Sindinayambe chifukwa ndinkafuna kukhala ndi maulamuliro apamwamba kapena kukakumana ndi akazi, koma chifukwa ndinali ndatopa. Ndinatopa ndi manyazi, kukhala ndi moyo wachinsinsi womwe sunali wofanana ndi moyo wanga wapagulu, komanso kumverera ngati sindinali munthu wathunthu.
Ndagawa izi kukhala zigawo m'malo motsatira nthawi kuti zikhale zosavuta kudutsa.
Chilimbikitso — Chimodzi mwazinthu zofunika kwambiri kwa ine chakhala chakuti ndikuchitira izi chifukwa cha ndani. Sindikuchitira izi chifukwa cha chibwenzi chakale, mtsikana wokongola amene ndili naye pa gym, kapena kukumana ndi chibwenzi chatsopano. Ayi, ndikuchitira izi chifukwa cha ine, komanso ine ndekha. Ndikufuna kukhala bwino, ndipo ndidzakhala bwino. Ndikumva kuti mukasiya msanga kuchita izi chifukwa cha ena ndikuzindikira kuti muyenera kuchita izi nokha, moyo wanu umakhala bwino, ndipo zimakhala zosavuta kukhala ndi chilimbikitso. Komanso, kumbukirani omwe akutsogolerani. Ngati angathe kuchita izi, inunso mungathe. Ndi anthu wamba chabe.
Maganizo ndi Kuthana Nawo — Ndinadziseweretsa maliseche kuti ndibise malingaliro anga. Kusiya. Zinthu zambiri zoipa zinandichitikira ndili mwana (sukulu yapakati ndi sekondale), osati anthu okha omwe anali ankhanza, ayi, ndinalinso ndi mavuto osiyanasiyana azachipatala. Moyo unali wovuta. Nthawi yabwino kwambiri. Kupeza PMO ndili ndi zaka zanga zapakati pa 13 ndi 19 inali njira yothanirana ndi vutoli yomwe inandithandiza kukhala wanzeru panthawi ya ululu, kusungulumwa, mayeso, ndi matenda. Kwa nthawi yayitali, kubwezera kunali kwakukulu kuposa ululu.
Vuto lake ndilakuti sindinamve chilichonse . Ndinali ndi dzanzi kuyambira zala zakutsogolo kupita mmwamba. Umenewo unalinso mwayi. Zonsezi zinandipangitsa kukhala munthu wofuna kuchita zinthu mwangwiro. Mwina kuti ndikhale ndi manyazi komanso kudzimva kuti ndine wolakwa pa moyo wanga wachinsinsi. Pomaliza, ndinazindikira kuti kusamva chilichonse kumatanthauzanso kusamva chisangalalo, kapena chimwemwe, kapena kusangalala. Ndinayamba kulankhula zakukhosi kwanga, ndikuwatulutsa m'malo awo obisalamo omwe anali atabisika kwa zaka zambiri. Izi sizikutanthauza kuti anthu azivutika maganizo—zinkandipweteka ngati kuti simungakhulupirire ndipo ndinalira kwambiri. Masabata angapo oyamba ndinali ndi vuto la maganizo, ndipo anzanga ena osamala kwambiri anandifunsa zomwe zikuchitika…chifukwa sindinasonyezepo kukhudzidwa mtima kale. Ndinawauza kuti ndikugwira ntchito pa zinthu zamkati zomwe ziyenera kuwululidwa. Pamene ndinkayamba kuvutika maganizo, kulakalaka kunakula…mpaka kufika pamlingo winawake. Pamapeto pake, ululu unachepa, ndinayamba kutha zinthu zopweteka, ndipo kulakalaka kunayamba kutha.
Pomaliza, ndidayamba kusinkhasinkha ndikupemphera kwambiri. Kusinkhasinkha kwatenga mawonekedwe olola zomwe ndikumva kuti ziperekedwe mawu, kuvomerezedwa ndikuvomerezedwa. Izi zandithandiza pakulimbikitsa-zimandipatsa matenda oti andiuze chifukwa chomwe ndikumvera mwanjira inayake. "Ndine horny" imagawika m'magawo ngati "Ndili wosungulumwa, ndimakhala ngati wamantha chifukwa sindinadzidziwitse kwa munthu ameneyo, ndikumva kukhala wopanikizika lero". Zotsalira ndimagawo amenewo, zimangokhala zokopa zazing'ono zomwe zingagwire ntchito. Ngakhale ndikuzindikira kuti ambiri a inu simupembedza, ndikofunikira kunena kuti ndidaphunzira kuti Mulungu amasangalala nane ngakhale nditachita chiyani (ngati ndinu Mkhristu, ndipo mukuganiza kuti Mulungu wakukwiyirani, mwalandira cholakwika), chifukwa chake ndili bwino kuvomereza malingaliro 'osayera' monga kufuna kukhala pachibwenzi ndi mkazi. Ine sindine wangwiro, sindidzakhala konse. Ngati zili zabwino kwa Mulungu, zikhala bwino kwa ine.
Kusintha kwa maganizo — Ine ndinayamba molawirira, pafupifupi tsiku la 17. Ndikuganiza kuti chifukwa chakuti chizolowezi changa chinali cha 'kangapo pa sabata' osati cha 'kangapo patsiku'. Chinali cha post-acute withdrawal syndrome (PAWS), chomwe chinali ndi kuvutika maganizo, kudzimva wolakwa, kumva chisoni, kukhala ndi chilakolako, kusokonezeka kwa tulo, nkhawa, tchulani. Apa ndi pomwe ndinayamba kukhala ndi vuto la kugona: Ndadwala kwambiri kale, kotero PAWS, ngakhale kuti inali yovuta, inali kuyenda m'munda poyerekeza ndi kukhala kuchipatala ndili ndi zaka 24 ndi aliyense akuthamanga uku ndi uku akuganiza kuti muli ndi matenda a mtima. Sindinganene kuti inali kuyenda m'munda, koma zinali zosavuta. Kukhala ndi malingaliro kumatanthauza kukhala ndi malingaliro, zomwe zikutanthauza kukhala ndi kusintha kwa maganizo - zimenezo zinali zatsopano kwa ine, ndipo kuphunzira momwe ndingayankhire kunali ntchito yoopsa.
