-Anthu amayamba zinthu izi ndi mbiri yawo ndipo sindine wosiyana, komabe ndikuwona kuti ndizofunika kukupatsani chikhalidwe changa cha moyo kuti ndikuwonetseni momwe No Play imagwiritsira ntchito gawo la moyo wanga.
-Ndine 25 ndipo ndinayambira pamene ndinali 12 tsiku ndi tsiku, ndikuwonetsa zolaula nthawi zonse zakubadwa zaka 15. Takhala pa banja mwezi kapena stre streaks, komabe palibe zovuta. Ndimapita ku koleji ya usilikali, yomwe ili ndi nthawi yofikira panyumba ndipo nthawi zambiri ndimatha kumaliza sukulu kumapeto kwa sukulu. Kuwonjezera apo, saloledwa alendo kukhala dorm yathu. Kwenikweni, zomwe ndikuzinena ndizomwe ndikulankhulana ndi amuna kapena akazi omwe angadzakhale nawo nthawi yayitali.
-Zotsatira zake, ndinalowa ku NoFap, osati chifukwa chakuti kuwonongeka kunasokoneza moyo wanga, kapena kudwala matenda ena, komabe chifukwa ndinaganiza kuti:
- Ndili ndi nkhawa zolimbitsa thupi ndipo ndimamva ngati NoFap ndi njira yochepetsera.
- Ndinkaganiza kuti zidzandipangitsa kukhala wabwino kwa munthu (chilango, kukhumudwa, ndi zina).
- Ndili wosasamala kwambiri (makamaka pambuyo poonera zolaula).
- Chotsiriza, koma mosakayikira, chingandithandize kuti ndizikhala bwino ndi anyamata kapena akazi okhaokha? Pali zifukwa zambiri, koma izi ndizo chifukwa chake ndayima.
Tsopano chifukwa cha anecdote yanga.
-Ndakhala ndi magawo atatu apitalo (kuzungulira masiku a 30) musanafike izi ndipo ndazindikira kuti pachiyambi ndikuyang'anizana ndi mapepala apamwamba, ine, mochulukira, ndimagwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo, omwe amaphatikizapo libido yowonjezera yomwe imatha pafupifupi masabata a 2-4. Komabe, izi siziri zoona za NoFap. Nthawi zambiri ndakhala ndikuwerenga kapena kumva kuchokera kwa anthu ena akunena zinthu monga "Ine ndakhala ndikuchita doen ya NoFap masiku a 10 ndipo ndayamba ndikudabwa kwambiri, sindidzabweranso." , izi siziri zoona za NoFap. Ambiri amatsutsa kwambiri komanso amakhala achangu mu 'manic phase' chifukwa amaganiza kuti izi zidzakhala momwemo. Musandibweretse vuto langa kuti ndine wokondwa komanso ndikulimbikitsanso kuti ndikhale ndi moyo wabwino, koma ndikuzindikira kuti gawo la manic silingathe ndipo limangokhala lokhazikika ndi flatline.
-Anso, ndazindikira kuti anthu omwe ali mu 'manic phase' akupeza njira zopezerana ndi akazi, komabe osati m'njira zabwino, kapena njira zowonjezeretsa 'kubwezeretsa'. Mwachitsanzo, chifukwa cha kulankhulana kwanga kochepa ndi anthu akunja, nthawi zonse ndimakhala wovuta kwambiri, nsomba zambiri, instagram, etc. Nthawi zonse ndikuyang'ana atsikana, kutumizirana mameseji, ndi zina zotero. Vuto ndilo, Ndikanapeza atsikana kuti sindiri kwenikweni ndikudalira (mwakuthupi kapena m'maganizo) ndipo ndikudutsa ndikukambirana ndi iwo kuti ndiwone zakugonana. Tsopano pamene ine ndikupezeka kuti ndiyankhulana ndi anyamata, kugwera mu ubongo wa 'ubongo' sikungakhale njira yabwino kwambiri, makamaka ngati mukufuna kuyambiranso ubongo wanu moona mtima. Mukungolola ubongo wanu kuti uwononge magalimoto ake chifukwa tsopano sali ndi zolaula kapena zowonongeka monga momwe zimakhalira ndipo zikhoza kuchita moyenera. Mwinamwake izi siziri zoyipa komabe sindikuganiza kuti zikuyambitsanso chilungamo kapena kukhazikitsa mphamvu. Ok tsopano kwa mzere wanga.
