February 10, 2016 – Ndi Alex Anderson Mosiyana ndi makeke omwe ali mu ziwiya zanga zotsika mtengo kukhitchini, malingaliro a Chaka Chatsopano ndi kudziletsa komwe kumabwera chifukwa cha Lent sizimamatirira. Nthawi zina zimangofunika zolinga zabwino zokha kuti musinthe kwambiri khalidwe lanu - mwina mantha azaumoyo, kapena kusagwirizana ndi apongozi. Koma ngati mukuganiza kuti kugwiritsa ntchito bwino malo ochitira masewera olimbitsa thupi omwe saganiziridwa bwino komanso okwera mtengo kapena kuchepetsa kumwa mowa n'kovuta, yesani kusiya zolaula.
N’chifukwa chiyani wina angatero? Eya, zolaula zingakhale zoipa kwa inu . Ndinatero ine. Koma osati mwanjira yakuti, “Mudzasanduka akhungu” (pokhapokha ngati muli ndi chidwi chofuna kuchita zinthu zosangalatsa). Ayi, zolaula ndi zoipa kwa inu chifukwa zimatha kukhala zowononga nthawi yomweyo.
Chitsanzo. Lent ndi, monga mwa mwambo, za pemphero, kulapa, kulapa ndi kudzikana. Koma kwa malingaliro ophatikizapo zolaula, pafupifupi mawu atatuwa amachititsa zithunzi zosaoneka bwino zomwe akuluakulu osakwiya opanda ubongo amadzuka. Ndipo lachinayi limangotchula za malingaliro osalala omwe Madonna amachititsa kuti azichita zinthu zosayenera (zomasuka ndi zoimba).
Ndikungoseka chabe - ndimakonda nyimboyi. Koma ngati mumakonda zolaula, zimatha kulamulira moyo wanu. Mukudziwa kuti muli ndi vuto mukamada nkhawa kuti mwayi wanu wotsatira wodziseweretsa maliseche udzafika liti. Kapena mukakana kuyitanidwa kuti mugwiritse ntchito nthawi yanu nokha m'nyumba. Kapena mukasiya dala chibwenzi cha mnzanu poganiza kuti adzafulumira kukagona kuti mukhale ndi nthawi yopuma ndi laputopu.
Ena mwachisoni, ubongo wolakalaka kwambiri zolaula-zimapangitsa dopamine, kutaya phokoso lakuda la rabbit
Ngakhale kuti asayansi sanagwirizanebe ngati khalidwe lokakamizali lingatchulidwe kuti ndi chizolowezi - ngakhale kuti khama la anthu ngati Dr Valerie Voon, katswiri wa matenda amisala ku University of Cambridge yemwe ntchito yake imaphatikizapo kuyerekeza machitidwe a ubongo wa ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula ndi a anthu ogwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo komanso omwe amatchova juga , akukhazikitsa maziko a kafukufukuyu - pali umboni wokwanira wosonyeza kuti ndi vuto lenileni.
Madokotala a zachipatala anena kuti achinyamata akuvutika kwambiri ndi vuto la kugonana , zomwe zikuganiziridwa kuti ndi chifukwa cha ubongo wawo wodzaza ndi zinthu zosiyanasiyana zolimbikitsa kugonana zomwe zimapezeka kudzera pa intaneti komanso kusapeza chiwongola dzanja kuchokera kwa mtsikana weniweni, wosasintha, wabwinobwino. Amuna ndi akazi anena kuti akusowa mphamvu m'magawo awo ogwirira ntchito mopitirira muyeso ndipo kufika pachimake kumakhala kovuta kwambiri pazochitika zenizeni.
Ndipo zina zosautsa, ubongo wofunitsitsa kugunda kwamphamvu kopitilira muyeso wa dopamine, umasowa mabowo akalulu olaula (omwe mwina sangaphatikizepo leporidae weniweni) kuti ayambitse gawo lomwe likufunika kwambiri kuti likhale losangalatsa. Ingoganizirani dziko lapansi pomwe chakudya chimakhala chosavuta, chofulumira komanso chakuyang'ana kwambiri kuposa momwe anthu ambiri adakhala onenepa chifukwa cha izi. Zili choncho, koma ndi khosi lakuya komanso kutsamwa pang'ono.
Kudalira zolaula kunawononga ubale wanga, ndipo kunatsala pang'ono kuwononga ubale wina mpaka nditapeza www.yourbrainonporn.com , tsamba losangalatsa lomwe ndinapeza modabwitsa pamene ndinali kusaka zolaula.
Tsambali ndi lingaliro la Gary Wilson, mphunzitsi wopuma pantchito ya anatomy ndi physiology, poyankha kufunikira kosungitsa ndalama (kusasankha mawu mwanzeru pankhaniyi, ndikudziwa) pazofufuza zonse komanso umboni wosatsutsika pankhaniyi. Imakhalanso ndi malo omwe amuna ndi akazi amafotokozera zomwe akumana nazo pamavuto okhudzana ndi zolaula, komanso nthano za "kuyambiranso," komwe kufunikira kwa zolaula kumenyedwa ndipo ophunzira amatuluka ndi mitu yomveka bwino, kuyang'ana kwatsopano komanso zopweteka kwambiri maliseche.
Kodi ndi kusocheretsa anthu ambiri? Zotsatira zakukondera kutsimikizika? Malo okongola kwambiri a porny? Mwina. Koma pali anthu ochulukirachulukira omwe asankha kusiya zolaula - akuwonetsedwa ndi makumi masauzande a mamembala a Reddit a Nofap - mwatsoka amatchedwa 'fapstronauts', koma tiyeni tisachite mantha ndi mayina oseketsa potengera kuchira.
Ngakhale sindingatchulidwe ngati chilichonse chokhala ndi 'fap' mmenemo, ndine m'modzi mwa anthu omwe adaganiza kuti zolaula zimakhudza moyo wawo ndikuzidula. Ndidayambiranso njira yobwezeretsanso yolangizidwa ndi iwo omwe akupanga mapu atsopanowa, ndipo ndinasiya kuseweretsa maliseche kunja kwa zipinda zoyatsa bwino momwe akulu awiri ovomerezeka omwe ali ndi tsitsi lokwanira.
Ndipo chinthucho chiri, kutsimikizika kulikonse komwe kuli pa mtima wa kukangana kwa chizolowezi, kunasinthadi moyo wanga. Ndinayamba kuthamangitsidwa kwambiri, ndikutha kuganizira kwambiri, ndinadzimva bwino kwambiri ndipo ndinapeza mwa ine mphamvu yowonjezereka yowonjezera mphamvu (mwachindunji, osati kupembedza kristalo, nzeru) yomwe ndinayambitsa zochitika zatsopano, ntchito yanga ndi kupeza m'mawa popanda kuphulika.
Koma ngati mndandandawo sukufuna kuti muyesere kusiya zolaula ngakhale kwakanthawi, dziwani kuti chinthu chabwino kwambiri ndikuti ziphuphu zanga tsopano ndizolimba kwambiri ndipo kuwona kwa bondo lopanda kanthu ndikokwanira kundimangirira. Lent yokondwa, aliyense. Sangalalani ndi zikondamoyo zanu.