Ndemanga: Choyamba zindikirani kuti ngakhale bambo amene amafunsa funsolo, kapena katswiri amene akuyankha sanatchule zolaula pa intaneti. Chachiwiri, zindikirani kuti ndemanga zingapo (zophatikizidwanso pansipa) zimakhulupirira kuti kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula ndiye komwe kumayambitsa. Chibwenzi cha mayi wina chidapangitsa kuti zolaula zithandizire ED ndipo adatsalira posachedwa kutulutsa umuna.
Sindingathe kugonana panthawi yogonana, kungoseweretsa maliseche
Ndine munthu wathanzi koma sindingakwanitse kugonana pambuyo pa miyezi ya 20 ya kugonana, kotero ndikusiya. Kodi ndikusowa?
- Pamela Stephenson Connolly
- The Guardian, Lamlungu 2 February 2014
- Pitani ku ndemanga (137)
FUNSO:
Ndine bambo wazaka 32 wathanzi, koma sindingathe kuchita zachiwerewere kudzera pogonana. Ndikhoza kupita kumeneko pamapeto pake, koma nthawi zambiri ndimasiya pambuyo pa 15-20 maminiti, ngakhale ndimatha kufika pamaliseche ndikuchita maliseche. Ndikudziwa kuti zogonana siziyenera kukhala zolinga, koma ndimawona kuti ndikusowa.
MAYANKHO:
Kudzisangalatsa monga wachinyamata ndi gawo lofunikira pakugonana; njira yophunzirira momwe thupi lanu limagwirira ntchito. Komabe, nthawi zina kalembedwe ka maliseche kamunthu kamakhala kosavuta kuti munthu agonane naye. Mwachitsanzo, ngati bambo azolowera chizolowezi chovuta kwambiri chodziseweretsa maliseche, palibe nyini yomwe ingapereke kukangana kofunikira. Ganizirani momwe mumadzisangalatsira nokha - kodi mungafunike kuyeserera mtundu wina kapena kukakamizidwa komwe kungapangitse kuti chikazi chifike pachimake?
Chinthu china chomwe chimapangitsa kuti munthu azichita zachiwerewere panthawi yogonana akhoza kukhala wopanda chidwi. Anthu ena amasokonezeka mosavuta, ndipo izi zimalepheretsa kugonana. Ganizirani ngati malingaliro kapena malingaliro oipa akuyamba kuyenda, ndipo ngati ziri choncho, yesetsani kuganizira mozama pa kukhudzidwa ndi kupereka ndi kulandira zosangalatsa.
Kuopa kutenga pathupi, matenda kapena kutaya mphamvu kumatha kuwonongera kugonana kosakwanira. Koma popeza mumakondwera ndi moyo wanu wogonana, sindikutsimikiza kuti mukuphonya. Mukamada nkhawa kwambiri ndi izi, sizingatheke kuti mufike pachimake momwe mumafunira.
Pamela Stephenson Connolly ndi psychotherapist yemwe amakhazikika pochiza zovuta zakugonana. Ngati mungafune upangiri kuchokera kwa Pamela Stephenson Connolly pankhani zachiwerewere, titumizireni mwachidule nkhawa zanu[imelo ndiotetezedwa]">[imelo ndiotetezedwa](chonde musatumize zowonjezera).
MFUNDO IMODZI THREAD:
Zomwe zimavuta ndichakuti mumakonda zolaula kwambiri. Ngati inu Google "ubongo wanu pa zolaula" mudzawona kuti amuna ambiri omwe amagwiritsa ntchito "zolaula" kwambiri pa intaneti akukumana ndi zovuta zogonana zenizeni. Zindikirani, zolemba izi SIZOweruza pamakhalidwe azolaula kapena kuwongolera, ndipo nawonso tsamba lino. Pali zambiri zothandiza pamenepo zomwe zingakuthandizeni kuti mubwezeretsemo.
Malo abwino kwambiri.
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Ndinayankha zomwe mwasankha, ndipo zotsatira zake zonse zimaphunzitsa komanso zingakhale zothandiza. Zikomo zenizeni!
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Malangizo abwino kwambiri.
