Tinayankhula ndi a Clare Faulkner, omwe amagonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha komanso othandizira maanja, za Erectile Dysfunction yochokera ku Porn chifukwa cha kafukufuku wathu waposachedwa wa amuna a 1,000 omwe adawulula kuti 1 mwa amuna a 10 amadzudzula zolaula chifukwa cha kuwonongeka kwa erectile (ED). Nazi zomwe ananena:
Pomwe Porn-Induction Erectile Dysfunction (PIED) si chikhalidwe chovomerezeka, mwina chifukwa chofufuzira pang'ono pamutuwu, ndikuwona amuna omwe akuwonetsa machitidwe anga omwe amakhulupirira kuti kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kumalumikizidwa ndi mtundu wawo wamalingaliro ndi kuthekera kwawo kukonza. Pazithandizo zamankhwala zokhudzana ndi momwe zitha kuchitira kugonana mozama, komanso tanthauzo lomwe zolaula ndi gawo lofunikira. Ndawona kuwonjezeka kwa anyamata achichepere omwe akupezeka ndi ED ndipo muzochitika izi zizolowezi zolaula zimapangidwa ali ang'onoang'ono kupereka maziko a maphunziro awo ogonana komanso zomwe adakumana nazo atagonana. Kwa makasitomala ena akhala akuonera zolaula kwa zaka zambiri asanayambe kugonana. Zimakhala zovuta kuthana ndi kuzungulira kwazomwe zimakhala njira yodzilimbikitsira komanso njira yabwino yothanirana ndi mavuto. Monga zolaula zimatha kukhala zovuta kuti zitha kuyambitsa vuto kuyang'ana mkati zomwe zimalowetsa mchitidwe wogonana wosagonana kapena wosawachitira.
Momwe mungayendere ozizira pa zolaula:
Zowonera zakale za ED zidawoneka mwa akulu, koma pazaka makumi awiri zapitazi takhala tikuona umboni wa kuchuluka kwa anthu makumi awiri. Zomwe zimayambitsa ED zimatha kukhala zamaganizidwe, zakuthupi kapena zonse ziwiri motero tikulimbikitsidwa kuti muwonane ndi dokotala ngati mutakhala ndi ED kuti mufufuze pazomwe zimayambitsa komanso kukambirana za chithandizo. Komabe, kulingalira kwaposachedwa kumaganiziranso za mgwirizano ndi zolaula. Malinga ndi makasitomala omwe ndikuwona akuchita izi amawonetsedwa. Makasitomala ena omwe ali ndi zaka za m'ma 20 adakula ndi zolaula ngati maphunziro awo azakugonana komanso komwe amakondweretsa.
Sakatulani mwanzeru
Tsamba limakhala lambiri. Atsala masiku omwe achinyamata akuwadumphira pachisamba chapamwamba chamakono. Kukula mu 1980s / 1990 mtanthauzira mawuwu udapereka tanthauzo la mawu oti achinyamata tsopano ayang'ana pa intaneti. Kafukufuku akuwonetsa kuti ana azaka za 7 asamakhumudwe nazo pa zolaula mwanjira imeneyi. Theka la ana azaka zapakati pa 11-16 adaziwona, ndi ziwerengero zomwe zikuwonjezeka ndi zaka.
Zowona vs zomwe mukuwona pazenera
Zolaula zochulukirapo zimasintha momwe munthu amadzukirira pogonana ndipo kwa makasitomala ena zimakhala zovuta kukhalabe ndi malingaliro osaganizira zolaula. Zithunzi zolaula ndi zodzipatula zomwe zikutanthauza kuti zimakhala zovuta kuyang'anitsitsa mkatikati mwa thupi. Zitha kupitilizanso zithunzi zabodza zamafanizo amthupi ndi maubale ogonana. Monga kanema aliyense zomwe zili pamalopo zingakhale zowona ku moyo kapena zowonjezera pazomwe zili. Makasitomala ena akuti kugwiritsa ntchito ndi zomwe zili mkati mwake zingakule kwambiri ngati zomwe zayambirirazi zikusiyanso kukhala ndi vuto lofananalo.
