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Laura Miano ndi wolemba zakugonana komanso maubwenzi komanso wothandizira kugonana ku Melbourne. Cholinga chake ndikuthandiza iwo omwe ali ndi zovuta zogonana komanso kuthandizira anthu omwe angafune kupititsa patsogolo zogonana zawo kuposa zikhalidwe zonse. Kuti mudziwe zambiri za iye, tsatirani @alirezatalischioriginal kapena muthane naye Pano.
“Kodi zolaula ndi zoipa kwa inu?” - Kusinkhasinkha Zolaula
Zikomo chifukwa cha funso lanu. Zolaula ndizosangalatsa. Komabe, tisanalowe muzinthu, ndikofunikira kuti tiwonetse kuti zolaula ndi mawu ambulera yayikulu. Zimatanthauza zinthu zambiri zosiyana.
Zimaphatikizapo zolemba zolaula, mabuku omvera, zithunzi, makanema, macheza amoyo ndi zina zambiri. Zomwe zili mu izi zitha kuyambira pakuyang'anitsitsa kwamaliseche pakati pa okonda awiri mpaka makanema olaula omwe atha kukhala okhudzana ndi zachiwerewere, ziwonetsero zolakwika za jenda, ndi zina zazitsulo zosavomerezeka.
Ngakhale zomwe mungaganize, ngati ochita sevalo avomereza, zonse zomwe zimakhala pansi pa ambulerayi ndizabwino. Zili bwino kwathunthu kutengera chinthu chimodzi - momwe mumamvera mukamazipeza. Kwa ena, zinthu zopitilira muyeso ndizochulukirapo, ndipo zimadutsa malire awo amakhalidwe. Kwa ena, zinthu zofewa sizokwanira, ndipo sizimawasangalatsa.
Choyamba, kaya zolaula ndizabwino kapena zoyipa mutha kudalira mtundu wa zolaula zomwe mumakonda kuyamba nazo. Ndiye palinso mbali ina yofunika kuganizira - kuchuluka kwa zolaula imasokoneza moyo wanu ndipo imapanga ziyembekezo zanu zenizeni zakugonana. Ili ndiye gawo la zolaula lomwe mwina mumalidziwa bwino. Mbali 'yoyipa'. Ngakhale pali mbali yabwino ya zolaula (zambiri pambuyo pake), the Mbali yoyipa imatha kukhala yamavuto.
Izi ndichifukwa choti zolaula ndizolimbikitsa kwambiri. Imasefukira njira zopindulitsa zaubongo wanu mpaka pamlingo wosatheka mwachilengedwe. Monga ubongo wathu umalimbikitsidwa kufunafuna mphotho - chakudya, kugonana, kulumikizana ndi ena ndi zina - zolaula zili ngati kupeza chakudya chamaphunziro asanu pomwe mungakwanitse kugula zazikulu. Ndizosangalatsa kwambiri ndipo kuziwona zikutulutsa mulu wa dopamine.
Nthawi iliyonse wina akawona kanema watsopano wokhala ndi zochitika zosiyanasiyana zogonana, dopamine imatulutsidwa. Njira zathu zamalipiro zimakonda zatsopano komanso zatsopano, monga momwe timakhalira ndi nthawi yaukwati ndi wokonda. Poyamba ndizosangalatsa, koma pakapita nthawi chisangalalo chimatha. Momwemonso, komabe ndi zolaula izi zimachitika mwachangu. Mukadutsa patsamba lolaula, mumawona makanema ambiri pasanathe mphindi. Mutha kuwona momwe zingakhalire zosokoneza, sichoncho?
Kwa iwo omwe zolaula sizikuyenda bwino, ndichinthu choyipa ngati chikuwapweteka komanso kuwononga moyo wawo wonse m'njira yolakwika. Mfundo ziwiri zomalizazi ndizofunikira kwambiri. Anthu ena amawona zolaula ngati zoyipa pomwe amapita ndipo amatha kuganiza kuti wokondedwa wawo (kapena iwowo) ali ndi vuto pogwiritsa ntchito kapena kudalira. Palibe vuto kudalira, koma zikayamba mavuto ena, ndipo simukonda mavuto enawo, ndipamene zinthu zimayamba kukhala zovuta.
Ndiye, mavuto awa atha kukhala otani? Zolaula zalumikizidwa ndi nkhani zingapo zakugonana monga kusokonekera kwa erectile, kulephera kumaliseche / kutulutsa umuna komanso chilakolako chogonana, zomwe zimachitika pokhudzana ndi kugonana pakati pa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Zomwe zimachitika ndikuti, mayankho anu ogonana monga kukondweretsedwa ndi zolaula zimakhazikika pazomwe mumakumana ndi zolaula.