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Mfundo yakuti anthu ambiri (mwinamwake amuna), adalimbikitsa positi yanu ikupita kukawonetsa amuna ambiri kale kale ndipo atenga malangizo pa bolodi.
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Ndikhululukireni, upangiri wabwino koma kungoyang'ana 'Zolaula pa Ubongo' kungathandizenso. Uwu ndiye mutu wa zolembedwa za Channel 4 kuyambira chaka chatha.
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Ngati akuyenda kwambiri ndiye kuti sayenera kungoyang'ana zolaula.
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Ndizosangalatsa kwenikweni. Amuna amadutsa mozungulira maulalo amalo amtunduwu mu ma IM ndi maimelo, ndipo nthawi zambiri amapeza mayankho oti "zikomo, upangiri wabwino kwambiri" kuchokera kwa anzawo patatha milungu ingapo, koma mwachilengedwe samawayika pa mbiri yawo ya Facebook. Payenera kukhala nkhani ya CiF pamenepo.
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Ayi, ayi! Pali maumboni ambiri pano kuti kuseweretsa maliseche kumatha kukhala chizolowezi chofanana ndi heroin, ndi zina zambiri. Ndipo imodzi mwamasaka osaka ndi awa, 'ubongo wanu pa zolaula'… mwina kutengera 'ubongo wanu pa mankhwala osokoneza bongo 'ndi' zolaula pa ubongo 'mwina zitatha izi.
Icho chinati, zitsimikizo-zodzimikiziridwa zachipatala ndi zambiri, zitsanzo zochuluka za umboni wodalirika zikanagwirizana kwathunthu ndi inu.
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Ndinadabwa izi.
Wachibwenzi wanga wa zaka zoposa ziwiri anali ndi matenda osokoneza bongo pamene ndinakumana naye. Ndinazindikira kuti pazinthu zake amatha kujambula zolaula pa nthawi za 9 patsiku.
Pambuyo pokambirana kwakanthawi - komanso pachiwopsezo chondiyang'ana ngati chibwenzi chansanje - ndidamukakamiza kuti azinyamula. Patatha miyezi ingapo adatha kukonzekera kuti agonane. Komabe nthawi zina amatembenukira ku zolaula ndipo amatha, nthawi zina (pafupifupi 4 nthawi muubwenzi wathu) maliseche panthawi yogonana. Kuti amiseche amafunika kuseweretsa maliseche ndi chithunzi patali.
Nkhani iyi ya Ted imasonyeza vuto ili.
Zachidziwikire kuti izi sizili vuto la wolemba, koma polingalira za zokambirana zomwe zikukhudzana ndi kulumikizana pakati pa zolaula za pa intaneti komanso zovuta zogonana / zolaula ndimadabwa kuti Pamela sananene kuti ndizotheka.
N'kutheka kuti, monga momwe mumayankhira, anthuwa akuwopa kwambiri kuti akubwera ngati Wachigonjetso wabwino ngati akutsutsa kapena kufunsa zolaula.
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Zavomera - Ubongo wanu pa zolaula: Evolution sinakonzekeretse ubongo wanu masiku ano zolaula pa intaneti.
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Mukungotayira izi eti? Kodi mukudziwa bwanji zomwe amakonda pa intaneti?
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Wolemba mawuwo akungopanga lingaliro losavuta, osati kupereka chenicheni.
Ambiri mwa amuna (ndi azimayi ocheperapo koma ochepa) amaona zolaula nthawi zonse. Asayansi a zaumoyo ndi asayansi akupeza umboni wosonyeza zotsatira za izi. Osati kukhala okonda kugonana, koma zotsatira zoterezi ndizosavuta kugonana ndi mavuto ogonana pogwiritsa ntchito zifukwa zingapo.
Pokumbukira izi, zikuwoneka kuti zikhoza kuchitika kuti nyengoyi ndi yomwe wolemba woyambirira angakhale ndi vutoli.
Amuna ambiri omwe ndalankhula nawo omwe satero, samawona zolaula ngati chimodzi mwazifukwa zomwe amalimbirana ndi kugonana chifukwa masiku ano, mwina, amatengedwa ngati 'opatsidwa' kuti amuna amawonera zolaula ndipo ndiye kuti, zopanda pake mawu, 'abwinobwino', motero osakhala ovuta kapena owononga.
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