Ndikumva bwino. Ndikumva ngati momwe munthu ayenera kumvera. Ndagonjetsa zambiri zomwe ndimaganiza kuti sizingatheke. Ndakhala ndikuvutika ndi nkhawa zosadziwika za anthu kuyambira ku sekondale. Ndinkachita mantha ndikakhala ndi anthu.
Ndikumva ngati zidayamba pomwe ndidayamba kukula pafupipafupi. Makamaka ndikayenera kukambirana pagulu kapena kupereka ziwonetsero. Ndidakwanitsa kumaliza sekondale monga chonchi. Ndikuganiza kuti mowa udandithandiza kuti ndikhale womasuka kucheza ndi atsikana ndi atsikana kumaphwando. Koma nditaledzera, mphamvu yanga yamanjenje idaphimbidwa ndi chisangalalo chakuwona zolaula pa intaneti.
Ndine wazaka 27 yemwe adayamba kuzimiririka ali ndi zaka 12. Chizolowezicho chidandikhalira ndipo chidayamba kukhala chizolowezi changa tsiku lililonse m'ma 20. Ndakhala ndi abwenzi, ndimagonana kwambiri (ndimavuto ena a ED apa ndi apo). Sindinamvepo ngati munthu.
Ine ndinapanga izo kupyolera mu koleji ndipo ndinatha kupeza ntchito yabwino kwambiri. Zinaphatikizapo kuyanjana kwakukulu komwe kunabweretsa nkhawa yanga. Chinthu chinachitika pafupi masiku a 100 apitawo omwe potsiriza amanditsogolera ine kuti ndidziwe momwe ndingakonzere izi. Ine ndinali mu msonkhano ndi gulu la anthu omwe ife tinali pafupi kuti tigwirizane nawo. Tonsefe tinayenera kupita kuzungulira chipindamo ndi kunena zomwe tinachita. Mtima wanga unali kuthamanga, ndinali wamantha popanda chifukwa. Liwu langa linanjenjemera ndipo malingaliro anga anagwedezeka pamene ine ndinayankha funso lophweka lomwe munthu angayankhe. Ndinakhala ndi zaka zanga zonse komanso makumi awiri ndikukumana ndi zochitika monga izi, ndipo inali nthawi yopanga kanthu.
Ndinafufuza ndikupeza yourbrainonporn ndi nofap iyi. Panali nkhani zambiri zamphamvu za kuchepetsa nkhawa za chikhalidwe, choncho ndinaganiza zopereka. Ine ndinali ndi chidutswa chimodzi sabata yoyamba, ndinabwerera pa kavalo, ndipo pano ine ndiri lero.
Ndikumva bwino kwambiri. Ndizovuta kudziwa komwe ndiyambira. Ndikukumbukira kuti sabata yoyamba itatha ndimakhala ngati ndinganene chilichonse kwa aliyense mu dipatimenti yanga. Ndimakumbukira ndikudabwa kuti ndichifukwa chiyani ndinkachita mantha ndi izi kale. Sizinali zomveka kukhala choncho.
Pambuyo pa masiku a 30 ndakhala ndikuphwanyika ndipo ndinamva zizindikiro za nkhawa ndikubwerera. Koma ndinapitirizabe kuchita zimenezi ngakhale kuti ndikufuna kuti ndizitha kuchiza matenda anga oipa.
Anayambanso kumva bwino patsiku la 50 ndipo ndizovuta kwambiri kufotokoza momwe akumvera. Ndimamva ngati kuti ndine wolimba komanso wolimba kuposa kale. Ndinali ndi chidaliro chotsatira zolinga zatsopano. Munthawi imeneyi ndidasankha kuchita ntchito yatsopano. M'mbuyomu, ili linali lingaliro lowopsa chifukwa sindinathe kukhala wodekha kudzera pamafunso. Ndinapita kuzokambirana za 2, ndinazipweteka zonsezi ndikulimba mtima (Zinali zosangalatsa!) Ndipo ndinapeza ntchito zodabwitsa za 2! Ndidatenga imodzi ndipo tsopano ndikukankha bulu pantchito yanga yatsopano.
