Kafukufuku watsopano akusonyeza kuti kuonera zolaula kungabweretse mavuto ena
Anthu amapitiliza kufunsa mafunso omwewo okhudza zolaula zomwe ali nazo zaka zambiri - kodi zolaula ndi zabwino kwa ife kapena zoipa kwa ife? Kodi ndizoyipa kapena ndikupatsa mphamvu? Kuvulaza kapena kumasula? Kufunsa mafunso awa mosakayikira kumabweretsa kutsutsana kwakukulu ndi malingaliro ena. Funso limodzi lomwe simukufunsidwa ndi: Kodi zolaula zimatichitira chiyani ndipo ndife okonzeka nazo?
Pali kafukufuku wochuluka omwe akunena kuti kuyang'ana zolaula kungapangitse zina zosapindulitsa kwambiri komanso zokhudzana ndi chikhalidwe pafupipafupi komanso nthawi yayitali.
Anthu ena amatha kuonera zolaula nthawi zina koma osakumana ndi mavuto aakulu; komabe, anthu ambiri, kuphatikizapo achinyamata ndi achinyamata omwe ali ndi ubongo wopepuka, amapeza kuti akugwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti mwachangu kwambiri ndipo zolaula zawo sizikugwirizana ndi kugonana kwawo kwenikweni.
Ingopitani ku mawebusayiti a YourBrainOnPorn ndi Reddit's No Fap (osati kuseweretsa maliseche pa intaneti) kuti muwone nkhani kuchokera kwa achinyamata zikwizikwi omwe akuvutika kuthana ndi vuto lomwe akumva kuti likukulirakulira.
Mu kafukufuku woyamba wa ubongo pa ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti, womwe unachitika ku Max Planck Institute for Human Development ku Berlin, ofufuza adapeza kuti maola ndi zaka zomwe amagwiritsa ntchito zolaula zinali zogwirizana ndi kuchepa kwa imvi m'madera a ubongo okhudzana ndi kukhudzidwa ndi mphotho, komanso kuchepa kwa kuyankha ku zithunzi zonyansa. [1]
Kuchepa kwa imvi kumatanthauza kuti dopamine yochepa komanso ma dopamine receptors ochepa. Wofufuza wamkulu, Simone Kühn, adaganiza kuti "kuonera zolaula nthawi zonse kumawononga dongosolo lanu la mphotho." [2]
Ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zifukwa zomwe Playboy , magazini yomwe inatiwonetsa ambiri a ife kukhala akazi amaliseche, sidzawonetsanso anthu ocheza nawo amaliseche kuyambira kumayambiriro kwa chaka cha 2016. Monga momwe Pamela Anderson, yemwe amawonekera pachikuto cha nkhani yomaliza yamaliseche, ananenera, "N'zovuta kupikisana ndi intaneti." [3]
Kafukufuku wina waku Germany wasonyeza kuti mavuto a ogwiritsa ntchito amagwirizana kwambiri ndi kuchuluka kwa ma tabu otseguka komanso kuchuluka kwa chilakolako chogonana. [4] Izi zimathandiza kufotokoza chifukwa chake ogwiritsa ntchito ena amadalira zolaula zatsopano, zodabwitsa, kapena zopitirira muyeso. Amafunika kulimbikitsidwa kwambiri kuti adzuke, afike pachimake pa kugonana.
Kafukufuku waposachedwa wotsogozedwa ndi ofufuza ku yunivesite ya Cambridge adapeza kuti amuna omwe amasonyeza khalidwe lokakamiza la kugonana amafuna zithunzi zambiri zatsopano zogonana kuposa anzawo chifukwa amazolowera zomwe akuwona mwachangu kuposa anzawo. [5]
Kafukufuku wina waposachedwapa wochokera ku yunivesite ya Cambridge adapeza kuti anthu omwe ali ndi khalidwe lokakamiza kugonana amakhala ndi chizolowezi chochita zinthu zomwe zimafanana ndi kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo m'magawo a ubongo a limbic atatha kuonera zolaula. Pali kusiyana pakati pa zilakolako zawo zogonana ndi momwe amachitira zolaula - ogwiritsa ntchito angakhulupirire molakwika kuti zolaula zomwe zimawapangitsa kukhala ndi chilakolako chachikulu ndizoyimira kugonana kwawo kwenikweni. [6]
Sizingakhale zodabwitsa kuti ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula amanena kuti amakonda zinthu zogonana mosiyana, [7] sakhutira kwambiri ndi maubwenzi awo [8] komanso mavuto enieni okhudza ubwenzi ndi kukondana . [9]
Achinyamata ambiri makamaka amalankhula za momwe zolaula zawapangitsira "maganizo opotoka" kapena osamvetsetsa za momwe kugonana ndi chibwenzi zikuyenera kukhalira, ndi momwe zimakhalira zovuta kupeza chidwi ndi wokondedwa weniweni.
