Kafukufuku watsopano akusonyeza kuti kuonera zolaula kungabweretse mavuto ena
Anthu amapitiliza kufunsa mafunso omwewo okhudza zolaula zomwe ali nazo zaka zambiri - kodi zolaula ndi zabwino kwa ife kapena zoipa kwa ife? Kodi ndizoyipa kapena ndikupatsa mphamvu? Kuvulaza kapena kumasula? Kufunsa mafunso awa mosakayikira kumabweretsa kutsutsana kwakukulu ndi malingaliro ena. Funso limodzi lomwe simukufunsidwa ndi: Kodi zolaula zimatichitira chiyani ndipo ndife okonzeka nazo?
Pali kafukufuku wochuluka omwe akunena kuti kuyang'ana zolaula kungapangitse zina zosapindulitsa kwambiri komanso zokhudzana ndi chikhalidwe pafupipafupi komanso nthawi yayitali.
Anthu ena amatha kuonerera zolaula nthawi zina ndipo samakhala ndi zotsatira zoopsa; Komabe, anthu ambiri kumeneko, kuphatikizapo achinyamata ndi achinyamata omwe ali ndi ubongo wa pulasitiki, amapeza kuti akugwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa Intaneti mofulumira kwambiri ndi zolaula zawo zimakhala zosagwirizana ndi moyo wawo weniweni. Kugonana.
Ingoyenderani malo anu AnuBrainOnPorn ndi Reddit a No Fap (palibe kujambulira pazithunzi zolaula pa Intaneti) kuti muwone nkhani kuchokera kwa achinyamata ambiri omwe akulimbana ndi zomwe akuganiza kuti zikukula osokoneza.
M'nthawi yoyamba ubongo owerenga pa Intaneti omwe amagwiritsa ntchito zolaula, omwe ankachitidwa ku Max Planck Institute for Human Development ku Berlin, ofufuza adapeza kuti maola ndi zaka zolaula zogwirizana ndi kuchepa kwazigawo m'madera a ubongo zomwe zimagwirizanitsidwa ndi mphotho, komanso kuchepa kumvetsera zithunzi zowonongeka.[1]
Zosafunika kwenikweni zimatanthauza zochepa dopamine ndi zochepa zovomerezeka za dopamine. Wofufuza wotsogolera, Simone Kühn, ananena kuti "nthaŵi zonse amamwa zolaula zambiri zimatulutsa mphoto yanu. "[2]
Ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zifukwa Playboy, magazini yomwe inabweretsa ambiri aife ku mawonekedwe a amayi amaliseche, sichidzakhalanso ndi anyamata osasewera kumayambiriro kwa 2016. Monga Pamela Anderson, yemwe ali pachivundikiro cha nkhani yotsiriza yachisokonezo, anati, "N'zovuta kukangana ndi intaneti."[3]
Phunziro lapadera la German linasonyeza mavuto a ogwiritsa ntchito omwe amagwirizanitsidwa kwambiri ndi chiwerengero cha ma tebulo otseguka ndi digiri ya kudzutsa.[4] Izi zimathandizira chifukwa chake ogwiritsa ntchito ena amadalira zatsopano, zodabwitsa, kapena zoopsa kwambiri, zolaula. Amafunika kukakamizidwa kuti amukitsidwe, kupeza kukonzekera ndi kukwaniritsa chigonere.
Kafukufuku waposachedwapa omwe atsogoleredwa ndi akatswiri a pa yunivesite ya Cambridge anapeza kuti amuna omwe amasonyeza kuti amachita chiwerewere amafuna kugonana kwambiri kuposa anzawo chifukwa amazoloŵera zomwe akuwona mofulumira kuposa anzawo.[5]
Kafukufuku wina waposachedwapa kuchokera ku yunivesite ya Cambridge anapeza kuti omwe ali ndi chilakolako chogonana amaonetsa khalidwe lachiwerewere lomwe likufanana ndi mankhwala osokoneza bongo m'magulu a ubongo pambuyo poonera zolaula. Pali kusiyana pakati pa zilakolako zawo za kugonana ndi momwe amachitira anthu oonera zolaula - ogwiritsa ntchito akhoza kuganiza molakwika kuti zolaula zomwe zimawapangitsa kuti azitsitsimutsidwa zikuyimira zenizeni zawo zogonana.[6]
Zingakhale zosayembekezereka ndiye kuti ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula amasintha zosangalatsa za kugonana,[7] chisangalalo chochepa mu ubale wawo[8] ndi chiyanjano chenicheni cha moyo ndi ubwenzi mavuto.[9]
Achinyamata ambiri makamaka amalankhula za momwe zolaula zawapangitsira "maganizo opotoka" kapena osamvetsetsa za momwe kugonana ndi chibwenzi zikuyenera kukhalira, ndi momwe zimakhalira zovuta kupeza chidwi ndi wokondedwa weniweni.
