Kukula kwamakono kwamasiku ano, zolaula zosavomerezeka pa intaneti zikugonjetsa kugonana opaleshoni akuthamangira kuti akhalepo pakalipano, ndipo ena akuwona zochitika zodziwika bwino. M'mbuyomu, anthu omwe ali ndi zizoloŵezi zolaula pafupifupi nthawi zonse amafotokoza mbiri ya chipsinjo. Izi zikutanthauza kuti anthu ochita zolaula amatha kuonera zolaula panthawi inayake ndikupeza kuti zinkasokoneza nkhaŵa komanso mavuto ena omwe amayamba chifukwa chozunzidwa mwakuthupi kapena m'maganizo. Koma othandizira ena omwe amagwira ntchito ndi ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula amasiku ano akukhulupirira kuti akuwona mtundu watsopano wonyansa zolaula:
Lumikizani ku nkhani yapachiyambi
Munthuyu alibe mbiri yakale ya nkhanza kapena kupwetekedwa mtima. M'malo mwake, akulongosola kuti munthu amamwa mankhwala osokoneza bongo chifukwa choyamba kubwereranso ndi zolaula.
Kusintha kumeneku komwe kumawonekera m'njira yomwe anthu akuyamba kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kuli ndi zotsatirapo kwa achinyamata ndi makolo awo chifukwa ana ambiri akuonera zolaula pa intaneti ndipo zaka zomwe amayamba kuonera zolaula zikutsika kwambiri. Ndipotu, ofufuza ku London School of Economics and Political Science ku UK adapeza kuti pafupifupi achinyamata m'modzi mwa asanu amakumana ndi mauthenga ogonana pa intaneti kapena zolaula nthawi ina, ndipo kafukufuku wa 2013 womwe udapezeka mu magazini ya Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity watsimikiza kuti zaka zapakati zomwe amayamba kuonera zolaula ndi zaka 10 mpaka 14.
Kumayambiriro, Kugwiritsa Ntchito Zolaula Mwamphamvu
Kunena zowona, ana omwe akuwona zolaula akuyang'anitsitsa. Stefanie Carnes, PhD, Purezidenti wa International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals komanso mlangizi wazachipatala pazogonana mapulogalamu osokoneza bongo ku Arizona ndi California. "Lero, ana akuwona S & M ndikumenya nkhonya ndi mvula yagolide ndikuyesera kumvetsetsa tanthauzo la kugonana; maphunziro awo azakugonana ambiri akuchitika pa intaneti. ” Kuwonetsa zolaula kumakhala kovuta kwambiri kwa ana, akuti, chifukwa ana alibe lobes wakutsogolo ndipo alibe chomwe chimadziwika kuti Executive function, chomwe chimakhudza kuwongolera mopepuka komanso kuweruza koyambirira. "Sazimvetsetsa kuti zomwe akuwona sizachilendo ndipo nthawi zambiri sizimakhala zenizeni," akutero.
Choyipa chachikulu, akuwona zolaula panthawi yomwe mbali zovuta zaubongo wawo zikukulabe. Todd Love, PsyD, JD, LPC, katswiri wa zamaganizidwe ku Athens, ku Georgia wodziwa zolaula kuledzera. "Zikusintha makonzedwe awo ndikuwona kuti ubale weniweni ndi wotani," akutero.
Kutanganidwa Kwambiri ndi Zithunzi Kungakhale ndi Zotsatira Zosatha
Kuda nkhawa kuti zolaula zingakhudze maganizo achinyamata sizongopeka chabe. Kafukufuku akusonyeza kuti kuonera zolaula koyambirira kungakhudze maubwenzi ndi khalidwe lawo. Ofufuza a ku Sweden anapeza kuti achinyamata a 2011 omwe amaonera zolaula tsiku ndi tsiku amayambitsa zolaula zoopsa kwambiri komanso zosavomerezeka ndipo amayesetsa kuchita zolaula. Kuonjezera apo, kafukufuku wa 200 wa achinyamata a 18 opeza ndalama zochepa omwe anapeza kuti anawo nthawi zambiri amawonerera zolaula kusukulu ndikuyesa kubwezeretsa zolaula pachibwenzi chawo.
Kuonera ndi kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula sikungokhala kwa anyamata okha. “Atsikana achichepere nawonso akuziona,” akutero Dr. Carnes, “ndipo zimawasokoneza kwambiri.” Kafukufuku akuchirikiza izi. Mu kafukufuku wa 2014 wa achinyamata 1,132 mu magazini ya Pediatrics , ofufuza aku Dutch adapeza kuti achinyamata aamuna ndi aakazi omwe amaonera zolaula pa intaneti amakhala ndi mwayi wokhala ndi chithunzi choipa cha thupi komanso kudziona ngati osayenera pankhani yogonana. Kuphatikiza apo, kafukufuku wa 2007 wa achinyamata 745 aku Dutch adapeza kuti kuwonetsa zolaula kwambiri kumawonjezera mwayi woti wogwiritsa ntchito, kaya wamwamuna kapena wamkazi, aziona akazi ngati zinthu zogonana. “Zolaula zimatumiza uthenga kwa atsikana achichepere kuti ayenera kuwoneka bwino komanso kukhala okonzeka kuchita chilichonse,” akutero Carnes. “Zimakhazikitsanso miyezo yosatheka ya kukula ndi magwiridwe antchito kwa anyamata ndi amuna.”
