Uphungu wa aphungu 'mliri wa zolaula', akatswiri azamaganizidwe Seema Hingorrany & Yolande Pereira, dokotala wa ana, Samir Dalwai (2015)

Masabata awiri apitawa, pamsonkhano woyamba wadziko lino wothana ndi "mliri wa zolaula," aphungu opitilira 103, opanga makanema achinyamata, ansembe, masisitere ndi othandizira ochokera kumaparishi osiyanasiyana komanso malo operekera upangiri adaganizira za mbiri ya wodwala yotchedwa nkhani ya Mathew. "Monga anthu ambiri, Mathew amayang'ana zolaula pa intaneti nthawi ndi nthawi," amafotokozera kafukufukuyu asanafike poyerekeza ndi zomwe accountant idachita. "Pasanapite nthawi, theka la tsiku logwira ntchito a Mathew adayamba kusakatula pa intaneti," idapitilira nkhaniyi. "Zithunzithunzi zakugonana, zolimbikitsa komanso zoganizira zimakhazikika m'maganizo mwake ... Mnzake wapamtima kwambiri ndi laputopu." Pomaliza, omwe adapezekapo adafunsidwa kuti asankhe njira yothetsera vutoli, yemwe anali ndi ngongole zambiri, anali wokonda zolaula, adachita zibwenzi kunja ndipo amafuna kusiya mkazi wake.Msonkhanowu, womwe umayendetsedwa ndi Snehalaya Family Service Center, womwe unayambitsidwa ndi Bombay Archdiocese koma umene umapangitsa anthu onse kukhulupirira, umakhalapo chifukwa cha kafukufuku wa miyezi isanu ndi umodzi pa zizolowezi zoonera zolaula m'mapirikiti a 16, ma sukulu asanu ndi awiri ndi maofesi asanu ndi atatu . Kafukufukuyu wasonyeza kuti chizolowezichi chikufala komanso chikukula. Ngakhale pokonzekera sampuli yowonetsera chikhulupiriro, oposa 50% a omwe anafunsidwa anali achikhristu. Pamsonkhanowo, a 70% a omwe analipo anali Akhristu."Sitimawona zolaula," atero a Fr Cajetan Menezes, omwe adachita nawo semina ndipo ndi director of Snehalaya. "Ngakhale mutakhala kuti mumawonera zolaula za 20 mphindi sabata, zimasintha machitidwe anu komanso kapangidwe kake kaubongo," adanenanso. Kuphatikiza apo, pali kulumikizana pakati pa zolaula ndi nkhanza kwa amayi, atero Menezes. "Kwa ife, zolaula ndizowonjezera kuchitira nkhanza amuna, komanso kuzembetsa amayi, ndichifukwa chake tikulimbana ndi nkhaniyi." 

Alangizi ena amzindawu awonanso kuwonera zolaula. "Wodwala aliyense wachiwiri yemwe amabwera kumene amakhala ndi vuto lokonda zolaula, "atero a Seema Hingorrany, katswiri wama psychology. "Chaka chatha, ndawonapo kulumpha 30%." Katswiri wa ana otukuka, Samir Dalwai, awonanso zotere pakati pa ana. "Chimodzi mwazinthu zazikulu zomwe zimawononga maphunziro masiku ano ndi zolaula," adatero. Nthawi ina, mavuto azikhalidwe zamaphunziro a mwana wazaka zisanu ndi ziwiri, kuphatikiza kumenya ana ena, adayamba zolaula. "Abambo ake anali akuonera zolaula ndipo anali asanachotse masambawo pa msakatuli poganiza kuti mwana ndi wocheperako," adakumbukira Dalwai.

Imodzi mwamavuto akulu kwambiri omwe Hingorrany adachitapo anali wophunzira wa uinjiniya, yemwe anali kuwonera zolaula maola 14 patsiku. "Adalephera mayeso ake, adadzivulaza pomadziseweretsa maliseche mopitirira muyeso ndipo anali ndi vuto la kupsinjika ndi malingaliro," anakumbukira Hingorrany. Akatswiri angapo, komabe, akuti sikuti aliyense amakhala ndi vuto. M'malo mwake, katswiri wazakugonana Prakash Kothari sawona vuto lililonse kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula ngati aphrodisiac ngati zili zochepa. Anati anthu ena amazimitsidwa chifukwa chodziwonetsa mopitirira muyeso. “Zili ngati gulab jamun. Mukakhala nacho tsiku lililonse, chisangalalocho chimatha. ”

Chiwerengero cha azimayi owonera zolaula nawonso chikukwera. Hingorrany adati kwa amuna 10 aliwonse omwe amamwa mankhwala osokoneza bongo, ali ndi odwala azimayi atatu. Nthawi ina yomwe idatchulidwa pamsonkhanowu, zolaula zidadziwika kuti ndizokhumudwa pambuyo poti wodwalayo abwera. Zotsatira zina zoyipa zogwiritsa ntchito zolaula zitha kukhala zopanda mphamvu kapena kuwonongeka kwa erectile. Wothandizira mabanja Yolande Pereira, yemwe adachita gawo la semina, adati, "Makumi asanu ndi anayi pa zana a amuna ndi akazi, omwe amabwera kwa ife ndi vuto la erectile kapena low libido, atachezera akatswiri azakugonana komanso ma urologist popanda kusintha, ali ndi mbiri yakale yakuwona zolaula. ”

Hingorrany anayerekezera kuti asanu mwa odwala 10 oledzera amakhala ochepa chifukwa cha moyo wawo wonyansa, kuwonjezera pa zochitika zogonana ndi nkhaŵa zoyenera. "Ndinali ndi mwana wamwamuna yemwe adabwera ndikundiuza kuti amawonera zolaula kwambiri ndipo akapita kukasewera ndi mtsikana, samatha kuzichita ndipo adachita mantha," adakumbukira Hingorrany, "Ndinafotokozera kuti adadzitaya yekha poyang'ana kwambiri za izo. ”

Ena mwa omwe amapita kumsonkhanowu monga psychotherapist ndi mlangizi Nilufer Mistry, yemwe amagwira ntchito ku Massena Hospital, ndi akatswiri pakumwa mankhwala osokoneza bongo ndipo amapitiliza kukweza luso lawo. Atafunsidwa ngati avomera kuti aziona zolaula, adati, "Ndikukhulupirira kuti chilichonse chomwe chilipo ndichabwino, koma zolaula ndizovuta kwambiri."

Ena anali odzipereka ku tchalitchi akuyembekeza kuti adzawapatsa zida zowononga zolaula zowonongeka.

Noreen Machado wochokera ku parishi ya St Theresa ku Bandra, yemwe ndi wogwirizira pa cell ya banja, akuyembekeza kuti zithandizira makolo ake omwe ana awo akuvutika ndi izi.

Snehalaya akuyembekeza kuyamba gulu lothandizira anthu ochita zolaula, kenaka chitetezo ndi zachinsinsi zilipo. Iwo akupondaponda mosamala chifukwa magulu akutaliwa amadziwika kuti amakoka anthu ogwidwa ndi ziphuphu, omwe amagwirizana nawo kuti akawotchere odwala omwe ali ovuta komanso omwe akukwatirana nawo.