Kukula kwamakono kwamasiku ano, zolaula zosavomerezeka pa intaneti zikugonjetsa kugonana opaleshoni akuthamangira kuti akhalepo pakalipano, ndipo ena akuwona zochitika zodziwika bwino. M'mbuyomu, anthu omwe ali ndi zizoloŵezi zolaula pafupifupi nthawi zonse amafotokoza mbiri ya chipsinjo. Izi zikutanthauza kuti anthu ochita zolaula amatha kuonera zolaula panthawi inayake ndikupeza kuti zinkasokoneza nkhaŵa komanso mavuto ena omwe amayamba chifukwa chozunzidwa mwakuthupi kapena m'maganizo. Koma othandizira ena omwe amagwira ntchito ndi ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula amasiku ano akukhulupirira kuti akuwona mtundu watsopano wonyansa zolaula:
Lumikizani ku nkhani yapachiyambi
Munthuyu alibe mbiri yakale ya nkhanza kapena kupwetekedwa mtima. M'malo mwake, akulongosola kuti munthu amamwa mankhwala osokoneza bongo chifukwa choyamba kubwereranso ndi zolaula.
Kusintha kumeneku kooneka ngati momwe anthu akulowerera ndi zolaula kumakhudza achinyamata ndi makolo awo chifukwa ana ambiri odabwitsa akuwona zolaula pa intaneti ndipo zaka zoyamba zolaula siziwoneka pansi. Ndipotu, ofufuza a London School of Economics and Political Science ku UK anapeza kuti pafupifupi mmodzi mwa achinyamata asanu aliwonse angakumane ndi mauthenga ogonana pa Intaneti kapena zithunzi zolaula panthawi inayake, ndipo kafukufuku wa 2013 akuwonekera m'magaziniyi Kugonana ndi kukakamizidwa limatsiriza kuti zaka zapakati pa nthawi yoyamba ndi 10 kwa zaka 14.
Kumayambiriro, Kugwiritsa Ntchito Zolaula Mwamphamvu
Kunena zowona, ana omwe akuwona zolaula akuyang'anitsitsa. Stefanie Carnes, PhD, Purezidenti wa International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals komanso mlangizi wazachipatala pazogonana mapulogalamu osokoneza bongo ku Arizona ndi California. "Lero, ana akuwona S & M ndikumenya nkhonya ndi mvula yagolide ndikuyesera kumvetsetsa tanthauzo la kugonana; maphunziro awo azakugonana ambiri akuchitika pa intaneti. ” Kuwonetsa zolaula kumakhala kovuta kwambiri kwa ana, akuti, chifukwa ana alibe lobes wakutsogolo ndipo alibe chomwe chimadziwika kuti Executive function, chomwe chimakhudza kuwongolera mopepuka komanso kuweruza koyambirira. "Sazimvetsetsa kuti zomwe akuwona sizachilendo ndipo nthawi zambiri sizimakhala zenizeni," akutero.
Choyipa chachikulu, akuwona zolaula panthawi yomwe mbali zovuta zaubongo wawo zikukulabe. Todd Love, PsyD, JD, LPC, katswiri wa zamaganizidwe ku Athens, ku Georgia wodziwa zolaula kuledzera. "Zikusintha makonzedwe awo ndikuwona kuti ubale weniweni ndi wotani," akutero.
Kutanganidwa Kwambiri ndi Zithunzi Kungakhale ndi Zotsatira Zosatha
Kuda nkhawa kuti zolaula zingakhudze maganizo achinyamata sizongopeka chabe. Kafukufuku akusonyeza kuti kuonera zolaula koyambirira kungakhudze maubwenzi ndi khalidwe lawo. Ofufuza a ku Sweden anapeza kuti achinyamata a 2011 omwe amaonera zolaula tsiku ndi tsiku amayambitsa zolaula zoopsa kwambiri komanso zosavomerezeka ndipo amayesetsa kuchita zolaula. Kuonjezera apo, kafukufuku wa 200 wa achinyamata a 18 opeza ndalama zochepa omwe anapeza kuti anawo nthawi zambiri amawonerera zolaula kusukulu ndikuyesa kubwezeretsa zolaula pachibwenzi chawo.
Kuwonetsa zithunzi ndi kugwiritsa ntchito sikungokhala kwa anyamata. Dr. Carnes anati: "Atsikana achichepere akuwonekeranso, ndipo amawavuta kwambiri." Kafukufuku akuthandizira izi. Mu phunziro la 2014 la achinyamata achinyamata a 1,132 m'nkhaniyi Matenda, Ofufuza a ku Dutch anapeza kuti anyamata ndi atsikana omwe amaonera zithunzi zolaula amakhala ndi maganizo oipa komanso amadziona okhaokha. Kuphatikiza apo, kafukufuku wa 2007 wa achinyamata a 745 Dutch adapeza kuti kuonera zolaula kwowonjezereka kunachititsa kuti wogwiritsa ntchito, kaya akhale mwamuna kapena mkazi, angawone akazi ngati zinthu zogonana. "Zithunzi zimatumizira uthenga kwa atsikana aang'ono kuti ayang'ane bwino ndi kukhala okonzeka kuchita chirichonse," Carnes akuti. "Zimapanganso miyezo yosayerekezeka ya kukula ndi ntchito kwa anyamata ndi amuna."