Rob Weiss, LCSW, CSAT-S, katswiri wapadziko lonse lapansi pa nkhani zokhudzana ndi kugonana ndi chizolowezi chaukadaulo komanso wolemba buku la Always Turned On: Sex Addiction in the Digital Age , amakhulupirira kuti ukalamba wodziwika ndi kukula kwa maganizo a wogwiritsa ntchito zitha kukhala zinthu zofunika kwambiri pochepetsa mavuto. "Sindikuda nkhawa kwambiri ndi mnyamata wazaka 15 wathanzi komanso wokhazikika m'maganizo yemwe amagwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti kuti aziseweretsa maliseche nthawi zonse, bola ngati zimenezo zikugwirizana ndi mfundo za makolo ake ndipo sizikuchitika mwachinsinsi," akutero. "Ndi pamene amabweretsa mchimwene wake wazaka 9 kuti akaone naye, ndimayamba kuda nkhawa. Mng'ono wake adzakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi kuwonetsedwa kwa zolaula, zomwe zingakhudze luso la mwana lochita zachiwerewere ndi munthu wamkulu wathanzi mtsogolomu."
Zovuta za Erectile ndi Erectile
Ena amatha kunena kuti poyamba kugwiritsira ntchito zolaula kungayambitse mavuto a kugonana ali wamkulu. Pamene aphungu adakali apo, munthu mmodzi ndi wokhulupirira. Gabe Deem anakulira ku Texas monga gawo la banja lachikondi losakhala ndi mbiri yolekerera kapena zoopsa. Akukumbukira kuti anali mwana wamba yemwe ankakonda nyimbo ndi masewera. Iye anayamba kuona zolaula ali ndi zaka 8 ndipo anayamba kuseweretsa maliseche posakhalitsa pambuyo pake. Pogwiritsa ntchito 10, adakhalapo mpaka 3 kapena 4 ndikuyang'ana zolaula pazithunzi, ndipo pofika zaka 12, pamene banja lake linali ndi intaneti yothamanga kwambiri, adayamba kuonera zolaula.
Ana a sukulu ya sekondale atapatsidwa makattoti, anafulumira kuona momwe angayang'anire zolaula m'kalasi. "Mphunzitsiyo adzakhala patsogolo pa kalasi ndipo ndimakhala kumbuyo, ndikuyang'ana zolaula ndi anzanga," akukumbukira. "Ndikulakalaka ndikadabwerera ndikudzipweteka ndekha." Anasowa zofuna kuchita masewera ndi zinthu zina ndipo adakula mwamsanga kuona atsikana ndi amayi ngati zinthu zogonana.
Pofika zaka zake zoyambirira za m'ma 20, Deem sankatha kukhala ndi chilakolako chogonana popanda kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula. Poganiza kuti kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula mopitirira muyeso ndiko komwe kunayambitsa vutoli, anakhala chaka chimodzi "akuyambiranso," kutanthauza kuti, kusiya zolaula zonse, ndipo anachira. Kuyambira pamenepo wakhala munthu wochita ntchito yake. Ndi wolankhula padziko lonse pankhani yogwiritsa ntchito zolaula pakati pa ana ndi achinyamata, ndipo mu Marichi 2014, mphunzitsi waumwini wazaka 27 komanso mphunzitsi wa achinyamata adayambitsa RebootNation.org kuti athandize ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula mopitirira muyeso komanso anzawo. Tsambali linayamba ndi mamembala asanu ndipo kuyambira pamenepo lakula kufika pa mamembala opitilira 4,000 ogwira ntchito komanso "obisala" ambiri, ambiri mwa iwo ndi achinyamata ndi achinyamata omwe amakhulupirira kuti ayamba kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula ndipo akukumana ndi vuto logonana. Deem akuti, "Ndawona mamembala ambiri m'gulu la achinyamata omwe akudandaula za ED [kulephera kugwira ntchito mopitirira muyeso] komwe kumayambitsa zolaula."
Mmene Mungayankhulire ndi Ana Anu za Porn
Mu 2015, makolo sakhalanso ndi chisankho chofuna kukambirana kapena kugonana ndi ana awo kapena ayi. Monga izo kapena ayi, ana akuphunzira za kugonana pa Intaneti kudzera pa zolaula, Weiss akuti. "Makolo masiku ano ayenera kuphunzitsa ana awo, osati za momwe thupi lathu limagwirira ntchito, za mimba, matenda ndi nkhanza, komanso za zolaula. Ndi ochokera kwa makolo omwe ana adziŵa kuti zomwe akuwona pa intaneti sizochitika tsiku ndi tsiku ndipo sizinthu za chikondi, chiyanjano ndi kugwirizana, "anatero Weiss. "Iwo amafunika kumva kuchokera kwa makolo awo, osati kusukulu osati pamsewu, kunena kuti zolaula siziwathandiza iwo monga zosangalatsa zachikulire."
Weiss anati chinthu chofunika kwambiri kuti tidziŵe za kugonana ndi kukondweretsedwa ndi zachibadwa ndipo palibe chifukwa chochitira manyazi. "Ngati mutumiza uthenga woonera zolaula ndizochititsa manyazi, uthengawo ukhoza kulowa mkati," akutero. "Ndi bwino kukukumbutsani mwana wanu kuti zolaula sizili zenizeni komanso kuti tsiku lina adzaphunzira kuti chikondi chachikulire, chiyanjano ndi kugwirizana kwabwino ndi munthu wina ndizopindulitsa kwambiri kuposa chilichonse chomwe angaone padziko lapansi." Komanso ali ndi mfundo kwa makolo omwe amawona ana awo akuyang'ana zolaula. "Uthenga wanu udzatayika ngati mutapsa mtima," akutero. "Tengani nthawi yoganizira, pezani ndemanga ndipo kenaka kambiranani ndi ana anu pamalo ochepetsera komanso opanda pake."
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