Inayamba NoFap pa 13 November 2014, yomwe inali Lachinayi ndikukhulupirira. Ine sindinakonzekere kuchita NoFap, komabe ndakhala ndikupita kumapeto kwa sabata ndi msungwana yemwe ndimakhala ndikumuwona, ndikukhala ndi dothi usiku wina usiku ndipo ndinaganiza kuti ndi nthawi yoti ndiime. -Masabata angapo oyamba ndinalowa mu manically horny gawo. Nthawi zambiri ndi zolaula zolaula ndi zina zotere, ndiye kuti ndikugwedeza pansi panthawi yomwe ndabwerera kunyumba nthawi yozizira (pafupifupi masabata a 5). Kugonana kwanga kunachepetsedwa panthawi yochepa, yomwe inali yovuta kwambiri. Panthawi imeneyi ndinadziŵa kuti flatline ndi yovuta kwambiri chifukwa chakuti maganizo anu ozindikira ali ndi zifukwa zomveka zothetsera NoFap (kuchepa kwa kugonana, kuvutika maganizo, kuwonjezereka ndi luso la chikhalidwe, ndi zina zotero)
-Nkhopeyi inapitirira nthawi yaitali kuposa momwe ndikuyembekezerekera ndipo nthawi zina zimakhala zovuta kunena ngati ndinali mmenemo kapena ayi, ngakhale zinalipo ngakhale panthawi ino. Choyamba, ndinazindikira kuti ngakhale masiku omwe sindinkakhala ndi ufulu wambiri, ndimangopangitsa kuti zinthu zizichitika mosavuta. Mwachitsanzo, mwinamwake sindinali ndi zifukwa zowonjezera, komabe ndinamva kuti ndili ndi chilango ndikuyendetsa kwinakwake mkati mwathu kukamaliza ntchito za kusukulu komanso osati. Zingakhale kuti sindinasokoneze kugonana. Kuwonjezera pamenepo, nthawi zochepa ndakhala ndikusiyana ndi amuna kapena akazi amtundu wina m'masiku akale a 90, ndimakhala mwachibadwa ndikuyika zinthu palimodzi, ndikukhulupirira kuti ndi ntchito ya zinthu zosiyana:
- Ndikukhulupirira kuti nthawi ya NoFap muli ndi mphamvu zogonana zochepa. Ngakhale kuti sizingatheke pa nthawi iliyonse yomwe ikukwera pa tsikuli, monga momwe ndikuonera zolaula kapena nthawi ya manic, ndinazindikira kuti ndikanakhala (ndikuchitabe lero) ndikulimbikitsidwa kwambiri ndi zovuta zogonana pamene ndapatsidwa kwa ine, komabe osati pamene izo siziri. Ndili pomwe ndikuyenera kukhala ndi mosiyana.
- Mwawonapo izi pazitukuko komanso pazinthu zopindulitsa, komabe ndikukhulupirira kuti akazi akukuwonani kwambiri pamene muli NoFap. Mwinamwake zimagwirizana ndi fungo la phermonal, mwinamwake likugwirizanitsidwa ndi khungu la khungu, mwinamwake likugwirizana ndi lingaliro lakuti momwe kuthamanga popanda kupweteka popanda kuchepa kumachepetsa mphamvu (kuwerenga ine ndamva kuchokera ku bukhu lotchedwa Multi-Orgasmic Man). Zirizonse zomwe zimayambitsa, ndikukhulupirira kuti pali chinthu china chomwe amaizindikira kuti kuchita NoFap kumalembetsa ndi amayi komwe amakuzindikira ndikukupatsani chidwi.
- Pomalizira, ndikuganiza kuti NoFap imandipangitsa kukhala womveka bwino komanso ndikupanga njira ina yotsitsimula bwino. Mwachitsanzo, ndimakonda kukhala wosangalala komanso kusangalala kwambiri ndi kumwa mowa kwambiri kusiyana ndi kale, zomwe zingakhale zothandiza pamene mukumwa pamaso pa akazi.
- Tsiku lozungulira 70 Ndinayamba kuzindikira kuti ndikukwera kuchokera ku Flatline. Zina mwa ubwino zinali zowonekera ndipo zinandichititsa kufananitsa ndi momwe ndinkakonda Fap komanso pamene sindinali Fap.
- Ndazindikira kuti palibe mphika wagolide wopachikidwa kumapeto kwa masiku 90. Ndakhala ndi masiku abwino komanso oyipa komanso zovuta zomwe ndakhala nazo m'mbuyomu pomwe ndimatha. Komabe, sindinadziwone ndekha ndikubwerera momwe zinthu zinalili chifukwa cha zabwino zonse zomwe ndakhala ndikuziwona ngakhale ndizobisika komanso zazing'ono zomwe amamva ndipo moona mtima sindimatha kuganiza kuti ndikuphwanya mzerewu. Chifukwa ngakhale atha kuwoneka kuti sali akulu kapena opitilira muyeso momwe amachitira mu gawo lamankhwala amawonetsedwa kukhala zinthu zazikulu ndikukhala gawo la moyo wanu. Tsopano pamndandanda wa maubwinowa mwanjira iliyonse:
Makhalidwe:
- Kupitirira. Kupitiriza kwambiri ndi zinthu zomwe ndakhala ndikufuna kuzigwiritsa ntchito pamoyo wanga. Mwachitsanzo ndakhala ndikuthandizani kwambiri kuchepetsa ma TV. Mayesero ambuyomu adangopitilira maola angapo.