Rob Weiss, LCSW, CSAT-S, katswiri wapadziko lonse pa nkhani yogonana ndi chithunzithunzi ndi wolemba Nthawi Zonse Zikutembenuzidwa: Kugonana Kwadongosolo mu Age Age, amakhulupirira kuti msinkhu wa kuwonetseka ndi msinkhu wa munthu wokhwima maganizo akhoza kukhala zifukwa zofunika pakulepheretsa kuvulazidwa. "Sindidandaula kwambiri za mnyamata wazaka 15 yemwe ali ndi thanzi labwino komanso wokonda kugwiritsidwa ntchito pa Intaneti, yemwe amagwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa Intaneti pafupipafupi, malinga ngati zomwezo zimagwirizana ndi mfundo za makolo ake ndipo sizikuchitika mobisa, "Akutero. "Ndi pamene akubweretsa mchimwene wake wa zaka 9 kuti ayang'ane naye kuti ndiyambe kuda nkhawa. Mchimwene wake wamng'ono adzakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi kupezeka kwa zolaula, zomwe zingakhudze mphamvu ya mwana kukhala ndi moyo wokhudzana ndi kugonana kwachikulire pamtunda. "
Zovuta za Erectile ndi Erectile
Ena amatha kunena kuti poyamba kugwiritsira ntchito zolaula kungayambitse mavuto a kugonana ali wamkulu. Pamene aphungu adakali apo, munthu mmodzi ndi wokhulupirira. Gabe Deem anakulira ku Texas monga gawo la banja lachikondi losakhala ndi mbiri yolekerera kapena zoopsa. Akukumbukira kuti anali mwana wamba yemwe ankakonda nyimbo ndi masewera. Iye anayamba kuona zolaula ali ndi zaka 8 ndipo anayamba kuseweretsa maliseche posakhalitsa pambuyo pake. Pogwiritsa ntchito 10, adakhalapo mpaka 3 kapena 4 ndikuyang'ana zolaula pazithunzi, ndipo pofika zaka 12, pamene banja lake linali ndi intaneti yothamanga kwambiri, adayamba kuonera zolaula.
Ana a sukulu ya sekondale atapatsidwa makattoti, anafulumira kuona momwe angayang'anire zolaula m'kalasi. "Mphunzitsiyo adzakhala patsogolo pa kalasi ndipo ndimakhala kumbuyo, ndikuyang'ana zolaula ndi anzanga," akukumbukira. "Ndikulakalaka ndikadabwerera ndikudzipweteka ndekha." Anasowa zofuna kuchita masewera ndi zinthu zina ndipo adakula mwamsanga kuona atsikana ndi amayi ngati zinthu zogonana.
Pa nthawi yomwe anali mu 20s yake yoyambirira, Deem sankatha kukhala ndi erection popanda chithandizo cha zolaula. Poyesa kuti ntchito yake yolaula ndi yovuta kwambiri, anakhala chaka "kubwezeretsanso," kutanthauza zolaula zonse, ndi kubwezeretsedwa. Iye wakhala ali mwamuna pa ntchito. Iye ndi wokamba nkhani pa zolaula pakati pa ana ndi achikulire, ndipo mu March 2014, wophunzira wazaka za 27 wa zaka zapakati ndi wothandizira achinyamata RebootNation.org kuthandiza anthu ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula ndi ogwirizana nawo. Malowa adayamba ndi mamembala asanu ndipo adakula kwambiri kuposa anthu ena omwe ali ndi 4,000 komanso anthu ambirimbiri omwe ali achinyamata, omwe ndi achinyamata komanso achinyamata omwe amakhulupirira kuti ali ndi vuto loyendetsa zolaula komanso ali ndi vuto logonana. Cholinga chimati, "Ndawona chiwerengero chikuwonjezeka cha mamembala omwe ali m'gulu la achinyamata omwe akudandaula za zolaula zomwe zimapangitsa ED [erectile dysfunction]."
Mmene Mungayankhulire ndi Ana Anu za Porn
Mu 2015, makolo sakhalanso ndi chisankho chofuna kukambirana kapena kugonana ndi ana awo kapena ayi. Monga izo kapena ayi, ana akuphunzira za kugonana pa Intaneti kudzera pa zolaula, Weiss akuti. "Makolo masiku ano ayenera kuphunzitsa ana awo, osati za momwe thupi lathu limagwirira ntchito, za mimba, matenda ndi nkhanza, komanso za zolaula. Ndi ochokera kwa makolo omwe ana adziŵa kuti zomwe akuwona pa intaneti sizochitika tsiku ndi tsiku ndipo sizinthu za chikondi, chiyanjano ndi kugwirizana, "anatero Weiss. "Iwo amafunika kumva kuchokera kwa makolo awo, osati kusukulu osati pamsewu, kunena kuti zolaula siziwathandiza iwo monga zosangalatsa zachikulire."
Weiss anati chinthu chofunika kwambiri kuti tidziŵe za kugonana ndi kukondweretsedwa ndi zachibadwa ndipo palibe chifukwa chochitira manyazi. "Ngati mutumiza uthenga woonera zolaula ndizochititsa manyazi, uthengawo ukhoza kulowa mkati," akutero. "Ndi bwino kukukumbutsani mwana wanu kuti zolaula sizili zenizeni komanso kuti tsiku lina adzaphunzira kuti chikondi chachikulire, chiyanjano ndi kugwirizana kwabwino ndi munthu wina ndizopindulitsa kwambiri kuposa chilichonse chomwe angaone padziko lapansi." Komanso ali ndi mfundo kwa makolo omwe amawona ana awo akuyang'ana zolaula. "Uthenga wanu udzatayika ngati mutapsa mtima," akutero. "Tengani nthawi yoganizira, pezani ndemanga ndipo kenaka kambiranani ndi ana anu pamalo ochepetsera komanso opanda pake."
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