Kodi timapeza kuti pali kusiyana pakati pa kumwa mowa mopitirira muyeso ndi chikhalidwe cha intaneti? Charlotte Loppie, Pulofesa wa UV ku Sukulu ya Zaumoyo za Umoyo, Social Policy, ndi Community Based Based Aboriginal Health Research, posachedwapa adawona kuwonjezeka kwakukulu kwa chiwerengero cha ophunzira aamuna kufunafuna uphungu wokhudzana ndi vuto la erectile mu maubwenzi chifukwa chowona zithunzi zolaula pa Intaneti .
Malinga ndi zolaula za pa intaneti zingathe kukhala "zowonongeka," Loppie akufotokoza, chifukwa "kuthamanga mofulumizitsa moto" kwa zinthu zosaoneka bwino kumapangitsa woonerayo kuti asayambe kugonana ndi munthu weniweni.
Chinthu chimodzi cha zochitika izi ndi kudzidzimva yekha wolaula wolaula komanso wamkulu wazaka zolemba za Creative Writing, Spencer Thompson, yemwe analankhula ndi Loppie za vuto lake lauchidakwa chaka chatha. Loppie akuti Thompson ndiye akukumana ndi mlandu mofanana ndi Thompson koma akuwonjezera, "Ndakhala ndikuphunzira ndi anzanga kwa zaka zambiri omwe akulimbana ndi izi."
Thompson akufotokoza kuti chidwi chake pa zolaula chinayamba m'kalasi la 10 komanso kuti akupitirizabe kuvutika ndi chizoloŵezi choledzera. "Ndimakayikirabe," akutero. "Palibe mankhwala."
"Nthawi zina ndimangolakalaka nditakhala mwana wa zaka za m'ma 80. Iwo sankayenera kuchita nawo [makompyuta]. "
Mu buku la 2015 la Texas Review of Law & Politics , Alexandra Harrison analemba kuti: “Kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula pa intaneti kuli ndi zinthu zomwe zimapangitsa kuti munthu azigonana komanso azikonda kugwiritsa ntchito intaneti, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti zikhale zoopsa kwambiri kuposa zizolowezi zina. Bungwe la American Bar Association (ABA), limatanthauzira zizolowezi zogonana ngati ‘kudalira kwambiri khalidwe lililonse la kugonana lomwe limamuvutitsa munthu amene amagonana naye, amene amapitiriza kuchita zinthu mokakamiza pamene zotsatira zake zikuchulukirachulukira ndipo amene amakumana ndi chilakolakocho kuposa momwe angathere kuti apewe, alamulire, kapena asiye.’”
M'masiku ake "ovuta kwambiri," kuonera zolaula kunangokhala kosangalatsa kwambiri pamoyo wa Thompson. Ankadumpha sukulu kuti aone zolaula pa Intaneti, ndipo pamapeto pake sanathe kugwirizanitsa kugonana ndi maganizo ndi zokondana. Thompson anati: "Ndili ndi vutoli, maganizo anga amachoka ndipo ndine wolimbikitsidwa ndi thupi."
Harrison akupitiriza mu Texas Review kuti: “Bungwe la ABA likunena kuti ngakhale ‘chizolowezicho chikukula, munthu amene ali ndi chizolowezicho ayenera kuchita zinthu zomwe zimamuika pachiwopsezo kuti ayambe kuchita zinthu zomwezo,’ ndipo ‘kutanganidwa, kulimbikira, ndi kufunitsitsa kupitiriza,’ m’malo mochita zinthu zinazake, kumawonetsa chizolowezicho.” Choncho kukhutira sikulinso za kugonana kokha koma za zochitika zenizeni zowonera zolaula pa intaneti.
"Iwe umapitirira ku zinthu zowopsya kwambiri chifukwa [mtundu wakale] sukuchitiranso iwe. . . koma panthawi imodzimodziyo, chikumbumtima chanu chikunena kuti ndizo [zokhumudwitsa], "akulongosola motero Thompson.
Malinga ndi Emma Carter wa Pulogalamu Yowonongeka kwa BC (CARBC), palibe kafukufuku amene akuchitika panopa pa zolaula zolaula pa Intaneti. Ngati kufufuza kokwanira kumayambitsa zinthu zatsopano zolaula, zosiyana ndi zamankhwala zimakhala zofala. Chokhazikitsidwa bwino ndi kugawikana pakati pa amuna ndi akazi omwe akumana ndi zolaula pa Intaneti. "Pazaka zanga zonse [ndikugwira ntchito yokhudzana ndi kugonana], sindinamvepopo mayi akuti [akuyang'ana] zolaula kwambiri kuti [sangathe] kukondwera ndi wokondedwa weniweni," anatero Loppie.
Buku la Dr. Daniel Linz la mu 2007 lotchedwa Online Pornography: Opposing Viewpoints limati “malembo monga ‘wokonda kugonana’ kapena ‘wokonda zolaula’ angatiuze zambiri zokhudza chikhalidwe chathu ndi maudindo a amuna ndi akazi kuposa kuunikira matenda atsopano.” Linz akunena kuti popeza omwe amapezeka kuti ndi “okonda kugonana” ndi amuna mopanda malire, ofufuza ena amakhulupirira kuti ziyembekezo za anthu pa amuna okonda kugonana kwambiri zingapangitse amuna kusonyeza umuna wawo kudzera mu kugonana mopitirira muyeso.
Malinga ndi Harrison, "Coolidge Impect," yomwe imatchulidwa kuti chilakolako chofuna kugonana ndi amuna, imatanthawuza kuti chidziwitso chosatha cha intaneti chatsopano ndichokongoletsera kuledzera kwa amuna.
Komabe, Loppie amadzifunsa ngati kulira ndi nthawi yoyenera. "Ndikuganiza zomwe tikuona [zomwe zimatchedwa kuonera zolaula pa Intaneti] zimagwiritsidwa ntchito mopitirira muyeso."
Mosasamala kanthu, anthu ena a pa intaneti amagwira ntchito kuti athetse anthu omwe akuvutika ndi zolaula pa Intaneti. Mu 2011, tsamba lotchedwa NoFap linayambira ndipo potsiriza linapezeka ngati pulogalamu. Webusaiti ina yotchedwa YourBrainOnPorn.com imaphunzitsa ogwiritsa ntchito zokhudzana ndi sayansi komanso imalimbikitsa njira yotchedwa Reboot komwe abambo amapewa kuchita maliseche komanso zolaula masiku a 90. Thompson akutsimikizira kuti ndondomeko ya Reboot imamugwirira bwino pomuthandiza kuthetsa vuto la erectile lomwe limayambitsidwa ndi zolaula pa intaneti.
Thompson amapereka uphungu kwa anthu amene amadandaula kuti angawononge kwambiri zithunzi zolaula pa intaneti: "Ngakhale mukuwona zinthu zovuta [zinthu] pa intaneti, [ndipo] mukuganiza kuti ndizo. . . iwe umalowa mkati, ine sindingapange chiweruzo icho mpaka iwe utachokapo. "
Ngati mukuganiza kuti mungayambe kuonera zolaula pa Intaneti, alangizi othandizira alipo othandizira. Pitani ku blog ya Thompson kuti mudziwe zambiri za zomwe zinamuchitikira: spencerthomp.wordpress.com
Ndi Cayden Johnson pa 4 February, 2016