February 27, 2016, ndi Suzi Godson
Q. Ndine 25 ndipo ndimakonda kwambiri zolaula. Ndili ndi bwenzi langa latsopano koma ine ndikupeza kuti sindingathe kulimbikitsidwa ndi iye pokhapokha titayang'ana zolaula.
Amamvetsetsa kwambiri koma ndikumva zonyansa - kodi ndiyenera kupita kuzizira kozizira? Kodi ndingadzisinthe bwanji? Sindikufuna kumutaya.
A. Zithunzi sizinthu zatsopano.
N'zovuta kulingalira chiwerengero cha anthu omwe amagwiritsa ntchito zolaula koma kafukufuku wopangidwa ndi yunivesite ya Southern California anapeza amuna atatu pa anthu atatu ndipo amayi oposa atatu pa atatu aliwonse adawona kapena kukopera zolaula mwadala.
Ziwerengerozi zikusonyeza kuti anthu ambiri omwe amagwiritsa ntchito zolaula samapweteka koma ochepa, makamaka amuna, amakhala ndi chilakolako chogonana ndi zolaula.
Kugwiritsira ntchito "zolaula" kumatanthauzidwa ngati maola oposa 11 owona sabata.
Munthu aliyense amene amathera nthawi yofufuza ndi kuseweretsa maliseche pazochitika zokhudzana ndi kugonana amatha kupeza mavuto a chiwerewere, kuchoka kwa libido ndi kutayika kwa erectile kuchepetsa kuthamangitsidwa komanso / kapena kutaya chiberekero, pamene akuyesera kugonana ndi munthu wina m'malo mogonana nawo zokha.
Njira yothetsera chidziwitso ndi njira yabwino yothandizira, koma ngati mwatsimikiza kukana chizolowezichi muyenera kuyesanso njira yochepetsera uchimo wa NoFap (www.nofap.com).
Atsogoleredwa ndi Alexander Rhodes ndi Mark Queppet, omwe anali ovuta kuonera zolaula, pulogalamu ya pa intaneti ndi yaufulu ndipo njirayi ndi yothandiza komanso yosavuta.
Pa webusaitiyi, ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula amatsutsa momwe kuwonjezerana kwawo kwa chiwerewere, kukondweretsa kwakukulu ndi kugonana kwakukulu komwe kunawathandiza kuti asamachite nawo nthawi yogonana.
Ena, mofanana ndi inu, adalimbikitsidwa kusintha chifukwa anakumana ndi munthu wapadera ndipo amafuna kukhala ndi moyo wachiwerewere wamba.
Ena analibe chosankha chifukwa chakuti adayamba kuwononga miyoyo yawo.
NoFap imalimbikitsa pulogalamu ya kudziletsa tsiku la 90 kuti ayambirenso ubongo ndikubwezeretseni ku boma komwe mumayankha kugonana monga momwe munkachitira.
Zidzakhala zophweka chifukwa kubwezeretsanso sizomwe zimayendera.
Palipamwamba komanso zosavuta ndipo masiku ena adzakhala ophweka kusiyana ndi ena.
Kafukufuku wakale wapeza kuti anthu omwe ankagwiritsa ntchito zolaula zambiri amakhala ndi nkhawa, nkhawa, kupanikizika, komanso kuvutika maganizo.
Kaya zofukufukuzo zili ndi belu limodzi ndi inu, kapena ayi, ndibwino kufunsa GP wanu kuti mudziwe zomwe mungachite musanayambe.
Ngakhale dokotala wanu sangadziwe zambiri zokhudza vuto la zolaula, adziŵa njira zabwino kwambiri zothetsera mavuto omwe mungakhale nawo.
Kuyenda kozizira kuchokera kuzinthu zilizonse zimadetsa nkhawa, koma pamene mumakhala ndi chithandizo chochulukitsa, mumakhala ndi moyo wabwino.
Kusokonezeka n'kofunika.
Konzani nthawi yanu kuti mupitirize kugwira ntchito; chitani masewero olimbitsa thupi, yaniga, idyani bwino ndi kupewa kupezeka nthawi yaitali nokha.
Ogwiritsa ntchito zithunzi zachiwerewere omwe adayambiranso kugonana kwawo amasonyeza kuti mphamvu yowonjezera, kuchepetsa nkhaŵa komanso kusintha kwa ntchito yogonana, komabe, amakhalanso ndi zolimbikitsana, zovuta komanso zowonongeka pokhapokha atakhala maso komanso atagona.
Ena amalongosola kukwanira kwathunthu kwa libido, zomwe zingawopsyeze kuti azigwiritsanso ntchito poonetsetsa kuti zonse zikugwirabe ntchito.
Pewani msampha uwu - ndizanthawi, tsamba lanu lidzabwerera.
Msungwana wanu mwachiwonekere akudziwa kuti mwakhala wolaula ndipo amadziwa kuti mukusokoneza maganizo ndikusonyeza kudzipereka kwanu komanso ubwenzi wanu.
Kukhala wokhoza kulankhula naye za zomwe mukukumanazi kumapangitsa mwayi wanu wopambana, ndipo ngati mutha kuthana ndi vutoli palimodzi, mutha kumverera pafupi pafupi.