Kuonera zolaula sikupangitsa munthu kukhala katswiri pa nkhani zogonana. Kukhala paubwenzi ndi chibwenzi kungakhale vuto, komanso kusowa ulamuliro komwe kumabweretsa kukhala paubwenzi weniweni/ubwenzi wogonana. Kuphatikiza apo, matupi enieni samawoneka ofanana ndi omwe ali mu zolaula zomwe zingapangitse kuti munthu asamadzikayikire komanso mavuto okhudzana ndi kugonana ndi mnzanu. Owonera okha amatha kuzolowera kukhala ndi ulamuliro womwe sufanana ndi zochitika zenizeni zogonana ndi ena. Magazini ya Journal Archives of Sexual Behaviour inanena kuti anthu azaka za m'ma 1900 ndi m'badwo woyamba kukhala ndi zibwenzi zochepa kuposa m'badwo uliwonse wakale.
Umboni wodziwika bwino wogwira ntchito ndi makasitomala wandionetsa kuti kuchepetsa kwakukulu kapena kusiya kwathunthu kumatha kubweretsa kusintha kwakukuru m'moyo weniweni wogonana.
Ndiye nayi malangizo anga apamwamba opita 'ku Turkey' yozizira 'pa zolaula pa nthawi ya chikondwerero:
- Dzikumbutseni nokha kuti kupita ku ozizira ndi malingaliro ndipo pamapeto pake mumayang'anira.
- Musanayambe nthawi kuti muzindikire zomwe zikuyambitsa zolaula. Izi zikuthandizani kuti muyambitse kuzolowera chizolowezi. Dzifunseni zomwe zinali kuchitika musanayankhe mwamtundu kuti muwone zolaula. Kodi mukumva bwanji? Mukuganiza bwanji? Zomwe zimachitika mwakuthupi. Mukamvetsetsa izi mutha kuyamba kupeza njira zina.
- Khazikitsani cholinga. Ngati mukuwona kuti zokhumudwitsa zanu zili ndi kukonzekera kukhala ndi dongosolo loti athane ndi izi zikadzachitika: Ndikakhumudwa ndimakhala ndi nthawi yoyenda. Muli ndi chikonzero chodikira kuti chichitike.
- Fufutani kompyuta yanu / zida zanu kuti zikhale zovuta kupeza zinthu.
- Siyani mafoni ndi makompyuta kutuluka kuchipinda. Gulani koloko ya alamu ngati pangafunike kutero!
- Pezani njira zina zomwe dopamine hit porn imaperekera. Dziwani zomwe zingagwire bwino ndikuyesera ndikuphatikiza: Chitani masewera olimbitsa thupi, m'mimba mumaseka, kugwira ntchito.
- Gwiritsani ntchito nthawi yowonjezerapo kuti muchite china chomwe mumakonda.
- Kupatukana ndi zolaula mwakuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi: Kulumikizana ndi thupi mwakuchita zodzikhudza. Kubweretsa chidwi chamthupi, kuyang'ana kwambiri zomwe zimapangitsa kuti muzisangalala, mosiyana ndi zithunzi zomwe zawonedwa.
- Yesani kulemba nkhani yolakwika ndipo gwiritsani ntchito lingaliro lanu ndi njirayi.
- Khulupirirani kuti mutha kuchita bwino, koma ngati mungagwere pa kavalo musakhale wankhanza kwambiri.
Ngati mukupitirizabe kukhala ndi mavuto okhudzana ndi chilakolako cha kugonana kapena ED, onani dokotala wanu kuti akafufuze zifukwa zina zomwe zimayambitsa vutoli ndikuonetsetsa kuti mwalandira chithandizo choyenera (chomwe chingaphatikizepo chithandizo cha kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha).
Clare Faulkner ndi katswiri wothandiza anthu ogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha komanso wothandiza anthu okwatirana omwe cholinga chake ndi kumanga ubale wabwino komanso waulemu ndi makasitomala kuti afufuze nkhawa zomwe zikuchitika komanso zakale. Iye ndi membala womaliza maphunziro ake ku British Psychological Society (BPS) komanso membala wolembetsedwa wa British Association of Counsellors and Psychotherapists (MBACP). Iyenso ndi membala wovomerezeka wa College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists (COSRT).
Amathandizira makasitomala pakuyeretsa ndikusintha zikhulupiliro, kuwalola kuti adzimasule ndi kudzipatula pazokhumudwitsa. Izi zimabweretsa kuzindikira komanso kumvetsetsa mwakuya kwamachitidwe. Posachedwa adagwirizana ndi Zava pa kampeni yodziwitsa anthu za PIED.