Ndakhala ndikupita ndipo atsikana otentha amangobwera kwa ine ndikuyamba kulankhula. Tinapita kunyumba ndi anzanga ndi anapiye awiri okongola usiku wina yemwe tinakumana ndi bala. Masewera anga anali achilengedwe ndipo amatuluka mosalakwitsa. Ndinkachita chibwibwi ndikuchita mantha ndikumazizira ndikamalankhula ndi atsikana atsopano. Simungakhulupirire kuti anali ine!
Ndidutsa 90 tsopano (ndidayamba kauntala wanga mochedwa) ndipo nthawi zina ndimaganiza zolaula, koma zabwino za NoFap zomwe zimayeza kulemera kwake kumakhala kwakutali. Osakonzekera kuonera zolaula.
Ndikufuna nditayamba kuganiza nthawi ina. Ndimadziwona ndekha ndikuchita izi nthawi zina ndipo ndikuganiza kuti mwina ndichifukwa chake ndimadzipezabe ndi nkhawa zazing'ono. Ngakhale kulimbikitsidwa uku ndikulimba mtima, ndimadzipezabe kuti nthawi zina ndimachita mantha pazowonetsa zazikulu. Ndidayenera kuyankhula pamaso pa anthu 600 pantchito yanga yatsopano ndikumva kugunda kwamtima ndipo manja anga amatuluka thukuta, koma ndikuganiza kuti anthu ambiri amamva choncho.
Njira imodzi yoganizira yathandiza pakakhala nkhawa pagulu / kuyankhula pagulu ndikutha kuzindikira kuti ndikapeza mankhwala omwe amayambitsa mantha, ndidziuze kuti ndizomwezo - zomwe zimandipangitsa kuti ndisamve ngati ine . Ndinasankha zizolowezi zoyipa zomwe zimathandizira kuti ubongo wanga uchite motero. Ubongo ukhoza kuchira ndipo ndikuchita bwino kwambiri kuposa momwe ndimakhalira. Ndipo tsiku lililonse zidzakhala bwino.
TL; DR: Kuwombera kunayambitsa nkhaŵa zaumunthu ali wamng'ono. Anasankha kuchita chinachake pambuyo pake atakhala katswiri. Kuwombera abulu ndipo adzapitiriza kuchita zimenezo.
LINK - Masiku 90 - Ndikudzimva wotsimikiza komanso wathanzi
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ZOCHITIKA - Masiku 150 - Ndikumaliza Kutaya Moyo Wanga Wonse
Ndangokwera masiku 150 ndipo zomwe ndazindikira zikuchitika modabwitsa. Ndikamba mwachidule nkhani yanga ndikupita ku njira yatsopano yomwe ikundithandizadi ndi nkhawa zanga.
Ndakhala ndikulimbana ndi nofap kuyambira ndili ku sekondale. Sindikulembanso izi, popeza ndidalemba motalikirapo pazaka zanga za 90. Koma zinali zoyipa ndipo zidayambitsa mavuto ambiri azisoni pakati pa koleji.
Kuda nkhawa kwanga kunapitilira nditamaliza koleji komanso nditayamba ntchito yanga. Sindinali wotsimikiza, koma ndimadziwa zokwanira kuti ndipeze ntchito yabwino. Kuyanjana ndi anthu kunali kovuta, koma tsopano sizinthu zakale. Ndimayang'ana m'mbuyo ndikudabwa kuti chifukwa chiyani ndinali choncho komanso momwe zinathekera!
