"Osuta Viagra: Ayenera kukhala atadwala kwambiri, koma anyamata ambiri sangakwanitse kupirira popanda mapiritsi abuluuwo"

By Tanith Carey

YAM'MBUYO YOTSATIRA: 3 October 2012

Kwa wotsogolera yekha, bwana Daniel Atkinson amawoneka ngati mnyamata wina wathanzi, wothamanga pachimake pa moyo wake. 

M'litali mwake mamita asanu ndi limodzi ndi chisele cheekbones ndi thupi lochepa, Daniel amavomereza kuti alibe vuto lililonse kukopa anyamata kapena atsikana.

Koma Daniel, 32, ali ndi chinsinsi cholimba kwambiri. Pamene akufuna kugonana ndi mkazi, amafunikira mapiritsi awiri kuti agwiritse ntchito.

Tmapiritsi a buluu, omwe alipo pa NHS, akhala akuwoneka ngati mankhwala ofunika kwa amuna mu 50s awo, 60s ndi kupitirira.

Koma Daniel ndi mmodzi mwa anyamata ambiri omwe amayamba kugwiritsira ntchito mankhwalawa chifukwa cha nkhawa, zomwe zimayambitsidwa ndi vuto la maganizo, chifukwa cha kuchuluka kwa zolaula pa intaneti kupanga 'zachibadwa' kugonana kumawoneka kosangalatsa, ndikukumana ndi mavuto a zachuma.

Viagra adanenedwa kuti anadzipha yekha mlembi wazaka za 24 chaka chino, atangomva kuti akugwiritsira ntchito mwachinsinsi.

Thupi la James Andrews linapezeka pa njanji pakati pa Bristol ndi Bath pa Tsiku la Valentine. Kufunsidwa kwa imfa yake kunasonyeza momwe adakwera ndi chibwenzi ndi Eleanor Sharpe - wovina mpira wa ballet yemwe adawoneka pamsonkhano wotsekemera wa Olimpiki - chifukwa chogwiritsa ntchito mankhwalawa, ngakhale kuti awiriwa anali ndi "

Daniel, yemwe tsopano anali wokonda zosangalatsa, anali 20 yekha ndipo pamapeto a sabata ndi abwenzi ku Amsterdam pamene anatenga pilisi yake yoyamba. Anapatsidwa kwa iye ndi bwenzi, atatha kutenga mtsikana.

Ngakhale kuti anali asanakhalepo ndi mavuto a erectile, adachita chidwi ndi mphamvu yowonjezereka imene anam'patsa iye akupitiriza kumwa mankhwalawa ndi abwenzi omwe amatsatira. 

Nthawi ziwiri, adalembedwanso ndi GP ake, ngakhale ndi machenjezo okhudza zotsatira za nthawi yaitali monga masomphenya a buluu, mavuto a mtima ndi kutaya kwa kumva.

Tsopano Danieli akuti nthawi zonse wakhala akugwiritsira ntchito mankhwalawa - omwe amanena kuti amatha kufika pa £ 1,000 pachaka - mwina pofunsira madokotala apadera kapena podula zakudya pamene akupita ku Spain kukagwira ntchito.

'Madokotala kumeneko adzakulembera inu panthawiyo. Kenaka mupite kwa katswiri wa zamagetsi ndikupeze chakudya. Nthaŵi zonse anthu a Chingerezi amangolemba zinthu zomwezo pambuyo pake. '

Komabe Daniel, yemwe akukhala ku London, akudandaula chifukwa chodalira mankhwalawa: 

Iye akuti: 'Ndimadya, ndimakonda kuchita masewero olimbitsa thupi nthawi zonse ndipo ndimakhala woyenera monga momwe ndinalili ndili mnyamata. Ndimakonda kucheza ndi akazi komanso nthawi zonse. Koma tsopano ndili mu 30s anga, ndakhala ndikugonana kwambiri, nthawi zina zimandivuta kuchita popanda Viagra.

           

 Mapiritsi: Amuna ambiri atembenukira ku Viagra kuti akalimbikitse chidaliro chawo koma zotsatira sizikhala monga momwe amayembekezera

 NDANI AMADZIWA?

'Ziribe kanthu momwe ndikukumverera, zomwe zikudutsa mutu wanga, kapena momwe zimakopeka ndi mkazi yemwe ndiri naye, sizikupangitsa kusiyana. Tsopano, ngati ndikudziwa kuti ndiyenera kumuwona mkazi, ndimatenga mapiritsi awiri mosadutsa. '

Pofika mapiritsi asanu ndi limodzi pa sabata, Danieli amadziwa zoopsa za thanzi.

