(ndi Linda Hatch PhD) Ndi pachimake pa mliri wa Edzi, zaka pafupifupi 30 zapitazo. Dr. Patrick Carnes, yemwe ndi bambo woyambitsa chiphunzitso cha chizolowezi chogonana, akulankhula ndi gulu la anthu ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Waitanidwa ndi katswiri wodziwika bwino wa zachiwerewere wa ku Africa-America yemwe akuganiza kuti gulu la anthu ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha likufunikadi kumva uthenga wake. Pa nthawiyi Dr. Carnes akunyamulidwa mu imodzi mwa ma limo atatu ofanana kotero kuti ngati ataukiridwa sizikanatheka kudziwa kuti anali mu limo iti.
Kunyodola ndi kuzunzidwa kunayamba molawirira ndipo sizinaleke. Mwana wamkazi wamakono Dr Stefanie Carnes, pulezidenti wa International Institute for Trauma ndi Addiction Professionals, amakumbukira kuti pamene anali wachinyamata bambo ake analandira mantha.
Ngakhale anthu a m'mudzi wa AA anakwiya pamene Dr. Carnes adayambitsa ndondomeko yowonzanso kugonana kwa 12. Ndiye lingaliro lotani lomwe linapangitsa kuti anthu azichita zachiwawa? M'buku lake la 1983 buku lotchedwa Out of the Shadows, zizindikiro za [1] zimatanthawuza kuti kugonana ndi "kusokoneza maganizo ndi chizoloŵezi chosintha maganizo." Patapita zaka makumi awiri mu Facing the Shadow [2] akuti:
"Lero tikudziwa kuti kumwa mowa ndi matenda - matenda aakulu kwambiri. Kuwonjezera pamenepo, mavuto monga mankhwala, chakudya, njuga ndi kugwiritsira ntchito ziwalo zogonana ndizogwirizana komanso amadalira njira zofanana. Chofunika kwambiri, tikudziwa kuti anthu amatha kupeza chithandizo komanso kuti pali zizindikiro zabwino. Kuledzera ndi kugonana ndikumalizira kotsiriza kumvetsetsa. "
Momwe chizolowezi chogonana chinagwetsedwera pansi pa basi ...