(ndi Linda Hatch PhD) Ndi kutalika kwa mliri wa Edzi, pafupi zaka 30 zapitazo. Dr. Patrick Carnes, bambo woyambitsa chizoloŵezi chogonana, adzalankhula ndi gulu lachiwerewere. Wapemphedwa ndi munthu wolemekezeka wa chikhalidwe cha African American sexist who amakhulupirira kuti gulu lachiwerewere likufunikira kumva uthenga wake. Pa nthawiyi Dr. Carnes akutumizidwa mu chimodzi mwa zitatu zomwe zimakhala zofanana kuti ngati atayesedwa sakanakhoza kudziwa limo yomwe iye anali.
Kunyodola ndi kuzunzidwa kunayamba molawirira ndipo sizinaleke. Mwana wamkazi wamakono Dr Stefanie Carnes, pulezidenti wa International Institute for Trauma ndi Addiction Professionals, amakumbukira kuti pamene anali wachinyamata bambo ake analandira mantha.
Ngakhale anthu a m'mudzi wa AA anakwiya pamene Dr. Carnes adayambitsa ndondomeko yowonzanso kugonana kwa 12. Ndiye lingaliro lotani lomwe linapangitsa kuti anthu azichita zachiwawa? M'buku lake la 1983 buku lotchedwa Out of the Shadows, zizindikiro za [1] zimatanthawuza kuti kugonana ndi "kusokoneza maganizo ndi chizoloŵezi chosintha maganizo." Patapita zaka makumi awiri mu Facing the Shadow [2] akuti:
"Lero tikudziwa kuti kumwa mowa ndi matenda - matenda aakulu kwambiri. Kuwonjezera pamenepo, mavuto monga mankhwala, chakudya, njuga ndi kugwiritsira ntchito ziwalo zogonana ndizogwirizana komanso amadalira njira zofanana. Chofunika kwambiri, tikudziwa kuti anthu amatha kupeza chithandizo komanso kuti pali zizindikiro zabwino. Kuledzera ndi kugonana ndikumalizira kotsiriza kumvetsetsa. "
Mchitidwe wogwiritsira ntchito kugonana unaponyedwa pansi pa basi...
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