        

 Nkhawa zoyipa: Daniel amadalira pa Viagra

Mankhwalawa ali ndi sildenafil citrate ndipo amagwira ntchito mwa kukonzetsa magazi mu mbolo. Daniel amavomereza kuti nthawi zina amamva kulira m'makutu mwake. Koma ngakhale pangozi, amamva ngati munthu wosakwatira alibe chochita. 

'Ndikudziwa kuti ndizovuta kwa thanzi langa,' akutero. 'Ndimatha kumva mtima wanga ukugwedezeka pamene ndimatenga mapiritsi, ndipo ndimabwera kutuluka kwa ozizira. Nthawi zina kumenyedwa kuli kofuula, ndikuganiza kuti ndidzakhala ndi matenda a mtima. Ndikufuna thandizo kuti ndiime. '

Ndiye bwanji mankhwala, omwe agwirizanitsidwa ndi kupha, amuna ophweka omwe amatha kupambana nawo, tsopano akugonjetsa miyoyo ya achinyamata ndi kuwoneka ngati yabwino?

Nanga bwanji, zikutanthawuza chiyani za chikhalidwe chathu chogonana kumene ngakhale mphamvu zachibadwa za unyamata sizikwanira kwa anyamata a lero?

Mlangizi wa Street Street, dzina lake Raymond Francis, akuti amawona za amuna a 15 mwezi omwe amamva kuti amadalira ndi Viagra. Avereji zaka ndi za 32 - wamng'ono kwambiri kasitomala ndi 27 chabe.

Koma Raymond, yemwe akukhazikitsidwa pa Apex Practice, akuti: 'Ndikuganiza kuti ichi ndi chitsanzo chochepa chabe cha vutoli. Amunawa alibe mavuto alionse omwe angayambitse mavuto okhudza erectile. M'malo mwake amadzimva kuti amafunikira chifukwa akudziikira zokhazokha chifukwa cha zomwe amakhulupirira amayi akufuna mu chipinda.

Nthaŵi zambiri, Raymond akuti odwala ake am'nyamata akhala akuwonedwa poona zolaula za pa intaneti kuyambira ali aang'ono. 'Nthawi zina amuna awa adzakhala ndi zoyembekezeka kwambiri zomwe amai amafuna kuti azigonana nawo kapena zomwe ayenera kuchita.' 

Wodwala woteroyo ndi Sam, 31, yemwe amadalira mankhwala ambiri mu 20 ake asanafune thandizo zaka ziwiri zapitazo. 

Sam akuika maziko a vuto lake pa zolaula pa intaneti, zomwe akuti anayamba kuyang'ana pamene anali 12 - nthawi yaitali asanakwatire. "Kuwona masukulu onsewa akupita kwa maola ambiri kumapeto kunkaoneka ngati ndikukweza zomwe sindingathe kuchita," akutero.

'Ndinkachita manyazi kwambiri. Nthawi ina ndinalankhula kwa GP anga koma anali wosamvetsetsa kotero sindinayambe ndabweretsanso nkhaniyo ndi wina aliyense. Ndinayamba kuwalamula pa intaneti, ngakhale kuti ndinalibe wotsimikiza kuti ndikutani. '

Ngakhale Sam atapeza mankhwalawa nthawi zonse amamuthandiza kuchita, pomalizira pake adakhala cholepheretsa kuti apeze ubale wapamtima wa nthawi yaitali.

Sam akuti: 'Ndikadakhala ndi chibwenzi, ndimatha kutenga Viagra choyamba m'mawa, kotero ndimagonana ndikuchita nawo zinthu.'

      Temberero la zolaula: Zolaula za pa Intaneti zasiya amuna ambiri akudandaula za mphamvu zawo komanso kugonana kwawo      

Komabe, kudalira chinsinsi cha mankhwalawa, kunayambitsa mavuto osagwirizana pa ubale: 'Kunatanthawuza kuti sindingathe kudzipereka kwathunthu chifukwa sindingakhale woona mtima pa chinthu chofunikira kwambiri. Ubwenzi wanga sunachoke pansi. Zonse zinali zovuta kwambiri ndinayamba kupewa kugonana. Azimayi omwe ndinakumana nawo ankawoneka otsimikiza kwambiri, ndinaganiza kuti sindingathe kuchita zomwe akufuna. Ndinkaona kuti ndine wolephera. '

Ndi pamene Sam adayamba kukondana ndi Emily yemwe adali naye pachibwenzi pomwe adakumana pa phwando kuti adazindikira kuti akusowa thandizo.