- Chilango. Kulanga ndi mphamvu palimodzi. Musagwere mu whims monga kale.
- Zotsatira zoyambira. Mofanana ndi zaka ziwiri zapitazi, ndazindikira kuti ndikafika pochita kanthu ndikuwona zotsatira ndipo ndikuchita izi ngati zotsatira zake ziri zoyenera.
- Nkhawa za Anthu. Ndimamva ngati izi zachepetsedwa kwambiri. Ndimalinso ndi mantha kapena ndikudandaula m'madera ena, komabe ndinazindikira kuti nthawi yanditenga kuti ndikhale wosangalala kapena kuti anthu ena aperewera. Kusokonezeka kwa thupi kumakhala kochepa.
- Zochepa za ubongo wa ubongo. The Brain Fog akadali pomwepo, koma ndimamva ngati maganizo anga ali anga kwambiri ngati izo zimapangitsa kumvetsa konse.
- Kukhala bwino kwabwino. Ndimasangalala kwambiri nthawi zambiri, mochepetsetsa kapena kudzimva 'zoipa popanda chifukwa' ngakhale kuti izi zimachitikabe.
- Kupatula kusinthasintha kwa maganizo. Pamene ndinkazoloŵera, ndimakhala bwino, ndikusangalala, ndikukhala osamva bwino. Kaya kapena ayi ndinkangonena momwe ndinamvera tsiku limenelo. Ngakhale kuti ndingakhale ndikukhala wabwino kapena woipa, izi zimakhala zosintha pang'ono ndipo zikuwoneka zomveka.
kugonana
- Kugonana kosavuta. Ndanenedwa pamwambapa. Koma makamaka ndikupita pamene ndiyenera kukhala osati pamene sindiyenera (osati njira yabwino kwambiri yothetsera chibwenzi pa intaneti).
- Atsikana amandizindikira kwambiri. Zochita zanga ndi malingaliro anga amawoneka ofunika kwambiri ndi iwo. Kuyankhulana maso kwina. Ndikumverera ngati ndikuyang'ana bwino kwa iwo kapena ndikuwoneka bwino kwambiri.
- Nkhawa za Anthu. Pali zochepa zozungulira atsikana.
- Pitani. Ngati ndiwona mtsikana wandikopa, ndikutha kuona ngati ndikupita ndikuchita chinachake potsutsana ndi kulola kuti mpata uwoneke.
- Kulankhula pang'ono kuli bwino. Osati phindu lalikulu, koma zimamva mwachibadwa kuti uzingoyankhula ndi anthu chifukwa chakuti umakakamizika kukhala nawo. (elevators, okalamba omwe amadziwa kuchokera ku sekondale, etc.)
- Kugwiritsira ntchito kondomu / kugonana kwa kondomu si nkhani. Ndidzanena ngakhale kuti pa nthawiyi sizinagwire ntchito bwino.
Zosiyana:
- Kuwonekera. Muzimva ngati khungu langa likuwonekera bwino, komabe mutenge mphuno, komabe mukumverera bwinoko.
- Tsitsi / chifuwa tsitsi. Mwinamwake placebo komabe ndimamverera ngati tsitsi langa ndilofupa.
- Makhalidwe abwino. Pambuyo pakhomopo pakhomo langa loti ndilowe nawo masewera olimbitsa thupi latha ndithu. Komabe pa nthawi yomwe ndimaganizira ndikukumbukira ndikuganiza kuti ndi chiyani choyenera kupita ku masewera olimbitsa thupi?
- Kutsitsimula. Kuyika mwachidule zinthu zolimbikitsa kumalimbikitsa kwambiri. Ndimamwa mowa mopitirira muyeso, komabe ndikakhala ndikumva kuti ndibwino kuti ndipange ngati ndikanakhala 'wokoma kwambiri' ataledzera pamene muli olimba mtima kuti muyankhule ndi atsikana koma moledzera kuyendetsa galimoto. Nyimbo / Kukambirana / kuseka kumakhala bwino.
- Chenjerani. Osanena kuti izi zachiritsa ADD iliyonse, komabe ndimatha kukhala ndikuganizira kwambiri zinthu pang'ono.
TL; DR: NoFap imakhudza aliyense mosiyana, anthu ena amapindula kwambiri kuposa ena, zina zimapindulitsa kwambiri kuti munthu wamba azisamala. Ndikuganiza kuti wapanga magawo ambiri a moyo wanga bwino ndikupitiriza kutero ndi kulimbikitsa aliyense.
LINK - Masiku a 90: osati nyanga ndi mvula, koma udzu ndi wobiriwira.
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