazi ndi thupi lake lokopa—zomwe zimawonjezeredwanso ndi (3) zizindikiro zamphamvu zamaganizo zomwe zimazungulira mkazi mopanda manyazi kusonyeza chisangalalo cha kugonana mwa "kutengedwa" mwamphamvu ndi mwamuna wamphamvu, wamphamvu. Timakhala ndi chilakolako chogonana chopangidwa mosamala chomwe chimapangidwa kuti chikope kwambiri. Tikulankhula za "zothandizira" zamphamvu kuti munthu afike pachimake—kapena kuthandiza mwamuna kukhala ndi chilakolako chosangalatsa kwambiri!

Ndipo ichi, potsiriza, ndicho mfundo yaikulu ya malingaliro osiyanasiyana okhudzana ndi kugonana omwe afotokozedwa bwino ndi Ogas ndi Gaddam. Komabe, tatsala ndi funso lofunika kwambiri (lomwe olemba awa—oyang'ana kwambiri mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya chilakolako cha kugonana kwa anthu—sanathe kuliyankha). Ndipo ndicho ngati njira zonse zopangira zinthu zodzionetsera—makamaka zoyamikiridwa ndi intaneti komanso zomwe zimapangitsa kuti anthu azigonana—ndi chinthu chabwino. Tikudziwa kuti ukadaulo ungagwiritsidwe ntchito mofanana ndi zinthu zoipa komanso zabwino. Koma bwanji za zolaula zamakono, zomwe zotsatira zake zimakulitsidwa kwambiri ndi ukadaulo?

Ndipotu, kafukufuku waposachedwapa m'derali wakhala akuwonetsa zotsatirapo zoipa zosiyanasiyana pa "kugonana kwa munthu woberekera" komwe tsopano kwaperekedwa kwa ife mochuluka. Ndipo zomwe zapezekazo mosakayikira ziyenera kufotokozedwa mu positi ina. Chifukwa chake mu gawo langa lotsatira, komanso lomaliza, ndipita patsogolo kuposa zomwe zili mu A Billion Wicked Thoughts kuti ndifotokoze mwachidule malipoti aposachedwa pa nkhani zaumwini ndi zaubale zomwe zikuonekera tsopano chifukwa cha zolaula za pa intaneti komanso zolaula zomwe zimapezeka mosavuta, zotsika mtengo—komanso zosokoneza—kuposa kale lonse.

ZINDIKIRANI 1: Owerenga omwe akufuna kupitiriza nane pamene ndikumaliza mndandanda wa zolembazi angafune kulembetsa ku RSS feed yanga (onani chizindikiro cha lalanje cha wailesi chomwe chili pamwamba kumanja kwa tsamba, pamwamba pa chithunzi changa). Mwanjira imeneyi mudzadziwitsidwa gawo lomalizali likatumizidwa. Mitu ya zolemba zanga zonse zokhudzana ndi nkhaniyi ikuphatikizapo izi (ndipo ndapereka maulalo ku magawo omwe afalitsidwa kale):

• Kodi Ubongo Wa Sayansi Ungakuphunzitseni Bwanji Zokhudza Kugonana? Zokakamiza Zogonana (Gawo 1-Kwa Amuna, & Gawo 2-Kwa akazi
• Zosokoneza ndi Pragmatism mu Chilakolako cha Akazi Akazi
• Lamulo la intaneti # 34-Kapena, Kodi Ndi Zopindulitsa Ziti Zogonana?
• Chifukwa Chimene Simungathe Kuthandizira Kwambiri Chimene Chikupangitsani
• Chinsinsi, Zinthu Zogonana Zogonana Amuna
• Gay kapena Straight, Mwamuna Ndi Mwamuna Ndi Mwamuna
• Wamkulu Kapena Wogonjera? Chodabwitsa cha Mphamvu mu kugonana
• N'chifukwa Chiyani Akazi Amagwera Kupha Anthu Oopsa?
• Zatsopano zisanu ndi ziŵiri zaposachedwa mu Porn ndi Erotica
• Zithunzi Zolaula pa Intaneti: Zoopsa Zake ndi Zovuta Zake

DZIWANI 2: Ngati mwapeza izi posonyeza kuunika (monga ndikuyembekeza kwambiri), ndikudalira kuti mukugawana ndi ena-kotero, iwo akhoza kukumbukira zatsopano pa phunzirolo.

© 2012 Leon F. Seltzer, Ph.D. Maufulu Onse Ndi Otetezedwa.