'Nthawi yoyamba imene tinkagona palimodzi, ndinazitenga mwamseri, koma ziyembekezo zinali zapamwamba chifukwa anali wapadera kwa ine. Kotero nthawi imeneyo, ngakhale Viagra sinagwire ntchito. Ndinkawona kuti anali ndi nkhawa ndipo anakhumudwa ndi vuto lake, choncho ndinaganiza kuti ndiyenera kukhala womasuka - ndikumuuza chirichonse. '

Sam tsopano ali ndi chiyanjano chogonana ndi mnzake. 'Zinatenga miyezi isanu ndi umodzi ya uphungu, koma chifukwa cha iye, ndinapeza kulimba mtima kuti ndiyang'ane zowononga.'

Raymond akuti chinthu china chofala ndi amuna omwe amafotokoza kuti amawopsezedwa ndi chikhulupiliro cha kugonana ndi zofuna za atsikana amakono.

'Akazi tsopano ali ndi mphamvu zambiri,' akutero Raymond. 'Iwo amamverera kuti ali ndi ufulu wolingana ndi amuna kuti azilamulira mofulumira kugonana. Sitikungonena za atsikana omwe nthawi zina ankawoneka ngati akuchita chiwerewere. 

'Masiku ano mayi wochita ntchito yapamwamba yemwe anakulira mu chikhalidwe cha kupambana amafuna kukhala ndi ufulu ndi mphamvu mu moyo wake wa kugonana, nayenso.

'Mu mibadwo imodzi kapena iwiri, pakhala pali kusintha. Asanayambe, nthawi zonse anali kuyembekezera kuti munthuyo ndi nyama. Tsopano ladette chikhalidwe chasandutsa icho pamutu pake. Polimbana ndi vutoli, anyamata amachititsa mantha kuntchito ku chipinda chogona asanayambe kugonana. '

Mayi wina woterewa ndi Nicola, yemwe amagwira ntchito yodalirika kwambiri kumapeto kwa 20s amene amavomereza kuti ndi mbali zina zomwe amafuna kugonana ndi mkazi wake zomwe zathandiza kuti asakhale ndi nkhawa.

'Pamene kugonana sikunali kwakukulu, ndinkakayikira za momwe ndinakhalira wokhumudwa kuyambira pachiyambi, zomwe zinapangitsa kuti vutoli likhale loipitsitsa,' akutero. 

'Tinayesa Viagra, koma tinkaona ngati chochitika chokonzekera. Kotero tsopano sindikufuna kuti andiuze ngati watenga kapena ayi. Ndikungofuna kuganiza kuti kugonana kunali kwakukulu.

Nicola akuti malingaliro ake pa kugonana ndi ofanana ndi a m'badwo wake, ndipo abwenzi ake ambiri akufotokozera mavuto omwewo m'chipinda chogona.

    Zamakono: Akazi masiku ano amadziwa zomwe akufuna pabedi - ndipo kwa anyamata ambiri, ndizowopsa      

Akuti: 'Akazi athu a msinkhu wathu amakhala ndi nthawi zambiri zogonana. Ndakhala ndi zibwenzi za 15, pamene wokondedwa wanga anali ndi zisanu, kotero kuti ndizovuta kwina. Chifukwa chakuti ndili ndi luso lapadera logonana, mwina akudabwa kumene ndimaphunzira komanso mmene amayerekezera. '

Chifukwa china chimene odwala amuna omwe ali ndi 30s amakhala ndi Viagra ndizovuta kuti iwo abereke ana m'nthaŵi yovuta.

Raymond akuti: 'Awa ndi amuna omwe amagwirizana nawo nthawi zonse pamene mayi wasankha kubereka mpaka ntchito yake itakhazikika ndikupeza kuti ndi kovuta kutenga pakati.

'Amunawa amamva kuti akukakamizidwa kuti achite nthawi yovomerezeka ndipo kugonana kumakhala kachipangizo, m'malo momangokhalira kukhumba ndi kukhumba. Kupanikizika kwa munthu kumakhala koopsa ndipo amamverera kuti akufunika kuti asamangidwe. 

Ndalama za NHS zimagwiritsa ntchito £ 58 miliyoni pachaka ndikupereka mankhwala oposa £ 17 miliyoni a mankhwala osayenerera.