Zoonadi, ambiri a iwo akukumana ndi kugonana kwenikweni kungakhale chikhalidwe chachilendo komanso chosautsa. Ichi ndi chifukwa chakuti maluso oyankhulana amafunika, thupi lawo lonse liyenera kutenga nawo mbali ndipo ayenera kuyanjana ndi munthu wina wa mnofu ndi wamagazi omwe ali ndi zofuna zawo za kugonana ndi zachikondi.
Buku lakuti Sex at Dawn limapereka fanizo loyenera:
Pali nkhani yakale yokhudza mlandu wa munthu amene akuimbidwa mlandu woluma chala cha munthu wina pankhondo. Munthu amene anaona yekha nkhaniyi anaima. Loya woteteza mlandu anafunsa kuti, “Kodi munamuonadi kasitomala wanga akuluma chala?” Munthu amene anaona yekha nkhaniyi anati, “Ayi, sindinamuone.” “Aha!” anatero loyayo akumwetulira modzikuza. “Ndiye munganene bwanji kuti analuma chala cha munthuyo?” “Chabwino,” anayankha mboniyo, “Ndinamuona akuchilavula.” [10]
Taganizirani izi poganizira achinyamata omwe akuonera zolaula pa intaneti. Ngakhale kuti zotsatira za zolaula pa intaneti pa ubongo ndi khalidwe sizinadziwike bwino, sizinachitikepo m'mbiri ya anthu kuti anyamata achichepere akumane ndi vuto lotchedwa porn-induced erectile dysfunction (PIED).
Mu kafukufuku woyamba wokhudza khalidwe la amuna ogonana ku US, womwe unachitidwa ndi Alfred Kinsey mu 1948 ndipo unafalitsidwa m'buku lotsatira la Sexual Behavior in the Human Male , 1 peresenti yokha ya amuna osakwana zaka 30 ndi 3 peresenti ya amuna azaka zapakati pa 30 ndi 45, inanena kuti kugonana sikungatheke. [11] Komabe, mu kafukufuku waposachedwapa, asilikali achichepere oposa gawo limodzi mwa magawo atatu adanena kuti anali ndi vuto la kugonana. [12] Kafukufuku wina waposachedwapa anali ndi zomwe zapezeka pakati pa achinyamata omwe si asilikali padziko lonse lapansi, ndipo chiwerengero cha anthu chikuwonjezeka kwambiri pambuyo poti zolaula za pa intaneti zothamanga kwambiri zafalikira. [13] [14] [15]
Pa buku lathu lomwe likubwera, Man Interrupted , tinafunsa anyamata angapo za nkhawa zawo zokhudzana ndi zolaula komanso momwe palibe chitsogozo chogwiritsira ntchito zolaula mopitirira muyeso. Lingaliro lofala pakati pawo linali lakuti: "Ndikufuna kudziwa kuti akatswiri ambiri a zamaganizo adavomereza kuti ali ndi chizolowezi choonera zolaula pamlingo uliwonse. Zikanakhala choncho sindikanakhala ndi chiyembekezo chowafotokozera za mavuto anga."
Amalankhulanso za momwe mbali zina za moyo wawo zimakhudzidwira, monga kuganizira kwambiri ndi kukhala ndi thanzi labwino m'maganizo, poonera zolaula zambiri chifukwa amaona kusintha kwakukulu m'miyoyo yawo komanso malingaliro awo akasiya kudziseweretsa maliseche.
Anyamata awa nthawi zambiri amakumbukira momwe nkhawa zawo zokhudzana ndi anthu zinasinthira kwambiri - kuphatikizapo kudzidalira , kuyang'anana maso, komanso kumasuka pocheza ndi akazi. Amanenanso kuti ali ndi mphamvu zambiri zochitira zinthu tsiku ndi tsiku, kuganizira zinthu kumakhala kosavuta, kuvutika maganizo kumachepa, komanso mphamvu zogonana komanso kuyankha momasuka akangoyamba kuchita zinthu zosayenera.
Ziribe kanthu momwe wina angamverere za mtengo wa zolaula, kafukufuku wochuluka amasonyeza kuti ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula amavulazidwa. Pamapeto pake, kufufuza kwakukulu kumafunika kuchitidwa. Komabe, ngati pakalipano tikupitirizabe kukana kuti zolaula zingakhale zovuta kwa anthu ena, tikutsutsa anthu awa, ambiri mwa iwowa, thandizo ndi chitsogozo.
Nkhaniyi inalembedwa limodzi ndi Nikita Coulombe. Onaninso buku lathu, Man Interrupted , ndi nkhani yanga ya TED yokhudza “Demise of Guys.”