Ndigawana zomwe ndikuwona kuti ndizofunikira. Ndikulunjikitsa uthengawu kwa anamwali ena, koma wina aliyense atha kupindula ndikuwerenga.
About ine: Nthawi zonse ndimakhala wamanyazi kwambiri ndipo pazaka zambiri ndidachepetsa kwambiri ndipo ndidakhala womasuka nazo. Choseketsa ndichakuti, pomwe ndidavomereza kuti ndine munthu wolowereratu, amakonda kukhala ndekha kwambiri ndipo sindisamala za anthu ena komanso zokambirana zazing'ono mpaka ndizisangalala (sizimachitika), mpumulo waukulu zidachitika - kuda nkhawa ndi mayendedwe anga mozungulira anthu kwachepa kwambiri, monga 80-90%. Ingovomerezani nokha - bola mukakhala ndi zolinga zabwino, musadere nkhawa za anthu ena. Landirani kupatula kwanu, ndipo ziribe kanthu kuti ndinu ndani, padzakhala anthu ambiri omwe amakunyozani. Gahena, ngakhale Yesu anali ndi adani ambiri. Tonsefe tili ndipo nthawi zonse tidzakhala osadandaula za anthu ena. Onetsetsani kuti nthawi zonse mumachita zinthu ndi cholinga chabwino ndikulola kuti moyo wanu ufalikire.
Chifukwa chake mukasiya chithunzi chanu chabodza komanso chamantha, anthu ambiri adzakupezani kuti ndinu zomwe mumawopa. Kwa ambiri a iwo simudzakhala loboti omwe amayembekezera kuti mudzakhale, omwe amasewera chimodzimodzi ndi malamulo okhazikitsidwa pagulu. Ndiloleni nditsindikenso izi - osakhala chikwama, khalani aulemu, koma onetsetsani. Koma ngati mutakhalabe olimba mtima ndipo mwina kwanthawi yoyamba kukhala munthu weniweni, mudzayamba kukumana ndi anthu ena enieni omwe angalemekeze izi. Muyamba kukumana ndi anthu enieni. Izi ndizamphamvu kwambiri, zamphamvu kwambiri kotero kuti ngakhale maloboti onse okuzungulirani amayamba kusungunula chigoba chawo, ndipo pang'onopang'ono amakutsegulirani.
Kukumana ndi mtsikanayo: Pali zinthu zambiri zolembedwa za "luso" la chibwenzi. Ngati mukufuna masewerawa onse, pitirizani koma sindikuvomereza. Mupanga chinyengo chomwe chingakhale chotopetsa kuti musunge pambuyo pake osayenera. Itha kukhala njira yabwino ngati mungofunitsitsa kuyikidwa, koma sindikupangira izi.
Chabwino tsopano, mwachiwonekere ndilibe chidziwitso chambiri koma ndinali pachibwenzi ndi msungwana yemwe adamangidwa pamunthu wabodza. Upangiri wanga ndikuti, musayang'ane azimayi ngati kuti ndi ena achinsinsi ochokera kudziko lina losangalatsa, koma lodabwitsa. Amangokhala ngati inu, inde pali zosiyana, koma chofunikira kuti msungwana ndi chinthu china chofanana ndi inu, chokha chokha chokha.
Apanso, khalani nokha ndipo musakhale ndi chiyembekezo chilichonse. Ngati simusokoneza ndi malingaliro anu, zikuwonekera momwe ziyenera kukhalira. Mwina sizingakhale kanthu, mwina mungapeze bwenzi labwino, mwina wokondedwa.
Zochitika zenizeni zogonana: Ndinkachita mantha kwambiri ndi izi, chifukwa nthawi zonse ndimakhala wofulumira kubwera ndikamasewera maliseche, ngakhale ndimayesetsa kuti ndisatero. Ndidaopa kuti ndingolowa ndipo zatha ... Mwamwayi zosemphana ndi zomwe zidachitika, osatsimikiza 100% chifukwa, koma ndigawana malingaliro anga.
Sindinkafuna kuti zikhale zokhumudwitsa kwa iye, chifukwa chake 100% ndimangoyang'ana pakumupatsa chisangalalo momwe ndingathere. Zonse ziwonetsero komanso nthawi yolowera. Nthawi imeneyo, anali ngati mfumukazi yanga komanso munthu wofunika kwambiri padziko lapansi yemwe ndikufuna kuti ndizisangalala naye kwambiri.
Masiku angapo ndisanakhale ndi malingaliro akuti kugonana kudzachitika posachedwa, ndinayamba kuchita zolaula pang'ono. Ngati mukukhala ndi vuto loti mumveke msanga, google idatembenuza ma kegels ndikuyesa.
Ndinadabwa kuti timapanga zibwenzi usiku womwewo, sindinabwere mpaka nthawi yachitatu. Ndinamupatsa ziphuphu zambiri ndipo ndinali wokondwa kuti ndimamupangitsa kuti azimva bwino kwambiri. Amazikonda ndipo adadabwa nditamuuza kuti inali nthawi yanga yoyamba. Sanazione kuti ndi zabwino kapena 'zoipa', amangodabwa. Sindikudziwa ngati kuli bwino kunena izi zisanachitike kapena zitatha, ndi momwe zidachitikira. Ngati ndi msungwana woyenera, amvetsetsa, osachita manyazi.
Ndizomwezo anzanga, khalani olimba mtima komanso mwayi wabwino. Pewani zolaula pamtengo uliwonse. Monga ndidanenera koyambirira, ndimangouza uthengawu kwa anamwali. Ndine wokondwa kuti sindinathamangitse, ndipo ndizilole kuti zichitike pomwe msungwanayo ndi nthawi inali yoyenera. Zinali zokongola. Kupatula apo, m'malingaliro mwanga, kugonana ndikungokhala ndikukhala ndi chisangalalo kwa munthu wina yemwe timamukonda, tikangoyandikira thupi lathu ndikungoseweretsa maliseche.
Ndinayamba zolaula komanso kuseweretsa maliseche ndili wachinyamata ndipo zimapitilira pafupipafupi (PMO nthawi zonse ndinkachita mantha, nthawi zina ngakhale pomwe sindinali, chifukwa chokhumudwa) mpaka pomwe ndidayamba nofap, pafupifupi zaka ziwiri zapitazo. Sindinakwanitse masiku 90 ndipo sindikuwerenganso masiku. Ndinali ndi mitsinje yambiri ya masiku 20-40 ngakhale, tsopano ndili pa mndandanda wa 20 +.
Maubwino ena? Zinthu zoyambira. Mphamvu zambiri, kulimba mtima, kukhazikika pabwino, kulimba kwambiri, ndi zina zambiri.
Zomwe ndapeza kuti palibe zopambana, zowonadi (chabwino mwina nthawi zina koma sizodalirika nthawi yayitali). Muli ndi mphamvu zambiri ndipo mutha kuchita chilichonse chomwe mungafune nayo. Ngati simugwiritsa ntchito bwino, ndiye kuti mphamvuzi zitha kukuwonongani.
Mwachitsanzo pamene ndinali pamalo osinkhasinkha, sindinkaganiza kwambiri zogonana tsiku lina, sizinathe, choncho nditatha maola 6 otopetsa ndinayenera kumasula mavuto chifukwa zinali zosapiririka.
Chifukwa chake ndinganene kuti NoFap ndiye njira, osati kutha. Ndi machitidwe abwino okha omwe amakupatsani mafuta owonjezera kuti mupitilize ndi moyo wanu momwe mukufunira. Ndi maphunziro abwino olimbikira, omwe mwachiwonekere ndi ofunikira pazinthu zonse
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