Panthawiyi, amuna okhawo omwe ali ndi thanzi labwino - khansara ya prostate, shuga, matenda ambiri a sclerosis kapena kuperewera kwa impso - omwe amadziwika kuchepetsa kugonana kwawo akuyenera kuwamasula kwaulere, ngakhale alangizi ambiri okhudzana ndi kugonana amakhala akunena kuti akupatsidwa kwa anyamata palibe zifukwa zomveka zoperekera mphamvu.

Otsogolera pa matchalitchi angapo a NHS akulimbikitsa madokotala kuchepetsa chiwerengero cha mapiritsi omwe amaperekedwa pofuna kuchepetsa ndalama.

Monga momwe Pfizer wopanga mankhwala amavomerezera, mankhwalawa ayenera kutengedwa ndi mankhwala okhaokha kuchokera kwa katswiri wa zamankhwala ndipo amagwiritsidwa ntchito molingana ndi chitsogozo palemba. Akuti maphunziro apeza kuti sali oledzera. Koma ngakhale mowawu uli wonse m'maganizo, mosakayikira mankhwalawa akusocheretsa miyoyo. 

Kwazaka zisanu ndi chimodzi zapitazi, Janice Hiller, katswiri wa zamaganizo yemwe amatsogolera gulu la Sexual Health Psychological Team ku Goodmayes Hospital ku Essex, akuti akuwona kuwonjezeka kwa chiwerengero cha odwala amuna akudalira Viagra. Wodwala wake wamng'ono kwambiri wakhala 22.

Janice amatsutsa zomwe zimachitika pa chikhalidwe cha anthu okhudzana ndi kugonana komanso zoyembekeza zosatheka zowonjezedwa ndi intaneti.

Amati: 'Anyamata amamva kuti amayi amayembekezera kugonana mofulumira kwambiri muukwati, mwinamwake pa tsiku loyamba kapena lachiwiri, ndipo zimenezi zimapangitsa kuti azikhala ndi nkhawa ngati sakukhulupirira.

'Atatha kupezeka pa zolaula zambiri za intaneti, chikoka chachikulu cha amuna chingakhale chithunzi cholaula m'malo mofanana ndi atsikana omwe ali nawo. Izi zingakhale zovulaza. Zithunzi izi zimazungulira mitu yawo ndipo kenako sangathe kudzutsidwa ndi msungwana weniweni.

'Kawirikawiri amuna amafuna thandizo akamakumana ndi mkazi amene amamukonda ndipo akufunitsitsa kuti agwire ntchito. Pazochitikazi, tifunika kukambirana za momwe kutalika kwa kugonana si chinthu chofunikira kwambiri kwa amai, komanso momwe akufunira zinthu zina zonse mu ubale, nayenso. '

Kwa okwatirana, kupeza kuti mwamuna amatenga mwachinsinsi Viagra kungakhalenso koopsa, akutero Janice. 

Akazi omwe amapeza nthawi zambiri amamva kuti sakukondwera ndi anzawo, "akutero.

'Viagra imathandiza kwambiri ngati ikugwiritsidwa ntchito mosamala, mwachangu pakati pa iwo omwe amafunikira. Koma mwa amuna aang'ono samathetsa vuto. Kawirikawiri sikuti chimapangitsa kuti mukhale ndi nkhawa yatsopano. '

Dr Chartered Clinical Psychologist Dr. Abigael San, yemwe watenga odwala omwe akugwiritsidwa ntchito pogwiritsa ntchito Viagra, akuti: 'Amuna achichepere amakhulupirira kuti akungosangalatsa mkazi chifukwa akugwiritsa ntchito mankhwalawa. Yankho limakhala vuto. '

Zolinga zokhudza kugwiritsidwa ntchito kwa Viagra pakati pa anyamata ndizochuluka kwambiri ngakhale kuti ndizochititsa manyazi, Daniel akuyankhula chifukwa akuganiza kuti ndi nthawi yomwe nkhaniyi ikukambidwa momasuka.

'Sindichita manyazi ndi kudalira kwanga - Ndikudziwa anthu ambiri a msinkhu wanga ndi mavuto omwewo omwe anayamba kugwiritsa ntchito zosangalatsa ndipo tsopano zimandivuta kusiya.

'Ndikuganiza ambiri a ife tikukhumba kuti sitidatengepo nthawi yoyambayo. Ine, chifukwa chimodzi, ndingakonde kukhala wopanda ufulu. '

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