Kutanthauza, laputopu pamimba panu, dzanja lolimba komanso lofulumira kapena kusuntha kwa zala kumaliseche kwanu, chinsalu pamaso panu, komanso zolaula, zonse zimakhala zofunikira kuti mukwaniritse chilakolako chogonana. Ndipo momwe ubongo wathu umakondera mphotho, imagwirizanitsa zinthu zonsezi ndi mphotho yayikulu yomwe zolaula zimabweretsa.
Kwa ambiri, zolaula zimatha kumangirizidwa ndi kuthekera kwawo kuti munthu azichita zachiwerewere kotero kuti pamene kugonana pakati pa amuna ndi akazi kukuzungulira, ndizovuta kukhala ndi chilakolako, kukondweretsedwa kapena kukhala ndi vuto. Monga ndanenera, chilengedwe sichimakupangitsani mphotho yanu monga zolaula.
Pamwamba pa izi, popeza timasowa kwambiri maphunziro azakugonana pazosangalatsa komanso kugonana komweko, anthu ambiri amaphunzira zachiwerewere, kuyiwala kuti zolaula ndizosangalatsa osati zogonana zenizeni. Nthawi zambiri pamakhala njira yovomerezera yomwe imawonetsedwa, kusowa kwa kusiyanasiyana kwamthupi, kuyang'ana zosangalatsa za amuna, kusankhana kusiyana pakati pa amuna ndi akazi komanso kusaganizira zogonana motetezeka.
Anthu omwe amagwiritsa ntchito zolaula kuti amvetsetse momwe angawonere kugonana ali pachiwopsezo chokhala ndi ziyembekezo zosatheka kwa iwo eni ndi omwe amagonana nawo. Chifukwa chake, ndikofunikira kusiyanitsa pakati pa kugonana kwenikweni ndi zosangulutsa zogonana.
Uwu ndiye mdima wa zolaula. Zitha kubweretsa manyazi polephera kukwaniritsa zomwe munthu akuyembekeza, kusakhutitsidwa ndi kugonana pakati pawo, kusamvana pakati paubwenzi, komanso zovuta zingapo zakugonana. Sizodabwitsa kuti kuchuluka kwa zovuta zakugonana kudakulirakulira ndikuchulukirachulukira kwa intaneti.
Chifukwa chake, mutha kukhala omasukiratu pano. Ngakhale zomwe mwina mukuganiza, palinso mbali yabwino ya zolaula. Ngati muli osamala komanso odziwa za momwe mumalolera kuti zikhudze momwe mumaganizira komanso momwe mukuyembekezerera zogonana, mutha kupindulabe zambiri!
Mutha kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula ndi mnzanu kuti nonse mukhale ndi malingaliro, kuyesa china chosiyana kapena kuyambitsa kulumikizana pazokhumba zogonana. Mutha kuyigwiritsanso ntchito nokha ngati chida chogonana ndipo ikhoza kukhala njira yabwino yosinthira zilakolako zogonana popeza kuwonera anthu ena akugonana kumatha kuchotsa manyazi kuti ndiwe munthu wogonana.
Mpaka pamlingo, itha kukhalanso chida chophunzitsira popeza anthu amatha kuphunzira za kinks and fetishes, maudindo atsopano, ndi maluso ena ogonana. Palinso zolaula zakale kwambiri zomwe zimatchedwa zachikazi. Izi zikuwonetsa chisangalalo chogawidwa mofananira ndikutsimikizira kuti ochita sewerowo adalipira ndipo adavomera zachiwerewere chilichonse muvidiyoyi. Ngati izi zikumveka ngati chinthu chanu, yesani Bellesa kapena XXConfessions.
Khalidwe labwino pankhaniyi, kaya zolaula ndi zabwino kapena zoipa kwa inu zimadalira momwe mumazigwiritsira ntchito, zomwe mumachotsamo komanso momwe zimakukhudzirani. Ngati mukuganiza kuti ndinu nokha, mnzanu kapena wokondedwa wanu akhoza kukhala kuti akukangana ndi zovuta zake, sakatulani zinthu monga Ubongo Wanu pa Zithunzi kapena sungani gawo limodzi ndi akatswiri azachipatala. Mutha kukhala otsimikiza kuti palibe vuto, kapena mutha kuyamba kuchitapo kanthu kuti musinthe zizolowezi zanu zolaula kuti zikuthandizireni, osati kukuvulazani.
Wogwiritsa ntchito zolaula aliyense amakhala ndi zokumana nazo zosiyana. Sipadzakhala umodzi umodzi wokwanira zonse. Chifukwa chake, kuti muyankhe funso lanu, zolaula zitha kukhala zabwino kwa inu. Zingakhalenso zoipa kwa inu. Monga mayankho anga ambiri, yankho ndi… zimatengera.
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