Chimodzi mwazinthu zanga zazikulu kwambiri pamoyo wanga waluso chinali kuyankhula pagulu. Ndidadzilimbitsa m'malo omwe nthawi zambiri ndimayenera kutsogolera misonkhano ndikupita patsogolo pagulu. Uku kudali kuopa kwanga kwakukulu. Ndidadzipeza ndekha ndikuyesera kupewa izi nthawi zonse. Ndinali ndi nthawi zochititsa manyazi ndipo pamapeto pake ndidaganiza zoyesa kuchitapo kanthu.
Sindinkafuna kumwa mankhwala kuti ndichepetse nkhawa zanga ndipo ndinayamba Googeling kulikonse kuti ndipeze yankho ndipo ndinapeza zinthu zingapo kuphatikiza sub-reddit yomwe inanditsegula maso kuubwino wa nofap - imodzi mwazinthu zochepetsera nkhawa zamagulu.
Ndinawombera ndipo ndinawona phindu losangalatsa pambuyo pa sabata. Zinthu zazikulu zikupitirira kuchitika. (Onani tsiku langa la 90)
Chisokonezo changa cha chikhalidwe chinayamba kuchepa ngati wopenga. Ndinali ndi zotsatira zowoneka bwino. Liwu langa linkagwedezeka pamene linkafika ndipo linafika poti panalibe pomwepo.
Ndinali ndi mantha ngakhale ndisanalankhulepo zazikulu, ngakhale kuti ndinkakhala bwino, ndikufuna kuchita zomwe ndingathe kuti ndichotsere kamodzi kokha. Ndikufuna KUFUNA kulankhula pagulu.
Ine ndikuyamba kuyang'ana mu zinthu monga hypnosis. Ndinazindikira mpumulo wachangu pogwiritsa ntchito hypnosis audio, koma palibe chimene chikanatha.
Ndinawona zomwe zimatchedwa NLP (Neuro-linguistic programming). Imeneyi ndi njira yomwe imakulolani kuti musinthidwe ndondomeko yanu yamkati. Mungagwiritse ntchito njirayi kuti muwathetse mavuto kuyambira kuvutika maganizo kupita ku nkhawa monga kulankhula pagulu.
Ndidachita kafukufuku wanga ndikutsitsa mapulogalamu ena omvera ndipo ndazindikira kusiyana kwakukulu! Njira yomwe ndimagwiritsa ntchito imagwira ntchito pochita zomwe zimayambitsa nkhawa (mwachitsanzo, kuyankhula pagulu), kenako ndikuganiza zakomwe mumadzidalira, mumanyadira, kapena kumasuka ndikusintha malingaliro anu mumavutowo. Ndayika pakuchita kwa milungu ingapo ndipo zosinthazo ndizabwino kwambiri!
Tsiku lina ndinali mumsonkhano ndi gulu lalikulu la anthu. Woyang'anira wanga yemwe amayenera kutsogolera sanakwanitse kuyitanitsa. Ndinayimirira ndikuganiza zoyendetsa msonkhano pamaso pa gulu la 20 osandifunsa! Ndikadatha kuchoka koma NDIKUFUNA kuti ndiwatsogolere ndikulankhula pamaso pa gululo. Sindinadzizindikire nkomwe. Ndidayankhula molimba mtima ndipo msonkhano udayenda bwino. Iyi inali mphindi yayikulu kwa ine. Kulimbana kwanga konse kwatha.
Kubwerera ku Nofap, zikadapanda kuti tsambali ndikuchita, sindikuganiza kuti ndikadakhala ndi chidaliro ndikumveka bwino komwe kumanditsogolera ku NLP ndi zina zambiri zomwe zandithandiza kuthana ndi nkhawa zanga. Nofap anatsegula chitseko.
TL; DR Fapped kuyambira sukulu ya pulayimale kupyolera m'kalasi ndi zotsatira zoipa zomwe zinapangidwira kuntchito yapamwamba. Nofap nkhawa yeniyeni yokhudzana ndi kuyankhula pagulu. NLP yakhazikitsa kwambiri.
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