30 / M apa. Masiku 90 apitawo, ndidayamba ulendo womwe ndidakhalako kale, koma popanda mawonekedwe aliwonse ... kukhala wopanda PMO.
Ubwino — Izi zakhala zosawerengeka
- Mawu anga anali ozama mozama
- Ndine wolunjika kwambiri
- Sindikudandaula kwenikweni
- Ndapeza a chidwi chatsopano pakukwera
- Ndine wokhutira ndi omwe ndikukhala
- Ndikulimbikira kwambiri kuposa momwe ndinaliri ndisanayambe
- Ndimagona bwino, komabe ndiyenera kugona pang'ono
- Ndikukonzekera zambiri kuposa milungu iwiri yotsatirayi
- Ndili ndi chidaliro (sindinali wotsimikiza poyamba, koma kusambira ndikutentha osavala malaya ndi abwenzi kunatsimikizira kuti ndimatero… ndinkangodzidalira)
- Sindilinso chikwama chamantha chomwe ndinazindikira kuti ndili.
TL;DR : NoFap ndi ntchito yovuta, koma ndi ntchito yabwino . Ngati ine ndingathe kuichita, inunso mungathe.
LINK - Masiku 90 ovuta. Ndakwanitsa! Kubwezera kuli kochulukirapo kuposa ululu
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ZOSINTHA - Tsiku 120. Ndipo ndimaganiza kuti ndikumva bwino ndili ndi zaka 90!
Gawo limodzi mwa magawo atatu a chaka lidatha popanda PMO. Mwa manambala: maloto 11 onyowa, kulimbikitsidwa kosawerengeka, 1.5 ″ opezeka pamikono, 3 ″ opezeka pachifuwa, 3 ″ kutayika m'chiuno, kukula kwa chovala 1, 2 kukwera masukulu kwabwino.
Lipoti langa la masiku 90 ndi lipoti lapadera ili pa masewera atsopano omwe ndimakonda kwambiri: kukwera mapiri limafotokoza zambiri zomwe zasintha, koma ndikuona kuti ndikofunikira kukambirana za kusintha kwina kuyambira tsiku la 90 mpaka tsiku la 120.
Maganizo : Pomaliza, ndili pamtendere ndi momwe ndilili. Kusinthaku kunali kopweteka kwambiri. Ndinalota maloto milungu iwiri yapitayo omwe anandisokoneza maganizo - ndinali chiwanda kwa masiku atatu. Ngakhale kuti ndinali kusinkhasinkha komanso kuganizira mozama, sindinathe kulakwitsa. Zomwe zili m'malotowo sizofunika kwenikweni, chofunika kwambiri ndichakuti zinandipweteka kwambiri . Ndithudi. Pa tsiku lachinayi, nditamva ngati ndagundidwa ndi sitima, kulemera kwake kunakhala kwakukulu ndipo mtima wanga unasweka ndi kugwa pansi pa zaka 15 ndikukana momwe ndimamveradi, momwe sindinkatha kukhulupirira aliyense kapena chilichonse. Sindinamvepo ululu wamaganizo ngati umenewo m'moyo wanga (ngakhale kutaya okondedwa sikufanana). Uwu unali ululu womwe ndinkathawa, kubisa ndi PMO, ndi kupondereza. Sindinathamange nthawi ino, ndinali nditakonzeka kupirira kuvutika ndi PAWS (post-acute withdrawal syndrome), kusamba ndi madzi ozizira komanso kuchira maganizo, kotero ndinachita chinthu chokhacho chomwe ndikanatha kuchita: kuzimva, kuzilandira, kuzisiya kundisweka, kulira mosalekeza. Pambuyo pa tsiku limenelo, ndinayamba kumva bwino ... ndipo patatha masiku ochepa, mtima wanga unachira kwambiri kuposa kale lonse. Lero, ndili pamtendere ndi ine, ndili wotetezeka m'chikhulupiriro changa, ndimatha kudalira anthu oyenera kudaliridwa, ndikuganiza zokhala pachibwenzi. Sindinakhale ndi chibwenzi kwa zaka 5, chomaliza chinanditsimikizira kuti ndinali wopusa kwambiri moti sindingathe kudalira, kukonda ndi kulumikizana. Palibenso. Lero, ndikudziwa kuti ndakonzeka.
Ubwino :
- Ngakhale ndizovuta kukhulupirira, 'chitsulo changa cham'mawa ndi chovuta kwambiri tsopano
- Nkhawa yanga idatha
- Ndikutsatira njira zabwino zakutsogolo, ndipo ndine wokondwa nazo
- Ndimadzimvetsetsa ndekha… gawo lililonse la ine lomwe limandipangitsa kuti ndiziyika
- Ndimadzikondadi ndekha, ndipo sindichitanso manyazi ndi chilichonse chokhudza ine
- Tsopano ndatsala pang'ono kukhala munthu wabwino kwambiri
Chifukwa chake kusinthika kwakukulu kwa ine m'masiku otsiriza a 30 kwandikhudza mtima, zina mwakusintha kwina kukhala kopitilira muyeso.
Abale ndi alongo anga, pitilizani kukwera!