Zoonadi, ambiri a iwo akukumana ndi kugonana kwenikweni kungakhale chikhalidwe chachilendo komanso chosautsa. Ichi ndi chifukwa chakuti maluso oyankhulana amafunika, thupi lawo lonse liyenera kutenga nawo mbali ndipo ayenera kuyanjana ndi munthu wina wa mnofu ndi wamagazi omwe ali ndi zofuna zawo za kugonana ndi zachikondi.
Bukhuli Kugonana Patsiku limapereka fanizo loyenera:
Pali nkhani yakale yokhudza kuyesedwa kwa bambo yemwe akuimbidwa mlandu woluma chala cha munthu wina pomenya nkhondo. Mboni yoona ndi maso inayimirira. Woyimira mlanduwo anafunsa kuti, "Kodi mwawona kasitomala wanga wadula chala?" Mboniyo inati, "Ayi, sindinatero." “Haa!” Anatero loya uja akumwetulira. "Ndiye unganene bwanji kuti adadula chala cha mwamunayo?" "Chabwino," anayankha mboniyo, "ndamuwona akulavulira."[10]
Ganizirani izi pa nkhani ya achinyamata omwe amaonera zolaula pa intaneti. Ngakhale zotsatira zowonongeka pa ubongo ndi khalidwe sizinatsimikizidwe bwinobwino, kale lonse m'mbiri ya anthu muli anyamata achichepere omwe anadziwika kuti zochitika zolaula erectile kukanika (PIED).
Mu phunziro loyamba lachikhalidwe chogonana amuna ku US, chomwe chinachitidwa ndi Alfred Kinsey ku 1948 ndipo adafalitsidwa m'buku Makhalidwe Ogonana Mwamuna, peresenti ya 1 ya amuna omwe ali pansi pa zaka 30 ndi 3 peresenti ya amuna pakati pa 30 ndi 45 a zaka zapitazo, adanena kuti matendawa sagwira ntchito.[11] Komabe, mu kafukufuku waposachedwa, oposa theka la achinyamata achichepere ankhondo akuti anali ndi vuto la erectile.[12] Kafukufuku wina wam'tsogolo anapeza zofanana zomwezo pakati pa achinyamata omwe sanali a dziko lonse lapansi, ndi mitengo yomwe ikuwonetsa kuwonjezeka kwakukulu pambuyo pa zolaula za pa intaneti zothamanga kwambiri zikufalikira.[13] [14] [15]
Kwa bukhu lathu likudza, Munthu Anasokonezedwa, tidafunsa anyamata angapo pazovuta zawo zokhudzana ndi zolaula komanso momwe kulibe chitsogozo chogwiritsa ntchito zolaula mopitirira muyeso. Chimodzi mwa malingaliro omwe anali pakati pawo chinali chakuti: "Ndikufuna kudziwa kuti akatswiri azamisala ambiri amavomereza kuzolowera zolaula mopitirira muyeso. Zikadakhala choncho, ndikadakhala wopanda chiyembekezo chowauza mavuto anga. ”
Akulankhulanso za momwe mbali zina za moyo wawo zimakhudzidwira, monga zovuta komanso kukhala ndi moyo wabwino, mwa kuyang'ana zolaula zambiri chifukwa amadziwa kusintha kwakukulu pamoyo wawo komanso momwe amachitira Imani maliseche.
Amuna awa nthawi zambiri amawongolera momwe iwo amachitira nkhaŵa zadziko bwino kwambiri - kuphatikizapo kuwonjezeka chidaliro, kukhudzana maso, ndi chitonthozo choyanjana ndi akazi. Amaperekanso mphamvu zowonjezereka kuti azikhala ndi moyo wawo wa tsiku ndi tsiku, maganizo kukhala ochepetsedwa, ndi zovuta zowonjezereka ndikukhala ndi chilakolako cha kugonana pambuyo podzipereka mwachangu "opanda vuto".
Ziribe kanthu momwe wina angamverere za mtengo wa zolaula, kafukufuku wochuluka amasonyeza kuti ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula amavulazidwa. Pamapeto pake, kufufuza kwakukulu kumafunika kuchitidwa. Komabe, ngati pakalipano tikupitirizabe kukana kuti zolaula zingakhale zovuta kwa anthu ena, tikutsutsa anthu awa, ambiri mwa iwowa, thandizo ndi chitsogozo.
Uthengawu udalembedwa limodzi ndi Nikita Coulombe. Onaninso buku lathu, Munthu anasokonezedwa, ndi nkhani yanga ya TED pa "Kutha kwa Anyamata."
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