Zovuta Kwambiri pa Intaneti: Zotsatira za SADD
Ndi Ian Kerner
Kupeza zovuta zolaula pa intaneti komanso zachikhalidwe zambiri zomwe zilipo zakhudza anthu ambiri omwe sangakhale ndi vuto.
Monga wothandizira kugonana ndi woyambitsa Zabwino mu Bedi, Ndawona kuwonjezeka kwakukulu kwa amuna omwe akuvutika ndi matenda atsopano omwe ndatcha "Chisokonezo Chokhudzana ndi Kugonana," kapena SADD. Ndipo magwero a vuto ili ndi phokoso chabe - mochuluka zolaula pa intaneti.
Monga momwe anthu okhala ndi ADD amasokonezedwa mosavuta, anyamata omwe ali ndi SADD akhala akuzoloŵera zapamwamba zowoneka bwino ndi zolimbikitsa zomwe zimachokera ku zolaula za intaneti zomwe sangaziganizire pa kugonana kwenikweni ndi mkazi weniweni. Chifukwa chake, anyamata omwe ali ndi SADD nthawi zambiri amavutika sungani erection pa nthawi yogonana, kapena amatha kuchedwa kuthamangitsidwa ndipo akhoza kungowonjezereka pokhapokha ngati akuwongolera mwaluso kapena pakamwa.
Kulimbitsa thupi?
Amuna omwe ali ndi SADD amadzimva kuti akuvutika maganizo kapena osapirira pa nthawi yogonana. Iwo akhoza kukhala physiologically kuwukitsidwa ndi kukhazikika, koma iwo sali pachimake chokweza maganizo. Anyamata omwe ali ndi SADD angakhalenso opanda mojo kwa kugonana kwenikweni chifukwa iwo achotsedwa maliseche. Iwo samathamanga pa thanki yodzaza, mwakuthupi kapena m'maganizo.
Ndikukhulupirira kapena ayi, ndinayamba kuzindikira za SADD kudzera pa zodandaula za amayi omwe ankadabwa chifukwa chake anyamata awo sakanatha kutero (ndipo nthawi zambiri ankangowonongeka) kapena omwe anawona kuti anzawo akuoneka kuti atayika kapena osakhudzidwa panthawi yogonana. Pamene ndinakumba pang'ono, kapena ndinkalankhula ndi anyamata okha, ndinazindikira kuti amunawa amakhala ndi maliseche kuposa nthawi zambiri chifukwa chosowa zolaula pa intaneti. Nthawi zina, iwo anali ndi maliseche mofanana ndi nthawi zonse, koma sanadziwe kuti nthawi yawo yowonongeka - nthawi yowonongeka pakati pa zolaula - ikukula pamene ali okalamba.
Musandiyese cholakwika, ndine wotchuka kwambiri wotsutsa maliseche. Zimathandiza mnyamata kumenyana ndi nthunzi ndipo ali ngati tsiku la 30-spa tsiku. Koma zovuta zolaula pa intaneti ndi zachikhalidwe zambiri zomwe zilipo zakhudza anthu ambiri omwe sangakhale ndi vuto. Chifukwa cha ichi, amunawa adabweretsanso ubongo wawo pofuna kukhutira panthawi yomweyo zolaula zowononga zolaula. Izi zikutanthauza kuti akukulitsa zomwe akuzitcha kuti chikhalidwe chodziwika bwino: Amadzizoloŵera ku mtundu wolimbikitsana womwe sungaganizidwe pa nthawi yogonana. Chikhalidwe chawo chokhudzana ndi kugonana kwa abwenzi awo ndi otsika, ndipo amafunika kuganiza mozama pa nthawi yogonana kuti apitirize kukwanira.
Mukuganiza kuti mukudwala SADD? Nazi zomwe muyenera kuchita…
Kodi mwamuna ndi SADD ayenera kuchita chiyani?
Choyamba, dzipatseni nokha maliseche kuswa. Sungani mojo wanu kwa mnzanuyo. Ngati simunakwatirane, kuchepetsa kuchuluka kwa chiwerewere. Mukachita maliseche, yesetsani kugwiritsa ntchito dzanja lanu losalamulirika. Mwachitsanzo, ngati ndinu woyenera, gwirani nokha ndi kumanzere kwanu. Simungathe kugwiritsa ntchito miyezo yofanana ya momwe mungathere ndi dzanja lanu lopambana, kotero simudzakhala ngati mutangoganizira za kugonana.
Chachiwiri, patukani zolaula. Mukamasewera maliseche, gwiritsani ntchito malingaliro anu kupanga zithunzi ndikuyesa kukumbukira zochitika zenizeni zogonana. Taganizirani izi ngati kusiyana pakati pa kuwerenga ndi kuonera TV. Gwiritsani ntchito mwayi umenewu kuti mugwirizanenso ndi mbiri yanu yosangalatsa komanso zolemba zanu za kukumbukira bwino.
Pitirizani kukonda maganizo ndi mnzanuyo: Gawani malingaliro ndikuyesa masewero. Musanayambe kugonana, pitani kumalo omwe muli pachimake ndi kumangirira. SADD sichiyenera kukhala chisoni kwa inu kapena mnzanu. Chokani kuchoka pa kompyuta yanu ndikupita kuchipinda chanu, ndipo mukhoza kuyang'ananso komwe kuli - pa moyo wanu weniweni wa kugonana.
Ian Kerner, Ph.D, ndi mlangizi wogonana ndi The New York Times Wolemba mabuku ogulitsa mabuku ambiri a Harper Collins, kuphatikizapo Amadza Choyamba. Iye ndiye woyambitsa GoodInBed.com ndipo posachedwapa analemba bukuli Kugonjetsa kuthamanga msanga.
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